I'm a 24 years old and I've never been in a relationship. I'm sexually active and go on dates, but nothing seems to really work out. I'm a high functioning mentally ill person with a full time job who has always worked, supported themselves, and has been socially active. I'm moderately attractive and I get compliments frequently when it comes to sex. I'm an extrovert who's popular in my social groups and at work and I'm known for my outgoing personality. I can't understand why I've had difficulty finding someone I can be with; is it because I generally am a first date kind of girl and that's a turn off because I'm too easy? Or is it because of the way I am or the way I look. I'm finding it increasingly difficult to not worry about the fact that I seem to be unlovable. I'm never needy or desperate, but I'm starting to feel that way internally and it's disgusting. Why can't I seem to get more than a date or two? What's wrong with me?
I'm a 24 years old and I've never been in a relationship. I'm sexually active and go on dates...
>moderately attractive
gonna have to post a picture
Maybe you give your dates the impression that you're not interested in them. I don't know you but you should try to find what's causing your dates to not want a second one. If not then the girls in your area are weird.
Do the guys usually break it off, or is it mixed?
Have you tried not having sex with them immediately?
Stop going for the type of guys you’re going for you whore
This.
Attractive girls can actually get relationships easily. Are you fat, OP? Maybe guys don't want to be seen with you.
I'll post body but I don't want to post my face, I don't want to be recognized.
Yes, still doesn't work. We usually just stop texting each other or plans fall through. Sometimes we just don't ever speak again.
That's the thing, I go for literally all types of guys, all age ranges, backgrounds, economic statuses. And I'm a slut, not a whore, I don't get paid retard duh, it's a public service (pubic service lol)
Go for me, I'm literally nothing if not loyal.
Also pls be in Canada
You seem to have a great figure
Lol
It's alright, I got a big butt too that dudes love and I'm wicked good at giving head. I have braces but only for a few more days.
It's probably because you're having sex really quickly. If you're having sex immediately, the man is done. He has gotten his reward, he can move on. If you want a real relationship, you should withhold sex for a bit so he can get to know you in trying to get it.
I bet you are just too picky and don't want anyone who is not 6'2, handsome and white, i.e. Chad
GTFO
The fact that you're a slut is a huge red flag and a reason I would avoid you. Some guys are cuckolds who dont care if you're a cumguzzling thot though.
Sometimes I don't though. And usually we have these awesome dates where we have great conversations for hours. Even second or third ones. Most recent guy, we've seen each other five times almost once a week. But I know things aren't going to happen.
Last dude I fucked was a skinny little hipster line cook bitch with a handlebar mustache and toothpick legs. Fuck off dude, get some confidence, it's not my fault you can't get laid.
It’s off-putting to anyone who is looking for anything except sex to listen to you brag about sexual prowess right when they first meet you, like you’re doing now.
You might think that you are going for all types of guys, and we all look differently, sure, but you are only going for guys that want to have sex with you. That’s why it doesn’t work when you do have sex with them immediately and still doesn’t when you don’t.
I’ve had a couple hypersexual girlfriends, and both of them had a history of sexually abuse. If that’s the case with you, professional counseling might help, but I don’t know that much.
I can ask you more questions to find out more, though. Do you bond with people outside of group social events? Do you have one-on-one close friendships with people that don’t involve some social circle?
>High functioning mentally ill
U read dude? Also only lost my virginity/went on my first date at 23 lmao.
I've been in therapy before, yes. I thought I was asexual for years. Then I realised sex is pretty fun and I like it. I have a roommate who is my friend from high school, and several friends from different periods of my life. I do prefer to be by myself though for the most part. I generally don't talk about "sexual prowess" unless it's with someone I'm casually hooking up with who prompts conversations (usually it's the funny things that have happened).
>But I know things aren't going to happen
Why?
My last contribution to this thread probably, but instead of going with guys who ask you out, have you tried asking someone who keeps mostly to himself out? You might find that work.
Plenty of introverted guys around here would love a girlfriend. You might find a change if you do something different instead of repeating the same steps.
Just do. We have incredibly hot, kinky sex, but that's it. I know it wouldn't work and we both prefer multiple partners; even so, I don't imagine him caring for me even in an open relationship/ethically non-monogamous relationship. Like, he chokes me really well, but he never cuddles me after; I realise he probably does this because I can be cold in my affect.
You from aus op? Probnotoriginal
>I know I won't be with him because he's having sex weirdly/feminine intuition
The only thing logical in there was the part about both of you believing in cheating. First of all, stop that, that's only hurting you. Most people don't think cheating is okay. Second of all, most people behave differently in bed as in real life and only behave like that while having sex because they think you want it. Sex is not a good metric for a relationship and if you don't like your sex, just ask for a change. Also, your imagination is shitty, don't trust it, your relationships develop over time and judging what your relationship will be like in the future based on what it is and what you imagine now is a very easy way of making you unable to have romantic partners.
Sorry, mate, you and you alone are the problem.
I have, those guys usually end up being the angriest in bed lmao. But same thing. Also I'm usually too outgoing for guys like that; I can tell they don't enjoy the time they spend with me. I'm very sensitive to others emotions.
Nah, other user hoped right.
What works for most people usually doesn't work for me. I'm a heavy drinker, nymphomaniac, and I have bpd. That's why it's refreshing to meet people who can accomodate that, and that much more difficult when things don't work out. I appreciate the advice though, I definitely self sabotage in the respect that I think too far ahead. Of course I'm the problem but I don't know what part to fix. Other crazy people can fall in love; even this guy has long-term ex's. Why not me? I'm a cute, intelligent, fun girl. I just happen to enjoy a lot of sex.
She knows she's a slut and that she's undesirable for anything other than sex. Might as well become a hooker.
You laugh, but I'm serious.
As a side note: you may be able to distinguish a whole shit ton of differences in the guys you've been with, but the odds are that there is a key similarity you're overlooking. If they all act so similarly, start looking at their similarities.
The only other option is that the issue is you.
Unfortunately I have a stable career in the veterinary sector, but if times ever got tough, hell yeah I'd turn tricks. I also have self worth though. I have sex cause it's fun. Are you bitter because you can't have sex when you want for fun?
You West coast? I've thought that, I haven't found anything yet. I meet guys in all different places, online and offline. Aged 26-55. The issue is definitely me but I don't know what part. I hope it's not all of it.
>I'm a heavy drinker, nymphomaniac, and I have bpd
These are not normal things. Stop drinking heavily. Go to therapy, a lot of it, to deal with nymphomania.
>All these other people have sex. Why not me?
Because you literally don't want relationships. You want someone to come up to you and marry you with a snap of his fingers. That's not how people work. You have to get to know people and then decide what you think of them.
>What should I change
View relationships as a stroll instead of a race. If you are dating someone, don't assume you can't marry him. Just...date him and things will work out.
Learn that sex isn't important. Whether you can have good sex or not is silly.
Stop thinking cheating is good. It's not and destroys real intimacy.
That's why I said most things that work for most people (normal) do that work for me. I don't anticipate marriage, even monogamy. It's not cheating. I work a very demanding job that requires swing shifts so I can't maintain a relationship in the traditional sense. I also value my time alone. I'd like to form a relationship in the respect that I'm not getting strange dick. I just want some consistent dick, I don't even need to be wined and dined. Just pizza, Netflix, and sex twice a week and seperate apartments. Intimacy for me is the conversations I have before and after sex.
Where on the west coast are you? I can do that
I'm not anymore lol, also it's just an inquiry. I'm in Ontario.
>I have a very demanding job so I can't have monogamy
That does not make sense. Many people have jobs much more demanding than yours (you know, things like the military), yet have good, monogamous relationships. Your being a slut is your fault and yours alone.
>I just want dick
>I only care about fucking
>Intimacy is just time spent not fucking
This is why none of your relationships work. Your only wish from them is to fuck people. Wonderful for you, but most people want something more. Most people want a real relationship. So, they'll leave. Unless you want a real, monogamous relationship, too, this is how it will be.
Plastic surgery! They will change your dick to a vagina. Buy a dildo and fuck yourself.
Yeah this right here is why I wouldn't date you. I'd be incredibly bored of you. You lack the qualities of a life mate. You're a fuck toy who wants to fuckb and only fuck. Might as well just start fucking dogs at your job.
It's ok to be into sex but you don't even want the things that come from a relationship nor seem interested in giving them. Emotionally and romantically soulless at worst, extremely underwhelming otherwise.
You just want a consistent fuck buddy. That's all.
>What's wrong with me?
You're a whore.
That's the last thing it should do. Wouldn't want to inflict it on some unsuspecting beta.
It doesn't matter if you get paid, you still belong in a ditch.
Cause you know that ol' stereotype of faithful military wives people always talk about lmao. I guess you're right, I just thought meeting the type of people I meet (people interested in the same things as I, which happens sometimes, again not most, re: normal people) would mean I have better chances in at least getting a second date.
Dildo can't chain me to the wall and choke me :'(
Yikes, who said I'd wanna date you dude? Lol
Tbh, the way I party, I probably will end up in a ditch somewhere. Still cute though :^*
I'm and while I agree this girl's a cunt, you're not helping. What advice are you seeking to give? What is your endgame? Do you have an endgame? This is just further proof tripfags should be banned and then shot.
At least it's not Peanut Nigger.
>yikes who said I'd wanna date you
The entire point of explaining why you're undesirable romantically was for your own sake after reading the thread. I can't speak for everyone so I just explained why /I/ wouldn't. It's explicitly what you asked about in the OP. Your inability to understand that much is another thing to think about.
>you're not helping.
What exactly can be done to help OP? It's beyond saving, and it is perfectly content with that. Thus the interest should be in containing the rot, since nothing more can be done to help OP than has already been pointed out multiple times ITT.
You don't want a relationship OP. You just think you do. You're a slave to your own hedonism, and that's what's stopping you from opening yourself up to stable, normal men.
If there's nothing to help, then don't bump the thread. There are other people who need helping and you are just making their threads harder to find.
Nice dubs, but again, you're probably not my specific demographic for a relationship. You sound like someone who enjoys monogamy, right? Who doesn't want a consistent fuck buddy? I do. So you deserved a stupid ass answer dude. Duh.
Omg, I don't want a normal man wtf y'all can't read can you lmao. Anyway that dudes right, asking a bunch of dudes on Jow Forums for advice is pointless so let this shit die. I wish you guys knew how much fun life away from this place is and how cool cumming on a chicks braces after you fuck her big titties is :'( love u guys xx
You aren't looking for a relationship at all though. I had what you describe wanting in college. The distinction is that you're inconsistent. You don't want strange dick (except for when you do).
You Are looking for a non commitment friend to have sex with regularly. Nothing more than that.
Your best chance is to find some dudes who are 18 or so at the local uni. You don't actually care about what you said in the OP. You already know.
Cool blog blog babe. You should try writing full time, I reckon you would get a lot of followers.
I think she quite honestly just came here to flex, similar to that one dude with the 8 inch dick who complains about women not wanting him for anything but his cock.
It's a sense of self indulgence and validation especially with all these replies. [spoiler]I don't need your body in particular to know how cool that is.
Best trip on the board
you are just a slut for chads and also condensending as fuck. Fuck off please
no one wants a hoe girlfriend just a fuck buddy (unless you're a beta guy). this is common knowledge