>I’m a 23 y/o virgin. Partly because I’d rather save sex for marriage and I don’t want to stoop down to random disgusting hookups. I’ve had many opportunities in the past but turned it down everytime. I have though received blowjobs and done other stuff before.
I'm like you from the future. 26 now. In a similar situation; but not the same.
My stickler was not wanting a relationship, but rather experience and personality. I wanted someone with a similar level of experience as me, and someone that I could feel comfortable losing my virginity to.
I have still not found such a person.
But something's changed - it happens differently for different people, but I look in the mirror and I see my temples have started going grey. Shadows of wrinkles on my face. My life is not much different from when I was 23, but I *feel* different; older. My body seems to be putting on weight easier; for the first time, I have to exercise to look good. My friends are stopping going out; partying etc.
The point is, youth is fleeting. You will only ever be that young once. Not that such pressures should necessarily move you, but: you will only have license to be that free once.
Also, girls age faster and worse than we do.
I remember my 33 year-old friend telling me exactly this back then. I didn't listen to him.
I hate the idea of throwing my virginity away on a random hookup, but I've come to the conclusion that I'll lose out on *both* my dream of a fellow-virgin-partner, *and* also the once-in-a-lifetime life experiences in my prime, if I wait any longer.
I've made my decision. The next sufficiently-attractive girl that propositions me, I'm accepting.
I can't tell you what to do because our situations are different. But for me, I think upon hearing my words, younger-me would take it to heart. I would tell him to go for that one girl - and moreover, to not beat himself up over it - but instead absolutely relish it.
It's absolutely corny, but: You Only Live Once.
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