/mental health/ general

Felt awful. Been drinking and banging girls. Feel worse. Diet gone to shit. Missed first gym session. Business losing money.

Woke up early, had my first proper meal and tracked kcal. Feels good man

did any of you even lurk when these threads were first around before the board name changed?

Im afraid I wont stop missing her. Ive gotten over girls before, but this situation is different. She wasnt even that great, didnt like blowjobs, wasnt very adorable and loving, almost cold. I broke up with her. My heart still wants her though.

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>might have gf
>she stayed over last thursday
>just held her all night
>stays again last night
>kept rolling out of my arms and moving away from me until I gave up
w-what do, first gf ever

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grow some balls and next time you're in each others-arms kiss her

t. was lying in bed with a girl and she said 'grow some balls' so I kissed her

maybe you where forcing things to much? if she wants to be touched she will come to you.

If you can have threads about how to work out to look more feminine ebfore you cut off your dick on this board, then a mental/emotional health thread is not an issue

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Walked in on my friends wife flicking the bean. They haven't talked to me for weeks

I hate this so fucking much! She stopped contacting me and i stopped contacting her but deep down i still want to hold her and have fun with her.....

You're problem is assuming looks are everything. Even elephant man was married. I bet you whine about girls thinking you're ugly while ignoring other girls who you also put such a term on.

I feel like shit

How do I become happy?

About to move to a new town in 9 days, moving in with a mate. Have not had any close friends near me in a good while. He is into rock climbing so im going to be doing that with him and working during the day outside in a nursery which is very close to what I want to be doing with my life. So things are on the up. How you holding up OP?

what are you doing in your life?

Nothing im on sick leave from work cause my back is fucked and I have burnout/depression according to my doc,also I work an dead end minimum wage job without future possibilities.Wanna go back to school and do something in the sport department but thats all fucking difficult to choose from IF I even get accepted cause im 30 and most people who do it are 18

Also I am skinny af nomatter how hard I work cause improbably retarded and do everything wrong

Also I lack fucking discipline and knowledge and am retarded

I made a thread that got 313 replies
pretty happy about it

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i feel the same way as you man except i'm a bit younger. idk what the fuck to do lol. just fuck it and go to school for a better job? feel like i have to admit to myself i'm a failure and be comfortable with that fact before i try to start fresh or something. idk i just feel like im fucked

Go on a vipashana retreat and meditate for a whole week.

We kissed plenty, I fingered her, she just didnt want to put out without condoms which I forgot to buy. It was once we were just sleeping that she kept moving away.

if you're still young go to school

I cant do that, im unable to enjoy everything or even think because i have no fucking future and nothing makes me happy

You just admitted you're a failure, now right this second apply to some school online. Seize the day, user.

Haven't lifted for about a month. Hate myself for it but I just don't see the point, but at the same point I do. I was doing so well until I stopped as well

I think I wouldn't be so goofy about one chick at the gym if I had more prospects in general.
I haven't known her for that long but we get along pretty well so far. I know I can't let her live in my head rent free because she has a bf, but I suppose it's human to wonder what could be between us.

Probably just putting alot of the pain from loneliness into her. Like somehow if we were to be together then all my loneliness would be gone.

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> im unable to enjoy everything or even think because i have no fucking future and nothing makes me happy
Literally the point of meditation my dude. Take some DMT if you want a quick mind-opener

Just do it, do not question it. You will see the point once you've progressed a certain amount. Big changes genuinely do happen, your mental state, your confidence, your attractiveness, your discipline and obviously your overall health will all improve alongside you lifting bruh. I promise you this.

Do you smoke if so reduce your smoking or stop it completly. If you want to chances of quitting go into the sauna 3 days in a row that will help you. Appetite will become back and you wont stop eating.
exactly whta I thought. i couldn't belive how it would change my anxiousness and my worrying but damn, the first time I was that flashe dthat I kept randomnly smiling for 4 days out of happinesss.

>Younger sister just moved out of home today with her fiance
>I still live with my parents
>tfw I won't be able to see my longest and oldest friend everyday from now on
>Her fiance and I were pretty chill too
>No other friends I can see because I drifted away from them
>Aside from my parents, my cat and here, I won't have much socialization anymore.

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>be severely depressed
>go to extreme lengths to avoid others
>would cycle 24 miles a day in the rain or snow to avoid public transport
>forced to interact with others at job
>can't quit due to no savings
>start going legit mad from years of being forced to do this
>hiding at work
>frequent breakdowns at work
>sent home a lot
>start having thoughts that my psychiatrist considers "worrying"
>eventually go on long term sick
>work on myself
>work out every day
>eat healthy
>get on dr shekelbergs pills
>return to work, moved away from customer service
>6 months pass, can actually know what it feels like to be happy again
Feels good lads
But for how long?

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yeah i think i'll try to start something in the mid year. i want to go for an IT degree but kinda feel like that's fucking useless and is tainted by pajeets and chinks, i don't think i have the math capabilities to do a CS degree otherwise i'd do that. im australian btw if that makes a difference. please help me

Fuck it man, apply for 20 jobs today, it dont matter what jobs, just anything else to get you out of what you are doing now. Just jump into something else and see how it goes. If it sucks it will give you a change at the least which is what it sounds like you need.

Don't think about if you should go or not, just go. And stop criticizing yourself that much for not going because this willl reduce the likliness of going because you have negative connotations with such thoughts.

>first time I was that flashe dthat I kept randomnly smiling for 4 days out of happinesss.
First time I did LSD I had at least 2 weeks of extremely heightened after it, I was seeing the little bits of beauty in the world, I was more social and alert and I became way more focused and dedicated at the gym also asked my current gf out because the fear was gone.

you need to find the underlying reason or else you will never be free......what is your family like?

I dont smoke, drink or do drugs except the occasional weekend beer

Don't go to further learning until you are almost 100% set on what you are studying. It is hard and i have a degree in something that I have no interest in and will never pursuer. That's 50k wasted and 5 years so think about it hard

Take up a hobby, volunteer, go to church, join a club or society, move somewhere new etc. Your world is as small as you make it, my friend.

yeah i'm not 100% set on what to study so that may be a problem. i just don't know how i would get even a DECENT job without a degree. i don't have many connections. should i just apply to a bunch of shit and take the first offer and """work hard""" to try and move up the ranks or something

I achieved everything they said I need to achieve. When does the good part come?

Sounds like someone who does not like to cuddle when they are asleep man. And next time you are together say you dont want to fuck her yet because you have stronger feeligns for her and want to make it special. Then next time when fooling around say fuck it and rip her clothes off and fuck her brains out. Every time ive done this, they come back for more

Not great, I'm lonely here. I can make friends nowadays, but I'm a guy who moves around to different countries a lot, so all of my friends live abroad. Back here in my home city I have no friends and no real means to make them. I think I'm going to be doomed to a kind of nomadic life just so I can actually have friends. My family and all my stuff is here but living here is so lame. It's a huge city, considered one of the 'most exciting in the world' but it's fucking boring and shit IMO.

Well, once I secure my job I just got, I'll be going back to the gym at least. I hope that helps. It just sucks because my last friend I had left ditched me to hangout with his gf and other friends and hasn't replied to me since. The rest of my friends moved interstate or are too busy with their lives.

Do IT if that's what you want, the pajeets and chins haven't tainted it they appear to oversaturate IT except from my experience and others they tend to be unqualified and very quickly lose work also you need to be the one to break the mild also if you save up your Aussie wage and live super frugally as an Australian you can move to NZ with no questions ask and your savings will be worth more and perhaps you could even make some good investments over there. The latter is just me speculating sinc I still live in Britain but I've travelled all over the world included Straya so I think my advise is mostly sound (also have a computing/IT) background.

keep looking forward my man, you will die one day make sure you are fully aware that you will never be here again and no one will remember you in 200 years. Even Hitler will be forgotten in 1000 years so do what you want when you want. Listen to yourself, good move getting out of customer service, keep going ask for a raise, learn some more skills at work make yourself invaluable

Trips of truth

Fuck the work hard ethic, work smart. What are you good at? What interests you? Where are you located? You need to take that all into account and see what your options are. If you have nothing near you that you want to do, fucking move. Pack up your shit what you can take on your back, look clean shaven with decent clothes, move to a different town spend a few days in a hostel meet people adn find a job. It worked for me, may not work for you but nothing comes easily, you need to work and sacrifice to get anywhere and no one will do it for you.

Your mother ever tell you two wrongs don't make a right? Mental health threads belong in Jow Forums and Jow Forums.

overwhelming hatred consumes me
fortunately i have boxing and vidja to take care of it

WOOO my first trips, do i get a medal?

and deadlifts

Was brought up in abusive family, parents died early, saw my mom die at 12, even more worse shit I wont get into, now im here. I think im permanently damaged but as long as I cruise on ok, I'll be happy.
Thanks, thinking of doing a masters in compsci this September

better advice here, people are in the same mindset. Going to Jow Forums would be more damaging than not getting it off your chesst

Feeling lonely as shit.
>Wake up
>Go to class
>Go to gym
>Study
>Sit at home doing nothing until I'm tired enough to sleep

I'm getting fitter but I still look like shit, have 0 self esteem and no friends.
I honestly cannot remember the last meaningful interaction I had with another person. Im 19 and nobody has ever loved me, I don't know what love feels like.

My life feels like a never-ending pointless loop, except every day I feel a little more empty and sad than the last.

I don't know whether I still want to go on living.

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Learn something,. go buy a carving knife and find some wood and make something, paint something, learn a language, programming or anything you want. Having down time and not doing anything with it is the number 1 killer of happiness and motivation.

>19 year olds who think their life ended

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

i would do anything to be 19 again

the world is literally at your fucking feet

yeah see that's good advice, but my problem is i don't know what the fuck i'm good at or what interests me career wise. that's sort of my main problem right now. i've been having a perpetual (self diagnosed) identity crisis and i don't know who i am or what my role should be in society and even my own personal life. not currently feasible for me to move state but i think i should move out of my mum's house, i feel like i need to grow up and start taking on real responsibilities asap. having rent to pay and real bills to pay and shit would probably be a good thing for my personal growth so i stop slacking off.

Not sure if i want to marry buy house and have babies with my gf of 1y.
She's my first gf in all aspects.
I like her but i'm curious about other girls and what ifs.

I hate having these doubts tbqh

Yeah, you're right.
Everything just feels so uninspiring and empty, I can't seem to find a reason to do anything, I just don't feel anything.

Truth to this, but the spastic who wrote this can not remember what it is like to be young because he probably spend his days in his basement getting raped by his mums cats

And what would you do, user?

well i did drugs and videogames and no sports at all and alot of smoking and drinking when I was 19 and only 10 years later it came to me that I wasted my life

so if I could be 19 again I wouldnt do unhealthy shit except for the occasional party
I wouldnt waste my life with videogames cause theyre pointless
I would do a study that I like with something that I can have a future with
I would keep on working and improving myself

>Really simple task
>ALWAYS doubt myself and assume I'll fuck it up in some way

Why have I always felt like this? I mean shit, my old math tutor used to always say "learn to believe in yourself" because I'd never answer questions because I assumed I'd be wrong. It effects all aspects of my life.

How old are you? And don't self diganose youserlf. Half the bullshit things that are "mental disorders" these days are bullshit. All the businessmen and movers and shakers of the world would be diagnosed with ADD or bipolar or some other shit if they were here today. Nothing wrong with living with your mum. Pay her board, get to know her as a person because thats all we all are.

Try lots of things. you might try programming and hate it and suck at it. Try something else, or you might suck at it but enjoy it, then you keep going at it till you dont suck as much at it. Seing your progress will give you some amount of self improvement which will bring your self worth up. This is vital to becoming a man

one nothing wrong with me

sometimes I convince myself that I'm going to be okay.
It's all in your head.

23, will be 24 in 6 months. never had a father figure so i think that kinda fucked up my attitude and direction in life. but i've kind of accepted that shit by now anyway and am much too old to use that as an excuse anymore so i don't really dwell on it too much. just working a shitty retail job that has no prosperous future in sight for me, stopped socialising and find no joy in anything other than lifting anymore. but yeah just don't know what steps i should actually take to fix my shit essentially.

I haven't gamed since March.
I smoke maybe once every 2 months on the rare occasion that I get together with an old friend.
I'm studying full time, pre-med right now.
I'm trying to improve myself, I gym 5-6 days a week and try to be the best person I can.

But I don't know what it's for, it just feels meaningless, and I have nobody to share it with. What is this all meant to be for?

Why not start now? I do drugs and party and play video games, I also have been snowboarding all winter, just up and left my life in Australia moved to Canada and now im 1000 times better at snowboarding. I am happy with this, I feel better for have doing it. I am 30 too and been doing drugs and fuckery since 16. If its that much of a hindrance in your life then cut it out.

I meant March 2017, so for a year.

If that's the case, go and find a computer science lesson online that you can do for free. Prepare yourself before you go jump into debt and a commitment that you may not meet. Learn something so you are not going into it blind

>25
>hugless, kissless virgin
>Never had friends
>dropped out of high school
>175cm
>estranged from family
>on welfare
>been NEET for 8 years
>literally no future
>Daily suicidal thoughts since I was a teen
>acne
>poor sight
>balding
>weak, soft unmanly body, barely any facial hair
>low IQ especially verbal IQ
>social anxiety, can't even speak on skype / discord
>no drivers license
>poor
>Chronic pain in my back, hips and wrists / carpal tunnel from sitting at the computer all day
>never learned the multiplication table
>can't tell right from left
>do not know how to find north / south etc.
>cant add with decimals
>don't know the order of the alphabet
>never learned how to swim

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I see. I'm 22 and feel like I've wasted my life. I'll keep those points in mind.

I'm going through a crisis where I've realized that I've wasted my time lately.

steps to take, small ones. Rome not built ina day and all that shit. You like lifting, sweet. Strong man? if so, join a strong man group. Get a dog, take him for a walk every day, same park to play in so you can see hotties who have dogs too (dogs are the best wingman) if your hitting the gym youll get looks so that is going for you. That being said, dont fill this hole with a hole. 23 is young, you got heaps of mistakes yet to make, and fuck man, you will make some big ones. But thats half the fun of life. Why not go do some charity work. Just do something outside your sphere of comfortably. Don't jump into the army or fuck every African to death to cure aids, take small uncomfortable steps so you can ease yourself into it, you jump right into something youll fail and give up, this is human nature.

Volunteer for a charity.

>cant tell left from right
Kek, me to brother, you can read and write so you should be able to understand the alphabet. If not learn it. Do it today, recite it like a child until it is burnt into your brain.
Start reading books, read them outside, it will be 100 times better than sitting in the dark on a Japanese whale hunting coordination website

If you are being serious, that's really tough user.

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Life is great
>tfw met this new girl
>tfw going to have sex with her soon
>tfw she doesn't know yet

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I too am a rapist

was actually thinking about starting to learn oly lifting, would be good to have that social and coach element added to lifting. yeah even though i feel kind of old at 23 i know in the grand scheme of things im still pretty fuckin young. it's just been hard because it's been an absolute slog to try and get the ball fucking rolling for me whereas other people have had concrete goals in mind and solid support groups like friends/stable family in place since they left high school. comparing myself to them just makes me feel like a fuckin loser. i'll try ur advice man thank you

Join the military, you need 0iq, it pays well, they will force you to socialize and you gain muscle and lose weight.

user you could OWN A HOUSE think about it

> left from right

user, make an L shape with your pointing finger and thumb, palms facing away from you. That’s your left hand.

Make plans to unfuck yourself. Do it now.

>can't tell right from left
>do not know how to find north / south etc.
>cant add with decimals
>don't know the order of the alphabet
You're spending all day at a machine which is linked up to the world's largest source of FREE knowledge.
If you're just NEETing it up, then you should have that fixed within 24 hours.

>never learned the multiplication table
Memorizing multiplication tables is missing the point.
If you understand how multiplication works, then you can calculate as needed.

The military won't take him if he's got poor eyesight, carpal tunnel and chronic back pain will they.

I can't get over this compulsive avoidance of rejection. All of my friends keep pushing me to ask this girl out but I can't bring myself to do it. At this point I'm telling myself any signs I noticed weren't really there to cope.
Why the fuck do I have to be like this. Why can't I just take my inevitable rejection and move on?

dont judge your life based on other peoples success. The grass is ALWAYS greener.You humans tend to look at your own life as harshly as can be, where as you look at others with hope and optimism. Everyone is their own harshest critic. Look at what you are doing and dont care what others are doing. If you dont like it, change it

Hyperhidrosis is making me depressed I dont want to leave the house anymore and I very rarely do

You wank to much and spend to much time on the computer. Be a man, not a rough tough hairy man, but a man who does what you want. If you ask her and she says yes, sweet. You ask her and she says no, well then fuck her, you will keep on living, your friends will still be your friends, and life will continue on. Go and ask her and get rejected. Go and get rejected by as many women as you can and then you will realize that rejection is not that bad, a no is a no, that is it

Move somewhere thats colder. Shower more and wear breathable clothing. Or always wear gym clothes and always go so you have an excuse that you smell, people say anything about it. "yeah man, just finished up at the gym'

>tfw weeks and weeks without talking to anyone irl
Really makes you lose track of reality bros

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sure buddy....see you next week when she dumps you

The only legitimate anxiety I have about it is making the gym awkward since we take a couple of classes together.
Fuck it, might as well get one out of the way and stop thinking about it.