How did you revive/spice up your marriage sex life, user?

I tried to remember how it felt when we first got together and I started feeling like he was my boyfriend again. I actually started feeling my stomach jump and my face flush when he walked into the room. Of course he picked up on that energy.....

What does that have to do with the post? You can spice up your sex life without cheating.

user asked to elaborate on opening up the relationship.
hope that helps.

OP asked how to spice up a marriage sex life. Your answer was to cheat. Sorry, just confused.

I decided to give up and accept the fact that I'm now in a sexless relationship
Second part's still in the works

the numbers track back to what post was being responded to
in context, i am anti-cheating and anti- "open marriage"

decided to give up? why give up without trying to do some shit? most of the sex life is mental games, user.
t. married user been there done that

whats the second part?

I've tried many a shit my friend, but it takes two to tango. The second part was a shitty attempt at a joke, me saying I'm working on accepting that I'm in a sexless relationship but it's not going well because I'm not an asexual sponge

bail if its casual and youre young
if not, get to a good sex therapist as a couple

Been together 9 years so a bit beyond casual, but we don't have the funds for a sex therapist. If the financial situation keeps going the way it is we'll have to go back to LDR because I'll have to move back in with the parents

hit me right in the feels
sounds like it may be doomed regardless?

Idk man, part of me's considering moving back anyways purely to save up for money for us to go to therapy

See this is what I’m afraid of. I want to know how to prevent it if it were to ever happen

It's what I was afraid of too. It's what happened to my parents and I got to see how that shit fucks with a relationship firsthand, so early on in my relationship I made us promise that we'd never get that way. Flash forward to now, when I could lay fully naked on the bed motioning for him to lay down next to me, and literally only platonic things would happen. Brb trapped in a nightmare

Have sex literally everywhere but the bedroom. Banging in public is a risk worth taking man

Oh damn user I expected you to be the guy in the relationship. I feel like it would be much easier to fix if the female is aware and does her best to fix it. Any chance he may be seeing someone else? Have you two talked about this?

No thanks senpai, I have way too much spare anxiety lying around to expect to be any degree of turned on from public fucking

We've talked about it multiple times. He says he wants me to kiss him more, I say it'd be a lot easier to initiate kissing if it felt like he wanted me, he says he does want me, but at the end of the day he did leave me lying naked on the bed to go smoke a bowl so yknow. He'll whine about how he's a shitty boyfriend because of how little he initiates sex or anything physical, but then never makes any attempts to change that. After about 7 solid months of trying various strategies and having none of them work, including sitting in his lap and making out with him on the couch (he decided to be so kind as to stop kissing me to start talking about how it was weird that he just wasn't horny at night like I was) I give up. I've got no more ideas to try, not without making myself look like an even bigger fool. I don't think he'd be the type to cheat though

Damn, sorry to hear that user. I applaud you for trying your best. If I were you I’d tell him unless the sex gets better and he puts fourth effort you will leave. I know it sounds tough since you’ve been together so long, but damn I don’t think I’d be able to handle that.

I don't mean like do it behind costco on a Wednesday afternoon, there's the right time and place to do it but yeah I guess it's not for everyone

Yeah no thanks

Sounds very simple.. if only it was

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>20=clitical hit

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You shouldn’t leave the relationship just because there’s no sex. Just masturbate if you need. You should love the other person enough that just being with them is all you need. Sex should just be a bonus

Same here. A sex therapist costs like 150-200/hour here and I doubt our problems will be solved in just a few hours

I wouldn't be able to be in a sexless relationship. That's just me.

That’s super selfish though. Your partner is more than a sex object

It’s not selfish. Intimacy is pretty damn important in a maintaining a healthy relationship.

Tell him to stop smoking dope. After a while weed gets your testosterone level to drop...

Hahaha
My wife doesnt even have fetishes, She doesnt even have likes or dislikes or preferences.

Get in shape. Both of you.
There are new positions that can be done and longevity for both of you

Role play. Teacher and nurse fantasies are both good. Totally changes things up

You've got a boring wife