How to avoid being hated in the workplace

I’ll start this by saying that no, I can’t just confront whoever started this because due to he-told-her-to-tell-me-to-tell-you -chains, I don’t even know who it is who’s talking shit about me. Regardless, the people don’t like me at my job.

I couldn’t make it into university. Whether that is due to mental illness, a lack of intellect or simply my personal failures as a piece of shit human being who does not deserve joy or happiness is largely irrelevant here. Regardless I still come from a background where that sort of thing was expected, my parents met in university, there are doctors and lawyers in the family, ”what do you want to be when you grow up” has always meant ”which path are you planning to take to success?”

I don’t spend my days moaning, whining and lamenting some glorious future that Could Have Been, that was not the path for me and no amount of bitter grief would change that.

So I work in a factory. I make OK money, I do my job and mind own my business, and work on my personal projects during my breaks, only talking to people if I’m spoken to, but I’ll be polite if I do. Plenty of people that I could swear I’ve never spoken to know me by name.

And apparently people really don’t like me. Saying that I’m pretentious, always pretending to be something better than everybody else, and being theatrical in pretending that my job is way harder than it really is.

There is *one* task I don’t properly know how to do and I’ve repeatedly asked the shift managers to either have someone instruct me how to do it or not make me do it. Being set up to a task I don’t know how to do and no instructions of how to do it is psychological torture, and it’s not in any way reasonable to expect me to know how to do it, do it instantly, correctly and without crying.

That is the only unamiable thing I’ve ever done in the workplace. I don’t know what else I could have done to be so disliked.

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>only talking to people if I’m spoken to
Big mistake. It's something that people who are introverted and aloof often do. At best it comes across as closed off, at worst as really unfriendly

Don't change anything you're doing. Just make sure you're working smiling. People who have no real fulfillment in their life will always try to stir shit up at work. (ie saying people don't like you to see if they can get a reaction out of you)

Just work happy, say hello be polite and never give a fuck about what other people say or think unless it's your boss.

I don’t know how friendly I can be if I start talking with people I have no interest in talking to. I’m not good at feigning interest and initiating a conversation just to be disinterested sounds really rude.

I do say my good mornings and all, I just don’t want to spend my precious 15 minute sharp coffee break listening to some girl going on about something boring her toddler said.

Nobody smiles while working in a factory, putting together shipment orders isn’t that fun.

The matter is, otherwise this wouldn’t matter, bur I’ve had my fair share of being bullied as a kid, and people capable of being malicious can and will find ways to be actively harmful, though I don’t know how they’d find a way to sabotage my work in a way they wouldn’t be caught.

I’m not naive enough to assume there is none, though.

>I don’t know how friendly I can be if I start talking with people I have no interest in talking to.
See that's the elephant in the room. You couldn't give a flying fuck and they notice. That's what gets you in trouble

Well, how am I supposed to be interested in the mundane lives of people I don’t care about?

If I’ve spent the past 5 hours of my workday looking forward to my glorious whole uninterrupted 30 minutes with my precious book and instead have to spend it listening to some boring fucker telling me about how his ex’s friend posted a picture of kebab on her facebook feed (I am not joking, this situation literally happened), I am not going to be thrilled and delighted about it.

People usually don’t like other people for reason, maybe you deserve what’s happening because of your past behavior. The guy everyone dislikes at work is usually so filled with energy and opinions that go nowhere, they go fast instead of pay attention to their job. So mistakes are more likely and that makes a hostile work environment when the boss is pissed at them.

You don’t matter so let’s get that out of the way at the top. So for you to think you’re too lazy for having empathy, give up trying to fit in because you’ll always be “that guy” people don’t want to be around.

I’m the opposite of a hyperactive mistake-maker. I’ve had bosses and managers admit that while I might not be as fast as many others, I *never* make mistakes, either.

That is why I freeze when given a job I don’t know how to do. I don’t know how to do it, and I don’t just run around doing the wrong thing if I don’t know how to do the right thing.

They just need to learn to mind their own business.