While I'm still skeptical about the connection between starting early and becoming promiscuous later in life, I'm adamant that promiscuity bring naught but short term enjoyment and tears in the long run
Is pair bonding possible if one partner has had lost of sexual partners and one very little?
Jeremiah Walker
Lucas Lopez
>I'm adamant that promiscuity bring naught but short term enjoyment and tears in the long run
You're getting it backwards again. Sexual compulsive behavior doesn't cause emotional issues. Emotional issues cause sexual compulsive behavior. High risk behavior doesn't damage people. They engage in it because they were already damaged, user.
Sebastian Barnes
>High risk behavior doesn't damage people. They engage in it because they were already damaged, user.
>Implying this doesn't cause the first problem to snowball into bigger ones, resulting in more promiscuity to evade them, repeating the vicious cycle furthermore
Grayson Green
>Implying this doesn't cause the first problem to snowball
If you want me to clarify then just ask but there is no need to put words in my mouth and strawman my position. I'm not claiming that compulsive behaviors can't compound a person's issues. What I'm saying is that compulsive behaviors don't create the kinds of emotional/psychiatric dysfunctions that cause compulsive behaviors. A person who was raised with a good, loving relationship with their parents and a healthy sense of self-esteem isn't likely to suddenly turn into a sexual compulsive because they slept with a couple people in college, the same way a person who has no family history of alcoholism is not likely to become a full fledged drunk simply because they had a bit too much to drink a couple weekends. Some people are prone to these types of behaviors and some aren't. My base assertion is that allowing yourself to participate in high risk behavior merely worsens a problem that was already there - it doesn't create it.
>resulting in more promiscuity to evade them
Another oversimplified assumption. Sure, this can happen, but people are also "promiscuous" (whatever your definition of that is) for a wild array of reasons. Not everybody who experiences periods of sexually compulsive behavior do it for the exact same reason. Addictive behaviors can and frequently do spiral out of control but you're working on the assumption that all manner of sexual compulsion is based on the foundation of addictive pathology. It isn't. As I said in my original post, every person is different. To solve the puzzle of an individual's relationship with sex or intimacy you need to address it individually, not through assumptions and generalizations.
Adrian Roberts
In any case, promiscuity, whatever it's causes may be, only causes further problems down the line, on top of what may have caused it, and is a vicious cycle
James Morgan
>Human relationships are infinitely complicated and cannot be quantified in graphs and charts
Cope.
Newsflash: you are Not as special as you think and your behaviours can be categorized and graphed just like anyone else's
David Kelly
The correlation between number of previous sexual partners and likelihood of divorce within 5 years is just that, a correlation. A long sexual history deserves scrutiny; you need to figure out why it happened and whether or not you're really The One or just another imminent ex. But 20+ year marriages still do happen and not just with virgins.
Evan Flores
Jayden James
kill yourself you projecting sperg
Hunter Cox
Again, far too generalized, far too vague. What do you think qualifies as "promiscuity"? Do you make any distinction between high risk sexual behavior like unprotected and anonymous sex or behaviors such as serial monogamy or hyper sexuality within the boundaries of monogamous relationship? It seems as though you've lumped promiscuity into this one-size-fits-all category that just generalizes people. You say things like "problems" and "vicious cycle" yet you're unable to categorize, define or articulate exactly what any of that means and in what context. Your analysis cannot be regardless of causes, user. You can't dismiss them as "whatever they may be" because sexual compulsion, high risk sexual behavior and hyper sexuality have completely different psychological profiles and impact people in many different ways depending on their developmental and psychiatric histories. It really seems as though you aren't very educated in the topic you're discussing.
>you are Not as special as you think and your behaviours can be categorized and graphed just like anyone else's
Anything can be categorized and graphed, user. Nobody is saying that human behavior doesn't have elements which can be quantified. What the base assertion is believing that looking at a graph gives you a full understanding of human behavior and its causes and effects is an illogical and infantile mindset. You can look at a graph that charts my sexual behavior, its frequency and number of partners but what the chart can't tell you is how this behavior fits into the picture of my overall health and psychology. Like I've been saying since the beginning - human behavior is complicated. Very complicated. The most complicated part of it is that people change, drastically, sometimes slowly over time and sometimes without warning. It has nothing to do with thinking you're special.