>husband and I were one of the rare high school couples that actually stayed together >we've been together for 10 years now >his sex drive has become non-existant >even turns down blowjobs >I can only ever entice him when I go out and buy some new roleplay outfit at a sex shop >that shit gets expensive >I don't want to have to drop 40+ dollars every time I wanna get laid
This started a while ago. I've never been a slob, but after being rejected several times in a row I got a gym membership to shape up, thinking it might help. I'm in much better shape now (and he even went out of his way to say that wasn't the issue in the first place), but it hasn't helped.
I'm sure a lot of this has to do with his medication, but I don't think the meds should eradicate his sex drive entirely. He still gets horny over celebrity crushes and pr0n so I don't think the meds are entirely to blame.
Even with the outfits I kind of get the impression he only fucks me out of pity, since I went through the trouble of buying a new outfit, and even then he sometimes can't finish.
I get hit on a lot so I don't really think I'm completely hideous. I wear flattering make-up and am always dressed up because of work. I honestly think we've just been together so long that he lost interest. He isn't abusive at all and we still have fun together, but i really miss being intimate.
I'd like an outsider's opinion of what else I can do to spice things up. How can I recapture his attention?
My advice would be couples counseling. I've been married for a few years and I'll admit that I'm bored with my partner. I do love her but we've had sex hundreds of times. There just isn't anything new. And as a man, what's new is a big part of the turn on.
Life is crazy man.
Ayden Jenkins
Do you think something has changed in his mental wellbeing since back when your sex life was better?
Anything that could've taken away his confidence? General life worries? These kinds of things can ruin a person's sex drive. If someone feels they aren't sexy or that they just don't measure up in some way, it can be very difficult for them to get horny.
Can you talk to him about it? Maybe explain it's part of life you really miss and invite him to open up about it. Assure him he can tell you anything in the world and you won't judge him for it.
Thomas Clark
>He still gets horny over celebrity crushes and pr0n There's the problem. Mind rot.
Evan Gutierrez
Have you thought about swinging?
Dude probably misses getting to fuck around in your 20's.
Owen Mitchell
High school couples don’t usually work out. Typically because one or both parties hasn’t partied, fucked around or left their home town. If he doesn’t want to fuck he’s either gay, watches too much porn or is bored.
Easton Foster
Men lose libido because >age (pic related) >obesity Send him to endrocologist (hormone doctor) and do blood test >porn addiction Invade his devices and install some hidden app which reports usage / websites >boredom Fucking one woman for 10 years gets stale. Visit this link and then tie him up. Sometimes even the smallest thing (blindfold) can make it fresh experience bdsmwiki.info/Aftercare >medication Many pills have notable sideeffects like killing libido. SSRI (anti depression pills) are notorious for it.
Does he have morning erections? Thats indicator if his cardiovascular system is in order. If not, make HIM to go to pool.
you mentioned medications, what are they? Medications absolutely can and will fuck up a sex drive. As in, completely decimate it.
Jaxson Jackson
>together for 10 years >I wear flattering make-up and always dressed up >I got a gym membership >I get hit on a lot >I wanna get laid >roleplay outfit at a sex shop
You can't be more blatant, you checked all the boxes. He knows you are on the prowl for other dick and for some men it disgust them knowing you are hunting/fucking other men. It kills their attraction to you though he still loves you.
Samuel Gray
>>I don't want to have to drop 40+ dollars every time I wanna get laid
I think your husband has been spending more on younger girls and, dare I day it, hookers
Andrew Johnson
Might seem stupid but eating a lot more calories gives me a lot more sex drive. Try that maybe
Jack Diaz
Make him stop looking at porn and masturbating
That shit messes with your mind in ways I didn't know
I wish I knew about nofap 10 years ago, but hey, I'm only 21
Kayden Anderson
Tell him he is killing the relationship
Jack Mitchell
He's not killing the relationship she is. She is strutting her ass around all her coworkers, likely a revolving door of personal stud trainers at the gym she spends hours a day with and she goes to see the same guy at the sex shop and models the outfits for him ostensibly for an opinion.
Anthony Rodriguez
Some other user mentioned it but seeing a sex therapist or or going to couple's counseling is probably key. Don't listen to people's advice here it's mostly shit. It's probably more him than you. He maybe doesn't feel attractive, or he's so caught up in his head from stress he can't enjoy sex. Does he have a stressful job? Or maybe he is really bored and unfulfilled at work?
Landon Howard
how many "breaks" did you fabricate and fuck some other guy during the ten years. He may have forgiven but that shit leaves a scar.
Oliver Carter
open the marriage and seek what you need elsewhere.
Gavin Allen
>He still gets horny over celebrity crushes and pr0n He's basically an idiot. You deserve better.
Justin Perez
Stop projecting your fantasies into this, you cuck faggot.
Notice how OP painted herself perfect and yet you don't want to question her real motives or possible reasons her husband stays away.
Wyatt Gutierrez
Only legitimate piece of advice is to fucking talk to him about it. It's not for you to solve on your own. He needs to tell you what the root cause is.
Logan Smith
Did he find out about all the globs you have swallowed? I can't get with a woman unless she is unpolluted
Charles Stewart
Literally the only sane piece of advice on this thread
