ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

No, its ghost town.

I've fallen for a coworker who has a partner.

How do i turn my feelings off?

I see them everyday and we also chat on snapchat outside of work.

If someone takes a day or two to respond and they say it's because they suck at replying, does this mean she's just not interested?

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>Pepe post about being 30/virgin/foreveralone ending with "where are our [x] counterparts?"
Why do you keep asking this question with almost this same pattern of wording over and over both here and as a new thread?

Just passing time. It's not as if the rest of the threads on Jow Forums are particularly unique.

Could be nervous, could be busy, could be not interested, but she's not saying she's not interested.

Least that's my guess as a man I don't know if you feel its reliable.

You gonna be an indirect component of someone's suicide or poor emotional choices with that mentality.
Just saying.

>You gonna be an indirect component of someone's suicide or poor emotional choices with that mentality.
How so?

I'm a guy with a question for my fellow men

I'm a 27 year old virgin who somehow managed to convince a chick to come over tonight to have sex. The conundrum is that she is on her period and I don't have condoms (im currently on vacation so I can't just drive to get some)

Should I lose my virginity to this chick who I will literally never see again? I had the chance to invite her over last night, but I started pussing out at the last minute due to my romanticaztion of sex. It doesn't help that there's a girl I like back in my city, but I know she would never reciprocate these feelings since I'm SEA.
Also, I don't want her to say I tricked her or anything, is there anything I should be wary of before letting her in? She's the one asking me for sex after all

Idk to do guys, I'm nervous as fuck and today is the last chance I have at losing my virginity. What do

your decision m8, you wanna have sex have it, if not don't it's that easy lad
chill out, relax and listen to your dick

Do girls really get nervous enough to not reply for days?

Girls, how important is a guy having white teeth as well as straight teeth? My top set are reasonably straight and my bottom one has one fucked up tooth bent back but no one really see's it but my teeth are pretty bad color. Do whitening strips work well enough to make them whiter?

Rejection drives women insans.
My one boy is borderline sociopath and gets girls naked then tells them he doesnt want to fuck it's kinda fucked up but kinda the greatest thing ever at the same time.

A lot, I would not kiss a man who does not take care of his dental appearance in terms of cleanliness, if you have a bad smell or color, go to wash your teeth disgusting. The crooked teeth does not matter.

Ladies, in general if a guy tries a strike a conversation with you, what would be the best way to go about this so you reciprocate? (Setting, awkwardness tolerance, etc).

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Dudes

Is there anyway a chick could ask you to a gig, just you two, and you not take it as a date? If so, what would that way be?

Learn how to smile lol

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>SEA
Southeast Asian?... What?
The drop isn't that bad and is very generalized plus women care about other things

Also, IDK how or why you can't find a place that has condoms? Corner store? Some family related government thing? Bathrooms have them a lot of the time?

Unless you straight up say it's not a date and/or you already have a boyfriend I'm going to take it as romantic interest.
Even then, some boys are going to take it as romantic interest.

It would have to be somewhere I felt comfortable and able to respond, but where that would be would differ between women. Awkwardness is fine but when it gets so high that it looks like you don't want to be talking to me, I'll probably not want to talk to you. Having something to say that is worthwhile hearing is important, too. If you come up to talk to me about my t shirt design, that's cool, but to randomly chat about inane things is a no no.

It does depend on the setting. 99% of the time I wouldn't mind someone striking a normal convo with me though. But if the guy was very clearly feeling awkward and nervous, I'd feel like that too. Not that I'd refuse to converse with him because of it, but it would make everything feel a bit forced yknow.

She would have to be explicit about it not being a date, and then she would have to explain her motivation for wanting to take me to the concert.

Even if she explains that you guys are the only peeps who would be interested in that music? I don't want to be hitting on him.

I feel like explicitly saying "this is not a date" out of nowhere kinda dictates you've thought about it being a date. I felt like inviting him saying I was gonna go alone but I knew he liked the band and a human barrier would be nice, but even that feels flirtatious, hence why I'm here.

Guys are really desperate for attention from girls. You could accidentally look in someone's direction once and they could take it as romantic interest.
It really depends on your guy friend in question. Does he already get a lot of attention from girls? Does he have an active social life that includes other female friends? Has he already expressed interest in you before? How well do you know him?

Honestly if you don't know him that well I'd be careful.

Don't get me wrong, I think you look okay, but I'm trying to decide if that's the old "I may look like I'm smiling, but on the inside my soul is crumbling into a deep hellish abyss if there is a God out there I pray that he may save me. Please somebody anybody help me"
smile or the "I'm a wussy manchild that doesn't understand how rape works because I've gone insane despite my seemingly innocence" smile.
Or both
I'm literally diagnosed with autism and even I'm like lol get a picture or learn to smile please. You look like how I might expect a more attractive Charlie from Always Sunny staring at the waitress lady to look if he wasn't in a comedy.

What goes into making a guy unattractive? I'm not asking for what IS attractive, but what are the absolute worst things a guy can possess. Virginity, no social worth, no material worth, etc. I'm guessing I got most of them

For your questions; not as far as I am aware, yes, no, we've been close mates for over 5 years. I'm not scared of him jumping at shadows with me, but I'm aware that this can come across as a romantic thing so.

You should be good then. Just clearly express that it isn't a date and you just want someone to go with and it's fine imo.

>get my first gf at 19, we last three years but people change and it was time to move on so we broke up last November
>find a new girl, we get along great, date for a few weeks then make it official
>the dates are amazing, she loves to hold my hand and cuddle up to me and seems really into it
>mutual friend shows me texts she sent
>describe me as "a great guy"
>"he literally does everything perfect"
>she loved my smile
>she thought all guys were the same until she met me
>is having trouble getting past her bad past relationships and opening up
>breaks up a week after getting together because "I'm too pushy (clingy)".
How do I fix this. I get way too emotionally invested in my partners. I think of them constantly. I think it's really rare that I connect with someone enough to fall for them. My life is complete shit and I feel that has something to do with it.
We would date twice a week and we shared a uni class twice a week that I'd get to early so we'd get about twenty minutes alone. Is it possible that I'm not clingy and she was just projecting her bad last relationships on to me? I feel like I was good to her. Even her own friends are giving her shit for how she's treated me.

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>I feel like explicitly saying "this is not a date" out of nowhere kinda dictates you've thought about it being a date.
Which you have. Essentially you would have to explain the situation to him in the same way you explain it to us.

The guy in the picture isn't me, i just felt like his awkward smile resonated with my confusion for what should be a simple thing. Good to know a confident smile is always important though.

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This will have a different answer for every woman, but here's mine.

Virginity isn't a problem, the guy I've been hung up on for a while is a khv afaik. "No social worth" or "material wealth" is vague.

He can't be smug or self righteous. He cannot be wilfully ignorant. He must have some form of passion, even if it's vidya. He has to have motivation for himself as an individual. If you break any of these then, for me, you'd be unattractive.

>gets women naked and doesn't fuck them
See pic
...for multiple reasons.
>My one boy
I hope you mean this like "this one friend/homie who is male" and not "my boyfriend" as I'd normally parse that phrase or probably worse "my own child" because if so, see pic again.

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i'm tired of always being the one to make plans on what i'm doing with my gf

for once, once, i want her to make plans, tell me what she wants me/us to do

sick and tired of this
even a "what do you want to do" results in "don't care actually"

ffs

Yeah, okay, cool. Still not really happy with the whole "this is not a date" thing tbf

so wait, did you tell him that? or what

No, he's busy atm so I can't speak to him. I'm gonna go about it as best as I had been advised, just still feeling like "this is not a date" will give the opposite impression.

I have the same bad habits as you. I have an anxious attachment style and think of girls I'm interested in CONSTANTLY. I've been told I'm clingy and pushy before.

First of all, try to realize that no matter what you do, the girl has already decided whether she likes you or not. No one single thing is going to really change her mind.

Second, let them dictate the amount of interactions you guys have. Take it slow. If they are more independent and only want to meet every once and awhile, then let them. Give them their space and focus on your own stuff.

In your case, it seems like she does have some issues when it comes to intimacy. You were a bit clingy, and her sensitivity to that probably made her push you away. Just give her time and space and be patient/understanding. If she really likes you, she'll be back.

Male here.

I'm FIENDING for her right now. She's been busy for 24 hours, isn't responding much. It seems irrational that she doesn't love me anymore, but I can't help but entertain those thoughts. I don't want to blow up her phone. I only blew her up a little...not much. I'm not DOING anything clingy, as far as I can tell, but I FEEL clingy. How do I cope?

Poor hygiene, grooming, dress
Being a yes man

>Busy for 24 hours
>ShE DOEsn'T LoVE ME ANYmORE???
That's pretty clingy

Sorry, more info I guess. Basically just stop thinking about it. Do something else.

How?

>bump into friend at a bar
>he's with his gf and some of her friends
>get a chance to talk to one of them for a little while
>seem attracted to each other
>go home
Now what?

ask friend for girls numba
you liked talking to her
"sup girl i liked talking to you, asked friend for you number that ok?"

>Still not really happy with the whole "this is not a date" thing tbf
You are making me think of the "women are manipulative schemers" stereotyp.
If you want a guy to know something, you tell him. If you want him to know something but you don't want to tell him, then that seems to me to indicate a deeper problem in your relationship.

it's literally woman brain. jpeg

>b-but what will society think of me if i'm honest about what i don't want
>will he hate me!?
manipulative shit

>If you want a guy to know something, you tell him.
True, but the whole reason I'm here is because I know that dudes also read into things. Saying "this is not a date" in my personal experience makes the men think that it is a date and the whole thing awkward, which is my whole issue. I have had this happen a couple of times.

>I know that dudes also read into things.
then...be...honest and don't let the dude read into things

I'm definitely smug and definitely self righteous. Oh well.
Not a yes man. But I don't care about superficial shit much, so I probably don't meet your expectations. Oh well

>Saying "this is not a date" in my personal experience makes the men think that it is a date
In what world?

Please read Did you miss the second half of my response where I said that doing such a thing in the exact way you're describing has had men read into it and take the opposite from it?

If you read the sentence after that one you would know it is in my personal experience.

>Saying "this is not a date" in my personal experience makes the men think that it is a date
Probably because we have learned to expect women to be manipulative schemers. :)

But in all seriousness, I tried to get across in an earlier reply that you should explain the situation to him. Have a open honest conversation about it. Kind of like you're doing now.

In all honesty, if he wants to read into it, he will. It won't matter what you say to him.
If you want to invite him, be explicit and explain that it's not a date.

Thanks user. I think my core problem is that I don't have my own stuff to focus on usually. Gotta fix that.

What if his teeth were only yellow because he drank soda as a kid?
Like, my teeth are kind of yellow and the dentin is visible, but they're also straight & I have all of them (even my wisdom teeth). I brush everyday too.

Figured this is a good place to ask this,

Girls

how am i supposed to get a qtgf when I'm a skinny 23 year old white guy who looks 16?

>how am i supposed to
Who says you are?

Men, what do I do?
My boyfriend has low testosterone. He used to take something for it and we would fuck several times a day. Whenever he'd stop taking it we would maybe have sex once every few days. This has been happening for two years now. It's been three months since we've had sex. The most we do is kiss or tease. I never say no during sex. I ended up fulfilling fantasies that his exes refused. I'm not leaving him over the lack of sex. I miss it though. I want to have sex and I would never cheat on him.

I brought it up the first time this happened during our relationship and he was embarrassed by it because it makes him feel less like a man. I doubt he's cheating on me because we spend about every waking moment together. The only time we're apart is when I sometimes go grocery shopping without him, but even during then we still text each other. He hasn't been acting weird and we're both still very much in love with each other. I don't know what to do. We've never had a dry spell this long before.

Askes this in previous thread but I'd appreciate the extra input.

Wouls you come back with an ex you were head over heals for after having an amicable break up? Assuming your ex has for a fact changed for the better? Another chance at love, yes, no, why?

Ask for it
When he says no, ask if he'd take whatever he takes (what is it?) For you or "for us please"
If he refuses to take his test could you mail it to me?

don't say that user

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First if you want a qtpie you need to become the equivalent as well (not necessary but it helps a lot). As long as you arent deformed you can improve your facial looks by grooming, trim your beard and if you dont have one get a manly haircut, second you are probably skinny fat in a sense so eat and go to the gym to gain MUSCLE then lose fat so your face is defined and attractive, finally do thinga worthwhile to improve your self worth, learn a instrument, improve social skills with males and females. This will all help a lot witu getting a cutie, I dont want to hear excuses user.

I don't have any advice I could give you. It sucks when you're not able to satisfy your partner. Makes you feel worthless.

Well, consider your question from another perspective: How is a girl supposed to get you if she's not a qt?

Reposting from previous thread:
>texting with friend
>my sexual history comes up
>tell her I feel judged
>"Why would I user? We aren't dating so it really isn't my business"
Is that a "not right now" or a "not ever"?

my standards aren't very high

I don't come to these threads often, but I figured I'd give it a shot for a very weird situation for me. I suppose I should say any gender can answer this one. Background on me. I'm a dude, 26, and my romantic experience is only one relationship which lasted 8 years until eventually my fiancee cheated on me and I dropped her like a hot potato. As such, my confidence is shot and I'm not well versed on romance/pre-dating shenanigans.

Back to the story, yesterday I went to a Verizon with my mother so she could switch plans and for me to get my own contract because it'd be cheaper. Que a very qt3.14 helping us with the process. Over the course of the process me and her chit chatted, and started to feel like she was flirting with me. By the end, I somehow ended up with her number, with her jokingly telling my mother that I'll probably end up texting her to go get drinks. I kinda made a joke following that, asking if she'd like to, and she ended up saying yes. We also coincidentally go to the same college on the same days, and now I'm at a loss at what to do. I apologize if the story isn't coherent, as I'm glossing over a lot of details which could just be summed up into "we flirted a bunch". My question is, what's my next step? My best friend told me I should wait a couple of days until the day before a class day, and text her asking her schedule and if she wants to meet for lunch.

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So find a girl who's standards are equally low.

Tell him to take is goddamn medication. Low test actually has a huge impact on your mood and overall quality of life.

Don't bail. Take her out.

So my issue with the whole "going out for drinks" part is I'm inexperienced with bar life, I'm relatively sheltered and anti-social. To be honest I'm flabberghasted such a cute girl was interested enough in me to not only flirt, but agree to my half-joking attempts at asking her to go out. How soon is too soon to start texting her? I got her number yesterday.

Is it morally wrong to approach a woman if i dont feel attracted to her at all?

My ideal gf:
>virgin
>skinny
>natural blonde (preferably with blue eyes)
>no tattoos
>no piercings (ears are fine)
>doesn't smoke nor do drugs

>yet these are considered to be high standards for girls in 2019
Literally how? It would just be the female equivalent of me. Why is it bad to want a gf like that?

Literally no-one said it's bad. But cute girls like that are usually very sought after and get plenty of attention already, hence why it's a high standard. These girls all have plenty of orbiters.

What are some benifits to having a gf? Inb4 sex and companionship, youre talking to someone who fucks hookers and couldnt care less about making friends. Social status is also a no, im in the army and being single makes travel much easier. plus women are people, not trophies. Is there anything im overlooking besides kids cuz thats also a no for the next 6-8 years at least. Im asking because conservatard family wont leave me the fuck alone.

I posted this in another forum and got backlash from girls calling me picky etc. But yeah, I understand what you're saying.

>I'm inexperienced with bar life
No better opportunity than this to change that.

>How soon is too soon to start texting her?
Who can say? All I can say is don't wait too long to set up a date.

It's a waste of both of your time.

Well of course dummy. If a girl made a thread about how she wants a 6ft+, brown-haired, good looking and muscular guy, plenty of males would feel outraged.

>Why is it bad to want a gf like that?
Nothing to do with goo or bad. It's just a case of supply and demand.

>No better opportunity than this to change that.
True, I guess it'll just be sink or swim.

>Who can say? All I can say is don't wait too long to set up a date.
Well shit that's my biggest question!

Girls

I’m 34 and I’ve known a woman for the past couple of months whos also my age. She’s attractive and nice. We’ve gone out a couple of times, on our forth (date) I suppose, she asked me about my twenties. What I did and just what happened. I told her about my life and then she asked about my sex history/dating life. I was honest and told her I have a very short history. I’ve only had 2 girlfriends. 0 hook ups. She seemed surprised but she smiled. I then asked her about her history and she said to me “well, I’m not going to lie, but my mid twenties were kind of wild. I had my fun. I don’t regret it, but I want something real now”. After our date, that night I got a text from her saying “you know user, I just want to say how i feel really special to be going our with a guy who held himself to such a high standard when it comes to dating. It’s really attractive that you haven’t been with many people :)”

Wtf. I feel like I’m being taken advantage of. I didn’t sleep around, so now i’m suppose to settle with people who did? My morals and standards mean nothing?

>Well shit that's my biggest question!
I'd say give it a day or two. But really that's just a number I pulled out of my ass.

You got to play it by ear and follow your gut feeling.

>winky face after every message
Am I being flirted with?

Not necessarily. I knew a girl who did that every single time. So I asked her out one day and she was all confused.

Was it your morals or your inability to attract a female?

Not a girl, but I'm going to reply anyway.

You're not supposed to do anything you don't want to do. She laid out what she has to offer. It's up to you if you want take it or leave it. She's not holding a gun to your head.