Good Evening Anonymous! Got a problem with sex and relationships? Job driving you nuts? Mental health issues? Maybe you'd just like to vent about something? Maybe you'd just like to stop in and say hello! You can do all of that here!
Good Evening Anonymous! Got a problem with sex and relationships? Job driving you nuts? Mental health issues...
Ryan Reed
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Tyler Howard
Hey! When is ok to put in her butt?
Joseph Cooper
Hey Mantis whatever happened to Nausicaa or whatever his name was. Also has anyone worked for Doordash or Uber, or pizza delivery? I hate set schedules and I think I'll be quitting my job soon. I only need 300 dollars a week to live so salary isn't a problem for me
Aiden Cooper
(Posted this in another thread, really want help.)
>Ask classmate out after talking for a month
>Her: “I am talking to somebody right now but... that doesn’t mean I won’t be interested in the future!” and “I can be close friend, though!”
>notthisshitagain.webm
>Me: “I’m sorry but I don’t want more friends. I have enough friends.” and “Tell me if the other guy flakes on you.”
>She has a deer in the headlights look. “Uh, he probably will! See you later!”
I’ve never... done that. Put my foot down that is. That wasn’t our conversation verbatim and I was a lot nicer about what I had said. I made my intentions clear and I want to know if what I did was “right”, I guess. Is this a good way to go about dating? I’m growing out of a lot of introverted behaviors and this is a Major first.
Angel Carter
I'm having trouble with actually finding girls I'm interested in (or interested in me)
I go out and talk to them, but I can never tell if they are interested. I do have autism so that makes it hard. Anyone know any resources? Am I just that ugly?
Sebastian Garcia
Ids fine just watch out for da poopoo
Carter Gray
Hi Mantis! How are you tonight? I hope you're having a good weekend. I'll be watching over the thread again and I'll try to help out if I can.
Noah Wright
You're talking about Fenn. He's around, but I haven't seen him make a thread in a good while. The thing about him, is he will go like 12 days in a row making threads. Then he takes some time off. I'm sure he'll be back again one day!
I've done Uber. You will probably make much more than $300 a week!
Dylan Ross
Well good for you! I'm glad you did that! Now she knows, no friendzoning with you! And yes, you did the right thing, at the right time! Now, relax, And See what happens!
Juan Harris
>>I go out and talk to them
There's the key right there. The more you talk to them, the easier it will be to understand them!
Oliver Ward
Oh ok, whats the worst thing about Uber? Do you have to replace your tires or even your car every six months due the mileage? What happens when theres no customers?
Joshua Gomez
Nice to see you,as always! Thank you for coming by!
Adam Moore
Any tips on how to have a relationship while still living with my parents?
I'm employed but apartments here cost a bloody fortune even with roommates.
Grayson Hughes
I live here in Op City. There is never a shortage of customers. I'd say the worst thing is the initial inspection. You have to take your car to an authorized Uber inspector, such as Jiffy Lube, and they make sure your car is good to go. It costs $20 out of pocket. However, you make that back pretty quickly.
Nathaniel Martinez
I'm real fucking lost, I dont want to do anything.
I go to gym and sleep early, eat alright and work retail but I'm very neurotic, insane mood swings get real sad. I can't tell what's wrong and I don't want to think, cause somewhere some of my problems are caused by me and I see my mother's shitty personality in me and it posses me off its like it's genetic I try my best I'm very self aware and man I just don't want to do anything.19
advice?
Brandon Martinez
Well, you can't take them back to your place! That's about the only issue there.
Jacob Ross
Are girls OK with that?
Can one have a relationship like that? I've always held off on getting one but I'm sick of waiting until I've saved enough for a downpayment.
Michael Russell
When anxiety and mood swings interfere with daily life, it's time to call in the professionals.
There are, of course, many resources online for overcoming anxiety, but only you know how serious it is.
Tyler Edwards
They should be. After all, it's the truth. And they might know already, before you date, that you are living at home.
James Cox
Thanks Mantis I guess I'll try Doordash or pizza delivery first. How much did you make a week on average?
Nolan Wood
I've heard many people on here saying it's a dealbreaker for most.
I guess it's just my self esteem, IDK.
Adrian Gray
I made about $100 a day. Not too bad.
If she finds this to be a deal breaker, move on to the next one! I mean, your goal is to be on your own. And you will be sooner or later. It'll be ok.
Austin Garcia
Sup Op
Samuel Miller
How the FUCK do I start a conversation with the qt I always see at the bus stop? It's driving me crazy. Due to some deductive inferences I've figured that she's a graduate student at the uni (I am too) and her department is in the same building as mine (we take the same bus at the same time some days so I see her go into that building). How do I do this without looking like a fucking freak? We've sat near each other on the bus before (not next to) but I've caught her glancing (maybe I'm just reading into that) but I'm usually reading strange logic/linguistics books (pic related, that shit) on the bus and she probably just thought I'm a fucking weirdo already.
Aiden Moore
Hello Kanna! Always good to have you around!
Ian Peterson
Just say hello. It's a marvelous conversation starter! I'm serious! You could start with Hello, I wonder if you go to class in the same building I do..
There really is no magic formula. Just start talking!
Aiden Martin
my dick is still broken but im okay otherwise i guess. thanks for helping me
Alexander Carter
Even if I just ignore the 15 other people that are milling about? Specifically talking to her won't be weird? I've never done this before (28khv lel) but I've been making some life progress beyond academia.
Charles Gray
Your dick is broken?
Levi Miller
You gotta start sometime. I'd say this is a good place to begin.
Jose Nelson
I'm gonna trust you, user. I'll try my best to not look like a total fucking sperg but we'll see.
Evan Young
Yes, but if this would make you feel more comfortable. Next time you see her, get off on the same stop as she does and ask if she's in your department too and a question related to your department. If she says no, then ask her what department she's in, what she's studying. Have a conversation and end it with "I hope to see you around sometime" or mention a place you go often like your favorite coffee shop, and if she would like to join you for studying sometime. Work out the details and exchange contact info.
Ayden Rodriguez
Go for it! You'll thank me someday!
Alexander Nguyen
O hey!
Why do most women say I'm marriage material and I'd be a great husband and I'm attractive but I get no one? My guy friends say the same thing but when I ask them why does no girl want me right now, they say I don't have any game.
So the other question is just how do I get game and what exactly is that
Bentley Bell
Seems simple enough. I could do that. A small chat as we walk to the same building then depart or something.
My future self is smiling on me.
Juan Adams
Sorry in advance for wall of text:
I'm super frustrated with school. I've changed majors multiple times and gone in and out of university. Every time I return I think I might be okay with it, but I just hate it more and more. I think it's a waste of time and I don't want to do it. But otherwise I have no career or prospects of any kind. I'm currently studying Chemistry and am on a degree path towards that, but I have another 3 years ahead of me at least, and I can barely muster the effort to get through the low levels chem I'm doing now. I can understand it and do it fine but I just hate it and everything feels like busywork. What I'm truly passionate about is language and music, and I already know I don't want a career in music since that's super unsafe. I do think maybe I could do something relating to language, but I don't know enough to drop Chem and just go for it. Anyone have experience working/studying STEM and/or languages?
Zachary Wilson
I might very well ask you the same thing. "Game" can have any number of definitions. I say, just be yourself. And be comfortable with yourself. That is 100 times better than any "Game" bullshit these people are talking about.
Nathaniel Stewart
Can you stick with The chemistry, and have music as an avocation? We all need to make a living. And the chemistry degree will get you that. The music can fall under the category of "serious hobby", that is, a hobby that might eventually make you some money.
James James
Saw my ex of 4 years today at a “party” with her current guy. Didn’t even bother to strike a conversation up with me the whole night. Feelsbadman
Blake Powell
Are you single OP?
Carter Stewart
Of course it feels bad. How long were you together?
Thomas Sanchez
At the moment, yes.
Daniel Russell
What do I need to do to become happy?
Carter Fisher
About 2 years, she got bored and fell out of love with me towards the end. Probably my fault for thinking she had me in her thoughts at all.
Kevin Campbell
That's a wide open question. In what ways specifically, are you unhappy?
Xavier Stewart
Why did she get bored? Did she require non stop thrills, chills, and excitement? Did she not relish a quiet, comfy night at home?
Joshua Young
On paper, I am fine with that. I suppose it's just having the motivation and/or discipline which is the issue. I still have a minimum of 3 years left to have a bachelor's, and I hate it already, so it's hard to look forward from here. I would also enjoy being a translator or maybe a language teacher, but that will also take a couple years to develop fluency, and given my inadequate knowledge on the subject, I think it may fall in the same hobby/potential to make money later category as music.
Josiah Hall
I think I just couldn’t give her what she wanted at the time. Her home life wasn’t ideal and she really wanted me to move out with her, but at the time neither of us were financially stable enough to do so. I tried to give her as much attention as I could, but as time went she just grew more and more distant. I’m pretty sure she has an apartment with the guy she is with now, and they’ve been together since I broke up with her.
Kevin Moore
Hey, great! I had a couple people say I just should’ve agreed but I just can’t understand why? Being friends first doesn’t work, at least in my experience.
Gabriel Wright
Perhaps it will help to think of the chemistry degree as the thing that will help you fund the activities that you really want to do.
Justin Kelly
I'm struggling to stay sane under the stress of university. I have become extremely apathetic because of it. I joined the merchant navy and once I got there I had very little balance in my life. It took over my life completely. I barely passed my first year exams. Im currently on my work placement and I am still struggling to cope with it all. I have had multiple mental breakdowns. What do?
Jordan Torres
>>they’ve been together since I broke up with her.
Hmmm. I think it might be possible that she had this guy in the On Deck Circle before you two had officially broken up....
Luke Reed
You're right, and I do think of it that way. I just suppose the issue is finding the motivation and discipline to continur knowing how much is still ahead, and how much I dislike all this academic and bs and all the busywork. When I know especially how much better I am about studying language and stuff, for example. But what you are saying is correct so I have some issue reconciling the two thoughts which are at odds with each other.
Eli Gutierrez
Uh no that’s not an issue anymore. I myself am in a good spot financially. I just would like to understand why she doesn’t even regard my existence.
Jordan Wilson
I've been myself the whole time but I haven't gotten anybody still which means I gotta change something. Sure, people think I'm a great guy, but I'm not bf material I guess
Tyler Cook
And you're right! Once a girl thinks of you as a "friend", she won't think of you as anything else.
Are you under a doctor's care?
Juan Campbell
Yeah I had the same thought, hence why I said she got bored of me. They got together only 3 months after our separation.
Sebastian Sanchez
It's also possible you might find something intriguing and compelling about chemistry sometime later down the line.
Jackson Perry
Playing some kind of role won't work. They'll eventually discover who you are.
Austin Parker
>They got together only 3 months after our separation.
my ex and I together 7 years and she made plans with her boy at work to take things further. left me and was dating him "officially" 3 days later. just happened.
week 6 now. we have a young daughter as well.
you've got it easy just keep going man.
Zachary Johnson
Well that is partly what frustrates me. I find it intriguing now. I love learning the theories and properties of atoms, and learning about the elements and how they interact. However, because I'm still in low level classes, it is marred by busywork and tedious experiments. It's like I'm barred off from the "good stuff" if you know what I mean. The more back and forth I'm having about this makes me feel illegitimate in my concerns, but even then, the sense of dread and anguish is always there knowing what is ahead.
Luis Butler
Date me!
Aiden Howard
Damn that’s rough, I’m sorry to hear that. I know I shouldn’t bother and just move on but I can’t help but think of what we once had to just suddenly mean nothing at all.
Josiah Nelson
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Jaxon Cook
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Ahh, these online relationships never work!
Jose Davis
Seeing all these girl pics
Lincoln Mitchell
You can't change the past man. Life is fucking hard and not really fair. 3 months ago I never thought I'd be where I am today. Not a second goes by where I don't think about my daughter and my "family" that we had. I hate her so much now for everything she's done since she left but I still care about her. I still think about her all the time even though I know she's never coming back and It's all in the past and my fucking mask is on at work and with my family.
She was a part of your life and not to sound like a faggot but a part of her is going to stay with you forever.20 years from now she'll pop into your mind right before you go to sleep, you'll remember your pain and that is a part of life.
I hope you the best and I'm drunk so sorry for the long post.
Josiah Price
what do i do as an ugly guy with resting bitch face?
>inb4 an hero
in due time
Owen Peterson
No need to apologize! Thank you for your contribution!
Christian Mitchell
>>what do i do as an ugly guy with resting bitch face?
Start thinking of yourself as a ruggedly handsome, strong silent type.
Jose Long
Heartbreak. Now you need to give me advice on how to deal with it.
Nathan Gray
Certainly.
Focus your energy on the girls you come across irl. You have a way better chance of hitting it off with one of them than you do with some long distance online relationship.
Jack Nelson
You’re right, I’m going to have to deal with it, move on, and forget. Life really is a bitch. Thanks for talking it out with me, I hope things truly improve for you as well.
Nicholas Scott
Nope I'm not under a doctor's care at all.
Jace Reed
>>I have had multiple mental breakdowns. What do?
It's time to see a doctor.
Owen Nelson
thanks user. It's my pleasure
Lucas Edwards
>had qtpie thicc asian cosplayer crush
>even though i have flatchest gf who always taken care of me and stay with me through thick and thin
>tried to approach her for 2 years in almost every anime con
>until the last anime con, she ignores me
>feelsbadman.gif
What should I do? I'm trying to move on, but everytime I see her in my IG timeline outta nowhere, I can't help to think about her.
Leo Mitchell
Hey maybe someone in here can help, but does anyone hsve experience in increasing your self esteem and confidence? I feel like i have everything else down pat, just these mental hurdles that keep me down and stop me from asking out the girls I like. Can give more info if needed
Mason Davis
Hi guys, I'm not looking for advice I just need to Vent
My wife and I have been together for 11 years and I'm sick of her. Our relationship has devolved into stale dry toast. And I'm pretty sure she hates me too. We are basically together because financially we're successful but that's it.
This part is of me bitching about the things I hate about her.
The only reason we haven't gone on that 1 vacation we talk about or rent that lamborghini for a Canyon cruise is because of her f******* gambling Problem
And also for someone who's big on "looks matter" Sure as hell turned into a blob. I've bought you a gym membership in January and you went twice.
I don't trust you and I'm pretty sure the feeling's Mutual. What is good is the money our company brings are. But then again you blow it on slot machines.
I'm dying to have sex with a girl half Your weight.
I got a lot more but I'm tiring myself out being mad . Thanks for listening
Joseph Hernandez
Also swear on my life this picture looked like my wife 11 years ago
Asher Nelson
>>hurdles that keep me down and stop me from asking out the girls I like.
Jump The hurdle. Start asking them out. Will you get some rejections? You sure will. But not all of them will say no. Good luck!
Zachary White
>>i have flatchest gf who always taken care of me and stay with me through thick and thin
Let's start with her. Why do you take her for granted?
Brody Stewart
Thanks user, seems like the onky logical thing to do. I'll start asap!
Jackson Perez
Venting can help you get a lot of shit off your chest. I hope it helped. We'll be here next Sunday, same start time, if you need us!
Kevin Ward
Thanks bro I needed it
Julian Johnson
Honestly it was unexpected meeting back then, because she need an interviewees for his project and I am the one who suit with her criteria. At first I didn't really interested with her, until she show me her elder-sister nature that makes me hooked. She's soft and kind, caring, but also smart on her own fields.
Back then, I need a person who can stand with me and want to hear all my gripes patiently, and that is her who fits my needings.
The only drawback from her aside from her physical appearance (flat af chest and weak chin) is that she's possessive
Elijah Diaz
Do you find yourself not appreciating her anymore?
Luke Richardson
More like afraid of my future with her
Parker Walker
Do you think the two of you would be better off if you broke up?
Landon Nguyen
Hell no! We used to break off for 2 months and it was the worse time that happened in my life
Wyatt Adams
Then you need to put effort in And make it work. You need to forget about anime cosplay girl.
Christopher Russell
i have no idea if im still in love w my ex or if i now have feelings for a friend of mine who i help talk to dudes
Easton Davis
But how? Cosplay is also part of my hobby
Brody Gonzalez
Tell me What happened, from the beginning pls
Then you need to develop interests in common with your gf.
Andrew Nguyen
I'm so fucking pissed off.
I went over to this chick's house, made dinner together with her, watched a movie with her, and played vidya with her.
Alll to miss the obvious signs that she wanted to fugg.
The worse part is that I backpedaled so hard at the last moment to get a kiss in. And then texted in the morning that I missed the obvious signs and left her with no real good way to respond.
GOD I am so FUCKING DUMB
I can't honestly be surprised or sad when I get ghosted or hear that she doesn't want to go out anymore. Fuck man, why do I always mess these things up. Its not as if I'm normally this fucking stupid. How the fuck am I almost finished with UNI but I can't comprehend obvious signs FUCK
Zachary Harris
fuuuuuck where to begin. so i started dating me ex (lets call her Amanda) may 2017 after we both helped each other get through shitty 'are we a thing or are we not a thing' situations. We broke up two months later bc one of my other exes claimed that i flirted w her. we decided to remain just friends, but like we still had feelings for each other. In fact, until recently, I felt bad for flirting w girls who weren't amanda. couple months later i met my friend (lets call her Jackie), and we became really close, like i talked about my past relationships and she did the same. She even gave me advice about how to move on from Amanda, or stop being a pussy and ask her out again. Note: Jackieand I didn't really flirt w each other, we were just really close. Fast forward to may 2018, and and while we're at a friends house, Amanada and I are talking and she says that, apart from a pretty brief period when she liked someone else a couple months prior, she had feelings for me. And I tell her I haven't moved on, and we decide to wait till our lives are less busy or some other bullshit before we think about getting back together. so shits 10/10 great and all, but since august of 2018 I've been having more and more feelings for Jackie. But theres 3 things that stop me from acting on my feelings for jackie:1) one of her friends made her join tinder, and i've helped jackie talk to her matches 2) we recently talked about what she looked for in a guy and alot of it made me insecure or feel like shit and 3) i still have feelings for jackie. So basically im unsure if im 1)rebounding onto jackie or 2)just wont let go of amanda due to possible no closure or maybe just bc she's been a part of my life for so long
Samuel Torres
Ok, take it easy on yourself. Being overly hard and critical on yourself is not going to help you. Learning from this will help you.
Has this kind of thing happened before?
Levi Perez
Wtf. Probs not and it does not matter at this point if you dumped her, why people default to this to try to make themselves feel better about being rejected. You dumped her move on and stop caring.
Brayden Davis
It sounds like 1.) Rebounding with Jackie. And you protect yourself from going for it with her by helping her vet the tinder guys. It makes her unattainable, and therefore safe, to you.
Ethan Reed
ye i've thought about it, but the only reason (that Ik of consciously ) I help her w her tinder convos is bc I have to be friend, I acc hate it. And w the rebounding thing, I completely agree, but I've rebounded before, and the thing is if I was in a theoretical situation where I could talk to the original girl i liked or the rebound, id pick the og. In this case, idk who to pick. This is why it fucks me up, it doesn't add up to my past behaviors and mindset, especially in these scenarios.