I am friends with this shy guy who I am really attracted to. He's so smart and we talk all the time...

I am friends with this shy guy who I am really attracted to. He's so smart and we talk all the time. Tomorrow night we are going to an arcade together. Should I just make the first move??

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Yes. There's nothing wrong with making the first move, especially if the person you like is shy.

I'm just used to being pursued so this is out of my wheelhouse. But it's been bugging me

Judging from the picture, dude's already on top of you. I don't see what the problem is.

you can always tell if someones had braces because their faces are still lopsided even though their teeth are nice.

Jeez and im sure you've been putting out signals like crazy. yeah go ahead and do it. you'll boost his confidence and make him not do shit like this anymore. but after its all said and done you need to explain to him that he needs to take charge

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

As a former shy guy myself, I will say that if he’s on the extreme end of shyness, you might have to be a little more persistent and confident in your approach.

I know when girls approached or hit on me back in high school/college my first instinct was kind of just to freeze up or shyly gloss over it.

It wasn’t until later that I had time to think that my brain would cool down enough for me to process what may have just happened and I’d kick myself for not acting like I wish I did.

This would sometimes even happen with girls I was interested in, who were interested in me, and who I could talk to and hangout with absolutely normally. Just, every time a pass would be made I’d just kind of blank. Only a couple of girls ever pierced through that, and it was something that just kinda happened because we got super comfortable around one another.

It wasn’t until a few years later that I’d kind of come in to my own and get over that stuff. But along with that, I also completely lost my shyness.

why don't you ask your friends why are you asking Jow Forums?

also, you have nice teeth, better than me, are you from Europe?

Sure man, he looks like a nice guy

Please do. There is no rule that says the guy has to make the first move. There are a dozen different times where I wish the girl had made the first move, but either I had to, or neither of us did and the relationship went nowhere.

Don't take it too personally if he doesn't react ideally, us shy guys can be difficult

So should I ask to kiss him or ask him to kiss me?

I don't think it really matters much which one you do.

Ask him out on a date first.

We're going out tomorrow night

Youre at an arcade, make a bet that if you beat him at a game he has to kiss you

And? Are you going to the arcade together or are you going on a date to the arcade together?

I have a friend of the opposite sex who I go to coffee, art exhibits, picnics, movies, etc. with all the time but we are not dating. Make sure you are both on the same page and actually dating. If he just sees you as a friend and you suddenly ask for a kiss out of nowhere you could completely blindside him.

What are they 12 years old?
Just go in and kiss him. everyone knows this guy likes you. He's just too scared to move on it. After you do something like that he'll be butter.

Not doing things specifically because they have a childish connotation is not mature

Noted. anyway this guy is too nervous for something like that. He'll just freeze up. She needs to just go in and passionately kiss him

>faces are still lopsided
that's because the image is rotated haha

Dont be super aggressive, just start by holding his hand.

Ex. Suggest that ypu each take 1 side of the arcade board and work together to play, and then grab his hand "so he doesnt cheat" then once you die a few times, pull him away by the hand and say "lets play a different game" but dont let go of his hand. While looking for the next game say "you know i like holding your hand! I really like you a lot"

Be affectionate, but not too crazy sexual or clingy. That might embarrass him in public.

Make it clear to him that you have feelings for him.

Be straightforward and plain about it.

Why are you dating a white man? Stick to your kind stupid beaner.

his right eye is higher and wider than his left.

Why is everyone assuming that pic related is actually OP?
I thought showing pictures of yourself was against the rules (or maybe that was only on Jow Forums)

They still have arcades?

I exclusively date white guys. Suck it.

In my city, yes. One of my favorite spots, quarter games and a bar

>barcade

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It not an official date, no.

Hes put his arm around me before when we were watching TV and I had started dozing off. So I am sure? Also he once confessed to me that he has a habit of friend zoning himself with girls he likes?

Guys like this need more than that. just passionately kiss him for fuck sake

Barcades are great. Near me they all have free games and just expect you to buy a

Hell yeah

Historically they lose money and economically can't last so enjoy it while you have it user

Not them, but I don’t really see how they’re any much more different than a pool hall?

Basically exactly the same operating model, costs, and gimmick, just a little more niche, but in an era when “eSports” and “retro” is becoming more in vogue

At least pool makes over a quarter to play an irl game against irl players

Well then tell him you want to officially date and be a couple. Then if he says yes get to the kissing business.

any tips for a current shyguy? Catching signals when they happen are literally my weakest point, only hours or days later do I realize a girl was into me. In the moment I'm just trying to act natural and chill and pretty much become oblivious

You been to an actual pool bar? The ones that operate on quarters, there’s usually like 6-8 tables max.

Except for the guys who bring their own equipment to play (who usually go to hourly places instead), usually what happens is a group of like 2-8 people will be crowding around a table for about 2 hours. In that time they’ll play maybe exactly 3 games. 20-40 minutes per game, and then about 10-20 minutes talking with their beers in their hands.

On average that means that there’s about 1.2 games per hour, per table. Times 8 tables, that’s about $9.80 per hour, from the entire bar.

Even me, I can run a rack in like 5-10 minutes on a good break (so max of 12 games an hour), but when I start drinking at a bar (especially a quarter op), maybe in there to play pool, but I’m also there to talk and hangout, so that drops to more like 10-20+ minutes a game, with like 5-10 spent talking after.

Even if you’re renting them out at $15 an hour (remember a coin op earns more like $1-$3. And if you’re charging $15 an hour, you’re also probably getting those tables refelted every 6-12 months, as well as constantly replacing cues and chalk, which all adds up) Pool tables don’t really bring in good money. The 2-8 people standing around that table will each probably spend exactly that much or more per person for their drinks, as well as the other 20-50 people idling around your bar on the off chance one might open up.

Booze is where the money is at.

Pool tables, or arcade games, or $1,500+ for a PPV fight, are just the gimmicks to get them in the door.

Do you know for sure he's gay too?

Just got off work. I'll see him tonight. Thanks everyone for your advice. Still not sure exactly how I'll do this. Hope I dont punk out

Just drop your head....between his legs and say whoops

If you don't catch the signal at first then just be a little forthcoming/confident when you see the chick next

Don't get worked up about 'missing' chances when a chick likes you. Her liking you should be compliment enough,

This is of course assuming you're not a complete social retard and saying no when a girl 'asks you to come upstairs for coffee'

Be confident in yourself and always have something to talk about, but don't make it all about you.

Why an arcade?

First time we met up just the two of us. I introduced him to it. It's one of my favorite places to go and we both really enjoy playing Killer Queen

I'll mark that as plan B ;)

You would make his year!

But you'll probably get turned off by his shy beta energy before long

As long as its fun that's the important thing. Though I never would have thought of an arcade as a good dating spot.

Hes actually really confident in other areas except for this lol