I grew up in the ghetto with a drug-abusing father and a chronic illness. I was surrounded by angry kids from broken homes and forced into a triple digit number of street fights and brawls before I even reached my teenage years.
I have, for many years now, resented people that had a normal, cushioned childhood. I have a tendency of losing my temper sometimes and telling them off whenever they confide in me their problems. I rip into them and let them know how much it pisses me off that they had a 'normal' childhood, that they're sheltered beyond belief, and that while they were comfortable in their pajamas eating ice cream and watching Sesame Street, there were kids like me that were living in the real world and had problems beyond Mommy being too tired to read me bedtime stories at night.
I have lost many friends this way. Am I being a bigger asshole than I realize? I screamed at someone just a few days ago when they told me "I'm not going to apologize for having a good childhood."
>while they were comfortable in their pajamas eating ice cream and watching Sesame Street, there were kids like me that were living in the real world
first of all the world is real for everyone. Why would you resent people for not having as tough a life as you though? Aren't you happy life isn't so hard on anyone? Would you prefer if they'd have gone through whatever you did?
I think you are being an asshole for sure. You fail to empathize with them or are bitter about the situation you've been in your entire life and are taking it out on them. I think you probably need a better way to empty your anger and stress caused by the cards you were dealt. Going into tard rage with strangers isn't a good idea.
Mason Myers
Aren't you happy life isn't so hard on anyone? for everyone*
Kayden Jackson
>WAAAAAH I HAVE IT WORSE THAN EVERYONE WAAAAAH ONLY I AM ALLOWED TO FEEL BAD
Carter Lewis
Yeah, you're a massive asshole. It's cool that you're being introspective, but you're still acting like a child if you can't come to terms with your own life and not treating other people like shit cuz you are shit.
I hope good people continue to avoid you.
> grew up just like you > realized i was the problem, not others
Connor Murphy
now you know how niggers think
Jeremiah Walker
I wish I had a friend like you user. I'm the polar opposite and talking to somebody with a really troubled past would help me keep things in perspective. For what it's worth, the past IS the past and you may be able to come to peace with it.
Liam Martin
You're 100% right about the average first worlder. They are entitled and terrible. I understand your anger and frustration because I grew up in the same conditions. However, we don't even have the privilege to whine. The worse your life is, the less people care about your problems. The lower you are, the less people want to help or respect you. It's funny and sad. I personally got rid of all of my middle class friends because I really cannot stand their whining or naive views. The way they think and act is completely delusional. I couldn't stand seeing them take so many things for granted and still being pathetic about it all. They also had no reasonable perspective or insight about my life and their "advice" was so far fetched and sheltered that sometimes I entertained bad thoughts about them. Ultimately, economics separate people more than anything else. You've just got to move and find people you can relate to. You can't ever truly connect with the typical first worlder and they will never respect or understand your struggle. They will always hold you to their standard of living.
Tyler Diaz
yes you are being an asshole. "the real world" has nice places where people are nice to eachother. fucking hate that sentiment.
John Sanders
One day you whiny babies will realize that it's your attitude and victim fetishization that is the problem.
David Cook
To be fair, people like OP tend to vent during their adult lives because they bottled their feelings up so much during their childhood and adolescence. It's understandable to gasp for air after holding your breath for years and years.
Benjamin Lopez
Typical silver spooner response.
Jose Gonzalez
Your childhood sounds cool as hell man what's the problem
Some people get molested in they childhood that's not as cool as being like a 12 year old who had a leather jacket and smoked cigarettes and beat up 18 year olds
Dominic Lopez
this
Nicholas Brown
Nope--lower class, raised by a single mother, blind in one eye, and I'm grateful for it all. Your attitude is revolting. >b-b-but I got in a few scuffles so my life is the worst :'( There are kids growing up living in mud huts, starving, in warzones, paralyzed, and so on. We can play this game all day and there will be billions of people ahead of you on the rough childhood list. No one is saying you can't feel bad about or hurt by your upbringing, but thinking it makes you special and using it to compete with others in a race to the bottom is pathetic. Work on improving yourself and then maybe you'll actually have something to be proud of that isn't victimhood or helplessness.
Nathan Hall
OP here. More than 'just a few scuffles.' I was stabbed in a number of those 'scuffles' and some of the fights were so brutal that I accidentally sent the people I fought against to the hospital. Not to mention that I didn't want to get into those fights at all given the crippling pain I already had from my Lyme's Disease and the way my dad would fuck hookers in the living room and get into knife fights and drug fights with fellow druggies right in front of me from the time I was 3.
Eli Parker
Look your problems are not bigger than another person's. I came from a cushy family life and I can't remember a time when my parents were not arguing with each other or screaming at me because I wasn't doing anything right. My dad was super ocd about how I would do my home work and my mother never spent time with me, instead sending me off to do shit with people I hated that had kids that were truly spoiled and picked on me which usually eneded in a fight. When my mother would get mad she'd throw knives at me and my sister and when I was 9 my sister molested me. After that I did not trust anyone, especially my family. 3 highschool's later, my parent threw me in a lockdown boarding school where they made us wear slippers all day, simply because it was harder to run away in them. I was there for a year got out and immediatly they sent me to military school. Graduated top of my class but my emotions were shattered and my grades were the only thing i had. I made no freinds, was constantly bullied, and I hated my family. Needless to say i live alone and my family begging me to see them. I have a job but no gf and am still a virgin. Virginity doesn't bother me too much thanks to my ma, my sister, and seeing how crazy women can be thanks to that boarding school. Honestly though, despite being a poorfag I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life at the moment. I recently broke out of my 7year depression and I'm planning somethings for the future. I'm not hopefull I'd just be happy to not be homeless, that would suck.
Connor Allen
*knife fights and gun fights
Fuck I'm tired. Sorry.
Charles Lewis
Fuck off, contrarian. Just because others have it worse doesn't mean you can't recognize the delusion of first world middle class and inability to relate with them.
Leo Morris
>I came from a cushy family life >parents constantly fight, mom throws knives at you, and sister molests you
???
Jordan Rivera
Yep, pretty happy anyone bothered to read my life's story.
Lincoln Watson
But how is a family life where your mom throws knives at you considered 'cushy'
Joseph Wright
They were rich and they liked to pose as the ideal family.
Brody Diaz
And there are millions of people who feel the exact same way about you simply for growing up with electricity and running water. They'd claim you had a cushy childhood compared to theirs. Is that fair?
Brayden Perry
I'm just putting my story to contrast with op's. His life is shitty but that don't mean that other people have not had a hard time. We all got problems, I just wanted to put the perspective of someone on the opposite end into context.
Brody Smith
>And there are millions of people who feel the exact same way about you No shit, dumbass. >Is that fair? Of course it is. You're an idiot with poor reading comprehension. Here's what I said >recognize the delusion of first world middle class and inability to relate with them Do you understand words? I'm talking about the divide between socioeconomic classes. I haven't mentioned that people with better lives can't complain or that I'm the only one who can. Fuck your stupid posts. What a waste of bandwidth.
Caleb King
Hey OP you still there? I just want to confirm you read my long ass post. I'm slippers guy. Let me know if it helped gain a new perspective on the subject.
Ryan Powell
Okay, question here (I'm OP). Would you - and others in here - take less issue with me if I was still damaged and had some lingering trauma from my childhood, but didn't gatekeep, feel resentful towards others, or downplay their experiences?
I'm not saying I'm willing to make that leap. Just trying to examine things from a different angle.
Asher Hill
Not really I'm still resentfull for all the shit that went down but I just express my pain in a comedic fashion. Im probably the biggest asshole you would ever meet in life but people like me simply because I make them feel like they can joke about anything with me. Just change the anger into something that people can relate to. I find that honest comedy is the easiest way for people to forgive you and for you to forgive yourself.
Aaron Wilson
Judge harshly and speak with kindness is my mantra.
Cooper Brown
Yeah, it has. I at least had a very loving mother, if nothing else.
Joshua Foster
Also fuck all these other guys talking shit. In my oppinion they are too scared to get vulnerable to actually say anything meaningful. Here you are putting yourself out there seeking change and it almost like your being shut down. People will listen more if they believe your being honest. A single passive aggressive comment isn't gonna inspire someone to change for the better. They want to help but most of these guys are so broken themselves, they don't know how to help with personal growth. Forgive them, they're just suffering children unable to grow because of their own trauma.
Grayson Bailey
>Am I being a bigger asshole than I realize? Yeah, you sound like a huge asshole. While it sucks that you had a crappy upbringing that does not mean you have a legitimate right to be angry at people wo didn't. Just because you're miserable doesn't mean everyone else also have to be.
> "I'm not going to apologize for having a good childhood." Whoever said this was right.
Nathaniel Jackson
Lol read the post above yours
Brody Kelly
So you're saying only people with shitty childhoods are allowed to have problems?
Zachary Cooper
You sound like the type of person I’d beat the shit out of. Your entitled attitude is fucking disgusting and it’s funny how you view life in a lens where you think everyone has a good life or shit life and no inbetweens
Nicholas Reed
What? OP asked a question; I answered it.
Zachary Smith
Lazy fucks, should read these.
Owen Rodriguez
Boo hoo hey be happy you don't have schizophrenia like me you whiny bitch. Fuck you for having a good brain.
Jayden Scott
You had a bad childhood, but it seems like you have improved your life as you are now surrounded by people who had a normal childhood. >I have resented people that had a normal childhood >I rip into them and let them know how much it pisses me off that they had a 'normal' childhood >I screamed at someone just a few days ago Get over yourself. You are being horrible to people over something they cannot control. You are not a shit person because you had a shitty childhood, you are just a cunt to people and nobody wants to be friends with you.
Now you can either keep doing streetfights along angry adults or you can be the positive change. Be a present father yourself. Give your kids a good childhood, the childhood that you wanted. Teach them about life, but don't make them pay for something they didn't do. And if they have problems, take them seriously regardless of how infantile you may think it is.
Austin Diaz
Well it is not their fault that they lived cushioned life either. It is not like they made this choice. So you shouldn't hate or punish them for that. What you should however is to tell them when they act as spoiled kids even though they are adults.
Eli Thomas
>tfw no sister to molest you
Jordan Fisher
>everyone coming down on OP He's right to call bullshit on people with perfectly normal lives who love to whine. Maybe he doesn't go about it the right way, but the sentiment isn't exactly misplaced.
I had a friend with a cushy job who constantly complained about it. He would talk my ear off for an hour at a time complaining about the lamest shit. I tried to be polite and a good friend for a long time, but it was a true test of patience. It was especially bad because he would not return the same courtesy. Any time I would talk about my work or difficulties, in less than a minute he would turn the conversation back to himself.
One day, after three years of this and him getting ridiculously fat, I had to tell him that he didn't know what real work was. That typing out excel sheets and browsing the internet isn't exactly on the scale of difficult/stressful jobs. He was a shitty friend by that point, which is sad because he used to be a good one. Buddy, if you're reading this: fuck you.
Angel Lee
yeah, I wouldn't want a little bitch of a friend like you. It's obvious you're a softie that wants attention for having a bad childhood. What you're doing is basically calling for help, and I'm a guy so fuck off with your emotional bullshit.
Jacob Ramirez
That doesn't make sense given that OP is only lashing out at the others who coming to him about their problems. Why are you focusing on OP instead of his friends?
Ayden Scott
>I screamed at someone just a few days ago when they told me "I'm not going to apologize for having a good childhood They were right to say that, no one chooses their upbringing, you are a complete asshole for sperging out on people for stuff they had no control over and you're lucky anyone gives you the time of day. Plenty of people go through hardships just as bad as what you went through but they don't let it affect them in a negative way and they certainly wouldn't wish it upon others to have gone through what they did. I'm sorry you had such a rough upbringing but taking it out on others who had nice childhoods is absolutely terrible and unacceptable. You have a lot of internalized rage as a product of your upbringing that you should probably be seeing a therapist for otherwise you will never be able to have a normal relationship with anyone.
Jeremiah Ward
I wrote that story. Why does this make me laugh so hard.
