It's 4:42 am, just randomly awoke at 3 and started thinking about my college friends. Why. Why did we split up...

shut the fuck up

Haven't made any friends since graduating high school seven years ago, I'm over it.

How does one make friends as an adult?

Maybe you're on the wrong subject?
I didn't get any friends in college either, they were all boring people. Then I went to a vocational school and got 3 friends for life.

Family is more important than friends.

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I don't bother with friends, same people I need to curb stomp to get a better grade.

you can reconnect user I just reconnected with an old high school friend and were getting along just like old times except my girlfriends still mad about me fucking her

Quick Guide:
Don't be an autistic spaz and be known as "the weird guy" (don't act like a /v/irgin)
Get to know people's names and interests. What they enjoy and don't
The more you show up, the more familiar you'll be
You have once chance to make a first impression. Make it count.

Congrats, you now have friends

Show up where? Work?

Work, Bar, Wherever you can reliably meet them

That's what I'm asking about.

useless, all that effort and you'll probably fuck it up eventually anyway.

>how do you meet friends?
>show up to meet with friends regularly
What?

>Last friend was years ago in high-school
>Have no idea how to make friends anymore
>Have no idea where I could even meet people to be my friends
>Can't even make friends online

I guess I'll always be that random solo player who never talks.

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>wanting friends

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Sooner or later you realise that you don't have friends to do activities with, you do activities with people to have friends.

One step at a time. If they invite you to come hang out, that's generally the sign you should start showing up at said place.

You too.

And then you give up on everything

>talk to people
>find people you enjoy talking to because you make each other laugh and have interesting viewpoints about topics of mutual interest with which to challenge each other and stimulate learning
>find things to do together that you both enjoy doing
>do those things
Congrats, you made a friend.

>"but i can't find those people"
Are you looking for them? Are you actively seeking out opportunities to meet people?
>no
then do that
>yes
Congrats, you're an unlikeable person doomed to solititude.

It's not so bad.

Nobody has ever invited me like that.

Pretty much.

All I need are the novels I write that nobody will ever read, and the furry porn I draw that nobody will ever see.

I am an island.

>grew up with 3 other brothers, really close
>1 high school friend that's still really close

Haha fuck new friends. I talk with at least one of the said above daily.

None of this explains where the fuck you can actually meet anyone.

Just like college, a shortcut is to look for gatherings of your hobbies like a club. After moving to a new town I looked up the local FGC scene (and the local car scene since I'm into that too) and made friends that way. They're a bunch of spergs, but I've always hung out with company like that.

And if you don't have hobbies force yourself into one, and make sure it's somewhat social and not too autistic.

Shit are you me? I found some non-autismal people to hang out with in the anime club, but they always forget about me and never invite me anywhere so I guess they don't like me all that much.

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[insert piano] I feel you user.

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How does one actively seek out opportunities to meet people? This is the step I'm having trouble with. Now that school is behind me and my job doesn't have me interacting with many people I don't really know anyone at all anymore.

Is there a website to search for local clubs and activities? I tried meetup once but it didn't really seem to have anything.

This.

Work. It accounts for something like half the friends and a third of the spouses people have.

I never went to college, and previous attempts at looking for local scenes turned up nothing. It doesn't help that I live in a small city that is rapidly filling with foreigners.

Facebook

>run my own online business
>literally have not left my room in 2 weeks except to go hiking alone

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I do work and there are zero people there I could be friends with. They're all Filipinos that keep to their tight knit groups babbling away in whatever the fuck language they have or are easily 70 years my senior.

By going outside, user. If you like books, you go to the library. Search around for places where you have interests at. Work is another good place if your coworkers are young enough

>tfw I can't work my job with other people
feels miserable man

1. have a hobby
2. find a club based around said hobby that meets up pretty regularly
3. go there and meet people

Just remember that not every failure is going to be your fault. Some communities are utterly incapable of making new people feel welcome and put no effort into helping them join the group. This isn't deliberate, but some people are just oblivious to outsiders. I was on the outside looking in for a long, long time so I always put in the extra effort to try and bring new people into the group and involve them in activities and conversation, and in doing this I've realised that if the people you are trying to join aren't actively trying to help you into the group it's pretty much impossible to get in yourself.

Meaning, if a group isn't working for you just move on and find another one. Some groups are just bad at welcoming people.

Everyone is telling you.
>Bar.
>Arcade (If applicable)
>Concerts.
>Movies.
>Internet.

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>used to play Smash with all my college friends
>dropped out, went full hermit for 2 years
>got my dream job but now have a lot of free time
>friend of a friend lets me know they have full on Smash tournaments now
>swing by
>one of them recognizes me, calls the entire group over
>get absolutely swarmed
>have the best night I've had in ages
I thought everyone forgot about me but I suppose not. It's not too late for you, OP.

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Sounds good.

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>Bar.
Don't drink
>Arcade (If applicable)
No arcades left save for one downtown in an area fuck awful parking
>Concerts.
None
>Movies.
Last time I went to a movie I didn't meet anyone because everyone is there to watch the fucking movie, same for every time before that
>Internet.
I'm already fucking here and it's not helping

>Why did we split up, I can barely remember their names
Because you made no effort to stay in touch.

I must tell you, that is not an answer I wanted to hear.

literally anywhere but at home

Quite being a bitch.
How bout that?

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>small city
Oh you're fucked then lmao
I've lived in Austin, Chicago, Indianapolis, and LA. Indianapolis was the smallest but I still had not too bad of a time finding people. Learn to play music and be one of those guys playing guitar in the park or something?

>I'm already fucking here and it's not helping
when's the last time you asked a fellow user to meet up

Canada?

Don't think the foreigners are particularly attracted to the small towns up here

I am what I am and that's all that I am
I live in a city of just 240,000 people. There's pretty much nothing here
The last time I saw an user anywhere remotely close to me, which has been never
Yes. Very astute.

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How can I meet people without starting to hate them after a short while? I really forced myself to be more open and social. But everybody has their own little annoying quirks. Some have become vegetarian, yoga based boys. Others only hang out with other nerdy guys and haven't been close to a girl since years. They always find reasons not do things because they are "too adult" for shit like concerts or just drinking somewhere outside and then they get bored too but don't know why. I will just buy a 4k TV and start drawing stuf, because I just can't deal with people anymore.

>Went on a video game course in college back around 2010 and 2011
>Other people put games on the college computers, like Dawn of War 1 and Star Wars Battlefront 2
>Used to have LANs with the other guys in my course

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240K isnt even that small. I guarantee there's some vidya related place you can find on Google Maps where you can begin to hang out.

>grandma dies and the family splits in half over inheritance
Sucks

>small city
>just 240,000 people
6,700 goml faggot

>How can I meet people without starting to hate them after a short while?
You can't.

Friends are people where the fun outweighs the annoyance.

Start drawing, then the people will come. At least according to the artists I follow who have their own little circle of other artists friends. Unless you hate SJWs, which most of them seem to be unfortunately.

Less than 200 here.

don't know how I got the quote wrong but you know who it's for

nigger what
are you in a jungle tribe or something

And none of the 199 people like you?

I live in Vancouver, the invasion is almost complete and I'm looking for another country to move to at this point.

Extreme rural south. One of those communities with snakes in their churches. We we featured in the new far cry.

>girl trying to meet nerdy and interesting vidya people
And I thought I had it hard.

Maybe you're one of the autistic kids in the weeb club and you don't even realize

I wish. At least that way I could make friends with the other autismos.

kek, what's keeping you there? hard to imagine there are many job opportunities you're holding out for, are you just on the family farm or something? lol don't mean to be a dick, I'm genuinely curious

How's that possible? Join a club, talk to your roommates friends, fucking go out with your coworkers.

I'm the most autistic spaghetti monster possible in this world and the bulk of my friends are the ones I made at college.

This is literally your last chance, everything after this is Insane Difficulty for making friends.

>tfw too normal for autismos and too autistic for normies

>Went back to college in 2014 after being a NEET for a couple of years
>Got along well with the people in my course, but didn't talk to anyone else
>Finished my course last year
>Went back to being a shut-in NEET

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>>tfw too normal for autismos and too autistic for normies

This is how I feel when I'm on Jow Forums these days. I can't relate to any of the "normal" stuff on here, like social life stuff, but I also can't relate to the "autism" stuff like making a big deal about small things in video games, or being a dedicated shitposter. I just feel tired these days, honestly.

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>live in a small town of 700 people
>most exciting thing you can do is order a pizza and play at their slot machines
>occasionally there's a local soccer game

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The government pays me insane amounts of money to have an unproductive farm.

Why not make it into a productive farm?

it's my birthday guise
this is gonna be the year I turn things around

lol that's kinda dope, what do you grow?
Also, what is the program called? I want to move north because we have land grants for farms in the Yukon, maybe I could get some free farmbux too

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I don't think Canada does it like the states does. The way their senate is set up it's profitable for the government to basically buy votes from farmers, unlike how parliament is done (by population).

Oh also happy birthday user.

I am what many here would call a "normie". I have a well paying job, a GF and can talk to people. But I am exactly as unable to relate to other people as the other anons here. I just pretend 24/7, I have never met anyone who I could relate to as much that I would truly call them a friend. At least I can enjoy myself alone.

Sad thread

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You cute

What is with this fading away meme. Is it a Monster Girl Quest reference? That's the only thing I remember the effect from.

I don't know what Canada offers, but lurking USA Anons can easily get USDA youth GRANTS for like a winery or vineyard. Something smaller on scale and manageable I guess.
You don't pay back grants, so it's risk free.
It's not what I did, but I would if I could.

>4th year
Was just like u user. The only way to fix that is to talk with people. you can do it
dont join weeb clubs though because if u are picky like me u wont like them

I'd only be a girl for you user. :3
Sadly I don't look cute enough for a trap.

Infinity Wars

I'm not paid for that.

Yeah, looks like it's only really loans and insurance shit. And thank you lol

I've never heard of that, I'm usually pretty up on games so that surprises me, why is it suddenly popular now?

Disney is a big company