This is somewhat health-related -- Could you maintain a relationship with a girl who has genital herpes, when you don't have it?
I have been seeing the girl for a while, who has herpes, but we haven't had sex yet. She's on suppression medication, but I really don't want to risk contracting it. She's a 9/10 and we get along great; however, she has crazy self-esteem issues over having herpes and it has taken a toll on building a relationship. Additionally, I really don't want to risk contracting it. I have developed a self-obsession with checking myself, out of the risk of maybe having contracted it. I'm apprehensive toward even touching her vagoo, out of the concern of having it transfer to my hands (herpetic whitlow).
Am I over-dramatizing this whole thing? If I wear protection, is the risk really that high? Is the risk worth it all? What would you all do?
Dump her and get another girlfriend you idiot. She got genital herpes from her slutty past.
Isaiah Thompson
>What would you all do? Do you want herpes? Is this girl worth getting herpes? Think for a very long time in a quiet area, alone, no internet, just thinking. Spend a few hours think about it. I suggest writing down anything important.
Zachary Clark
This 1000X times
Josiah Miller
Bump
James Gomez
herpes is a potential teratogen to the foetus. So she would not be a good choice to have children with. In my personal opinion, get the fuck out, now. And then go get tested yourself. Its not your fault she has it. Do you really want an incurable virus? INB4 "hurr durr X% of the population has it", thats not a valid argument
Guy with herpes here. Stigma of having it is real, yes, but it’s the most overrated bullshit I can think of (medically speaking). I’d compare it to having a couple of small, albeit itchy, pimps, like 2 days every 2 months or some shit. Seriously not a problem. Plus, most women never show symptoms, so if you give it to them, you can plausibly claim not knowing or claim they got it elsewhere (which could be true lol). And that’s if they even ever show symptoms.
P.S., I got it by being an idiot and smashing the law school slut a few times, and I used a condom. Shit is not 100% by any means.
TL;DR: if she is worth it, and you think there is a real chance of a good relationship, don’t fuckin’ worry about it. But don’t contract it for no reason if you aren’t truly interested. That’s my advice after 4 years with it. I’ve since gotten into a 3+ year relationship with a great girl who knew about it beforehand and got with me anyway (and was clean, and probably still is).
Noah Sanders
kys thisx50000
Mason Wilson
>most overrated bullshit I can think of (medically speaking). >herpes is a potential teratogen to the foetus thats a big deal
>real chance of a good relationship, don’t fuckin’ worry about it A real good chance that could potentially lead to marriage (because why would you date someone if you don't plan on marrying them?), and hopefully you don't want kids cause they'll have herpes too. Would you really want to burden your child with an incurable virus?
This. I've had it for like 8 years and have only had 3~4 breakouts? If you're sexually active, you're probably going to get it eventually and if this is the kind of girl that tells you up front about it, she's a keeper. I wish I had the option as the girl I was in a committed relationship didn't tell me.
Adrian Robinson
herpes is totally hyped it's no big deal
only virgins don't have herpes
use condoms if it bothers you, no sense in making your girlfriend feel bad for something she has no control over
Jack Brooks
where do you guys live that herpes even gets noticed? I have no clue if i have it (they dont even bother testing for it in an std test) but im sure i do based on statistics. Never had anyone bring it up or even really cared to figure out if they have it. Yeah other stuff like chlamydia you hear about, but herpes? Im pretty sure if you go to college in the US and bang a few broads you are pretty much guaranteed to have it at that point
Thomas Lopez
>herpes is totally hyped it's no big deal >you're probably going to get it eventually
obesity isn't even that big of a deal, like 2/3rds of the american population are obese. Whats the big deal?
How could anyone answer this for you? The honest question that you have to ask yourself, is could you live your life constantly worrying about contracting an incurable disease?
Bentley James
Had it once, never flared up again, most have it but dont know. Is she worth it user? People who dont understand it think its much worse than it is. For me one small spot like lump that lasted 2 weeks never seen again.
Some ppl have it bad but thats very rare, you choose op.
Carson Bennett
This. Had one small spot on my balls and it never came again. Is she worth it, most people dont have it bad and many people have but dont know.
Is she worth it? How bad is it?
Josiah Wilson
She said that, other than her initial flair-up last July, she hasn’t had another.
Brayden Green
If you have more than a dozen partners you probably have it.
Aaron Sanchez
She will likely not even experience it again, I've never taken an anti viral and its never come back over many years.
Luis Taylor
Random question, what's the difference between genital and mouth herpes. Is it just one is cold sores on your mouth and the other on your genitals? Is one worse than the other?
Adam Hall
1) if you have simplex one you're highly unlikely to contract simplex two either orally or genitally, but you will never ever be completely safe even with condoms and dams or whatever you guys choose to use.
2) as the other user said, there's a damn near 100% chance your baby is gonna get infected even with a C section. This alone is reason enough to call it a wash and move along.
>seeing the girl for a while >but we haven't had sex yet
This relationship was over before it even began, wasn't it?
Sex issues destroy relationships. Subtle issues like this just continue to fester until they start to destroy unrelated parts of the relationship. First you're not fucking her, then you'll be thinking about fucking other girls, then she'll think you don't like her, etc. etc.
t. Knower
Connor Sanders
>herpes is totally hyped it's no big deal >only virgins don't have herpes
current state of affairs
>visit very conservative parts of the world
marriage proposals are not sealed if any of the 2 test positive for STIs.
