ITT: Ask the Opposite Sex Anything

Why do at least two of my female coworkers who I've known for as long as I've worked here consistently to this day stare at me across the room with goo goo eyes? I'm tall and allegedly attractive, but what of it? Am I able to just ask them why they stare at me so without them stopping or escalating the situation to the point where I drop spaghetti?

F here.
Sometimes I stare at people to see if I can read their minds.

I don't like them.

I'm a male and I absolutely agree. I'm sick of these commies. Come on; let's go back to the filthy dive bar where I hang out with my biker friends and get ourselves freed in rebellious unmarried non-matrimony.

That sounds weird.

This guy from work and I watch a tv show together every night and live text each other and then say goodnight. Do you think he likes me? It’s been going on for 7 months now, why hasn’t he made a move if so?

Make the move yourself, ya dumb broad

What to do when a girl horny text you in the night?
It's difficult to resist engaging in a sexual conversation but it's awfull to have your dick hard for nothing, also it's cringy to read it or think about it afterwards

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I guess it would depend on how it would unfold. This is usually why I establish safewords even if it's just vanilla sex.
I like cake, booze, and dancing, but I can't control how my friends or family view contractual agreements.
You cute user, just ask them, noob.

Because modern men have been from birth filled with feminist propaganda and unless he is only in it to fuck he is going to be deathly afraid to make a move on you for fear of ruining his life for some reason. Since it's still naturally his duty to make the move you can break the ice by boasting about how much you love Trump.

So you guys do think he likes me?

If he doesn't, any sexual harassment charges he files against you will be laughed out of court, so what's the point in asking us?

>why hasn’t he made a move if so?
Because if you're friends with a girl and trynna make a move on them and she does'nt like you, you'll be that guy who pretended to be someone's friend just to get laid.
I've seen girls posting on social media about how awfull It is to discover that a guy you thought was your friend was just wanting to get laid all along.

Dunno lol
I'd say it's definitely possible. Take a chance.

Im just trying to get a sense of the situation/how likely it is he actually likes me

Howja like another cup of feminism?

>How would girls react to a man they were with having a genuine sex-related ptsd flashback in front of them?
What would this mean? PTSD flashbacks can manifest in different ways.

If I were to make some assumptions, I imagine him stopping mid sex act and having to retract, becoming fearful and anxious, breathing heavily. If I had no prior understanding to what he was going through I would probably freak out a little bit at first but I have some general experience with emotional people. I would switch immediately into soothing mode and do my best to show him that I don't take his reaction personally, that I'm here for him. I would figure out what he needed both verbally (if he's able to talk to me) and through his reactions to me being close to him. I'd see if he needed to be held for a bit, or if he needed me to be farther, where I would probably sit cross legged on the other side of the bed and keep a calm body language, talking him through. Maybe I'd grab him a glass of water or tea. I'd try to ask him what he was feeling, but not pressure him into saying more than necessary- me understanding the situation is less important than what he needed at that moment in order to collect himself. Some people find collection through talking it out, some need a moment and trying to make words can make it worse for them. I'd assure him that we can always talk about it later, if at all, and that I was here for him and loved him.

You're getting this reaction because WE LITERALLY CANNOT TELL over text if he likes you or not. It's really all about assessing the situation, all the bodily cues, all the context of your dynamics and conversations. There is no way for us to know. What IS stupid is for you to wait for him to make a move when you are the one interested. It's 2019! Do it yourself!

I'm afraid of crying my eyes out in the middle of sex/foreplay, when she gets on top of me, or if I just get touched wrong and having that fuck up a relationship before it gets a chance to go anywhere.

Why would you turning down an invitation mean you'd be barred from ever having a girlfriend? Your opinion on weddings is more important for your own literal wedding, and that conversation comes up a bit of a ways later down the road. If you're someone who is against getting married and/or having a wedding, that's not as uncommon these days as it used to be.

I think if you date anyone into kink, they'd be a bit more understanding. Dacryphilia is also a thing. Just sort of explain that before you get too heavy handed, establish a safeword (red yellow green stoplight colors or whatever), and take things slow.

>What would this mean?
They usually come on pretty suddenly. They're generally not very predictable beyond feeling desired and/or aroused being the most common things to set one off. I usually get through them by being alone until I recollect myself.

Like I said, the part that concerns me is the early phase of the relationship before I've built up trust with girl.

Sexual trauma really sucks, man. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I understand that it's a tricky conversation to have and that it's particularly difficult for victimized men. I'm big on emotional intimacy and laying out our fears with the people we love. I know not everyone is as much of an open book and an over-sharer as I am, though.

Sex is an incredibly vulnerable act, physically and emotionally. I might suggest that you share some non-sexual emotional intimacy and vulnerability with your potential sexual partners before you get under the sheets, even if not explicitly about your PTSD. You're gonna want to establish a dynamic with someone you can trust.

Overall, even without prior conversation about your PTSD (which I do recommend), a partner who wants to have sex with you and who loves you is going to be concerned about your distress, not put off. They want to help you and care for you.

If a guy asks you to show him your midriff, and you happen to be a little fat, and it may or may not be obvious that he wants to see whether or not you are disgustingly so before he gives into you and fucks your brains out, how would you best like the situation to carry out?

Tell me to tie you up and gag you.

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Quit being a slut you nasty whore

I'm sorry I may have mixed up the subject and the object
I just want to see if I'd still fuck her without actually bringing her home and getting her naked and running to the bathroom to throw up

Either gender. Probably men more so in a way, since you guys keep meming about differences in gender and I don't even know any more.

So there's more to things than just this, but I've never explored this thought, so I'll say it now.

I'm afraid of asking a girl out because I'm obsessed with the idea of being overly romantic in my head with random girls I see, whether it be in games or IRL or whatever.

I know a relationship isn't going to be like my dumb little waifu adventure fantasies, but the idea of being in a relationship intimidates me because I feel like there's something I can't have if I do that, even though I know I wouldn't get that through sex either.
In fact, I'm a virgin for the same reason; I don't want to deal with the reality of it...

What do?

Sex is a meme. Dating is a bigger meme. I literally don't have time for that shit. I'm ready to buy artificial wives from Amazon and be done with it. The game was already over before it began.

And actually, I don't just mean like pretty girls really even.
Just women that I'm attracted to in whatever way.

It's actually kind of painful sometimes lately.

>Thinks they're going to have real AIs any time soon
I'm going to school to specialize in engineering robotics.
Got some bad news for you...

If I were you user I wouldn’t have sex before you hit that trusting phase. That might seem crazy, but there are women out there who specifically want to wait awhile before sex, not because of religious reasons or waiting for marriage, but because they figure a long waiting period is safer and makes the relationship more authentic
If you early on were upfront and said “Hey, I’m really not into having sex too early, I’d like to wait awhile until we both know each other.” then you’ll quickly get rid of women who don’t like that and find some that are fine with it

I'm a self taught programmer and I'm going to make an AI girlfriend if it's the last thing I do. I already have set up her emotions and how they'll interact with each other and then I'm going to make a thought space where she'll hold "subjects of discussion" that are currently being discussed and then I'm going to make a learning base so she'll learn the definition of words using prolog recursion. And then I'm going to try to figure out how to make it so she can contextualize certain words in one instance and not in an improper other instance. And then I'm going to learn how to program with sound so to change pitch and volume on certain words so she could have a more natural speaking voice. I'm going to feed her so much information and stuff and in the end she'll become the perfect bride, minus not having a body because I don't know how to do anything in robotics.

They usually look better naked than with clothes on

>been sleeping with a guy for like 5 months now
Do you mean "been in a relationship with a guy" or are you a dumb whore?
You don't really deserve anything good out of the situation if neither of you want to commit.

Not sure if meming...

It still won't be like a real girlfriend. Many have tried this. Actually went through a similar phase and downloaded some AI girlfriend thing once. I guess it's kinda fun at least for a while (I don't know; I gave it up), but it is not the same as a real woman with natural and fluid emotion and intelligent which she consciously utilizes to make the relationship work.
AIs do not have true personalities. They can't discuss things deeply like a real woman can and really almost most importantly, they don't have a real fucking body and if they did have a body, you would have to put all that shit together and that would be a whole goddamn motherfucking thing integrating those two things.
She will never be a conscious, tangible woman and you will never be a skilled enough programmer to do this all on your own where others with help have failed.

Also
> Self-taught
You're a coder, not a programmer.

Oh yeah and I'm actually not this user I have some coding experience and seem to take naturally to it, but I don't know as much as someone who is actually taking anything besides calc 1 or 2 in terms of advanced STEM/programming classes...

>stop talking to "gf" about 6 months ago (on/off "partner" for literally about a year and a half)
>imagine relationship like it's a fucking stupid romcom screen relationship; except there's no grandiose gesture for her, i'm not going to win the girl because i don't believe in that grandiose gesture shit (i did gesture a lot but it was like she expected some great gatsby esque bullshit)
>whole fiasco about me flirting to a girl
>end up flirting to another girl or some shit and whatever; nothing comes of it; doesn't really matter whatever
>she goes mental at me even tho' we're not in a relationship and god she knew how much i'd love that
>see her the third time in the past 6 months yesterday; first time where i actually talked to her
>noticed she got a bit fatter
>like perfect body wise; like her body now has that perfect about of weight that's actually "curvy" and not "bbw"
>ruined by her chin
>looks like a double chin
>she wanted me to go to some place with her yesterday
>walked her there
>then bailed cause "i wasn't feeling well"
>nothing about her physical looks or anything
>but that spark that was there igniting me to be her lapdog that loved listening to her every minute and shit isn't there
>i'm genuinely happier now, a bit more able to look at my own faults and work on them and just taking the time for me and my head and shit cause yenno gotta love yourself before you love anyone else
>and as much as i'd like to idolize her and dream about being with her
>instead i feel nothing towards her and i'm glad i bailed before i locked myself towards her again
>even though a little part of me wants to kinda pine over her; a big part of me is okay with the 6 months i've been alone without her
>cause god knows how confusing she is
>inb4 in a months time i'll be back on that ball and chain

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whoops wrong thread idk how i'm this retarded to post here instead of the gioyc thread lmfao
disregard this i suck mega cocks

You sound like a faggot.

Pretty much this Literally. Unless she's already attractive and good at being fashionable or whatever, then she might be better clothed maybe, but it's really not an issue. How bad can a little fat be?

No nothing looks better naked than with clothes on. Especially tits.

So women, do you consciously or unconsciously give hints to a man you like?
Let's just get this out of the way so I can die peacefully because several women already hit on me only to ghost me later on.

women, do you find men to be too "beta" nowadays? If so how would you prefer them to act?

My friend confided in me last Friday, kinda drunk. He said how he is jealous and envious of me because I have a girlfriend and even if I wouldn't, I still get regular sex. He has had something like one relationship ever, we're both 25.
Basically he asked what is it that he does wrong because he never gets to the meeting stage on dating apps neither does he get a lot of hits whereas it seems so easy for me. He slso said he experiences intense fear when asking anyone at all out.
I told him that I don't really know how I do it and that I just say dumb shit to them until I get a date and that I can't help with his fears.
He then lamented how it's either constant disappointment on the apps I find so easy success in or being alone because he works as a trashman and there's only like 2 women, butch dyke and a 50-year old secretary, in his whole company.
I couldn't help him, I said so. I myself don't know how I would fare without dating apps. Then he left the bar.

Basically I'm asking if anyone have concrete advice to my friend's situation which I could then forward to him and say sorry for seeming distant and uncaring.

I don't like her like that, so why does the thought of her talking to someone else the way she talks with me make me almost literally sick.

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If I’m interested in a guy, I make it clear. If I give signals then how am I supposed to know if he knows that I like him? I’m no mind reader and I’m pretty sure they’re not mind readers too.
Ghosting is rude and dumb. I’ve stopped a long time ago and because empathy. I still get ghosted though and I’m used to it.

>horny texting without exchange of nudes
this is middle school shit my dude

I posted a thread about this but I wanted to ask it here too

Cute girl in my classes, have her number from a while back, talked to a couple times in the past. Graduating soon and won't get another chance, I want to ask her out.

Would like to ask her out but it's hard for me considering I'm not independent imo - depend on parents financially, have my own car but don't drive it to campus since I have over-protective parents. Can't ask her to grab lunch with me after our only class together since I have another class after.

Should I just pretend I don't have her number and ask for it again? Should I text her if that works out, or should I also ask her to get lunch some other time when I/she has time?

Hey, I need some insight into the human (Female) mind.

I'll detail the situation specifically because context matters. I was dating a girl for a month, she broke things off with me because she realised she didn't want a relationship along with all the other things going on in her life + I was too "needy" for her (I probably was, my mistake), so she broke things off, with regards to the bf/ gf tag, except she said that nothing would change and she really liked me etc.

Fast forward two weeks, and lo and behold she decides that actually enough is enough and she very clearly lays out "I don't think we should see each other anymore"

The day later, she messages me saying "Hey, do you know where (placename) is?", I don't respond because i'm shocked and still upset things aren't going to work and dont see how replying will help.

She then messsages "???" 8 hours later when I dont reply.

Question 1. Is saying "I don't think we should see each other anymore" meant as literal? Is there a difference to americans? (Shes american, im british)

Question 2. Why would anyone think a basic message like that is acceptable one day after smashing someones hopes and dreams to pieces?

Q1: tell her "I don't think we should text each other anymore"
Q2: she sounds like a dumb controlling cunt

Every single girl I ever pursue ends in "I don't think I'm ready/want to be in a relationship right now".

What could I be doing to cause this?

Yeah you're definitely right, I guess i'm just not going to reply, I was also really nice in my response when she broke up with me so i'm just going to take the high road.

I'm not pinning this on her being a girl, I just don't understand how any person could be like this, its like a lack of social understanding. She's a very academically intelligent person which makes it even more odd.

They found someone else who is better looking, has a better dick and is more intelligent.

I have an amazing dick and alot of these girls do not have relationships afterwards.

Then your penis was basically a trip to Ibiza.

>boohoo why can't the girls i like; like me back??
>i have a good cock and their relationships are bad anyway!!
you probably scared the people you were trying to date with your ugly ass personality

i don't blame them; your post reeks of manchild entitlement and i would definitely not date you regardless of how good and beautiful your cock is; can't do much with it all alone.

Not sure if this is the right thread to ask, but I have a problem with jealousy. Well, actually the problem is that I'm not sure if my jealous feelings are reasonable.

My current ldr gf sometimes calls her other online male friend cute, and I know they have known each other for a long time and I know they chat all the time. She has never described him cute to me, but I have seen her describe him that way to other people. But that's really the only thing that has caused me to worry. She sometimes mentions talking to him without even asking, so I know she's open about him and not secretive at all. We still flirt and sweet talk like we always do, so her behavior towards me hasn't changed.

Am I being unreasonable? It's not like she's calling him sexy or hot, but in my mind calling someone cute is a very big compliment and almost just as serious. But that's just me. They have known each other longer than me and her, but she's the one who approached me first and initiated our relationship. That alone should be enough for me to tell how things are, or so I hope.
Oh gosh, I feel like such paranoid and petty jerk when writing this down and reading it out aloud. I don't want her to stop talking to her friend and I have no problem with that. I just don't like it when she compliments other guy, even if she's only describing the guy to other people.

>have friend who've i've been friends with since i was 13 and she was 16/17
>literally like my older sister
>she moved away for a while and i was really chubby
>lose a lot of weight and send her a picture of me topless
>nothing weird in the context of me and her; being almost like siblings
>she has called me cute, good looking, handsome
>does not mean she wants to bang me
>her bf seen picture of me topless
>stopped her from talking to me
>didn't really talk to her til' they broke up
>this was 2/3 years ago
>still friends with her to this day, still as close
>still like my older sister

I get that you love your woman or whatever; not really much to say about that; jealousy is a shit trait and disgusting, biggest turn off for everyone unless you're a manipulative loser; don't try break things up between your GF and her cute friend.

Really look inward; why do you feel insecure about this? You are a petty jerk cause when I read that; I get that you're trying to be the caring boyfriend or whatever but you come across to me as an insecure loser. 0/10 would not let my big sister date you, especially if you get this whiny over the phrase "cute"

Thanks. That's the kind of insight I was looking for. I grew up in abusive home and I've been struggling with trust issues ever since. I think about all the things she has said and done for me, even the most recent ones from hours ago, and I can see that she truly cares about me and me only.

Thank you user, I need to get a grip and stop these thoughts before I fuck things up.

I went out with a girl for a date where we drank/went to a club and both seemingly had a good time, we even kissed a few times. The next day after I messaged her saying thanks for coming out and she said he had a good time. After that when i'd message her to hang out again she wouldn't even open my messages (and still hasn't a month or so later) even though she is very active on social media. After 2 separate messages I gave up to not look like a desperate beta, so i'm wondering what do you think went wrong? Would it be dumb to contact her again now that time has passed or move on.

Sorry user didn't mean to be that mean.
Yeah; it's just fleeting insecurities; just make sure they stay in your head and you don't do irrational stuff because my sis' boyfriend at the time was a total dickhead with trust issues that would turn it on her.

Work on the jealousy; trust me on this; having no jealousy is a double edged sword; all benefits for you; none for your jealous peers.

My ex is a super jealous person and I'm REALLY not; like it disgusts me the thought of niggas being envious; like lmfao nigga do it yourself it's all possible; and it would make her SEETHE whenever she'd try make me jealous and it was literally like no reaction; like really really funny shit; changed my POV from that breakup being a sad thing to cry over into a joke because she was trying to get at me and I wouldn't let her; her SEETHING at this really helped me. So yeah; I'm petty, but not jealous; there's a lot of schadenfreude that I partake in.

But yeah nah; you're already at that stage where you're with her; don't fuck it up; don't be a creep (you're on Jow Forums; kinda hard to not be); but you got this!!

>thanks for coming out

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Going on my the date with this boy I’m crazy about who I have established is also crazy about me. And I’m crazy nervous. It will have to be in the morning because I have work. Is breakfast/coffee too boring? My friend says breakfast is a morning after activity and now I’m nervous about it. He’s really shy about me so what if we don’t talk the whole time and it’s too awkward? I’m just generally stressing.

I fucked up didn't I? I feel like that might've been cringe but probably not the main reason. Girls are hard mang

idk bud may have worked but it made me laugh anyway since i would never have said that

let them try make the move; they go crazy if you do nothing in my experience.

kek thanks man.
I'll take that advice. It's a tough one because she is higher on the attractiveness scale than I am and logically I can't really see why she'd take the risk of messaging me again when she can hit up other dudes without the awkwardness. Either way i'll move on and try and work on myself

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It's okay, it's good to get told like it is. Maybe by time I will learn that she's always going to be talking to other people, even if I'm the number one in her life. We have already talked about my other insecurities in other context and she assured everything is fine. At least I haven't done anything irreversible, but she has noticed me being sad. I'm going to be more sensible from now on.

>>attractiveness scale
stop thinking like this for the love of god
there's no "scale"
you just got to think of people as people; you can't be looking for these supermodels; you got to think realistic

glad you're taking it like that user; try not to be a giant pussy and you'll do fine; trust me; my first relationships i was a giant pussy and screwed everything up

my main thing is; if they're genuinely important and yous mesh; yous will end up together somehow; idk how i ever picked up girls but i've always ended up somehow with the girls i've liked

>there's no scale
>people are people
>but don't go chasing supermodels now, you got to be realistic you know!

I'll try not to I realise it's counterproductive, but it's sort of true, a lot of girls are more attractive and sought after than their male counterparts. The reason I mention it is because i'm trying to be realistic whether or not i'm wasting my time when better options are potentially fucking her right now.
I agree with this too, some people are objectively higher status whether it be for their looks, money power etc.

>implying joe here with his 70iq and his sweatpants can pull holly here with her basic hygiene

yeah bud be realistic; if you're a loser; you're not going to get laid

if you're chasing pussy; you're probably ugly

if you needed to hear it from me; you may be one of the ugly ones ;)

*incoherent rambling*

>a lot of girls are more attractive and sought after than their male counterparts
umm no
you're putting pussy on the pedestal and you like to sell yourself the idea that you're worth less than a woman and that's why you're not getting laid

>>>>>waaaaaaaah someone said i chase pussy cause i'm ugly
feewings hurt?

>a lot of girls are more attractive and sought after than their male counterparts
it's true. demand for women, especially attractive ones is just higher since men are meant to chase and we are hornier and more assertive

>you're putting pussy on the pedestal
This is also true and the main issue. I know i'm not worth less than her, so do you think I should just stop caring and move on in your opinion?

>and I'm starting to get worried he's not happy about it
He's not. It's so fucking annoying when you girls do stuff like this. If you want a climax then take charge of it and give him some actionable instructions. If you can't do that, the stfu and don't bother him with this nonsense anymore. I pity your bf.

Like stop ruining 5 months of sex streessing him out for no reason. You'd THINK after FIVE MONTHS that hmmm maybe this isn't working. At some point, all reasonable people are able to recognize when they failed. You failed. Stop and do something different.

>I feel like he may leave me because of it
He will. I would. Do you know how many available girls are out there younger and more beautiful than you? Guess what, THEY ARE ACTUALLY SATISFIABLE. Why should your bf settle for less because you rather be lazy and dumb?

> he seems to be frustrated with the situation.
No shit.
I hope I lit a spark between the two braincells in your head.

Woman are masters of the spiritual realm and it's important to listen to them.

go to the wedding
girls are everywhere in life. One wedding is not responsible for your celibacy

for attention and to play with you. Like cats play with dead rats, they do it for no reason. The fact it's gotten to you means they already won. Stop looking uncomfortable, or whatever you're doing and they'll stop.

You were in this thread before. I think I remember you. Lol you are hopeless. I almost want to platonically cuddle you and watch a series to make you feel better.

Don't converse over text. It's like drip-feeding them attention and it's pathetic

Honesty is the best policy. Even your very question is manipulation. Try to find honesty in life.

You just need experience. It's all part of the game; I was the same was when I was like you.

cool story bro

It means you blew it.

bc ur jelus m8
idk mayb ask her out r sumthn

>try not to be a giant pussy and you'll do fine; trust me; my first relationships i was a giant pussy and screwed everything up

Oh yes. I try to "man up" the best I can, or actually just do what I used to do to and be myself, the guy who she fell for in the first place. I think it's good to be open about feelings and insecurities, she's been very supportive with me so far, but from now on I'll try not to strain her by being a pussy.

okay;
I don't know this girl
I don't know how your "attractiveness" scales
I don't really know context and I DEFINITELY cannot give you a definitive answer whether you ditch this girl or not
but ask yourself two questions about this relationship

A) do you even mesh together? like realistically; if yous were in a relationship; what would it be like; like I'm not talking about the sexual shit; but like would yous even be compatible?
B) do you have a bad case of the oneitis? because oneitis is really bad especially when the other girl doesn't seem to notice it.

just text her as a friend; let it develop and snowball rather than this thing where you aim to bang them because it's not a goal; if it was a goal; any hole would be it, but it's not; so you got to see if you're actually friends with her; do yous have similar interests; idk man this one you got to think out yourself; you know the context, not me.

Honesty is the best policy. Wear your heart on your sleeve.

You're trying to control all the variables to get what you want (called manipulation). Yeah don't. Just be yourself and honest.

>What could I be doing to cause this?
Obviously something unattractive. How am I supposed to know?

>I'm not sure if my jealous feelings are reasonable.
They're your feelings. Why are you putting yourself underneath normie standards?

Look if you feel it, then live it, it's your reality. Your life. You feel like she's going too far? Then she's going to far. There is nothing else to measure. The thermometer is YOU not outside of you. I hope that triggers a sequence of thought and you understand...

>we even kissed a few times.
So cute when I read stuff like this lol
It's like you're saying
YEAH MAN;; LIKE, IT'S GOING GOOD I THINK MAYBE
LIKE OUR SKIN ON OUR FACE TOUCHED AN ALL
THAT MUST BE A GOOD SIGN RIGHT?
AM I GONNA GET WHAT I WANT NOW?

That's a great date. I had some amazing morning dates. You'll be fine.

If he's super into you too, then everything will go well. You'll both leave probably feeling insecure and wondering if you like each other, but that's funny in like 3 years when/if you guys become best friends. It's part of the experience, so enjoy it and savor the moment and awkward feelings. It only happens like this once.

As for the nervousness. Easy. Just blend it with desire. Fear+desire=excitement. Let yourself be excited and love the future. The future is always slowly coming your way... It's SO good when this conveyor belt of time has something nice sitting on it! So let yourself be excited.

And for the awkwardness, just ask about him, be a good listener. Don't try to "talk your way out of awkward moments" because that only makes them more awkward. Ask questions instead, personal questions. Fun questions. Get to know him. It's easy for him to talk about himself.

I'm not saying always go balls to the wall "macho mano"; I'm just saying; a lot of the time indifference and a lack of initiative, mixed with an anxious, paranoid mind can badly screw your relationships up; don't be like that; trust your partner, stop thinking so lowly of yourself that she'd be willing to ditch you at the drop of a pin; you got it under control.

It's very good to be open; trust me I'm never gonna be the guy that says "be stoic till the point you're bursting" cause we all know that's no good to bottle shit up; we're men; doesn't mean we don't cry or break down or have our bad days; it's not effeminate to have these things happen; it's part of what makes us tick.

The main reason I knew my last relationship was dying was the fact that I realized in a year and a half; I had opened up to her once. This was not me hiding my core but realizing I could not feel comfortable with the idea of opening up to her, and I know this sounds like I'm putting the blame on her but it was a bad reaction on her behalf one day when I was venting about something mundane that threw me off and it made me realize how little she and I mesh together, like she didn't like most of my interests bar a similar music taste and an interest in film, I was her support and good at it but she was no good for me.

Stay comfortable with your girlfriend and keep that open dialogue about; it's nicer having a relationship with it than one with a shaky one; cause atleast then you can say something to your partner regardless of how gay it may seem, how much of a pussy you feel about it; it's completely okay

Just man up about your inner insecurities; everything else you don't need to man up on; can't change everything about ourselves :)

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Thanks really appreciate the advice, wasn't expecting a full analysis since I gave limited context but that's a good general guide.

Not a case of oneitis for me, i'm actually just playing the field again after taking some time from a relationship with a girl that had NPD/HPD. I just happened to particularly like this date with this girl over others, but I can see how you'd think i'd oneitis her like most dudes here. I liked your idea about just chatting as a friend and letting it snowball, but my worry is would it be awkward and pushy to initiate contact again after receiving no response the first two times? As in, is it irreparable if someone cuts contact randomly. Thanks again

>AM I GONNA GET WHAT I WANT NOW?
Huh? I just wanted to gain insight why she ghosted me after a decent first date, I'm not trying to rape her

seeing my gf this morning for the first time in two weeks lol

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Does anyone else agree that not girls but boys are actuslly the ones being coddled growing up? Like in general, when girls cry they are told they are too emotional, when boys cry their mother runs to coddle them, and then their dad brings them to habe a fun day together. When they get into trouble it's always "that's how boys are" but for girls it's always a huge deal and entirely her fault.

I need to relate to someone about this because all I ever saw were siblings with boys getting away with horrible shit and girls were treated very strictly and critically by both male and female family members and communities. Seriously anyone can relate?

>when boys cry their mother runs to coddle them, and then their dad brings them to habe a fun day together
I think most guys here would object and add that their fathers beat or bullied the shit out of them for crying because it's for girls. The boys will be boys thing is sorta true though. Really depends on your parents' personalities and parenting style

90% of the men here is literally oneitis-ridden

trust me the letting it snowball works best; seriously; except when they end up being your best friend and you sleep with them; weird one

Okay. GIRLS? I'm doing some research.
If you consume porn, can you explain any substantial differences between porn that appeals to women and porn "for men", assuming there's a difference? Everything from how the models look to the type of camera shots matters. Are there any things that you dislike about the usual men-targeted porn, anything you would like to emphasize or change?
Do you look at drawn porn too? What are the most common fetishes you look for? If you're straight, do you like lesbian?

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Yes, I understand. I'm always too worried to open up too much and also worried about shutting up too much. There has to be a way for me to find that find that fine line between being reasonably emotional, I guess I already know that line but I keep slipping.

The idea of her just dropping me for some other guy just like that seems very unlikely when I think about it logically, but in my worst waves of anxiety it feels like the worst thing she could do to me and with anxiety it's easy to think the worst of people. I know she's not like that, but when that anxiety comes creeping the worst case scenarios seem like the most likely scenarios.

This is good stuff. I'm glad I posted here and got some new perspective on things. She likes me a lot, most definitely even loves me, and I want to be worthy of her love. She's my first and only gf and I'm planning to hold on to her, so I better just chill and let the love happen.

If theres one thing i've learned by comparing american culture with brits, its that you guys have ten-fold the empathy of the average american. The average american kid is often either so cut off from society due to media and technology and has learned that empathy is basically acting like you don't care about others and then always message them to hang out or do something. Essentially, people in America always want the benefits of being in a relationship or friendship without the work of keeping it functional.

>I just wanted to gain insight why she ghosted me
I'll do you something better. Because lucky for you -- I am JUST bored enough.

>I went out with a girl for a date where we drank/went to a club
k
> and both seemingly had a good time
Why say this. Either you had a good time or didn't. Does't matter how it seems. Even bad dates seem great.
>, we even kissed a few times.
oh boy oh boy oh boy THAT MUST BE A GOOD SIGN HUH LOL
>The next day after I messaged her saying thanks for coming out
like an autist
>and she said he had a good time.
Translated into autist, it means "fuck you too"
>After that when i'd message her to hang out again
Omg that creep I went out with just doesn't get the hint. What should I do?
Just ignore him and move on, it's over...
Ok, good idea
>she wouldn't even open my messages
NO SHIT.
>(and still hasn't a month or so later)
a million wuts

I can't decide if this line, or the line about kissing her is my favorite part of your post.
>even though she is very active on social media.
yeahhhhhh
um.
That kinda
means like
SHE'S NOT INTERESTED IN YOU
and the reason is overwhelmingly because probably
THE DATE SUCKED
further because
YOU FUCKED UP
>After 2 separate messages I gave up
glad it only took you two, I guess reality is starting to set in. Better late then never I guess.
> to not look like a desperate beta,
Too late for that, my autistic friend!
>so i'm wondering what do you think went wrong?
idk lol
olololololololol
>Would it be dumb to contact her again
yes
> now that time has passed or move on.
double yes

Better luck with your next date!

Serious advice, try to get into other people's heads more, feel their feelings, see what they're thinking, learn about them, take interest. Leave your own head and your own desires. You obviously are too focused on acquiring a girl like you'd acquire an object. Just doesn't work like that, they're human. Focus less on getting laid and "getting a girlfriend" and more on just enjoying the person.