tl;dr GF found my secret folder with videos of my ex, is pissed
>was with ex for 6 years, spent a year being long distance >during this time sent each other a lot of videos/pictures, some very degrading things on her part >terrible break-up where she tried to file a rape report against me, tried to ruin my life as much as possible >ended up moving cities to get away from her and cutting off a lot of my "friends" >due to this have a lot of trust issues >sends me an e-mail 6 months later as I'd blocked her everywhere >apologises and wants to get back together >tell her to delete all the videos/pic I sent her and I'd do the same, then to stay out of my life >start dating a new girl a year or so later, been together for 2 years >have kept the videos/pics on my back-up device, a sort of deterrent in case ex ever released the shit I had >never wanked to them, never looked at them, they're just there >GF was looking for something on my PC, came across the folder >it was literally "Backups > NSFW > EX's name > Videos/Pictures" >blows up on me, says I'm cheating on her with my ex, why am I keeping these things, I'm wanking to them etc.
Did I fuck up here? Is it really that weird to keep a deterrent? I told her I'll delete them but really I'll just put them on a random flash drive and hide it better. Did I really fuck up though?
tell her what you just told us except the last part
Yes, you fucking weirdo. Normal people don't keep blackmail around on their ex "just in case." Besides, if you ever release that shit, you get in legal trouble, not her. A normal man worth actually dating would not do the shit you're doing.
Sexual abuse cases favor one gender, guess what, just tell her your story and if she doesn't believe it whatever is not like you lied
>not encrypting your sensible information it's like you wanted her to find it
This is a mistake you only make once, if you really love your new girl a lot then take time to explain it and prepare to be asked to explain it every day for the next year. If you don't want that stress, then breakup.
Girls are too paranoid about this.
And delete it everywhere, make sure you don't forget any device. If you must keep it, encrypt it and rename the file extension.
>A normal man worth actually dating would not do the shit you're doing.
its not blackmail if its for legal defensive proof. this bitch made a false rape report, any thing he can prove her a liar good in his part.
Just tell you that you forgot, or you just did a mass backup and didn't really bother to go through the files or some shit.
>any thing he can prove her a liar good in his part None of the videos would prove her a liar though. She could easily say he raped her in an encounter that wasn’t filmed. Besides, OP said he’s not keeping them for evidence, he’s keeping them in the event she releases videos of him so he can do the same.
keeping videos and shit is exactly what a serial rapist would do lol
>None of the videos would prove her a liar though.
When you tell a lie things pile on top of eachother. Its very passable that she could claim that when she never had ANY contact with him Long term. If she says the rape happened on the 7th of this year and then you can prove that she was sending her ""rapist"" sexual videos on the 28th it ruins her timeline. This is how you catch people in the court of law. You cross analyse all the info there is until there is a hole you expose.
or maybe she says he was sending her dickpics and she never reciprocated because it was sexual harassment. so then you show that she is a liar because she did reciprocate and that not sexual harassment.
Any evidence that you were in a sexual relationship is evidence against rape accusations What? So you're saying after a girl gets raped and filmed she's gonna go back to her rapist to get raped and filmed again?
You guys dumb as shit.
Christ guys, all I meant was that if he has proof she consented to him before, it doesn’t mean that he couldn’t still rape her. I know that he could use a timeline of events to poke holes in her story. But again none of this matters since that’s not why OP even kept the vids/pics.
>If she says the rape happened on the 7th of this year and then you can prove that she was sending her ""rapist"" sexual videos on the 28th it ruins her timeline. >evidence that you were in a sexual relationship is evidence against rape accusations
you fucking dipshit lol most rape happens inside of relationships, and especially with sexual videos those tend to be used as blackmail where the person will say that if they don't send them more nudes then they'll anonymously leak them to the school or whatever
There's never been nudes used in a court of law, you absolute retard this is hilarious you must be in 8th grade still
and its a good idea he kept them but the plastic head didn't even hide them correctly. its like he doesn't even have any cheese pizza
>There's never been nudes used in a court of law you wanna check thoes facts buckaroo
first, if you tell a jury that you you've been holding onto videos of fucking her, you can just get the added charge of "revenge porn" that you're tried for, or it can be easily used to corroborate her story of you being creepy/weird/capable of rape, which is literally what OP is doing
second, if you lie in a court of law that you're not doing it for the possibility of getting revenge, which OP admitted that's what he's doing, that's perjury, an addition charge, and if you even fuck up your story once, you get two charges slapped onto you and evidence supporting her story that you're fucked up/capable of rape
third, OP literally said he's keeping it for illegal motivations, this was not his actual intention, this is a simple case of holding onto blackmail, which again, normal men do not do that
>evidence that you were in a sexual relationship is evidence against rape accusations you obviously have no idea that most rape cases involve people who are already IN a sexual relationship - most rapes occur from friends you know, people you've already been fucking, your girlfriend/boyfriend, or your husband/wife. this is a standard expectation.
in other words, you're the one that's dumb as shit.
not in the context that OP is thin king of, like some how the fact that she sent him nudes means that never raped her that is over-the-top stupid.
If anything that could be seen as proof against him, not all rape is violent and forceful, a lot of it is the result of blackmail and exploitation. If she says that he blackmailed her to ave sex and send him sexually explicit videos, he's sitting a goldmine of evidence against himself.
You need to keep these things. If she really is that crazy and might try to bring you down on rape charges, having these files showing consensual sexual activities with her during that time period could save your life. Of course it's not proof that you didn't rape her, but it allows for some reasonable doubt and that might be all you need.
>having these files showing consensual sexual activities with her during that time period could save your life. >but it allows for some reasonable doubt and that might be all you need.
ITT: NPCs discussing legal concepts they have no grasp on
>if you tell a jury that you you've been holding onto videos of fucking her, you can just get the added charge of "revenge porn" >saving nudes sent directly to you by your girlfriend is a criminal offence
it is if you're planning on using them as blackmail, which is what OP admitted to doing