>Another week skipping all my classes
What do I do? It’s not even conscious most of the time, I just can’t get myself out of bed...
>Another week skipping all my classes
What do I do? It’s not even conscious most of the time, I just can’t get myself out of bed...
Are you depressed?
He's clearly depressed
I thought as much but good not to make the assumption. Much better to start a conversation. Also possible some other medical thing.
Yes
Go to a hospital. Talk about what you're experiencing. Follow up and get the necessary evaluations/medication/therapy. Drop classes if necessary.
I don’t even know where I’d go to arrange all that
This is how you fail at life. If you don't seek help and tell the designated student support staff/professional help about your problems now, you're going to fuck up your life.
Universities often have medical shit. Look it up in your uni's directory or whatever they have and see where it is. If you don't want to do that then go to a normal hospital. Say, hey doc, My fatigue is interfering with my daily life and I've been experiencing other stuff as well. What are some good ways to go about resolving this?
Everything just feels hopeless. What's the point in life if i have no direction or purpose?
you feel like that because you are depressed, Isn't there one thing that you might enjoy doing?
I have no skills and no talents. I have interests but they all revolve around leisure activities or consuming media, nothing that can actually help me in life or become a passion. I have no idea what I want to do in life and the thought of what's gonna happen to me after college fills me with incomparable dread.
docs won't do shit, unless OP fixes whatever is bothering him, If all is good and he is still depressed, then he needs to consult a doctor
Most people are talentless, yes some are smarter than others but most people aren't geniuses, lets face that. Skills can be honed, I'm sure you know of that. Also, you need to experience something to like it, so try to be more open minded and try things
But what? What can I even do in life? The thought of just being an office drone makes me wanna kill myself but I cant think of any career I'd actually enjoy or be good at
I can't answer anymore, I think you are being too emotional, something bad might have happend to you I reckon
I was in highschool and on the last year I skipped tons of days. I was going like 2 days a week. I don't even remember how I managed to finish that. I guess I got super lucky in the end.
Fast forward a few years later in college in the second year I start skipping for days, weeks. I would just stay home and play games.
Totally depressed, I wasn't even able to sleep.
This because of social anxiety and depression.
I dropped college after second year.
Things didn't end up that great, now I earn little money to be able to not starve but it's bad.
You have it backwards. Yes, it is great to find a career you love but few people do. What work is really about is doing something that serves OTHER PEOPLE, not you. In other words, you find a job that is in demand and you learn to do it. People compile lists of jobs that are in demand. Go look at those lists, pick a couple that don't sound awful, figure out how to learn to do them and do it. And quit whining about not finding something you like. Work is not about doing something you love to do - that's a myth. It is about doing something you would probably rather not do but know you must to survive and thrive and make the best of it.
Well that just sounds miserable and depressing. I can't motivate myself to do that, to just live as a wage slave forever
Want to first state this isn't going to be a dreamer's advice but maybe it could become it by the end.
Just know you can't live your life just sleeping around all day and doing nothing. So you're going to have to try your best (really focus on the "try your best" part) to not see a wageslave future in a negative light.
I know how you feel (yes I really do. What you're going through isn't rare sorry to not make you feel special). I've felt that before so I know the way people have been giving you advice is bad because I know old me wouldn't see them as good.
All these people are telling you to get rid of your depression but that's too hard or "easy for you to say" but they have a point.
Eventually (here's the lame non-dreamer part) you're going to have to try your best to just work and have a hobby that you like so you can spend on it. Or maybe have a dream and while you work and get home tired and sad try to look past that and find the strength to get home and study/hone your skills on something that you want to do in the future.
Really there is no perfect answer to fixing depression about mundane future but because we don't like being sad we can't just stay depressed about it you have to try to find acceptance of the mundane life.
Or maybe you'll do what I did which is I think I just got bored of being sad or maybe I found humor in it. I think it was a combo of both
Pic related is a gay little example of what I mean by finding humor in it.
My advice is stop being a lazy son of a bitch and get out of bed.
OP, I think there's a crucial element here that you need to understand that governs the relationship between jobs people WANT and jobs people NEED.
You'll find that a lot of jobs people WANT actually don't pay that well. Auto Mechanic (For people into cars) Gunsmith (For people into guns) Carpentry (For people into Lego or whatever) and a bunch of other trades that sort of link into interests, all those trades pay minimum wage or just above it. I was particularly surprised to learn about Gunsmith being a minimum wage job for most people that do it - apparently because lots of people like to tinker with guns and its so in demand as a job, they can afford to pay everyone that does it minimum wage other than the most skilled technicians. There's more supply of potential workers than there is demand for them in the workplace, so why would they have to pay you more?
You're going to run into this wall for most jobs that people want. The market isn't driven by what's fun, its driven by what's profitable and in demand. Jobs that people NEED done are the best way to get into this sphere, and it guarentees high pay. Trash man, sewer technician, high voltage electrician and other jobs with dangerous or unpleasant backgrounds fall into this category. Those jobs NEED to be done, unless everyone wants to drown in trash (They don't) and they have to pay you a good wage to get you to do it, because the job is risky or unclean or both.
Here's the thing, OP. Some people need a job that pleases them and are okay with making little money as long as they have a job they love.
Other people need money to do the things they love and they get a job that people need done so they can make that money, using the time they spend doing things they have to do (Working) to support the things they want to do (Traveling or whatever)
You can't have your cake and eat it too. Any job that fits all the criteria would have a ton of people lined up waiting to get it.
Realize that going to classes, you are doing it simply for yourself, nobody else.
Don't aim for perfection, you can't be perfect in anything without long long practice. Beginning something is infinitely more valuable than never doing anything at all. Everything you learn will eventually spur into at least your common sense, which will give you some brownie points in situations, or be very valuable in understanding topics and life in general in the future. Everything you do is an experience. You grow whether you want it or not every day.
Here's the thing though, working does not equate money. Everything we do could be considered work, putting effort in something, building something. It's just nice to get paid for your efforts you know, whether in experience which will serve you well later in life, or better yet in money, which you can essentially feed yourself and live a good life with.
Biggest advice is to stop being negative and force yourself to see the positive as much as you can. It's very hard to do, but if you're consistent with your efforts about being positive even if you don't believe it at first, you start to believe it later on. Consistency is of key here, if you keep torturing yourself with negativity, nothing really changes but you being miserable. You do not become wiser, you do not think more "logically", nothing will ever change in your life BUT you feeling awful, because you are essentially torturing yourself day in and day out. Stopping self-masochism is hard to do, but perfectly doable. Maybe you'd need some meds, or professional help to achieve that, but that's perfectly fine. You might not need them, and that's perfectly fine as well. You need to find what works for you to close the vicious circle.
and I know this is a depressing answer
>there is no answer so just accept life is boring
but it isn't so bad when you discover the small joys of hobbies. Like I really like skateboarding and I discovered it somewhere in the ages 19-21. I would have existential thoughts of how everything is so pointless I can never be happy even if I become a successful rockstar yet there I was actually trying to land an ollie and feeling happy when I did. Being happy isn't actually hard. The hard part is pushing ourselves to try that. Like getting out of bed. I know it's super hard to do but I know that if I physically force myself out of bed I'll be able to stay up.