I’m in my thirties and feel sort of bored and somewhat lonely. I have a great career, I work out, and travel a whole lot. But I still feel kind of bored. I don’t really think I should start dating tho. The only women I’ve met around my age are either divorcees or are former/current sluts.
What would you do if you are single in your thirties?
First, what is wrong with sluts? Second, are you looking at all because there are plenty of good women available? Third, why not go for younger girls.
>First, what is wrong with sluts?
Kys you fucking nigger
1. Why would I want to have a relationship with someone or just spend my time on someone who enjoys risky behavior?
2. No i haven’t been going out of my way looking for girls. That hasn’t been my intention.
3. I haven’t really thought about it
I’m 33, I lie about my age on tinder and date younger girls because I can get away with it. But lately I’m so much less tolerant of women’s bs, I just ghost when they don’t make me a priority. It’s depressing because if I was a little more tolerant like I used to be then maybe I could have a long term relationship again
I refuse to use Tinder. I do not trust women who use it
Just think of sluts as bimbos
Are you a virgin? Incel? You kinda sound like one.
I had a gf before when I was in my mid twenties. We had a good relationship but it just didn’t work out. I just don’t feel like I should have another.
Why do you think that?
You're parroting Jow Forums about sluts and tinder.
how? how can you deny that slutting around is risky behavior? There is a reason there is a negative stigma to it.
Tinder is a hook up app by design, yeah sure, not every single girl is on tinder for hook ups. But why it’s a flawed concept. You wouldn’t make a profile on a dating site if you were only looking for platonic friendship. so why make a profile on a hook up app for real dating?
Like I said, you are parroting Jow Forums. Stop being such an incel.
Yeah, we get it, you recognize what he's saying from someplace else. Do you actually have any arguments against it, though?
You sound like an NPC desu. You’re automatically accusing me for being a robotic incel just because I don’t like sluts and tinder. Just so you know, I don’t waste my time with the retards on Jow Forums.
>You wouldn’t make a profile on a dating site if you were only looking for platonic friendship
People do this all the time.
why? That is asking for issues.
That’s like going to a whore house to meet a nice girl to gf
>There is a reason there is a negative stigma to it.
I'm sure there is a historical reason for it in the same way that a kosher diet did.
sleeping around with many different people who you don’t really know is absolutely risky behavior. A person who does this is opening themselves up to various dangers. That’s not an opinion, that’s a fact.
You can decide yourself if that’s acceptable or not. But one who sleeps around is accepting various risks, which deems is risky behavior. The same can be said for gambling. People would say a guy who gambles regularly partakes in risky behavior. Which he does. Sleeping around is the same.
I'm 30 and single. I've been open to dating since my last relationship ~3 years ago. Dating sites/apps are pretty shit right now, but it's a low-effort way to get a slow trickle of dates. I agree with you on Tinder being awful, but about 10% of girls on there aren't obvious sluts. You can also try the slightly better than Tinder app called Bumble, or other ones like Hinge and CMB, which are a little better. Then there's PoF and OKC, but they are both pretty bad now.
I've also tentatively tried going to MeetUps for hobbies of mine like hiking, guitar, board games, etc. to see if I meet anyone cool there, but no luck yet, and it's pretty awkward to go to something with ulterior motives.
Sadly, there aren't many good options.
Hmm ok. I really don’t think dating would be a good option. Maybe I could try to go hiking or something
avoid girls. They are just a waste of time
>that first question
off this fucking board right now you dirty dick faggot.
Oy vey, that's antisemitic!
i would start frequenting bars and nightclubs with friends. pick up loose women, and have a good time.
for things not involving women i would just try out new hobbies and try to do/make cool things on my own so that i can feel accomplished. for that one.
I won’t fuck sluts. I think casual sex is degenerate
I’ll check out /diy/ I’ve never been on that board before
i agree, i just figured thats what you wanted to do since you were kinda emphasizing the fact you were single and didnt want a relationship. but good on you dude, i like to just try shit and see if i can do it. challenge yourself. /out/ also has some cool stuff you can try to do, like growing food and shit like that. good luck buddy
I don’t trust sluts, and I don’t want STDs
That’s a good idea tho. Maybe I could make a small garden and try to grow my own vegetables
I am happy to be single in my 30s, I have more time to hang out with new people and have friends from every age group, don't have to tell anyone where I'm going or plan my day according to them. if you are lonely, just make friends, have hobbies, hang out.
I believe that there are many people in their 30s who haven't had lots of sex. I was very shy and basically a shut in in my 20s and didn't have friends. I am a virgin who has never even spoken to guys more than politeness before I was 32.
Somehow it has happened that now I don't feel so much social anxiety and rarely care at all, so I enjoy life. Because of having no friends, I can easily figure out where to get them because always had to think about that and didn't have anyone to hold my hand or introduce me to their friends.
Many people I know have had almost no sexual experience at all but they don't go on dating sites or nightclubs.
>tfw break up with too clingy gf and she's in a new relationship in no time while I'm all alone
awkward
I'm 32 and I've never been on a date, or had a gf. I'm attractive but I never went to school, so I ended up being a virgin until 25.
I'm sort of reluctant to get a girlfriend due to my history with bad women. All attractive women I've fucked were incredibly hard to please and full of drama, anything unattractive had mental problems from being bullied for being unattractive.
Every few months I get some hot girl 10 years younger and bareback the fuck out of her, but usually I'm paying for it in some way and don't get to keep her.
you sound like a stupid incel because people who think they're sinful apps to meet up and fuck clearly don't get enough matches or talk to enough people to realize the vast majority of girls on there are blatantly desperate for a stable relationship, and that they are in fact just apps meant for people to meet and date
>vast majority of girls on there are blatantly desperate for a stable relationship
False
Says who? Your incel cult preachers?
Go on tinder right now and post the first 10 profiles you see and show us how they want a stable relationship
The majority of girls on Tinder want one of two things:
1. Validation
2. Casual sex
>Many people I know have had almost no sexual experience at all but they don't go on dating sites or nightclubs.
Really? That’s not what I would have thought. Interesting.
it's almost like you've never actually used the app and if you did you didn't get or speak to any matches, your incel-ness bleeds out from your posts
they aren't validated by getting likes by nasty pajeet losers, they're validated by finding a nice boyfriend to show off to everyone
>they aren't validated by getting likes by nasty pajeet losers, they're validated by finding a nice boyfriend to show off to everyone
This post proves you either are a girl and refuse to accept that you’re a slut, or you’re a guy who’s never spoken to a woman in his entire life
Your post proves you are an incel. Get out.
Get out troll
>using a hook up app which the primary bases on swiping left or right is physical appearance.
>not looking for hook ups. They want nice boyfriends
Lmao
I mean they are probably not virgins, maybe had one boyfriend or maybe are in a relationship but they never talk about sex. There are also people that I know are single but they never mention anything about relationships or sex, even something like "this guy there is attractive". Mostly they talk about hobbies, interests, like books, sports, science, art, they are very diverse people. Many people I know from the university were hardcore STEM students and hadn't kissed before 22 or so. They were mostly average looking but didn't use any makeup. Some other people are book nerds or gamers but weirdly enough I know even models and attractive young athletes who are just not really interested in sex but are super social. Sometimes being thin delays puberty so they don't have the same hormonal levels like other girls. Attractive or just confident girls often do whatever they like and don't worry about not having a boyfriend because they think they will have it anyway if they want. They don't do something just because of peer pressure and almost every girl I have spoken to about this has told me that their first contact with males was because of peer pressure, trying to belong or wanting to be cool. They have also told me that most girls start really to enjoy sex when they are older (around 25-30). I personally have developed my sexuality only recently but am still not that interested (only looks does nothing for me but obviously they have to be somewhat attractive).
Well I like this. I don’t think sex is all that important. I don’t think it’s the answer to my boredom. But I’m glad to see I’m not the l my one