Advice, my long term gf has been acting shady, she hides the fact that she has a kik, and seems to live dual lives. One with me, and one without me. She has an obsession with sexting with strangers on the internet. We tried to open the relationship up once, but I wasnt a fan and asked her to stop. But I dont know if she stopped, talking to the person or has gone through great lengths to lead me to believe it. I think she deletes kik when I'm home, and downloads it when I'm away for work (I travel). How do I broach the subject, and what would you do?
Gf is shady
Thomas Brown
Jaxson Cook
I've given this girl my whole life, and based every decision I've ever made around her happiness. We have substantial financial and social dependence, which complicates things, I think.
Parker Adams
You already distrust her. The relationship is over.
>I've given this girl my whole life, and based every decision I've ever made around her happiness.
This is worse than your initial inquiry by far. Make moves to become financially independent from her, and then leave. Don't ever live your life for someone to this extent unless they're your children. I guarantee you she is bored because of how much you put her on a pedestal.
Nicholas Perez
Relationship isnt over tho. That's only how things work on the internet.
Cameron Sanchez
I'm not particularly unhappy with the relationship, and I dont think she is either, but maybe that's me being fucking retarded.
Dominic Lopez
Don't be stupid.
All the more reason to become financially independent.
Brandon Robinson
How do you know she has a Kik? How do you know she's obsessed with sexting strangers?
Jason Bell
>We have substantial financial and social dependence
The only reason she is still pretending is because of the social and financial entanglements, otherwise she lives her life as an available woman.
I think you are afraid to have the discussion because she may tell you she's fucking other men and then you will know for certain and forced to live with it knowing.
Dominic Harris
Does that really matter? He let her fuck around already when they (she) opened the relationship. It was over then
Lincoln Reed
We don't know if she just talked to people online or if she went out and got DPed by total strangers. We don't know if she even did anything when the relationship was open. We can assume she did and very likely be right, but we don't know. Either way I think OP is doomed because either she's fucking around or his insecurities are gonna lead to her fucking around. Either way he needs to establish financial independence and start building a clean way out. But the answers to the questions might determine how he goes about it.