How does it feel to cuddle with someone? Does it feel like I imagine in my head or is it just uncomfortable and awkward...

No it isn't. I'm pretty sure he'd be pretty open about it because we have already done it a few times some years ago, and he genuinely seemed to enjoy it. It's not gay or anything.

Could be nice I suppose but it's kinda different with a guy than a girl. Girls kind of 'fit' into cuddles with guys and you can really get tangled up with them but in a snug way. Would be a bit weird to do that with your brother.
Don't give up on love though mate, never give up.

>don't give up on love though mate, never give up
I've already given up a long time ago, and honestly I wouldn't want it any other way. It's better to diminish hope now rather than to let it grow just to be crushed later.

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>lying in bed with 4 (FOUR) College girls at the same time
What the fuck user? How did you do it?

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Why the fuck is that? When I was 21, I hung out with a 16 year old Vietnamese girl (too beta to make a move, I don't care if it's weird she was fucking HOT)

We'd do sappy cute shit like lie together on my roof at night and talk. Every time we would lie close together, I'd fuckin flood my boxers

Kek. I didn't know guys pre-came so much. When I pre-cum, usually it's when I'm close to orgasm. What the fuck anons?

>How long though before it get awkward and the magic flies away?
It doesn't. The only thing that happens is you get uncomfortable when your arm is underneath. Just do what I do - Roll her onto the other arm. Usually gets a quick giggle and it's right back to lounging.
>Do you need to be in love for it to feel good?
I'm not quite sure, honestly. I've cuddled with a few lady friends of mine when I was in college. Still feels nice, but there is a bit of lacking.
>but what about cuddling with family members?
Don't, user.

I have no idea why it happened. Any time she would lie on me, the floodgates opened. Probably a clue that if she had ever even touched my dick I'd have cum and started farting

Why though? What's wrong with you? I'm sure it's hopeless. There's very few genuine truecels out there.

>I'm not quite sure, honestly. I've cuddled with a few lady friends of mine when I was in college. Still feels nice, but there is a bit of lacking.
Oh so it doesn't feel like heaven. I think I'm not missing out on anything then as long as I'm happy and get affection and love in different ways. I was thinking it would be something magical or something and that I really needed it, but I guess it's just a fun comfy thing which doesn't really bring out happiness by itself. I'm such a delusional faggot.

>>but what about cuddling with family members?
>Don't, user.
Why not? My mother still loves me, and I've slept and even caressed my brother quite a few times. (thinking back on it, what a weird family I have).

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I am unironically of the opinion that love is a mental illness.

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Edgy of you to say so but it's not.
Love is a good feeling.

Any joy or pleasurable feeling you have feeling love you'll have to pay with pain afterwards.
Don't fall for the love meme.

I know. I've been cheated on and I've cheated. I know how much love can hurt. Still worth it though.

The pain wouldn't be possible to experience if there wasn't an equally good experience on the other side. It's worth it every time.

I don't think like that user.
"It's always worth it to forego pleasure in order to avoid pain."
-Arthur Schopenhauer

Swallow the monk pill user. I don't want to ever suffer in my life anymore, this is my goal, and to be content, satisfied and cheerful for life as long as I live. That can't happen when one is in love, because love is fraught with fights, disagreements, and heartbreaks.

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A ship in the harbor is safe, but that's not what ships are for.

Honestly better than sex to me if you love the person you're cuddling with desu

But we're not ships. If any of us want to be happy, there has to be safety, and the more of it the better. Sure, you might not get the adenaline, but there's a reason why every single writer and philosopher from the dawn of humanity has insisted that true happiness and bliss can only come from being in a state of calm, quiet and peace, and also to be always satisfied in the present. From the daoists, to the Buddhists, to the cynics, the stoics, Lucretius, Cicero, Epictetus, Plato, Buddha, Laozi, Zhuangzi, basically all of the Buddhist philosophers, to all of the mystics, who judged Romantic Love inherently inferior to the love of God, to Schopenhauer and a lot more.

Falling in love and believing in it really is a normalfaggotry.

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For me it was always just uncomfortably warm. However it's still worth it. Hire a prostitute sometime or something, getting some pussy might help you gain some confidence.

Your whole argument here hinges on the assumption that every single relationship will result in negativity, and pull you away from your center. What I'm trying to communicate is that while some of them certainly are filled with torment, not all of them are. I know plenty of mindfulness practitioners that have SO's.

Just stop and think about it for a second. Think about having someone that not just leaves your inner peace alone, but helps you to maintain it. Wouldn't that be worth subjecting yourself to trials?

>some of them are certainly filled with torment, but not all of them are
Yeah fucking right. Every, and I mean, EVERY love has pain, there's no way around it. Have you ever been in LOVE? And I don't mean a mere relationship with that 6/10 girl you've dated for a few weeks. I mean real LOVE, you get obsessed, crazed about it, insane about it, there's no peace, there just craving and longing and it never stops. It's sickness in the mind.

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Yeah I think it would be really really uncomfortable for me. I'd get either embarrassed or feeling extremely awkward and all that shit. I also would feel no connection with the person at all.

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Isn't that more infatuation than love?

>someone who not just leaves your inner peace alone, but helps maintain it
There's no such thing. There's a reason why Buddhists remain celibate. They can only keep inner peace by being alone from the burning and distracting passions of love

>Isn't that more infatuation than love?

What's the difference?

I enjoy it quite a lot. It's nice and warm and toasty. Just get comfy and fall asleep

Infatuation is the early stage or the precursor of love. It is more obsessive and less calm, I think.

Is the distinction between love and infatuation less common in English than in German?

>Is the distinction between love and infatuation less common in English than in German?
What are the respective words in german user?

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But is it blissful? Unironic question
Origi

"Verliebtheit" for infatuation and "Liebe" for love.

If I had to choose between never cuddling again or never having sex again, that would be a difficult choice for me.

But if both feel just as good. If you had to give up on sex you could just cuddle twice as much, and if you gave up on cuddles you could have twice as much sex, and then you'd have the same amount of pleasure. Wouldn't you?

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And you still haven't rebuked any at all of the wisdom and knowledge of millennia of the dangers and vices that love is.

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Hearing her breath softly next to you, fingers locked, then she turns around -smiling - and kisses you.
Nothing but the two of you, in complete faith and trust in one another.
So yeah, its alright i guess. Kinda loses its magic after many lays tho

>So yeah, its alright i guess. Kinda loses its magic after many lays tho
So it's not as good as it's hyped up to be?

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Not what I'm saying, cunt.
Get off your ass and get a gf, you fucking failure

Fuck right off normalfag.

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When I was in high school I threw a house party with this chick. Her, me, another girl and another guy stayed the night. He ended up hitting on both the chics and was turned down by both. Then he started hitting on me. I ended up locking him in a room and slept between the two chics that night. I had sex with neither of them.

You're all gay faggots for wanting a girl to "cuddle" with. Do you have any idea how much onions you have to consume to be this beta?

And "cuddling" stops feeling good after the first minute or so. They it starts getting uncomfortably warm to the point of sweating and you start cutting off each others blood circulation.

Damn, that's actually a good redpill user. Thanks. Cuddling must really not be that good, just for a little while, but then it gets uncomfortable.

Lolita is where good things are

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>married 26 years
It never gets old
We still hold hands
We cuddle on the couch to watch TV
She falls asleep on my shoulder every night

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>>married 26 years
Nice LARPing user

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Same for Dutch

It feels pretty nice, the warm and softness of her skin, the scent of her hair, your raging hard on against her butt, all in all 9/10 experience

>I am a cum gargling faggot
FTFY

>How would it feel though to cuddle with a family member
Awkward and feels like nothing but extra weight on you.
I always thought of cuddling as something intimate, you have to mentally be into otherwise you feel nothing.

I have been here for a loooong time, pal
Keep up

>tfw I think I could still cuddle with my mother or older brother with complete intimacy

I have a weird family user

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you're fucking gay dude, lmao

I can't do it I miss her so much. Fuck man, when will it end

It's not gay user.
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What happened user, heartbreak again? Can't you cuddle with anyone else?

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She was my first and only love. It felt so good cuddling with her I wanted to die doing it I never felt more at peace. I can't share that moment with anyone else

>I can't share that moment with anybody else
I mean, have you tried to? Do you think you can never get enjoyment from cuddles from anyone else but her?

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fucking beatiful m8, it does get uncomfortable some times but you just change position, but if done with the right person, is never awkward, and very beautiful.

So before her I knew what attraction was. I can look at another girl and think hmm a relationship with her would be nice or like I would like to get to know her. But after her I can't even look at other women romantically I can't even watch porn. I have no attraction anymore and she's completely moved on which adds insult to injury.

genuinly nothing can replace the feeling of a really soft girl in the perfect curve your body makes laying sideways. bonus points if shes light enough (or you're strong enough) to lift her off your arms.

I cuddled with my friends when I was drunk off my ass with them once. It felt real good, I think.
Just felt good to feel a real human beside me and not be instantly rejected or repulsed.
Fuck it sounds bad now that I typed it.

literally depends on the temperature. if it's hot, forget about it. if it's comfy temp, it's a comfy feeling

Cuddling is a very satisfying feeling. Having another person huddled agasint you completely vulnerable is incridible. They trust you with their body and being, and feel safe doing it. Having your bodies share warmth and cloesness is a feeling like not other. The sex is wonderful in it's own right, but the emotional level of have a girl curled up in a ball with her head asleep on your chest, gently breathing is a whole nother experience. I am drunk

Damn son. Would you like to greentext your story with your oneitis? I'd gladly hear it.

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Did you actually do this with someone or are you just projecting? Do you have to be in love with that person for it to be enjoyable, otherwise it's just uncomfortable? If I hire a professional cuddler, will I get the same feeling?

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>five years ago travel to ethiopia with family five years ago (she's from the netherlands half-ethiopian half-dutch, and I'm American born full-ethiopian)
>meet her at a function, she's a family friend
>get to know each other
>exchange phone numbers
>see each other maybe two times during the trip
>when we both go back to our respective countries keep in contact
>she decides to come to america for a trip like a year after that
>develop more feelings for each other but nothing happens
>she goes back to her country after touring america and only seeing me for a little bit before going to new york
>all the while i'm not seeing anyone but she's probably had like three or four boyfriends
>I go to the netherlands during a european trip and meet up with her we're not seeing each other still at this point just hanging out
>come back and talk more we have casual conversations every now and then
>fast forward to december of 2017
>she actually comes over to sleep at my house during a trip she takes to america because we've grown really close
>spend the entire trip together
>a relationship starts to bloom
>she hates movies but we would be chilling on the couch on our laptops or watching tv or some shit
>one time she asks me if she can "flex"
>i saw sure half laughing not really knowing what she means
>she leans back on me and i'm floored
>i feel a rush of emotions
>progressively we get more and more comfortable
>I ask if she wants to watch a movie or something
>she says yeah as long as it is with me she feels good
>I put on a movie and the position we're in
>i'm laying on my back on the couch and she's laying on top of me
>we do this every night until she leaves, and we go on assorted dates
>every time we cuddle i'm dripping pre cum and caressing her body
>we build up so much tension but never really do anything about it
>we don't kiss or have sex
>she goes back to the netherlands
>i spill my guts for her when she gets back to her home and tell her how i feel

>she feels the same
>we decide to see each other again and start a real relationship when she gets to do an international internship
>just three weeks ago she tells me that she doesn't feel the same about me anymore
>she doesn't feel motivated to come and doesn't want a relationship with me anymore

Damn m8. Were you in love with her? Don't you also find it just baffling how quickly women lose their feelings for you and just leave you for some other guy after you've invested so much time and effort on them? I still don't get it how they do this and how a man's feelings mean nothing to them.

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>Were you in love with her?
yes I've never felt so strongly for another woman
>Don't you also find it just baffling how quickly women lose their feelings for you and just leave you for some other guy
I've literally been bewildered by this the whole time after she told me. I pestered her asking her how she can just not feel it anymore and that all the emotions she felt were nothing. She was crazy in love too and she would send me so much videos blowing air kisses staying up crazy late because of the time difference between america and the netherlands.

>want a gf to cuddle with as I stroke her hair and say sweet things to her
>if I was put in that position I wouldn't know what to say anyway
>also hate my voice

I'm a failed normie or cyborg.
Certainly not a chad.
I have robot tendencies but, in some moments I had normal fag status.
Here's my story.
>Go to Australia.
>Visit oneitis.
>Sleep in her bed.
>Wake up next to her.
>She's asleep to me.
>Wrap my arm around her.
>10 seconds later she wakes up.
>holds my hand.
>Her embrace felt so good.
>Feels like I was melting into her.
>Her skin was so soft.
>Her body was so soft.
>I held her tightly.
>The world felt right for a few moments.
>It was worth all the money and time and effort to hold her.
>It ended horribly.
>I was super depressed that I couldn't win her heart.

My normie advice is, If you ever get to sleep next to a girl and you wake up before she does.
Cuddle her.
Most girls like being held tight.

>I've literally been bewildered by this the whole time after she told me. I pestered her asking her how she can just not feel it anymore and that all the emotions she felt were nothing.

A life advice by our great friend Shakespeare:

>Tis short, a woman's love

Women can't know love after the age of 15, after that, all they love is your credit card. I feel for you user and I hope you can get over your heartbreak.

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I cuddle my 5'1 gf all the time and its honest to god the coziest thing ever. No matter what position having someone to hold is so good it feels better than sex.

Damn, that's just too fucking real. If I had this girl I'd probably be too shy and awkward to say anything and wouldn't be able to put my thougts into words. She'd leave thinking I didn't like her and the cuddling would just feel awkward and forced. This was not meant for us anons.

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Did you get a heartbreak user? Did she leave you for some other guy? What happened? Genuinely curious.

Saddest part I think is that I'm not a very affectionate person
I can't even say "I love you too" when a family member tells me

If you love the person your brain shits out a ton of chemicals, like natural opiates. It's basically the best feeling and everything's okay. If you don't like the person I guess it can be a sweaty annoying mess.

Thanks user I appreciate you
>Women can't know love after the age of 15, after that, all they love is your credit card. I feel for you user and I hope you can get over your heartbreak.

I can't believe this for my own sanity. I gotta believe in love or else I'm just gonna spiral out of control, I'm already too close to that

Yeah exactly, it's like a fucking drug, and even when the passion and relationship ends and things go back to normal, and even when everything is ok and you have all the reason in the World to be happy, your brain will remind you of love and crave for it like a drug. You'll feel like a drug addict needing his fix again, and you won't be satisfied with whatever your situation is because you'll be wanting that "high" of love again.

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Ok user, either way I hope for the best for you.
Origi

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virgins obsess over sex but cuddling is the actual best part of being in a relationship
get a good non anime body pillow that's 68% the same

>get a good non anime body pillow that's 68% the same
If I get a body pillow and put on my favorite custom made ASMR in my pro headphones and just really get into it and use my imagination as best as possible. Will it feel at least 75% as good? If so, then this would be fucking heaven on earth.
>tfw I once heard a custom made ASMR for me so good and intimate I ended up feeling so loved I literally cried.

It's almost the same thing, isn't it?

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The level of enjoyment scales with your level of care for the girl. A one night stand is neutral at best. Your loving gf is heavenly. At the best of times, it feels like waves of calm and peace wash over you truly unlike anything else

>At the best of times, it feels like waves of calm and peace wash over you truly unlike anything else
Can't you reach a similar state of peace and calm through meditation?

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Dude none of those fags are white. Why listen to a old non white talk about how he couldn't get white pussy.

it's one of the best feelibgs user..but it isn't worth it. it's a trap. nothing is worth it in this world, you always pay a bigger price (except maybe weed, even then it's not worth living)

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i cuddle all the time with Gira
feelsgoodman
try it out sometime

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It's nice up until you have sex. Then it's kinda just meh, but still nice.
Note that you have to be in love with the girl to feel anything.

She left me to go back to her abusive ex.
He cycled of violenced her or cycle of battery as its called in the uk.

Oh shit user I'm sorry. How long has you been together?

I think there has to be some sort of connection, but not entirely. I was cought up in the moment. It was a one night stand between this girl and I, but enjoyable nonetheless, and we are still friends.

>Dude none of those fags are white. Why listen to a old non white talk about how he couldn't get white pussy.
All of the mystics and most of the romans I mentioned were white. You're not making any sense m8.

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