What's the point of relationships early on in life?

Like I'm in my first one and I don't get it, am I just gonna lie to this girl that we'll be forever together and that we're gonna marry and then when we break up ( because we're still late teens, we know fuck all about life ) that all goes away and we hate each other?

So you get into another relationship and lie again? I don't like lying I feel terrible about it but I have to talk like that because the girls does too. What's the point?

Is the point of all of it to experience love? How do I know I truly love someone and not just think it? How do I know I'm experiencing love? Is the feeling of true love worth it?

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How do I get the most out of it

To learn what you want in a partner. Eventually you realise that you have to compromise with some flaws in one person, become polyamorous and realize that a lot of people have really good parts and really bad parts, or just reject love entirely because persuing a "perfect" partner is a pipe dream.

I don't want a perfect partner, I just hate lying and I don't see it, I don't want to get married and have children with the first girlfriend I ever had, that seems depressing to think about for someone my age.

It's not a lie if you mean it for the time being. You more so need to understand that sometimes people in love do grow apart and relationships can become overburdening or unbeneficial. This is how you will start to form your boundaries and expectations, with broken promises and even tears.

Oh and anyone's feelings can change at given intervals, especially around traumatic times.

I don't wanna hurt her or anyone but I know for a fact I won't be comfortable with accepting that my girlfriend is the one I'll spend the rest of my life with for like the next 8 years or so.

It's just weird, not that I'm much of a player, no, this is my absolute first girlfriend or even positive female interaction. But like, I'm someone whos' biggest enemy is boredom and monotony, I can't accept it yet

Yeah, I get that.

It sounds like you would prefer to keep experiencing the dating enviornment. I had those kinds of feelings before I discovered polyamory was a real thing. I just couldn't put a name to it nor embrace it fully due to circumstances. I get that way with a lot of different subjects besides romance as well.

I'm 100% against doing polygamy myself, I just don't like.
Yeah I feel like this about a lot of stuff

Wow. You think the "lying part" is about marriage. I envy you, I really do.

For you it's easy sex, for her it's easy companionship and attention.
Love is just something made up to sell you expensive rings and mortgages

Then maybe you should just sit on those feelings if you don't want to act, don't want to be single, and don't want to play.
Also, gamies are multi marriages, and mostly illegal, amories are just relationships. What does marriage mean to you?

Well at least I do like her for now and she's the kind of person who doesn't want to be bought gifts or anything really so I'm riding pretty cheaply
No sex yet tho, both of us are virgins.

Marriage to me is the moment in your life when you practically throw away half of your freedom and start to realize that your life is not going to be wild anymore like it once was, now it's time to raise a kid who's going to experience all of that. You're not the main focus of your life anymore, the main character narrative shifts.

>Marriage to me is the moment in your life when you practically throw away half of your freedom and start to realize that your life is not going to be wild anymore like it once was, now it's time to raise a kid who's going to experience all of that. You're not the main focus of your life anymore, the main character narrative shifts.


Are you going to marry soon?

Not in the next 10 years at least, but having someone constantly tell you "oh we're gonna marry" and stuff is just tiring.

That doesn't seem like something you're actually happy about. Are you sure you want to remain monogamous and continue with getting married? What parts of that are beneficial to you?

I think it's a cultural thing: in some regions, people assume they're just going to marry after a couple dates. It always depends on the person, of course.

I just don't feel like polygamy has the same weight to it as monogamy. Like you love your partner more in monogamy, like it's more serious or something.
I'm 100% sure I'll never try it.

We've been together for 3 months. Maybe it's just the teenage foolishness? She just keeps talking about the future like that.
I really do love her but as of right now I do not want to spend the rest of my life with her, no matter how perfect she may be or who she is.

Ehm, 3 months? Teenage foolishness?


How old are you ? Just to be clear

Why? Because quantitatively you would rather spend your time on one person more? How often do you see friends and family?
What qualifies love as being more? Is your love language quality time?

me 19 her 18

Well I don't know man it's just my beliefs and I do stand strong behind them, you do you but I don't like the idea of it. Even then I hardly got even this one girl who am I kidding wanting more

As I said, it's cultural. Some people want to marry at your age. Some people don't. Depends on people and on place of origin.

I'm just saying if it's your belief, you probably shouldn't be blind about them.
Take your time to come to your own conclusions.