Licensed Sex Therapist here, let me help you

get quizzical, make her define what is her service vs her normal sexuality. why does she need to serve when she does so by default?

I'm into weird shit like cuckolding. Is it even possible to have a normal relationship?

sure but first have one, being honest about yourself and what you want is normal but you have to get the basic foundations of relationships down first

I know this is a blue board but might as well post it. How do I add a spoiler tag to my pic?

>but you have to get the basic foundations of relationships down first
damn am I that easy to read?

I only enjoy sex when I'm upset, as a way to relieve stress. If I'm not pissed about something it's hard to get into it.
Not really complaining, just want to know if it's a common thing.

Doesn't masturbate often. Our relationship just started.

i would suggest him not masturbate at all but how is his general sex drive when he can get it up?

I don't know. Normal? He said 1-2 times a day is ideal for him. It's that he really just goes limp in the middle of it. But he still finishes and all. I like it rough but he likes it gently but if he goes limp in the middle of it while being gentle,???

I'm really unsure what to do.
Is it his age?

it's not his age, while attending college my bf was much older, i was on my back more often than not

I believe it;s his general sex drive being low

I was on my back though more often. He woke me up in the middle of the night to have sex.

You think it has to do with me?

may i ask how you got together?

What does a sex therapist do? What kind of questions should I be asking your opinion on? how did you get a license for sex therapy?

I'm 29. Haven't had sex in 2 years and I don't think I've ever actually had good sex before, despite being with over 10 girls in total. Even my 2 past LTRs. One couldn't get wet, the other was decent I suppose. Actually, I haven't had sex in two years but I haven't ejaculated from intercourse in over three. I've never been in love, either. I'm pretty much resigned from sexual satisfaction at this point, but just in case I get hopeful again, what do you suggest?

Normal therapist with a specialty

in the 90s fox aired a show about my professional where the therapist was a ex hooker, that is not what i do.

Advice for how to improve stamina? Im willing to try for the long haul but I don't want to get scammed or lied to.

Like, started dating? We met online. Talked a lot. Got too know each other. He didn't know my age at first. He was shocked when he heard it. We met up irl. We actually had a date planned where he would see each other for the first time, but he came.. Like. The day before. Late at night. Lots of excitement.
We rushed into a lot of things... Ahh.
I know I'm not unattractive though. My body is. Great.

Lost virginity last year and had some more sexual experiences.

Thought i was starting to be good since i could hold my erection while smashing for like 50 minutes.
But my last experience i came in less than 2 minutes.
What happened to me?

>I know I'm not unattractive though. My body is.
Wut? So you are physically unappealing, but your personality is attractive? Or your body is unattractive, but your face is ok?

In either case that could be a boner killer. When I have sex with my girlfriend, I'm not focusing on her personality, sure the emotional connection and appreciation for her character plays a huge role, but ultimately I still get turned on by her body. A good face is nice, but also not really what gets me going, especially if the rest sucks. Most of the time fat girls that think that they have a good face also don't, they just look less like jabba the hood than the other ham beasts in their weight class.

So talk with him about it and work out I guess?

there's various methods but most is just experience i've found and it;s not a perfect system, you may be able to fuck a bar girl for 3 hours but suzy from church pops you after a second. Luckily some of it is just health which can improved and anxiety which can be managed.

Get out there, I can;t promise you will find love but simply meeting people and getting yourself out there can help overall happiness which ios the core of your issue

I don;t blame you here it;'s a underlining issue in your relationship

going to lay in bed but will keep answering

May i ask for a format? it wil help me be more a therapist and less a fortune cookie

age range, i don;t want your exact age, general time line of issue and any previous treatments you tried

No, sorry. I shouldn't have put punctuation there. I was pausing where I shouldn't have.
My body is amazing. Like mind blowing. My face is quite decent. We were discussing it one day with him and he asked me what I think of my face and I said it's okay and he audibly went pfffffftttt just okay? Jeez you're harsh.
He liked me for my personality in the first place.
So I dunno I dunno

Also in this in specific i wan'st feeling bad but right after i came i had a little diarrhea in the bathroom with too much liquid.
Can a thing like this affect my performance?

Honestly it sounds like you are being taken for granted

What do you mean?

If I had to guess based on what you told me you were a easy court and are naturally giving with some image problems, he sees you as too easy

I jack off too much and have for like 12 years.

How do I stop?

Okay. I see. Any way I can remedy this? I'm used to showing a lot of love to people. I don't have much experience. Is there any way I can make me not be easy for him at this point? Or is it doomed already

read the bible, the new testament

Every time I get in a relationship I feel like cheating. My dad did it to my mom and grandpa ruined his relationship in the same way. Am I doomed to do the same? Do I need meds?

I want to get my dick sucked more often and I also have a watersports fetish that my girlfriend wants no part of.
Problem is she never initiates sex in any way, and if I want my dick sucked I have to see if she is feeling like getting dominated and then kind of fish for her mouth with my dick. At that point it is more like facefucking and what I want is the submission that dicksicking is supposed to be.
What do I do? Am I just too perverted? She usually just laughs it off when I suggest anything related to pee.

Can you cure, or at least attempt to rein-in a curiosity for homsexual activity that you didn't have before by abstaining from porn and/or fapping?

Interesting... as someone who was raped, I am pretty much the opposite. If I find someone I like, I just go off. Went at it like 3 times a day until he had to stop me because he was beginning to get a hue of blue on his dick, and he said it hurt and was sensitive all day and night.

Is that... is that weird, OP? I never really got much therapy for it, only like 2 sessions right after it happened.

Can be stress or anxiety. Maybe he death grips.

do sex therapists tend to hold similar philosophies? or does your profession vary?
>be me, go to sex therapist with wife
>sex therapist is super cool but
>I get very uncomfortable when therapist mentions non-traditional concepts like open relationships
mine seems to embrace some wild concepts, is this typical?

I’m a virgin with a sex addiction. I can and will often masturbate 6+ hours a day. It’s not like I masturbate and orgasm, but I will masturbate for a prolonged session while doing other things and then orgasm when my hand gets too tired. I really want to stop wasting this time and it seems to get worse because I’m in between jobs. But even when I had a job I would do this which would leave basically nothing to interests or hobbies.

Today I fapped after 2 weeks of no fap and came in less than 2 minutes. Is something wrong? I wasn't looking to porn or anything

She is not as interested in you as you think...

My ref

show your license?

haha. this is from the “licensed sex therapist” or just some user? not the user you’re replying to.

My gf has depression and has no sex drive, we do it like once a month and my sex drive is really high ,what can we do?

Do more things for yourself and less for him, I’ll answer in more
Detail later as well as others, off to a session for now

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What's death grips?

She has depression and is taking anti depressive pills I doubt it lack of interest, even more so because she was really interested before getting into anti depressive

I've lately had these intrusive sexual thoughts that sometimes make me internally anxious when speaking to people. Any advice on curbing an overactive imagination?

Gripping your dick really hard while fapping. So real pussy can't compare in tightness cause you are desensitized. Boners are affected by so much stuff though. Can be physical but I bet its mental. I lose my boner if my thoughts start wandering to non lewd topics. Can happen even when I'm with some really hot girls.

My gf is not sexually active like me, she is not very sensual (I mean the things she does, not her body) and very "static".
Sometimes even though I'm horny, she does stupid things that turn me off instantly.
When she wants to do something, she just becomes predictable like half an hour before.
She can't do anything that turn me on so, even when I'm horny, I don't feel interested in her.
How can we solve this?

Had sex for the first time with my boyfriend yesterday. I asked him to use condoms because I'm not on birth control and he himself said he doesn't trust to pull out.

We had sex for very short while because he started to go soft and said it was because the condom did not feel good so I gave him condoms I got from a health clinic and it felt very tight for him (he is very big maybe that's why). He was very embarrassed and gave up.

So yeah I'm wondering if he still feels bad about it, I was very understanding about it but I wonder if this bothers men a lot when they can't perform? Is there anything I should say to him?

Also I'm terrified of birth control because all women around me, including my mother, tell me how bad it is but condoms really suck, so I don't know what to do... Should I anyway try for hormonal birth control like the shot? Natural family planning sounds the best but I don't trust myself enough to keep in track with that

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What exactly goes on in a sex therapy?
How is it different from hiring a cute, gentle and experience escort?