Guys if you are really attracted to a girl or like her, does her having a boyfriend stop you or no?

It usually does but the last girl I asked out was "seeing someone". She said yes first when I asked her out, then changed her mind when I texted her to confirm the date (she said the typical "im busy all week"). I can't stop beating myself up for not asking her out before the other dude because she showed clear signs of liking me.

You should never pursue a woman who has a BF or husband.

For many reasons, but the most obvious is that if the woman will cheat then she is trash, and therefore undesirable anyway.

it does me because I follow the golden rule unless the guy is a jackass

I thought the point was that you'd be the best guy so she wouldn't cheat but rather leave her current boyfriend to be with you officially

If that's true then she can leave him before we start heading in that direction.

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Right on. Why would anyone want a cunt that while with someone would flirt with someone else.

Haha wow.

Anons of Jow Forums, burn this saying into your brain:

"If they will cheat with you, then later on, they'll cheat on you"

When did people start saying "XYZ or no?"
This seems to be something that only Americans say and only recently too. I've heard it most often on American podcasts within the past year or two.

No, but with major qualifications.

If I think a girl is legitimately the one, I’ll fight for her, if it means that much. This happened to me once. I dumped my girlfriend for her too. It just didn’t work out. But I never regret that, because she meant the world to me.

Just because someone is “taken” doesn’t mean they’re automatically in love and trapped there forever. I don’t view falling for someone as just “upgrading” partners either, so that’s kinda part of it all. It takes someone I feel the world for to make me disregard the choices they’ve made before.

If it’s just some casual, random girl I want to fuck, then I’ll gladly move on.

you just have some sort of American inferiority complex. you don't even know if OP is american

It's NEVER good to try and get with a woman that is in another relationship, no matter how "bad" her bf might be.

Any women that does not break it off first and cheats is a women that no good man will want.

That being said, for some reason I have attracted women that are already in other relationships for some reason. It sucks since its always a hard no for me but its the right thing to do. Side note, if you know how to say no and are not some beta I learned that the girl will want you that much more since your being strong and setting boundaries. Not all the time but for me at least it was the case.

Coming from someone who had an affair with a married woman who was going through a divorce (the papers got filed shortly after we started seeing each other. Yeah, I was a piece of shit back then), if she'll cheat with you then she'll cheat on you. The drama and possible jail time isn't worth it, no matter how much you think you love her.

Exactly.

Women that cheat are trash. No exceptions.

What? I'm not American and obviously I don't know where OP is from. I've just noticed this phrase in recent American media and I'm curious as to how it started and spread.

I feel like this is a line only harped by people who only get into relationships for convenience’s sake. It’s like something I read on a thread earlier, where a girl got dumped and the guy was like “what do you care? Women can immediately get into another relationship.”

Reminds me of my old roommate. He had to be in a relationship with whatever slampig with low self esteem wanted to date him, because he couldn’t handle being solo. Anyone daring to leave him was the greatest betrayal to ever happen, because he thinks every girl that goes on three dates with him should be his forever.

Meh.

So far this has really only happened with chicks my friends were dating, and I wasn't interested in messing up a friendship. Although it's not like the chicks were interested in me anyway kek

you're completely wrong in a polar opposite way. im actually impressed you perceive things so incorrectly

If she does it to him, she'll do it to you.

I’m impressed you built your worldview on Jow Forums’s Jow Forums.

I mean, whatever man, keep looking at relationships like shopping for a used car.

but being selective and not dating a girl who would fuck the nearest dick is the opposite of that

I feel like you're the only one in this thread who says this actually out of life experience, and not to parrot the same "if she cheats on him she'll cheat on you".
People are not all the same. A woman might fall in love with someone else because her man, even if he's a lovable person, showed a series of fatal flaws that made her have big doubts about a future together, even if unconsciously. And it's also hard to leave a boyfriend or husband cold-turkey as soon as you get even remotely attracted to another person. It could be a temporary crisis, it might not bring any consequence. Shit isn't easy in life, probably 90% of people in a LTR have had massive heartburns on other men or women at least once, without the partner ever knowing.

“Fucking the nearest dick” is nowhere near what I was saying. If you really dig a person and you build a relationship (work, school, hobby, etc.) where you both mutually realize that one of you is a better match than the person you’re in a relationship with, then you don’t owe that relationship anything. Be happy.

It’s not “walk into the club and fuck someone” because of being mad about an argument with your SO, but genuinely meeting someone who shares your passions and interests over a long period. And yeah, break up first, don’t cheat, but people have a wide fucking range of “cheating,” especially with the emotional cheating bullshit.

Even if the attraction is really strong you guys won't do anything about it?

Very interesting point.

I heard Stefan make a point similar to this. He stated that things like this can happen sometimes and its best for say the girl to cut it off with her current bf, remove herself from the guy she is interested in for a few months. Come back to the "table" and see if there is something still there, if there is then you know you both parties are in it deeper that just sexual lust.

I was in this position in my last relationship. I should have done it. I get what you're saying now that you clarified it.

no, quite living in fantasies you make up in your head. or just fuck chad already so you can be pumped and dumped like you truly want

Yeah, thanks. My girlfriend at the time was a sweet girl. She was super nice. She was everything you could have asked me that I wanted just weeks before I met her.

Girl #2 challenged everything I ever thought about myself. She was a little more wild, extroverted, beautiful, always perfectly dressed, just a dream wrapped up in a package. I could spend every moment of every day with her if possible. And at least conceptually, she felt the same way about me.

We never “cheated” on our significant others, but I still firmly believe that we were perfect for each other, and she ended up moving away with him, even though we both felt deeply for each other.

Anyways, it’s why I don’t get into relationships for the fuck of it anymore. Hopefully I’ll find that again.

If you want a girl all to yourself, make her your wife.

Yes it stops me for two reasons:
1 - I don't want to add more shit to the world
2 - I want a girl who is loyal.

Yes and I move on to the next woman

But how come a lot of men say this but the moment a woman boyfriend or not flirts and they like her , they are willing to do anything with her and for her?

>how come strong emotion is difficult to control with rational thought

Gee, I dunno.

Yes, unless he's ok with it.

Boyfriend no, husband yes.

This isn’t always true though. My aunt and uncle started as an affair (both were married to other people previously) and they’ve been together and happy for over 20 years now.

It depends on a number of things and they all differ according to how much you like her/how far you want to go with her.

The before-me would firmly state a cheater is a cheater, but now-me isn't so sure about that. Also I have been with a girl that was with a guy who was mildy annoying. We had a one nighter, me and her and they broke up shortly after because of some other stuff idk.

>tl;dr: it depends

If I just want to fuck her NO
If I like her and want to be with her YES

this

let me get this straight. you fucked with the gf of the guy who fucked your gf?

yes
if she flirts with me having a parter
what stop her from being like that when im with her?

>I'm not gunna fight some guy for you even if you're my 10/10 ideal waifu
You're ideal waifu must be pretty shit waifu, then.
I'd wouldn't just fight him, I would probably rape him and force him to suck my dick in front of my ideal waifu, effectively ending their relationship for them right then and there.
No cheating involved, because being raped isn't cheating.

No, and I'll record us fucking too if she falls for it, and inform the boyfriend afterwards that his girlfriend can't be trusted, and testify for him in civil court so she can't take any of his stuff when they break up.
I get a new friend and he gets to cut ties with a woman who would've cheated on him anyways.

It's a win-win.

>If I like her and want to be with her YES
She then cheats on you with someone else

oh wait, fuck, read the question backwards.

Right, don't want anything to do with the cunt if I like her because I know she'll do the same to me. That is a horrible place to be.

Now, knowing girls like I do, having a bf never stops them from hopping on new dick so that means if I'm the bf and they are not right in front of me, they are guiding another dick in their pussy.

Yes. He wanted to get back together saying it was a mistake so she played along with it and sent him a video of me fucking her lol

This post is the correct answer. From top to bottom, it is correct

No not at all.

Depends on a lot of things really. How much do I like the girl? What is the boyfriend like? Do I want to date a girl or fuck her?
Personally if it's a girl I want to date, like others in the thread have said if she'd leave or cheat on him she'll do it to you. If I just want to sleep with her I'll probably push a lot harder since the chances are so low there's no point in not just going for it.

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