My husband hates me. I'm not overexaggerating and I don't have low self-esteem; I can just tell when someone hates me, and he does. He sequesters himself in whatever room I'm not in, we don't talk, and we definitely don't have sex.
It's a devastating feeling, but what's worse is being in limbo. I've tried asking him what he'd like me to do differently, and he always either flat-out ignores me, leaves the room, or asks me to leave him alone. I ask if he wants to just call it quits, and he just rolls his eyes as if this is a stupid thing to suggest.
To clarify, I don't want him to leave, but I hate feeling like I'm holding someone hostage. We're one of those couples that has been together since high school, and I think he just resents me at this point.
Has anyone been in this situation before? How did it shake out? What am I supposed to do?
Rape him. Drug him and then rape him. Don't ask me about it, don't think about it, just do it.
Jack Lopez
if he refuses to talk about it, hes not leaving you with many options. sounds like he is a coward, and is playing the "wait for her to end it so i dont have to be the bad guy" game with you
Brandon Perez
Sound like he's really angry. How long have you been married and how long has he been behaving like this? And why do you think he resents you?
David Evans
I've heard a single experience of doing MDMA together can do more to fix a failing marriage than years of marriage counseling. I'm not advising you to break the law though - possession and use of MDMA is legal in many countries(I believe Portugal is one such country).
Lincoln Long
He's waiting for you to break up with him so he won't take the blame
Certified narcissist right there. That behavior is extremely abusive, ignoring you in that matter constantly when you are trying to be an adult and talk is childish and abusive. I would be very concerned if you have been with him less than years because if that's the case then you haven't even seen the beginning of what he's capable of. He might be a evil sociopath who unironically gets huge pleasure and thrills from making you miserable.
Hudson Flores
You got issues dude. You immediately saw this very very short post and assumed it as fact he's a narcissist.
Colton Young
people round here are dumb. check my posts for quality advice
As a resentful spouse, this is what I'd be asking as well. What is going wrong that would make him angry and resentful? It may not even be something that you've done.
Lucas Perry
have sex
Brandon Cooper
This and This.
Break up with him, there are people who'd aapreciate you more. Besides maybe after you leave he will realize what he has lost.
Angel Stewart
Sounds like a solid divorce case op - he's broken.
Kevin Bailey
With inability of denial, I will affirm that you are in an abusive relationship. Less intelligent people are not to be argued with, not to be reasoned with as they lack all ability to comprehend.
I can understand that you want to be with him and that he means much to you, but I can garantuee you that you are deserving of much better. You can defenetly do better than this.
When you stumble upon people like this, know that they don't want you. They just want you to call it for them. It's their arrogance and narcisism in their nature that makes them think so highly of themselves that they are not even willing to participate in the conversation. The longer you let this go, the more devastated you will be in the end. That is my take from experience
Aiden Hill
You just spent 4 paragraphs telling us that someone hates you, but nothing as to why.
My gut tells me you are being bad to him, making it impossible for him to speak freely, and lay out too many traps. Now you're manipulating him into breaking up with you and coming to Jow Forums to spread you lies and in turn receive the falsely-derived validation you need to leave him and blame him, so that you can get everything you want, hurting everyone along the way, but still convince yourself that you are innocent.
Of course it's further evident in the way you ask for advice. "ohh what am I supposed to do?" rather than caring about him or actually fixing things. There is no desire to solve.
I really try to be nice when I post to this board. But when I see posts like yours, I am 99% sure you are an awful person and hurt your husband a lot over a long time. I can just tell because your lies are so simple to me.
Do what you want OP. Hurt your husband, leave him and gaslight him, tell yourself it's all his fault and you're completely innocent. And fool everyone you meet on Jow Forums and IRL along the way because you're surrounded by people who can't see over your lies. It means nothing to me personally.
Just breaks my heart that this world is so dark. I wish people were better. I need to surround myself around better people.
Logan Sanders
retard
Carter King
This
Christopher Powell
retard
Luis Murphy
Not this
Lincoln Brown
Well, if she knew why he hated her, it probably would not have been a problem as described. If she really did knew she could have dealt with the problem quicker. She could have improved herself based on her critcism. But the problem here seems to be that she does not know the reason why he hates her. But whatever that problem is that he has with her, it is completely the wrong attitude to aproach the problem with
Brody Flores
Yes this
Caleb Foster
No, not this
Asher Ross
This. I witnessed the exact same thing with my parents.
Kayden Baker
Could be, but you're assuming a hell of a lot to come to that conclusion, which really says a hell of a lot more about your problems than it does about OP's. I hope you get healthier PB. You're trapped in a vicious circle of bad thinking and you're certainly not someone anyone should be taking advice from.
FPBP Do this. Make sure you tie him down so you can force answers out of him once you're done pleasing yourself.
Robert Jackson
If you are really not doing anything to cause this, he has probably fallen out of love with you and wants a divorce. But men rarely want to divorce because of a sense of duty and a fear that they csnt do better or you will take him to the cleaners.
He's going to just keep doing this until you are so miserable that you force him to divorce, absolving him of guilt.
I'm sorry you are going through this user. I'm watching this start with a female friend of mine. She doesnt know I can see it. Her husband ignores all her negative feelings and blames her for problems he creates. The other day she almost cried because she fucked up a cup of microwave noodles. She's hiding so much sadness.
I just want to give her a big hug but I cant because he's jealous of me and the money I make. I wish he'd set her free. She's trying to have a second baby to fix him. It will just make it worse. It's going to get so much worse.
Easton King
How fat are you?
Aaron Lewis
what does he do for a living? perhaps he's too stressed?
Owen Green
i've seen many times that exact same thing you are describing both over the internet and irl, so i took that as a first option however, i've seen the exact same thing she's describing as well, many times; you would be surprised how many men are really fucking femenine mentally and do this kind of shit i'm sorry, but as i always say: this can't be helped without the complete context, and that means getting to know the partner's version
but it doesn't matter what the case is, in this situations it's for the best of both to separate and if you have kids it's going to fuck 'em up real good so be prepared to get calls from your kid's school and send him to a psychologist every tuesday
but your happiness comes first, right?
Tyler Edwards
that was exactly my first thought this was my second one, seriously 95% of marriage problems can be solved that way
i really hope you are a spoiled autistic teen projecting his attitudes, but if you are not then holy fucking shit man kill yourself thank god i'm not your dad
Lucas Lee
Well just tell him that the current situation is not ok and he needs to tell you why he is feeling the way he is since your married so you can fix it. And if you think he got the message and still doesn't open up file for divorce.
