Wtf

He has feelings for you, but he doesn’t want to have feelings for anyone. At the same time, he craves intimacy, but he’s afraid. Is he going through something emotionally difficult, like the loss of a parent or something?

What do you want from him? You agreed to casual sex, got it, now it's over.

You got everything you asked for, exactly what you asked for, and now it's ended and you feel bad?

So really all you need to ask yourself, is what do you really want?
Because when you think about it, this is not what you really wanted, only what you asked for. So figure out what you really want and next time ask exactly for that.

he very strongly doesnt want a serious relationship. i also dont want one, but he def feels stronger about it than i do.

we had an arrangement where we were casually dating each other, and i really liked it and wanted it to continue. it was never meant to be a one time thing, and i feel he ended it prematurely. im hurt that he wants to pursue that with other girls instead despite constantly telling me how special i was to him and how rare our connection was.

he isnt going through anything at the moment (hes very open and vulnerable with me so he wouldnt hide it if he was). however, he has struggled with depression before (is on meds) and been burned by a couple of bad relationships in the past few years.

try to seduce him to a point he doesn't want to go out with other girls anymore? no idea if this is possible, but I guess you could try finding a way.

i dunno...when we were going out he repeatedly told me i was unlike any girl he'd ever met before. i dont get why he'd friendzone someone he felt that way about. im just so confused.

>i feel he ended it prematurely.
>im hurt
If it was casual, you wouldn't feel this.

Do you know what the word casual means? You are calling it casual, then acting like it's serious.

Your words/feelings/actions are not in alignment.

So like I said in my last post - get your head straight first. After then, and only after, will your next steps be easier.

>telling me how special i was to him and how rare our connection was.
And you told him you wanted casual. You broke HIS heart. He probably spent those weeks with you secretly trying to fall out of love with you, because he was afraid he wanted more than you did. It's a very real possibility and would explain his actions.

In any case my advice is the same OP --- thoughts/words/emotions in alignment. Stop saying one thing, doing another, and feeling another. You'll end up in a hole if you keep this up.

you're right...i guess im just afraid to tell him how i feel. im worried ill scare him away, and that would suck because even though this is all very painful id rather have him in my life than not in it. we have a ton of fun when we hang out and have such a great connection it feels like a waste :(

try not being a degenerate then

Your just one of many holes OP. Try having some goddam self respect you fucking degenerate.

I understand completely. I'd feel the same way too

hard as it may be, you should let him know your true feelings. I can guarantee if you don't you'll regret it later in life.