Is socializing supposed to be enjoyable...

Is socializing supposed to be enjoyable? It seems like there’s so many “techniques” to have a great social interaction, that it feels too much like a chore, like I just have to do it, and “here” is the trick to do it. I thought people socialize just because they want to.

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You're on a board mostly made up of autists. That's why everyone here complains about socializing and can't just "go do it." Yes, socialization is supposed to be enjoyable.

Some people are introverted, or are ambiverts, and it's more exhausting or not always preferred for them.

What if I don’t enjoy it?

That's fine, but the caveat is you can't complain about how you're lonely. Socializing is the prerequisite to dealing with loneliness, or a million other things that you can't do or solve alone. Or maybe you can just suck it up and put on your big boy pants and realize that doing shit you don't enjoy is a part of life

Yeah, the tripfag answered it. You don't have to do it outside of working and shit.

WHAt should be the purpose of socializing? Like, it’s a painful thing to do, so I can’t just force myself to do it without a purpose.

I don’t. But do I envy those who are having fun? Yes.

Bump

I didn't realize until I was like 25 years old that I was socializing with the wrong people. Once I found the right people it wasn't such a drag anymore

I didn't realise until I got to University that my normal conversations with girls was shameless flirting. Which explained a lot.

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>tfw extrovert with crippling social anxiety
It hurts bros.

>WHAt should be the purpose of socializing?
Are you really this stupid? I just told you it's the means to an end. Unless you just enjoy talking to people, then it is just the precursor to other stuff.
Like putting on socks before shoes, or pants before leaving the house, or using your brain before posting stupid shit on the internet

Being disingenuous with people is exhausting. Talking to people you don’t connect with can also be exhausting.

But living as a social outcast is not right and should be fixed, right? There are such thing as the wrong kind of personality, right?

this is a real pain. i love talking with people and realize at the end of a gathering or event how much fun i'm having but i hate starting social situations or making new friends. i also really wanna hang out with people but get so worried that hanging out one on one will be awkward so i never do it or even know how to.

don't worry about all the techniques and stuff. just be genuine, polite and show interest in others. there's not much more to it. people socialize because they want to but you have to start with small talk usually.

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This. Fucking... This.
How do I actually connect with people, they are so far in between

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I'm just scared I'll never make any real friends.

We like socializing but that doesn't mean you have to. If you don't like it, why bother forcing yourself to?

Because people will judge me

Because I want to like it. I feel empty without it.

>the purpose of socializing?
You can divide it into the types of social interactions you have. Obviously there are overlap, but this is a short version:
Family: help deal with tough situations and give comfort.
Friendly: to avoid loneliness and give yourself a sense of purpose.
Work: help solve problems too big for one person to handle.

You can get by with not having friends or a gf or parents etc, but you will be more lonely and you might not be as good at solving the tasks at your work as you could be.
If you don't have a job, don't have friends and don't have a family to help you, you have lost the game and you need to start improving yourself.

Family: help deal with tough situations and give comfort.
Friendly: to avoid loneliness and give yourself a sense of purpose.

This, my retarded parents think that I don't need friends ''cuz at least I have them'' and always sheltered me when I was a kid. I mean yeah family Is important but they love you mostly out of obligation, It's not an earned love and I think It's overrated. I still feel very lonely with my family

You can be a social outcast if you want to, dongleberry. But for most people it's not by choice, hence they try to be social in an attempt to stave off the loneliness.

You can cut your penis off *if you want to* but that doesn't mean that all (or even most) guys without penises are happy that way.

Grow up. Only BPD people see the world in black and white.

I'm an introvert but I enjoy socialising for the most part. I get to a point where I'm done and ready to leave but up until then I like to be at least a little social.

It feels good to connect with other people.