Can't cum during sex. I used to masturbate a lot to porn as a teen...

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This shit confuses and depresses me
You're probably totally normal on the outside too. Fucker

Married. One kid. Stable career. 4 bedroom, 2 bath house. Yeah I’m pretty normal.

Yea man it's crazy

Why? Lube makes it feel way better

Habit mostly I suppose. Also easier cleanup.

And you don't have a problem cumming during sex? I can last 15+ min without cumming

Which positions have you tried? I can last pretty long if my gf rides me (well, I wait for her to cum first...), but if we go doggy or prone bone, I can be done in less than a minute

Missionary.

Missionary and...?

I tried her riding me as well but missionary feels better. With past girls I've tried doggy which feels okay but I didn't use lube with any of them. As soon as I use lube sex feels so much better. I'm thinking of using a silicone cock ring to keep me hard too.

Like not even mating press dude?

I'm uncut, 26 and used to masturbate a lot before realising I couldn't cum during sex. Took me 1-3 weeks to regain enough sensitivity.

Abstaining as long as possible and then having sex works the best in my experience. Right now I do masturbate but not as often as I used to. Using water based lube during sex can help with sensitivity too.

Try mating press, but another thing that's important is the psychology of it. I cum much faster if I'm really into it and not thinking very much

Im a virgin, is a vagina really less stimulating than your hands? I've never understood this i always felt if i was with a girl it would feel a lot nicer than masturbating surely (so easier to cum no?)

like pic related?

Yes it is. Your hand has more pressure and can make you cum faster. Going from that to a woman who's vagina is no where near the pressure makes you unable to cum if you have been masturbating without lube and do it fast.

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Just fuck harder

this happens to me very occasionally when i'm feeling anxious/insecure OR am wearing shitty condoms. any issues with anxiety OP?

Based on your post pictures i would say you watch too much porn.

It definitely feels nice, but the sensation is more "different" rather than "better". Almost no vagina will be tight like a hand will, so there will be less pressure on your dick = less sensation.

i would say that it definitely does feel better than masturbation but not because it's tighter. it's just the general sensation of spreading her apart, the moisture and the warmth that makes it good

I have this problem from porn too. Probably not a good thing to do, but I just think of porn when I have sex. It sort of works. Another thing is are you really attracted to your girl?

Happens the same to me. Only very occasionally do I cum with coitus (and it's usually a new girl that I wanted to fuck something fierce), most of the time I either jerk off to cum in her mouth or tits, or we just leave it at that. I have no problem with not cumming during sex, but a lot of the girls end up feeling inaddecuate and I have to reassure them.

I might start using a lube as well, see how that goes.

I'll be 31 on Sunday, been here for like 12 years.

I'm "normal" in the sense that I'm a neurologist and very promiscuous, but neuros have a reputation of being weird, and I'm know to be kinda weird even among my friends, if that makes you feel better.

thanks bros your descriptions were so good i feel like i got laid already

No and I don't use condoms

Used to watch a lot but now I'm on nofap and no porn. Want to cum with sex so now I only have coitus with a girl down the hall

If you death gripped your dick, you literally killed the nerves so a vagina isn't enough stimulation cuz your body can barely feel it now.

When I would have sex with my ex I would like to grip his cock while he fucked me missionary, so the base would be tight and he'd cum immediately pretty much. Maybe ask your girl to do something similar?

How long does it take to regain sensitivity? I've stopped fapping and porn completely now and I almost came the other day when I had sex.

I'm thinking of using a silicone cock ring. Would this produce a similar effect? I might try what you said anyways

Seems like you need to just wait a while, like a few months of no masturbation.

I've never tried a cock ring, I always wanted to but we didn't. So I'm not sure, but maybe?

Foreskin restoration. Takes about three months for appreciable results but it's well worth it, makes everything feel better and you'll have a lot better control over your orgasm.

afaik nerve damage can't be healed but I'm not a doctor

Bumping because I have the same problem. Abstaining doesn't help. I'm kinda worried I'm just not that attracted to her, but I really like her, which sucks.

i was like that, i stopped masturbating altogether and now I can cum multiple times during a fuck

I have a really hard time cuming when doing it bareback, i think it's a no-no for me and my gf at this point of life, even tho she uses pills. However a last a lot.

When i put a condom, i used a really tight one, i cum in the 5-10 min window no exception, i don't like putting it, but when im hard with it and im fucking her i just turn my brain off, no fucks given and i do it without stress.

not op but how does foreskin restoration work and does it look normal?

It's not nerve damage, though. It's desensitization, which is a readjustment of the level it takes for the nerve to activate based on the level of stimulus.

When you step into a hot tub and the water feels incredibly hot and almost painful, but then you adjust and it stops being a shock, that's adjustment. If you get out of the hot tub for an hour and then go back in, it'll feel hot again. The change isn't permanent.

For masturbating, resensitization does take longer. You've trained your brain to orgasm to a specific kind or level of stimulus, so that's the way it orgasms the most easily. What you need to do is re-train your brain to orgasm to lighter stimulus (and if you don't normally masturbate with lube, to adapt to less friction, as well). Don't give up masturbation entirely, but make it more infrequent and keep it very gentle and light. It might be worth it to buy a soft and basic toy like the QuickShot so you can readapt to feeling something more like a mouth/vagina.

I haven't personally tried it but I've heard the quickshot is almost exactly like the real thing.

>Oh this might be a thread worth checking out. Maybe in the future I could take this advice if I ever start having problems. I bet this could be a real confidence booster just to know that I cou-
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Oh... nevermind...

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>developers further issues just reading OP...

Vag isn't "tight" like you've heard.