>been dating 6/10 THICC Latina qt gf for several years, its been pretty good >started lifting and dieting seriously about a year ago >now fit by normie standards (just shy of 1/2/3/4) >made some major face and skin gains as well, probably went form 6/10 -> 8/10 >constantly getting mired by grils at work and while out on social outings >meanwhile gf has only done some occasional light cardio, in ok shape, still 6/10 >there is now a pretty obvious and glaring attractiveness difference between us but I still love her >gf loved my gains at first but has gradually become resentful and paranoid >constantly accusing me of being "obsessed" with lifting or that I spend too much time at the gym (7-8 hrs/wk) >gets uneasy and jealous whenever any woman talks to me even when its a platonic friend or a work associate >yesterday she told me I need to stop going to the gym because she thinks I'm going to surpass her too far and feel the need to upgrade
I can feel my relationship circling the drain, lads. This subject comes up almost every day and always results in arguments and its grinding me down. Is this an inevitable result of getting fit? Should I just bail and bang qts or is it worth saving? Have any of you guys experienced this?
its understandable, i mean you are no longer who she agreed to date, but at the same time you need to reassure her that you enjoy improving your looks, but have no intention or desire to use your looks to leave her.
if you give it a legit effort and she will not believe you, its time to end it.
Michael Garcia
I'd say try to save it. Help her realize she shouldn't be so insecure and if that doesn't work help her improve herself so she has no reasons to be so insecure
Jonathan Phillips
dump her and get a braphog
Nicholas Brown
Bail, she`s a physco.
Asher Thomas
Can you see yourself having children with this lady
Bentley James
Do not let her stop you from achieving your goals and improving yourself. Talk to her about it to reassure her
Jaxon Long
Just tell her staying in shape means a lot to you and that you think she deserves a good looking man. Maybe try to help her get into better shape. If she still disagrees with you thnn maybe it is time to move on but let her go gently. Don't come off like "I'm so much better than you, I don't need this", even if it's true. Say you need someone more supportive.
Benjamin Walker
Devils advocate, youre acting like a retarded faggot avatar of Jow Forums
Camden Cook
I feel like I've already had this conversation and tried to convey this message at least a dozen times. It will assuage her for a bit but the issue will usually resurface a few days later. Idk how else to approach it.
she is a braphog
idk shes by far the most sane and level-headed girl I've been with. besides this stuff at least
Kayden Howard
she wants you to degrade yourself for her selfish reasons. thats not a healthy woman. break up with her.
Juan Evans
its sad but you have to end. you'll feel better after. all this resentment is unhealthy and you should be with someone more confident
Logan Watson
Sure, if she can get past this. I've had no problems with her until she made this an issue.
I've already told her point blank I'm not stopping and won't be convinced otherwise.
Tried this approach already. Not sure how else to phrase it.
Colton Evans
>I still love her >Should I just bail and bang qts
I've never been in love user but I don't think you're in love.
Austin Roberts
Just say no. It’s a powerful word
Carter Morgan
>asking relationship advice from bunch of lowlife virgins You deserve what's coming
Overhead press with 1 45lb plate on each side of the barbell, bench press with 2, squat with 3, deadlift with 4
Noah Lopez
Why do you think girls date fatties and finger blast to muscle boys? Women are insecure as fuck. They are not taught to be secure and then better themselves. They are taught to cover, conceal and remove to be secure.
You get the ones who want the attention of having a hot guy because they need others acceptance want to feel all eyes are on them.
Then the ones who need to feel safe and secure. They want to fuck the hotties but not be with them because then they'll always feel ugly and inferior.
>tfw you prefer the 4-5/10 >tfw "you deserve better than me. I can't be more" >tfw I didn't want more than what they already are
I always thought I was ugly growing up so my taste kinda is based off that. Found out way after how people actually felt. My taste in women stayed the same and I feel it's kind of a kick in the balls.
Had a cutie show interest but I went for the chubby with recessed chin and fuzzy back.
>ex would accuse me of checking out her friends >ex would tell me stop being friendly with her friends >ex would accuse me of being unfaithful and when I offered her my twitter password didn’t take it >ex ends up cheating on me Insecure girls are the fucking worst fuck them
>idk shes by far the most sane and level-headed girl I've been with. besides this stuff at least >level-headed >girl
Bentley Watson
>wanting to remain in a relationship with someone who not only does not want to progress as a human but actively wants to sabotage your development
Elijah Ramirez
>>yesterday she told me I need to stop going to the gym because she thinks I'm going to surpass her too far and feel the need to upgrad Aaaand there it is. She wants control, and by you being more attractive, you are the one in control. It’s like Dom’s vid on dad bods. They don’t like the body itself, they like that it puts them as the alpha in the relationship.
>each side I bet you count the bar, too
Leo Morgan
This is what happens when you move up in the world. It's time to leave her behind and advance to a nice White girl
Lincoln Lopez
just the fact that ur havin this convo with her: its already over
Xavier Fisher
She would rather bring you down than lift herself up. If you love her and you want to continue the relationship, invite her to come with you to the gym and start to better herself as well. If not, then you could do better than her.
Chase Allen
>>yesterday she told me I need to stop going to the gym because she thinks I'm going to surpass her too far and feel the need to upgrade she either needs to start working harder or you need to dump her. Relationships are supposed to lift each other up and you should both be striving to improve. She doesn't want you to improve because she's lazy and entitled. That's not someone worth keeping around long term
Ryder Barnes
They're usually like that because they already cheated or are working on cheating. The second that shit pops up I flake.
>she thinks I'm going to surpass her too far and feel the need to upgrade Apparently she has no idea what "love" means. I honestly think you should leave her, she seems vapid and superficial.
Half of me feels this way and that this is an inevitable and unavoidable result of going down this road. May already be past the point of no return. lol. I meant relative to girls in general. Interesting you mentioned that. She been specifically paranoid about me wanting to "upgrade" to a tall/blonde/white woman (I'm white btw). I guess theres some racial insecurity too?
Nathan Brooks
>Interesting you mentioned that. She been specifically paranoid about me wanting to "upgrade" to a tall/blonde/white woman (I'm white btw). I guess theres some racial insecurity too? You should stick with your own kind. It's natural and you'd be happier
