How the hell are you supposed to be dominant in bed?

>If a girl tells you "I want sexual gratification without having to put in any effort", what do you do to her?
I leave.

What are some good positions? Thinking of doing those things only makes sense in doggy style from what i know of

just think of it logically and find what works as you're doing it.

hair pulling is pretty exclusive to doggy. i suppose you can achieve it in prone and semi-prone but that wouldn't be all that comfortable.

choking can be done in doggy if you and the girl are of compatible height and/or you have long enough arms. easier to do in missionary or cowgirl.

etc. etc.

You go with your impulses.
>brain: GRAB TIDDY.
Grab the tiddy.
>brain: LICK THERE.
You lick there.

Get the picture?

>Also, what do you usually say during sex?
I put a lot of time and effort in to learning how to do dirty talk during sex, girl I used to go with was well in to it. One of the easiest and best techniques I found came from an article about Keith Richards (in case you're not as old as me, he's the guitarist with the Rolling Stones). All you do is tell her what you're going to do, then tell her what you're doing, then tell her what you just did. Try to be as graphic as you can - "I'm going to push two of my fingers in to your tight wet pussy" rather than "I'm gonna finger you".

Other than that you can throw in a "you like / liked that didn't you" here and there. When she's close to orgasm try saying "go on you dirty little bitch/slut, come for me". Sometimes using the word "whore" works really well with that, but the results can be a little unpredictable.

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That is the final redpill

Based and redpilled.

yeah if you not sure on what youd like to do to a girl its no good asking us.. you cant teach that, its instinctive

Just dominate her 4HEad

When fucking her from behind grab a handful of hair close to the back of the scalp and gently but frimly pull her head back.

This is why the west isn't worth saving.

Consume me please.

Honestly this thread made me horny asf.

You guys are pros, anons.

You remember when you were a kid and your ADHD would kick in, and youd just frantically escalate things because you're having a ton of fun and you end up just taking control of everything without realizing it and running the entire situation into the ground until the bottom falls out and theres a six foot hole in the wall, the microwave is on fire, every light in the house is on, the dog is missing and you can hear the fire dept coming?

Make that happen, but during sex.

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>people bust a nut
>THE DECADENT SOCIETY IS A FAILING ONE, JUST LOOK AT THE ROMANS AAAA
you guys are the most pathetic dudes ive seen

>people need to simulate abuse in order to bust a nut
>HOW DARE YOU QUESTION THAT? THERE'S NOTHING WRONG HERE!

I like it when a guy grasps my hands firmly and presses them down on the bed. That’s pretty hot.

I miss the days when women would keep this fucking shit between themselves and other women. I hate hearing this shit

>simulate abuse
yeah dude, getting spanked in a consensual relationship sure is abusive. You're not getting any and so you project your spite onto others. Fuck off, holy hell.

>Every girl wants me to be their Dom-daddy.
>Not interested in that shit at all.
Why can't girls just want love? Why do I need to choke you for you to be happy?

It's a test. A test I always fail.

I feel you bro. I just hope that fact that my dick is huge might be enough to compensate.

That isn't a consequence of the Western World, it's a fact of humanity. The only way around it is to view sex as shameful like a puritanical Christian sect and have sex only for the purpose of creation.

It’s a thread about how to dominate a woman in bed, faggot.

You guys just dont get it
Being dominated is the most passionate expression of love. First, she trusts you enough to completely give herself over to you knowing you wont seriously hurt her bad (like hospital level, minor pain is the bomb).
And the fact that the guy wants you so badly that he throws away societal concerns and becomes an animal over you and going crazy, feeling THAT wanted is amazing

Do women just think they're the only ones who enjoy feeling wanted or do they just they're the only ones who are allowed to?

>Do women just think they're the only ones who enjoy feeling wanted

unfortunately, it comes as a surprise to many women that men seek basic emotional fulfillment and affection. equally unfortunate, men do their best to suppress these feelings in fear of being labeled as a lesser man

Women see it as weakness, do not EVER admit to having basic emotional needs and desiring affection you will kill your relationship.

Do you not feel wanted when someone allows you to do as you wish with them and enjoys it, most of all because its you?
Use your noodle, dood.

Nah, she just gets off to how much you want her.

Fuck you guys are dumb. No shit stupid, we’re both human of course we both have emotional needs, but they are catered to differently. In a sexual context, women express it through eagerness and enjoying your pleasure and serving you, doing anything you want etc. submission=/= dead fish or “making you do all the work”. If it’s work for you, you probably just aren’t dominant.

>you need to pull her hair, pin her down, and generally be forceful with her to have sex
>do u not feel wanted bro?

what does any of the gibberish you typed out have to do with what we're talking about

I fail to see the disconnect. I'd be thrilled if someone liked me enough to let me do that.

I mean she said 'do whatever you want' so it doesn't matter what she says.

>he really believes this

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All woman want the bdc. It's a fact

Being dominant is all about a slight aggressive attitude. The person wants to be your little play doll when they ask you to "do what you want", which means that until the safe word is said - anything goes. This is where you pull up your most perverted aggro thoughts and you act them out with confidence.

Flip her ass over, hoist up her hips and use your weight to (reasonably) pin her down then smash dat ass with the fury of a thousand burning suns. Pull her hair and do various leg lifts to get new angles and deeper poking power. I don't need to give you a full play by play as your imagination SHOULD be mature enough to keep that ball going. If you're a dullard who can't think of what to do - may I suggest you watch some BDSM porn and take notes. Everybody enjoys a little pain with their pleasure every once in a while. Study up. Make her scream.

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I would turn her, start kissing her back, ass, pussy, finger her, kiss all the area, maker her all wet.
Then i would grab the area between her neck and shoulder with my big hand, insert my dick pronebone slowly
And to finish, i would make her go doggy and fuck her brains out until i blow my huge load.in her pussy

Just embrace the power, don't overthink the situation, and do whatever you want to her. Accept your inner beast and experiment with her body.

Do a lot of women irl like to fuck dogs? Asking for a friend

Non stop Bro. Only white women though.

It's actually easy, don't hit her or anything but lightly choke, just use their body like an object and give no regard to how hard you're going. only way I know how to describe it

Do you know what the word simulate means?

Whatever you want man, I don't value you anyways.

I also feel like this is a semi common thing no one mentions. Only because of thay famous YouTube video of the trashy girl talking about it like everyone does it.
It's like getting a straight guy to admit theyve jacked off to trannyporn. Alot do, but no one gnna admit it.

It's pretty taboo and more common on here. I need to trust my partner pretty damn well before I'd open up about all the shit I fantasize about.
>tfw no /d/ gf

Hell no.

>This thread

Man I don't know why everyone wants to get into a jiu jitsu fight and choke the girl during sex. If a girl tells me I can do whatever I want to her I'm gonna do what I was gonna do even if she didn't say that. I'm just gonna have sex. This is why people under 30 don't have sex anymore

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What the actual fuck are you talking about?
Are you on drugs?

>This is why people under 30 don't have sex anymore
No, they're having sex. Just you and your loser echo chamber isn't

Even as a girl, this is not what I expected when I saw this thread.

When I say "do whatever you want to do with me", I just mean he can do or tell me to do whatever he wants. I don't mean "choke me", just like I don't mean "make me do the dishes".

Maybe I'm just too old already, but this is way too weird... It's the 50 shades generation I suppose.

What are you talking about man op asked what we do during sex with carte blanche and i just do the same I would normally. I don't know why so many people's first impulse is to choke someone during sex that's weird man

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Millenials/Zoomers have been mainlining hardcore porn since puberty. Where do you think the asseating meme came from?

Im technically a millenial but on the older scale and i didn't have the internet or porn until I was like 17 and even then it was all mostly vanilla shit.

You go on the front page of youporn or something and people are choking each other and eating tranny shit while pretending its their step sister what is that man

Depends what I have at hand. If I have the right lube, and she is down for it, maybe anal. Otherwise just rougher sex than usual.

The average zoomer probably viewed porn online as early as 7-10 years old. High speed internet was readily available, and for some cases, the only option available. Older millennials at the age of 12-14 might have seen it, but it was mostly just pictures back then. There were no massive streaming websites like there are now. It ruins people. I would ban it all, or at the very least, make it so it cannot be given away for free.

>I would ban it all, or at the very least, make it so it cannot be given away for free
Seems we found one of the idiots who support shutting down the free and open internet.

Based "arrested for participating in a child porn ring in a decade" user

I'm 26. didn't see porn until I was ~13..? Even then I didn't start to really look at it until I was 15. Looked at it a ton until I was 23 and then I stopped.

Porn brain is a bitch lads. It's not easy to quit.

This is what I do with my gf. I pin her hands up above her head and pound her pussy as hard as I can. I have her tell me stuff like her pussy is mine and only mine and can be used whenever I want. She gets so fucking wet

Shut up, incel

Nobody needs your approval for anything you disease ridden cunt

kek

I can only come when I cheat and now my side chick can only come if I nut inside her.
How much does it cost to kill a baby? Plan B isn't an option, total turn off

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Be careful.

He does not fall in to cause and effect.

>"I'm going to push two of my fingers in to your tight wet pussy"

Imagining Keith Richards saying that in a faggot British accent made me kek

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This. I'm 22 and that shit is hard to quit. I told myself for 3 years that I want to quit and the longest I ever managed to go without was around 30 days. But I started watching porn ever since i was 14. Probably saw porn for the first time at 11. Masturbation is fine, but porn is damaging when you end up getting addicted. I don't want to watch porn ever again.

I have been lightly choked for the first time by a fwb and it drove me INSANE. It is the hottest thing I've ever experienced. First time being dominated and it is fucking amazing.

Why do so many girls love to be choked? I can't do that to mine because it scares her. Kind of cute how innocent she is but it's annoying when i place my hand on her throat and she asks me pls no every time. I'm not trying to cut off her airflow, i' just putting my hand there.

Trauma, probably.

It's also not necessary. I felt a mix of discomfort and worry when a guy tried to choke me the first time, but still ended up having the sense of thrill and excitement everybody is talking about.

We ended up figuring out it was just the plain domination aspect that was good, not the choking. Having him grab me, ram me against a wall, and just hold me helplessly while he did me, was infinitely better, because it had the good aspects, without the displeasure and discomfort.

So basically this:
It doesn't have to be more dominating. It just has to be there.

because women cause great distress in men and so you are obliged to punish women in the name of manhood, and she likes it, why do you think they play stupid games with you? to get you angry and fuck her hard
and no, ppl over 30 have sex too, far more than you, lel

>ppl over 30 have sex too, far more than you, lel
>cannot read/10
Brainlets.

based

>How the hell are you supposed to be dominant in bed?

First, you have to know what you want. Get experience.

>If a girl tells you "do whatever you want to me", what do you do to her?

Tell her "I don't really know what I want yet. Can we start with something simple?"

>Also, what do you usually say during sex?

You need experience first.

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>oh no, women aren't actually being raped they're just simulating it how awful
why is the west at fault?

So, how sustainable is this ?

So, there is a chance that I'll be going out with this girl soon. I have little to no experience. But I think she has a lot. What do I do ? Should I be direct and tell her if it comes to it ?

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Bump

My wife says that she finds sex unfulfilling.
Most of the time...im the one trying to initiate and try to have "intimate" sex.

In the uncommon scenario where i am really "lusting" after her...she seems to enjoy sex alot more.

I used to be alot more aggressive/dominate with me ex (before my wife) because she was smaller than me, petite, and easy to throw around.
For comparison, my wife weighs about 20-30lbs more than me and is about the same height.

Next time we have sex, I want to REALLY lay it on her like i used to. I have a strong desire to really give her a good fucking.

Last night when she came home, i told her that i was really horny and that I wanted to have "raunchy sex" with her...to which her response was "what does that mean?"
I told her that she would have to establish a safe word (also something my ex and I did...but being together for 7 years now...my wife and i still havent). Ultimately, she said she was too tired and would have to call a raincheck on sex.
Its not a matter of "just engage with her anyways"...when she doesnt want sex...she literally just lays there like a dead fish/no engagement.

However, atleast now she'll be thinking about it.

What are some things that i can try when we have sex next?

My ideas thus far (based on previous experience) are...

Yes. The whole meme about women hating virgins is stupid. The only reason a girl would hate you for being is a virgin is because she probably wasn't going to date you anyway and you were a quick fuck and now you're more effort than she wanted to put in.

>Last night when she came home, i told her that i was really horny and that I wanted to have "raunchy sex" with her...to which her response was "what does that mean?"
>I told her that she would have to establish a safe word (also something my ex and I did...but being together for 7 years now...my wife and i still havent). Ultimately, she said she was too tired and would have to call a raincheck on sex.

how old are you two? you're organizing sex like you're an old married couple with kids to dodge. the times you were "lusting" after her, did you formally ask for permission? probably not. it was spontaneous, you communicated/made it obvious that you wanted her and she reciprocated.

do you get her off? do you communicate during sex? did you not ask her to expand upon the "unfulfilling sex?" you literally have no idea what she feels is missing so how do you intend to fix the problem?

I was thinking....
-tieing her wrists up to bed
-going down on her when she'a tied up (she generally doesnt let me because shes self concious)
-generally physically tease her
-open the blinds (but its dark inside so people cant see in)
-make her beg for my dick/put it in
-fuck her a bit as shes tied up...then come up and make her look at my dick/put it in her mouth when i straddle her
-squeeze her tits together and titty fuck her while she watches
-put dick back in
-make her yell out "fuck me"...loud enough that people outside can hear
-make her say shes a dirty girl/slut/etc
-choke her a bit

When missionary gets old/stale.
-flip her over (still tied up), so shes laying on stomach
-grope/roughly squeeze her perfect ass and spank her
-ask if/tell her shes been a naughty girl
-tell her that naughtt girls get spankings
-alternate rubbing her butt/spanking her.
-grab her hips and plunge my dick in from behind
-Ride her from behind, grabbing her ass and pounding her to bed.
-pull her hair
-grab her shoulders and use it as leverage to force her down onto my dick as i thrust.
-push her back/lower back down

Ask her to masturbate/use vibrator for me while i watch (to catch my breath...and make sure she cums. She only orgasms through clitoral stimulation).
Remove restraints
After shes cum...
-Ask her to bend over bed
-Ask her to spread her ass so i can look at her pussy
-lightly eat her out
-put dick in
-tell her to put her arms behind back
-lightly pull them both up by the wrist with one hand
-use other hand to pin her down by her lower neck/betwern shoulders
-when i need to speed up/go deeper, use both hands on hips/butt to force her into my pelvis.

Finale

-Turn her over onto her back (shes hanging off side of bed)
-use my standing leverage to punish/pound her roughly
-put her legs over my shoulders or her feet to chest (get maximum depth).
-tell her im going to cum inside her (she usually/consistently responds woth "cum deep inside me")
-ask her if she wants me to fuck her hard (she usually responds with, "fuck me hard").
-tell her to yell it
-fuck her balls deep till i bust a load.
-tell her to squeeze the cum out
-watch the cum/creampie come out.

She and i both believe she may be on the autism spectrum.
She really doesnt pick up on non-verbals and innuendo.

Shit literally has to be directlty stated or she is like "whats happening?".

I ask her all the time what she wants, how she liked X, etc. But she says she shouldnt have to tell me what to do.

We even went to a sex therapist...even with a 3rd party professional who is trained to communicate sexual needs...the most she would say is that she doesnt know what she wants anymore.

But i know she really seems to enjoy loss of control and being dominated...even humiliated to a certain degree.

See it as leading in a dance. You take initiative (undressing her, starting to kiss/touch her to get sex on her mind), you have a vision in mind for what you're going to do and make her do it (physically change her into another position, give her orders), with a little roughness thrown in - spanking, dirty words, restraining her wrists, using your bodyweight to make her feel small and/or pushed down.

This is basically the most middle of the road way to show a little dominance. And yes it takes effort, you have to run the show/make the sex happen so to speak. Try to channel a certain side of yourself. Surely you have cocky and/or domineering and/or prideful and/or aggressive feelings locked up somewhere. See how you feel when you embody just that side of yourself (to your best abilities).

Everything else you talk about. Does she like slapping? Choking? Humiliation/degradation? Ask her to tell you fantasies, show you porno's she likes, decide upon a safeword. One person's dirty is another person's repulsive, one person's passionate is another person's violent. You can wing it and get lucky but if this is a relationship you cherish it's not worth the risk. Making her feel honestly unsafe or scared of you in a vulnerable, intimate moment is not something you can just undo and is going to take looots of damage control.

In this regard;
>(You know that the girl is completely fine with any non-vanilla/kinky stuff)
not really true. A girl telling you to do whatever to her is an invitation to surprise her (within reason) or act on your own desire. It is NOT the moment to spring a fetish on her she never expected you to have. Again, if you turn her off beyond belief you can't unring that bell. Anything new that's not met with instant mutual enthusiasm should be explored tentatively, so the less enthused person can pull back before a point of no return.

Put your fingers, dick, and tongue in her and do whatever other stuff you want during

So yes. You are a virgin

>"how old are you two? you're organizing sex like you're an old married couple with kids to dodge."
31 and 29

>the times you were "lusting" after her, did you formally ask for permission? probably not. it was spontaneous, you communicated/made it obvious that you wanted her and she reciprocated.
I tell her how much I want her all the time.
Many occassions where i lead to bedroom/try to initiate and she simply responds wifh "can we not?". Proceeding further just results in her with a bored/upset face, no participation, and general dead fish in bed.
This kills the boner.

She leaves the house at like 6:30am and doesnt come home until like 5pm (1hr to 1 1/2 hr communte each way). Has a high stress job involving the worst special needs kids in the school district all day.
In addition, she is working on her PhD and often has homework when she gets home.

She is physically, emotional, and mentally unavailable for sex or intimacy on like 90% of the days.
Even my sexual needs have to "fit" on her calendar/schedule.

Impromptu sex is usually (like 95% of the time) super rushed, shes drier than a desert, and says its painful.
If we go to bed, she complains that she just wants to go to sleep...and doesnt want to even spend 30mins on sex.

Quality sex generally has to be planned..
So she can make time for it