Gameplan to avoid HIV?

Hi. I’m a trans girl and I like to meet tinder guys maybe like once or twice every couple weeks, and I’m absolutely terrified of HIV/AIDS. I know condoms are basically a must for sex, but read recently that you can get hiv just from performing oral sex?? Is this true, and if so is it safer if I just don’t get any semen in my mouth?

And what are good strategies for getting men to wear condoms when they start getting aggressive about not wearing them? Sometimes they agree to it but then change their minds and get a little scary about it

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Get on PrEP if it's available for you

Also can I get hiv from swallowing precum?

I don’t think I can afford it :(

Condoms are the most bizarre thing to me. "I'd stick my genitals in/with that, if there was a sterile layer of latex in the middle."

Sounds kinda absurd, when you think about it, like you're talking about an anthrax-ridden garbage can instead of someone you're supposedly attracted to.

Maybe you could just "not" fuck the garbage can? There's an idea, novel as it seems to be for you cock-mongering degenerates. Find a neg boyfriend and let him fuck you raw until he can wear your ass like a glove.

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i'm not really ready for a serious relationship right now. kinda need to get my shit together before i could make a good gf, if that makes any sense to you. when i am ready for a real relationship i want it to be with someone worth decades of my life, and for that to happen i need to be worthwhile too

A) some people are beyond shitty and will deliberately drop HIV on people
B) between men and women it's part of contraception you dillweed
C) nobody asked if this touched upon your sensitive moral fiber, but here you are delivering upon that unspoken request. we can only extrapolate as to the type of person you are and your surely intimate notion of sex, which you have tons of, all the time, most assuredly.

I think he's onto a hint though. You might want to consider if the risk of disease and aggression are worth the notion of pleasure.
Perhaps throw out tons of hooks and find one or maybe two who are down for a casual arrangement but are clean/willing to prove they're clean.
As for aggression, non-tolerance. You should consider learning how to fuck a dude up in hand to hand combat because in your position it's a valuable skill. Then you can patently threaten someone without having to be mad: you objectively know you can hurt people barehanded, so you can deliver a threat of 'stop or I will defend myself.' I know it sounds tinfoil hatty but it's a good thing to be able to pull and know you can back up, objectively. Your other best bet against bad behavior is to pre-screen it.
Other than that please get informed from credible sources and not Jow Forums. There are a lot of risks for transmission surrounding sex organs in general, so having the details given to you from a place of information rather than fucking Jow Forums.

>I think he's onto a hint though. You might want to consider if the risk of disease and aggression are worth the notion of pleasure.
>Perhaps throw out tons of hooks and find one or maybe two who are down for a casual arrangement but are clean/willing to prove they're clean.
maybe a good idea, i guess. feel like i can't trust them enough even then to not use condoms... i had an arrangement like that with a guy once for a few months, but then i really started to like him and then found out he was married and had kids almost my age. kinda broke my heart and made me feel super weird.

>As for aggression, non-tolerance. You should consider learning how to fuck a dude up in hand to hand combat because in your position it's a valuable skill. Then you can patently threaten someone without having to be mad: you objectively know you can hurt people barehanded, so you can deliver a threat of 'stop or I will defend myself.' I know it sounds tinfoil hatty but it's a good thing to be able to pull and know you can back up, objectively. Your other best bet against bad behavior is to pre-screen it.
really feel like you have no idea what it's like. testosterone is a funny thing. even small men can easily overpower me... like if they grab both my wrists in one hand then can pin both my hands down against literally all my strength. it's really hot most of the time, but when they start wanting things you don't want it makes you feel very scared and powerless. i'd need to like dedicate my life to working out or something to actually be able to overpower your average man.

>Other than that please get informed from credible sources and not Jow Forums. There are a lot of risks for transmission surrounding sex organs in general, so having the details given to you from a place of information rather than fucking Jow Forums.
oh. yeah, i guess that makes sense :(

Well, I've always been a natural at reading people. For me, screening is the natural behavior because it solves problems before they arise. I also have a zero tolerance policy though, and like I said I read people and social situations quickly.
As for aggression I've been jumped, so I at least know what getting your ass kicked is like. That's why I suggest self-defense, because it's going to teach you what to do when you're pinned, how to best shift your weight, and how to keep out of situations like that in the first place. I get that you're coming from a vulnerable position in the first place, but let's not forget that nobody is more responsible for your well-being than you. If you have reason to believe these people can threaten you, I'm not sure you're selling me on this 'adrenaline will turn them all into Hulk' thing. Or maybe you need to stop picking 45 year old men who are combating their has-been complex.

It all ties back to learning to recognize these behaviors. That's why I suggested throwing out many lines at once with the intent to study and read their behaviors. You can easily then pick up on similar behavior types-- the guys who are aggressive, forceful and bad at taking 'no' for an answer because they have unresolved complexes will often all fall into a sort of line. The ones who masquerade as nice to get laid will fall in together. You'll have once-in-a-while breakaways who aren't actually after anything in specific really.

That said, this probably suggests looking for things not on Tinder. Tinder is trashy to begin with and if you sift through trash, there's a solid chance that all you'll end up with is funky-smelling, dirty hands.

>If you have reason to believe these people can threaten you, I'm not sure you're selling me on this 'adrenaline will turn them all into Hulk' thing.
idk what this sentence meant?

anyway i thought self-defense classes were mostly bullshit? or like kicking men in the balls and running away. i guess it's something to maybe look into but i have school and work so there's not much time for learning martial arts or whatever. about the screening thing...

i already sort of have to do that to begin with. the way it works is that you get tons of matches, and then you pick the ones that seem interesting and then you have to tell them you're trans which turns some away. i generally like the "athletic" types, they usually have more "endurance" it seems lol. but even if they seem really nice and genuine they can get pushy and mean when they're horny. do you look for men too? idk if you're a girl or what, but my guess would be a straight guy. sometimes the nice guys get turned on and seem to feel like you owe them what they want for getting them turned on.

also i'm looking at these sexual health sites and they say you should make them wear condoms even for blowjobs, which i don't think any guy would ever agree to... :(