So I got back with my gf of about a year, we broke up around the end of August due to some dumb stuff I did when we went LDR. In the time apart I found out she fucked 8 guys-- which brings me to say while we were broken up and still talked she said she still loved me, and later led me on after a hiatus in communication only to decide she really did love me when we saw each other in person a few weeks after. This is what bothers me.
I'm not sure if I should be mad, take this as a red flag for us going forward, or just forget about it because she forgave me and chose me again for a second chance. But eight guys in 3 months, really? In those 3 months I cried like a bitch and almost killed myself from depression.
8 guys? She admitted to sleeping with 8 guys? In three months? How did you find out? That’s a big number for a short time frame.
Carson Taylor
That’s gross. Huge red flag.
Zachary Flores
Every human is different. Some could forget what happened others couldnt. I was in a similiar scenario and didnt take her back and am in a happy new relationship. We were together for 7 years
Connor Rodriguez
Just end it, or enjoy tasting 8 guys, while she got to taste at least one girl lmao
Owen Stewart
It came up in conversation the other night, it went from her just being insecure about herself to somehow everyone at her school thinks shes a slut because she obviously made a bad name for herself. lmao. I got curious and asked but said you don't have to answer it, to be honest I was expecting like 2-3 guys and I wouldn't be on Jow Forums if that were the case. But yes, 8 is a huge number for a short time frame.
Yeah exactly, every human is different I'm not sure to see it if that was a coping mechanism for us to explode the way it did or it's a red flag to an even worse explosion.
It's not about sexual insecurity from what you're implying, it's more of a moral and psychological thing. During break ups it's almost a given either or both parties will have sex, it's just the way it panned out in the end on top of such a high number that is bothering me.
Nicholas Cox
I'm leaning towards this but I feel like I have to scope it out a little more and give her the benefit of the doubt for now, I'm not sure.
Gabriel Richardson
You probably did something fucked up to her to start with like fucking a bunch of random chicks or something hence you being so vague with the ‘dumb stuff’ you did.
Samuel Morales
I was vague on that not to have this as a personal journal entry; I went into a really bad depressive episode having really bad anxiety about her leaving me and cheating on me. I kinda annoyed the shit out of her about it for a week or two and got trashed every night, I was very convinced the worst already had happened and started to talk to other girls briefly to ease the blow of the impending doom or whatever dumb shit I believed. However when I realized I was being stupid and was about to clean up my act she found out and just dumped me on the spot. Not something really fucked up like fucking a bunch of random chicks user, it's just dumb
Zachary Parker
She probably really was cheating.
Christopher Jackson
It was a week into her being gone when we broke up, I don't think that would be very possible. I was being irrational and having bad anxiety, due to past relationships was like I had PTSD out of nowhere
Kevin Garcia
Please don't continue the relationship. She changed her mind after seeing you again? That's all chemicals dude. Red. Flag. If she sees another guy she likes she's gonna fuck him. 8 guys in 3 months? I haven't even screwed half of that amount of dudes in my whole life and I'm almost 30. Either break up or use as fuck buddy. Non committal dude, for the love of God.
Jose Davis
Yup, get the fuck outta there user. Not healthy.
Easton Harris
Just saw that thread, all I can say after reading all of this, nope, she doesn't love you. She just wants any sort of dick and someone to hug not to feel totally alone while she can't find anyone better in her eyes. Seriously, don't go back into a relationship with her. People don't change so fast, and I wouldn't think that they do change at all in regards of romantic relationships.
Trust us dude, we've all been there, it's better to safe yourself from your own tears in the future and move on faster.
>She changed her mind after seeing you again? Yeah she went from she wasn't sure if she loved me and trying again in the future would be 1-3 years from now to admitting she loves me about thirty minutes into a face to face discussion and cried. I never have seen her cry to be honest, but I did give her shit about that before and after.
Julian Thomas
Okay listen, I will give her this. She still has feelings for you, but they are pretty and fleeting. She is extremely feelings driven, and very empathic, but when she's alone she is more level headed. So that's why she was saying that she loves you and crying when before she was distant and logical. She was probably empathizing with you as well as feeling the hormones/pheramones/and other chemicals flying around from seeing you again after that long break. Don't trust her man. Every time she's alone she will go back to that "level headed" thinking. Every time she's with you, she will empathize with you. It's complicated and she will be at constant war with her feelings and that will cause you so much distress. Probably stuff you've already experienced before. Let me know if my insight is incorrect.
Angel Harris
I see what you mean, I feel like it was more confusion than logic though. After a week of spending a lot of time together I eventually made it clear to her that I'm not going to be an option to her and when she goes back I will not talk to her, I would rather move on and find someone who would want to really be with me and love me. I wasn't about to play stupid games while she ran around (probably to fuck 8 more guys lmfao). She spent the entire day crying, and came to the conclusion she wasn't ready to lose me entirely. That's how we got back together, and so far she seems pretty invested. Though I am having a hard time trusting her now obviously.
Ian Perez
Yeah I'd have trust issues too. Good luck to you.
Blake Ross
are you here just to complain and have your self-esteem build up or just seek help? honest question, honest answer. she ain't material for any sort of stable relationship.
Gavin White
Trying to seek outside opinion because it's hard to make a decision against someone you love, so yes help. I don't know where I stand or where I should stand
Logan Collins
>chose me again for a second chance I don't understand men at all. OP she isn't a prize princess just because she let you crawl on again after letting everybody else have a turn.
Don't fall for the excuse she needed to fuck a town to realize she loves you. That is a lie
Ian Murphy
>decision against someone you love Well OP you love a whore, thats a start in the con column
