How can I get my girlfriend to be more kinky?

I have an amazing and loyal girlfriend who I got when she was a young virgin and we have great vanilla sex, usually with lots of orgasms, but I can't help but feel a bit unsatisfied after as it's basically the same thing every time. Personally I like a lot of naughtiness and pain-related stuff, she's mildly into it under specific circumstances but she doesn't usually seem to enjoy it and is against doing anything beyond pretty mild and mostly symbolic kinky stuff (like being tied up in a way she can still easily escape, to give you an idea). This is not a dealbreaker for me and I want to marry this girl even if the sex is boring but I think I'd feel neglected and would end up watching a lot of porn to make up for it.

I've vaguely tried to talk to her about this and she clearly wants me to be happy but gets weirded out by any specific suggestions. I'm sure that over the course of years she'll want to try some more stuff but I want her to be open and adventurous sooner rather than later, what's a good way to go about opening her up to kinkier stuff? More importantly, how do I help her enjoy it?

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Don't open the Pandora box, you will regret it, get hurt, lose her etc

If you make your girl into a whore she will start fucking around. Why don't you focus on making yourself less of a degenerate?

We're talking about totally monogamous, safe, and caring adult fun here. The stuff I'm into isn't thatttt weird anyway, it would be considered pretty tame by people that are really into bdsm stuff.

Don't fill that poor girl's head with your bullshit and potentially mess them up for life. Just find someone else as fucked up as you how hard is that?

We love each other and she is naturally sexually adventurous and will try most things one time, she just has trouble chilling out and getting into it without getting stressed. Pretty much all older couples with healthy sex lives are a little kinky anyway, missionary sex with no spice gets really boring after a while.

The moment you wake up her inner whore, she will start to thnik about swinging, other men juicy dicks and stuff.
You want to keep that asleep, trust me.

You've clearly either fired your brain with decades of porn, you don't actually love them or you could be a sociopath
What I'm saying is they're not like you. Just like some people want to save sex for marriage you have to respect it

This guy knows it.
OP, that road is just gonna lead you down to wishing you had never done that.

Be greatful for what you have OP. Many people don't even get as far as you have so dont try to push it if she's not into it.

But one thing that you could do is ask her directly:

>I would really like to try this kink, would you be into that?

And also try to make her comfortable by having a safe word or some kind of way out in case things would go out of hand

Enjoy what you already have and don't be a person constantly looking for change. It is much preferable to have a stable and steady relationship than to constantly change romantic partners and have nothing.

Reasonable
I sort of agree, I'm definitely intent on sticking with this gf but people change all the time and other people influence that change so I think it's healthy to want to moderately try to encourage her to adapt to my needs, she's changed a lot since a first met her.

Everyone else here is a deranged incel and doesn't deserve any (you)s.

It's obvious you're not a wise man and you will cause your own downfall.
Some men here have seen a lot and tamed themselves with time, sure we used to be like you, and we fell and we're just trying to share our knowledge with you so you don't have to experience it first hand like us. The youngs should sometime listen to the old ones. We're just trying to prevent you from hurting yourself because you're story has happened times and times again and we all know the outcome for many of us have experienced it.

Lol so you just turned 15?

Not that guy but this inflexibility of yours is probably what'll cause your relationship to fail

>adapt to my needs
The things that you truly need are very few and easy to find, but the things that you can imagine you need are infinite.

Yeah it's kind of a figure of speech, I don't need to feel sexually satisfied but if I don't it won't be fun.
You guys are the inflexible ones, I already explained that I want to be gentle about it and I wouldn't end the relationship if she said no but you prefer to pretend I didn't so you can give me the same advice you give retards. We have a healthy relationship and I'm usually very flexible with her, it takes me a while to decide something like this is worth making an issue of and even then I'm pretty delicate.

My suggestion is to start small. Don't immediately go, "Hey I want to gag you, hang you from the ceiling and take you forcefully from behind", just start with small stuff. Maybe try a blindfold, or pick out a toy together if you haven't already. Once she's realized that it's OK to just let loose and have fun, she might actually start to suggest things she'd like to try.

Well she's already cool with blindfolds and that sort of thing (in theory, often she will decide she doesn't want to bother) but I want her to be more active, do some kinky stuff back to me and seem like she's actually into it.

"who I got when she was a young virgin" first of all, you didn't "got" anything, she wasn't a birthday present, she chose you, for some strange reason.
"usually with lots of orgasms" are you sure about this mate? odds are your shooting in 4 minutes and she's constantly unsatisfied. Instead of trying to make her go for what you want, why don't you see what the fuck she wants, or if she's even enjoying anything your doing.
and not for nothing, but this also completely sounds like bullshit.

Literally nothing but dumb assumptions

Ugh I totally feel you user

If that bitch don't suck your dick spinning from a fan on the ceiling after doing cocaine off your dick she's a boring piece of shit and not marriage material.

Watch mildly kinky porn together and ask if anything there interests her

heres some questions.

do you want to make her your wife?

do you think respect is inportant in a relationship?

if you answered yes to those try to not get kinky, its a fucking trap.

Ur a dum dum, lots of women like being kinky and being kinky with them is respectful

Faggot loser detected.

I’m open to doing plenty of weird degrading shit with someone I trust and love... as long as I know it goes both ways. Sure, you can tie me up and cum on my face, but will you let me put a leash on you and bark for me? Lots of kinky shit is ridiculous and embarrassing, so it needs to be a two-way street.

I don’t know either of you, so it’s hard to say, but it can actually be a pretty good method to bond with someone. If you come at it with the perspective of exploring and being vulnerable together, she might be more open to it.

Lots of women are kinky? No. Some are, not that many.

I did this, I lost her to someone more ugly than me, then she left him for her best friends fiancé

What a pile of gay incels. Have sex already.

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