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So yesterday my gf needed me to come home to deal with an emergency, so I had to WFH and cleared off some space to work after the emergency was dealt with. In the process I gave her her house key because it was near my desk. Today she couldn't find it and tore into me through text and called me at work. Turns out the key was in her purse the whole time. She profusely apologized, but I'm just tired of dealing with. Also she constantly complains about taking care of the dogs we got together. She takes care of them more, but that's just because I work FT and she doesn't. I'm starting to wonder if she's even really happy being with me. I confront her about it and she says she's happy, but I got enough of my life to worry about without dealing with her complaining to me. I really feel like she doesn't really "love" me, but she likes that I'm a nice guy and care for her. When she's not blaming me for things, I really enjoy her company, but it's starting to get on my nerves when she complains about me working too much, her not having enough money for school, and that we live paycheck to paycheck. Is this a rough patch? How should I react when she blows up on me again for something that's not my fault?

I think you guys need to have a talk about the points of friction in your relationship. These little one time incidents are not the issue, they are just a symptom. Maybe shes really stressed lately and taking it out on you, maybe your behavior changed in some way you dont realize thats making her anxious.

It sounds like she needs to learn to react more calmly to things, rather than letting her kneejerk emotions carry her forward, and you need to be more patient. You should try initiating a conversation with her and say you think you two have been arguing too much lately and not arguing in ways that are productive or healthy. You love her so you want to fix it and move on, you're together so you should be able to work through it and find a solution/the source of the problems. Maintain calmness and kindness doing this. If she blows up and can't handle it, if within 24 hours she isn't willing to do it (or doesnt say "lets talk about this tomorrow, and actually talks about it), then you should probably break up. A relationship that can't self-repair is already over.

I dont think anyone here can really find out what is causing all these symptoms, only you and her can, but everything you mention is minor shit. The important stuff is that either you or her is dissatisfied and something is making you two unable to get along. What?

>no girl replies to me on OkCupid
;_;

>Maintain calmness and kindness doing this.
I am ALWAYS like this. I never even raise my voice and I never say anything hurtful. I feel like I'm plenty patient with her. She literally blew me up on text and called me at work, and all I said was something along the lines of I moved the key and handed to you, is it in your purse? We have a lot of external stressors, both of our family's are just fucking awful, ,we're both struggling to get through school, we see each other for like 2 hours a day because of our work schedules. We're financially co-dependent on each other because it's hard to make a living here with both of us making ~ minimum wage. Am I just supposed to hang in there until those issues are resolved?

Not the other user, but being patient and calm with a woman during a fight is a great way to throw fuel on their fire. They take it as a sign that you're not invested enough to get emotional, or an indictment of them for being emotional when you're not. I shit you not, try getting a bit worked up next time you two argue and see how it goes. Don't call her mean things or anything like that, just show visible anger, raise your voice a little.

This isn’t so much a request for advice as it is for a definition.
I’ve gotten into this interesting situation with this girl where we do everything romantic that someone courting someone would do, but we’re not in a relationship or starting one.
We walk with our arms around each other, lie in each other’s arms at home, stare into each other’s eyes, talk so close I can feel her breathe etc. but she goes on dates with other guys. She says she’s not attracted to me and I’m not to her, but we still act this way.
I just wanted to knowwhat what we have is called because I want to read about it, it’s not really cuckolding since we both fuck other people.
It’s like brinking but with flirty feelings

>constant attention on OkCupid

>all thots

It doesn't get easier ;-;

I had to delete it. It was overwhelming.

EX in relationship, EX tells me she still loves me but refuses to break it off with her current bf
(Has money and smarter than me that's it really)

She talks more about me to her mom than about her current bf and her mom noticed recently and out of the blue met up with me to talk about stuff having to do between me and the ex

So what is going on?? i want a femanons opinion

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What's a good first date for you shy, awkward girls?

Means she says she's dating you when she fucks the guy she really likes to get him harder

I dunno but I'd love to have a qt grill to cuddle with for the sake of that physical intimacy even though I'm not interested in an actual relationship at the moment.

I took a shy awkward girl to fireworks or somewhere its kinda secluded not LOUD OR CROWDED then after i took her to a diner in town i recommend 100% i clicked really well with them

Guys, just how ugly do you find bad skin/facial redness on a girl? My skin has always been the type to burn and blush easily, and my cheeks are permanently red. I hate the way it looks but I hate wearing makeup to cover it all the time too.

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sounds like the perfect woman, slutty or not. Take a gamble and risk sounding slutty if that's what you want. Say it in person though. And if he dumps you, find another guy that will. Personally I think that sounds super hot.

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Lol ok

All honesty? If your face isn't chubby, 9/10 men will tell you how adorable you look. Really, Tik Tok girls wish they had such natural cheek redness

However, if you do find it really unpleasant, you should just go to the dermatologist already

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Depends how bad it is. Girl in picture is cute as fuck.

youtube.com/watch?v=SPnCle-Rgz0

Jesus Christ, I never knew even the most average of girls has such insane power, why even bother then.

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Girls, how can a man make you comfortable about him lasting over an hour?

Anywhere that isn't super one-on-one where talking is supposed to hold things up for more than like, 75% of the date. Movies are a good go-to as long as you have similar tastes, plus you automatically have something to talk about afterwards. Maybe an amusement park or something else interactive?

My redness is similar which is why I chose that picture. But I also flush much more red when I drink or it’s very cold or hot, etc.

Can be cute or even hot, cant tell without looking at you. Think of it as a natural makeup or something, if it suits you the better.

Yeah it’s pretty great. It’s like romance without the bullshit but also without the sex

You are a manwhore, you shouldnt do those things unless you are in a relationship.

You can't. Either I'd feel personally bad for not being able to get a guy off within an hour, or I'd feel physically bad after trying for an hour.

This is actually a pretty based rendition of the FAQ.

Why not?
Even so I don’t mind being a manwhore but that doesn’t really answer my question

I'm not seriously attached to the idea of sex. At the moment the only thing I really miss in a relationship is time spent hand holding and spooning.

What alternatives do I have?

Hitler you've turned off your trip.

As long as you're up front about it, she'll probably understand and won't feel like it's her fault. I know for a fact that some women even take that sort of thing as a challenge. Personally I'd feel bad anyway, but that's just me.

>grinning like an idiot the whole time I talk to her
>can't figure out anything to sat
>obviously I'm into her
>except she's very unattractive
Why am I like this?

It's cute. Don't worry about it.

Is it normal to harbor disgust towards women that like me?

familiarity breeds contempt

No but can happen if you hate yourself really a lot.

speak for yourself

I'm just saying a truth that's older then the bible

Take her to see animals user. You can't go wrong with animals.

>Clearly you're just a monster because I am a sweet little daisy incapable of being hated

>took a grill to the zoo
>saw monkeys
>one monkey shoved the other out of a tree and went nuts and killed the other monkey
>grill cried and i had to take her home
>no second date
animals can go worng man. shit sucks.

What would hating myself have to do with that?

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Cuz you are just so full of yourself and not giving me money so you clearly hate urself. got u are so pathetic just like my last bf.

I make money move bitch

Sounds like you dodged a bullet

what a sad little human

My name is Cherish get it right fuckboy

I'm not your pornstar. You'll never get this pussy

youtube.com/watch?v=QuwBhHDPyws

>meet a guy at a party few months ago
>add each other on social media
>we text for a bit but he quickly starts to annoy me so I begin ignoring him
>keeps messaging me anyways
>eventually asks me out
>roll eyes but I decide to give him one honest chance
>actually had a good time (we even kissed) but still not interested
>texts me the next day that the kiss “messed him up” (whatever that means)
>like a week or so later texts me that he broke up with his gf (wat) and that I was one of the contributing factors (WAT)
>says he’s looking forwad to hanging out with me some more
There is no way to gracefully get out of this mess, isnt there?

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>Get drunk
>social media

ya did this to urself zommerette

Stop looking for drama and just block him. You don’t owe anyone politeness. Especially if its for some crazy clingy wacko. You can do anything you want.

We sadly see each other IRL occassionally and I have no way to avoid him for the time being. I’m bracing myself for some serious damage control but I have no idea how to get to it and not end up causing even more drama.

yes, there is a way

tell the gf

shoot this in the head and end it zoomerette

“Hey sorry i don’t think its gonna work out. Bye”. Then don’t respond at all. If he says hes gonna kill himself then call the police for suicidal threats. He will learn not to make that threat.

Then if you see him in public be distant , professional, and polite. If he tries to start shit just walk away and don’t respond. I hope you learned your lesson about playing games with stupid people. Seriously tho if you’re gonna play games like this then do it with someone who’s not insane.

hahaha you are nuts, its sad tho, how this world has messed up you psyche.

>user is crazy
>Oh
>Both tell him at same time in a confrontation

done

or date him

that would be peachy too

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Psst...

I'm a man in a wig

Girls, how do I find a girl for mutually enjoyable cuddling and flirting but not dating or sex?

Why kiss someone you don't even like? You led him on.

good for you mannequin
whaterver you are is still sad.

join a wiccan cult of some kind

>dont like the guy
>kiss him anyway
>guys develops feeling
>plays inocent and start making look the guy as psycho

you played the game, now you are scared.
you end it by being clear or you keep playing till explodes

umm who are you to judge exactly?

Satan?

Protip: Satan means accuser

judge? nop, im just an spectator of life
and have seen so many people go awry and deranged end up embittered
your confrontational atitude and offensive way of treating others, just show how hurt you are.
hope you find hope in things better than making others feel worse

and whatever.. I got a line of girls waiting for a chance to date me when I feel like it. Get to the back.

see
Never been better mate

It's u I am worried about

sure you do, peace.

lol haters gonna hate

I really do have a full inbox

>confrontational
>peace

says the faggot that wanted to butt heads with the bull

i dont care about an inbox full of spam, mr/ms bull

and yes, peace, so, try to be happy. not everyone is out to get your neck.

I guess Andy from LA who is into Orwell, Huxley, and phillip k dick is a spam girl.

She's good convo tho

So are the other girls from when I last logged into OkCupid

>and yes, peace, so, try to be happy. not everyone is out to get your neck.

We talking bout u or me here cause I am the one crackin jokes

I mean I get over a dozen messages a day and I have to keep these girls away with a bat

Maybe it's me just beeing meself that they like

but who am I kiddin right?

I'm just a broken shell of a man that should die because some angry harpie wants me to be unhappy

>I won cause I am not texting him anymore

This my turf now bitch. You're on the ninth most popular website and the audience isn't you, but the crowd around you.

Is there an actual stigma against women who like horses? Can someone explain why guys do a 360 and moonwalk away when I mention my hobby?

did you develop a crush or something that you keep posting?

gl with your turf

I'm just giving you the mouthfuck u begged for.

I know you're loving it

If people post their snapchat on tinder, are you sort of expected to message them through that at all?

horsecock

Yes, the stigma is that horses are all you are going to talk about, the only thing you're going to spend your time doing, that you're going to expect us to like your horses, to come to any competitions you compete in, to spend time watching you ride and pretending we enjoy it, all that kind of stuff.

There are a handful of hobbies that come to mind where the people who have those hobbies are just all-consumed by them and have barely any room left for other stuff in their brains, and horses are one of them.

Bet you didn't know I was facefucking you in front of so many people while you thirsted after my cock did you?

Good little ho

Next time be tomodachi

But I can balance a life and riding just fine. I don't even compete really. It's not like I bring up horses all the time either. For example, he brought up pets and I mentioned the Appaloosa my mom used to have as my favorite, and then I got a stare from the guy like I just insulted him or something.

And what he imagined in that moment was you injecting horse related anecdotes at every opportunity.

He's just retarded and can't appreciate a fine horse.

Must be a city boy

So am I supposed to hide it? Not share my interests with guys and just lie?
Well I am going to school in the city now, so that's the standard it seems.

I went on a date with a girl who's only been with 3 guys for a month each, she got drunk one night before we even saw eachother and was very flirty, i was the same way.

She was obviously a sweet girl who was sexually repressed, i was more than willing i flirted and teased her on the 1st date, but at the end i kissed her hand. I didn't mean to /tip fedora, I just wanted to wait till the 2nd time i saw her, shoulda i keep pushing ahead?

She said it wasn't a big deal and i even teased her about it after, i knew the date went well...things afterwards though i'm not so sure? She thanked me for seeing her immediately after so it leaves me conflicted.

I'm trying not to be pushy but i'm gonna ask what she's doing for Halloween and try to get things back on track.

>_>

Milady

just do it dude. she's a total ho so don't go hearing wedding bells or anything

Of course not, but tone it back to normal levels. I don't want to hear about your horse in every conversation. Get some additional hobbies that you can pad your resume out with.

I KNOW, how awful right.

Look i'm all for a good time, the last girl i went out with/dated i kissed on the first night.

I just honestly wanted to wait, maybe it was cause she was such a sweet girl. I already asked her to hang out and she said she was busy with a friend this weekend.

It's just weird, i've never had something go from so hot to so cold this quickly. She said people think she acts cold so idk maybe this is just it.

You might as well learn this now

>just because you feel it. doesn't mean it's there

youtube.com/watch?v=7AQSLozK7aA

That's harder than you make it sound.

Ya thanks for the song, learnings the hardest part.