I'm a senior in high school (18 years to be precise) and my boyfriend that I dumped 2 months ago got me pregnant, and I found out last week. He doesn't know, and he has a high chance at getting a scholarship. He's in all honors classes, part of many clubs and has had straight A's since 6th grade.
I don't want an abortion and I don't want to ruin his life.
What should I do?
I'm pregnant
That image makes too much sense, how the fuck does he have the time for a "girl" like you?
abort it NOW
Not tell him
It's all on you, dont ruin his life because you couldnt bother to take care of yourself by being this stupid and not taking precautions
>inb4 it takes two
No. You couldve taken the morning after, no excuses
That's actually why I broke up with him, he never made time for me. And the image is the only one I have- new phone
Abortion user. You are far too young.
I promise you will regret having this baby more than aborting it.
If you can raise it on your own, maybe with the support of your family, do it.
Adoption is a possibility too, but it can be very rough for the kid.
It's not her fault only, it is also her fault. They both were dumb.
>the he doesn't have time 4 me excuse
You deserve what happened to you, fucking selfish bitch
He deserve to know.
It's his son after all and you shouldn't choose without even tell him anything.
Have you talked to your parents?
What are your future plans?
Will the baby be white? You don’t have to answer that, but the point being white babies are easily adopted into affluent families that want children. Black babies are adopted by white families too but then the black kid is walking the fine line of only sort of fitting in, like Colin Kaepernick.
My first response is abortion but adoption might also be a good option.
Figure out your options, talk to family planning, get the leaflets then go tell him.
Adoption is an option and there are plenty of people who want newborn babies, if you connect with a family early they can have the baby the moment it is born and begin the bonding process.
I want to be a psychologist, and my parents wouldn't ever let me abort it, along with me not wanting to. We're very christian
You don't get to pick and choose all the good outcomes that incumbent you from any responsibility for the actions that lead to the creation of a new life while staying on le moral righteous path.
Sorry to break it to you, but your options are: Abortion, Adoption, Single Motherhood, Teen Parenthood, Deadbeat Single Motherhood, Parents pretend the kid is theirs and raise it, Miscarriage.
Pick one.
While you're at it, I'd recommend telling your parents and the father because they'll figure it out sooner or later.
If you were very Christian you wouldn't be raw dogging it at 18
Find a cheap trailer park and take up meth. You’ll fit right in.
kek
Well the first thing you have to do is tell either him first and then you guys figure it out, or your parents first since you want to keep it either way.
I will buy your baby. How much?
Find a nice beta cuck to raise your ex boyfriend's child :>
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This is literally what abortions are for. You're too young, you don't know what you're doing, you didn't even want this kid and you're going to resent the fuck out of it.
You want to be a psychologist? Cool, I'm a psychologist. Your path forward requires that you get a four year degree at a respected school with a high GPA both within and outside of your major. In addition you'll need to have significant relevant volunteer or work experience and very likely need to have research experience as well. I was 4.0 within my double majors and 3.7 overall, had about eight hours a week on a suicide hotline, and had three publications to my name. That situates you to have a chance at getting into grad school. From there you have five more years of school and you won't have health insurance for you or your child during this time. Your first year is sixteen hours of class a week and a workload that is literally meant to weed out the more thinly motivated. Year two and three you have sixteen hours a week and a practicum thats going to eat another 15-20, your workload is going to add another 20 or so hours. During year three you should also expect to sit for your Comps/Boards. This is a high-stakes test and at most schools you have two attempts. Year four You have probably only 14 hours of real class, another practicum, probably 15-20 hours of class related work load, and you're finishing your dissertation (probably another ten hours a week or so). Oh, and you're applying nationally for internship on your own dime with a very strong suggestion that you move for the year's training. Practica do not have vacation or sick days, you have a minimum number of hours to hit, and evening/weekend hours are required.
Got all that done? Cool, during your Internship year you'll be lucky if you make $20k, you'll have health insurance that is garbage, and you'll get a week of vacation/sick/personal days. You'll also probably be looking at 50+ hour weeks.
>I don't want an abortion
>I don't want to ruin his life
You get to pick one.
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That might not sound so bad, but now you need to find a Postdoc. Unlike the previous training, there will be no formal system and no guidance from your school. You're on your own. Once you've got that nailed down you can start studying for the EPPP.
During the Postdoc year you'll do a little better, but it still won't be real money until you've both passed the EPPP and your state has issued you a license number. Now you can finally start looking for a job.
This, keep in mind, is if you choose to go the professional school route and take on loans. If you choose to go to a university/sponsored program you can expect an extra couple of years because they like to work their grad student slaves as long as they can.
tl;dr You want to achieve your dreams? You're a decade of 60 hours weeks without pay or health insurance away. How the fuck could you fit a child there?
Thank you. That was the most helpful response. I can't have the kid and I'm going to tell my parents tomorrow