How to be a man

I'm dating a girl that has a kid (kids dad is around they have a 1 week rotation with the kid)

She is gorgeous and gets alot of attention and she has had like 30 sexual partners

I've been with her for a few months but I have felt insecure about the fact shes had 2x the amount of sexual partners I've had .

What's the proper way to deal with this?

Tl;dr
>gf is hot has slept with 30 people
>I feel insecure about this sometimes
>I want to be with her but I don't want her to think she has power over me
>Finding it difficult to deal with this without appearing insecure
>what should I do?

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A man would find another girl

>30 sexual partners
>kid
>doesn't have full custody
>ex's still looming

Red flags bro. Get out.

THIS

She left him to be with me he was abusive and neglectful. But I feel you, part of me feels like I'm a bit stuck but I wonder if with that history, is she more likely to cheat?

Last girl I dated was a virgin so I think the difference is fucking with me

Find somebody who doesnt have baggage in form of living thing aka baby.

There are plenty irresponsible immature women WITHOUT babies yet.

There's nothing to deal with

A man would treat the emotional parts like business. If she has only had twice as you, I wouldn't worry about the pot calling the kettle black. You can be the "right one" if you handle your shit. There ain't no red flags unless you look at them.

What do you mean by no red flags unless I look at them?

I like your point of view.
I had a friend say to me
"Think of it like this, shes been with alot of guys, yes. But you're the one she wants to be with. You're the one she chose out of all of them (even her husband) that she wants to live her life with"

But I took that as my friend justifying her she sleeping around

>"Think of it like this, shes been with alot of guys, yes. But you're the one she wants to be with. You're the one she chose out of all of them (even her husband) that she wants to live her life with"

For now.

Your friend is wise. We put people in categories based on general analogies when everyone is individual. Like racism, it may be generally true but the Blake dude you know and respect shouldn't be judged on generalities. She did pick you. Maybe she was looking for you this whole time. You can't hold it against her for success in finding you.

Fucking run, what a shit show.

Ask yourself, so you really want to be apart of the trail of wreckage she leaves behind?

See thisIs the generalization.
Good information from one that is not in the situation. But that is all it is.

I disagree. It's not categorizing or generalizing to notice trends and steer clear of them.

The gamble comes down to the persons choice of course. But don't delude yourself into thinking your special as we all often do. This girl chewed through a lot of guys and had at least one kid with one. Not saying your not the one for her. just to not forget your the 31st attempt and not to get hurt over it.

Jerk off. How does it feel compared to sex with her? Is the difference between jerking off and fucking this slut great enough that she's worth your time and money? You will always have that thought in your head about the thirty other guys who tore up her pussy and ass. Is it really worth it? Dump that bitch and hit the gym.

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Adding on to this - if you get serious with this broad you will end up spending tens of thousands of dollars on another man's child. Even by virtue of being in a relationship with her you will inevitably have to take care of the kids and - making you a cuckold. Do you want to be a cuckold? Do you want to devote yourself to securing a genetic future for another man (a man who fucked your girl and probably made her cum harder than you ever will)?

I agree with your disagreement. But it seems from OP's insufficient post, that he wants to deal with the control of his insecurities in his situation. If he wants to bailout, there is nothing to deal with.

Personally: my wife was with seven times the amount of partners I had. We have been married for twenty years with no major problems. Situations vary, but I can (no longer) consider my wife a ho.

I understand what you're all saying. But I have to be honest if I had had the capability to sleep with women easily I would've done the same so I also find it hard to fault her for doing what I'd do myself

That means you have low self esteem and low self respect. If you want to share your life with someone else who has those traits, be my guest.
Remember that a key that opens all locks is a magical, powerful key - a lock that can be opened by any key is no lock at all.

Well. I say, in sarcastically, listen to what you need to hear to reaffirm your personal goals.

2/10
promiscuity is the decline of WESTERN SOCIETY okay bla bla bla

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If you seriously consider a lasting relationship with a woman that has a kid which isn't yours then I have bad news for you man. This is fucking pathetic however you look at it.

If you go through with it then it means that you fold. It means that you accept being an inferior beta provider that cannot do better than this and don't fool yourself - that's how she will perceive you as well. Women with options never stay faithful to men they do not respect.

Not to hijack your thread OP but I'm in a similar situation minus the kid. My gf has been with around 10 different people and I've literally only been with her. She says she's loves me and the sex and relationship is great but it still bothers me. It just makes me sick thinking of all those other guys fucking her. I don't know any of them but just the thought pisses me off. How can I get over this? I love her but it's really bothering me when I think about it.

You cowardly fucks are unfair. In a reverse situation, there wouldn't be a problem.

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Man I gotta be honest, my wife and I have high scores too, and at 15 partners, it surprises me this bugs you at all. Surely by now you must have separated random fucking and intimate relationship intercourse? If you were a virgin I'd get if you.had some resentment you waited and she didn't or some shit but come on. You've treated sex like no big deal, so did she, so leave it like that?