Good evening/day/morning wherever you guys are, I need some help with a friend. I'm friends with a girl who is pretty okay looking (173 cm tall and around 58-60kg). She struggled previously with anorexia and once in a while gets these urges to starve herself for a week or so. She wanted that last Friday and I barely convinced her that she is alright looking and she doesn't need to lose weight, but since she lives a pretty passive lifestyle (I am talking about laying in bed for the majority of the day when awake and eating whatever comes to mind except meat because she is vegetarian and thus lacks any energy when it comes to physical stuff) and because of that I suggested that she could start doing at least some basic cardio exercises to build up her stamina. She let me "organize" her food intake. Fast forward to today I asked her if I could buy her some integral cookies (it isn't much but imo for a person like her it's a solid start) and she said yeah sure. I bought her the same kind of cookies that I occasionally eat for breakfast before school when I don't have much time. Those cookies are high on nutritional value and can make a person feel full fast and I advised her not to take too many because of that and because they could make a person feel sick if eaten too much. She interpreted that in the wrong way and said that I encourage eating disorders by "making" her do exercises and eating certain stuff in a certain order.
So yeah dudes, what do I do here? I understand if I started talking to her about it the wrong way but my intention wasn't to hurt her or bully her (she really does look great rn and I don't think she should look skinny or more thicc), I just wanted her to get into a bit less of a passive life style at least.
Friend mad at me when I suggested that she could start exercising
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tell her you really care about her and want her to be healthy, purest intentions
emphasize you really give a fuck
So, you're organizing her diet and telling her she looks great and shit, but you're just friends?
The amount of eggshells you're walking on is kinda pathetic imho.
Furthermore, you're trying to enforce a change in lifestyle on someone who has zero motivation.
People often talk about change coming from within, that the person needs to be truly motivated to stick to something.
Meanwhile you're trying to change someone because you wanted it, not her, of course it's probably in her best interest, but people usually aren't willing to keep trying to improve if they don't want it themselves.
She's only humoring you, you're wasting your time.
Is OP beta-orbiter-tier friend who is just offering this "service" as a means to get "in"?
You can't fix her. Only she can do that. The sooner you learn that, the happier you will be.
>She struggled previously with anorexia
Delete her from your phone, your friends list and your followers. Cut off all contact. Avert eye contact in the street. Disavow knowledge of her. Unperson her Soviet Union style. Then, crucially, NEVER involve yourself with a woman who can’t perform basic life functions unassisted ever again.
Maybe you should stop being friends with pathetic weaklings that don't even lift?????????????????????????????????
Just apologize for pushing too hard. If you go to the gym ask if her if she would like to join you.
If she says no then let it go
shes a crazy bitch and you're a white knight beta trying to save her from her internal dragon of retardation. her trying to manipulate you into feeling guilt for trying to help her is psycho tier shit
She is lesbo dude. Even if I wanted to "get in" i never even had a chance.
then what the FUCK do you want with her? don't tell me shes interesting because females aren't interesting, don't tell me shes smart, funny or has a good heart because they aren't those either.
you're caught in a pussy web op, abort abort abort
Someone should stop Araki
She IS a good friend and the only person in my life with who I can almost always have meaningful conversations and with who I don't feel judged due to my autism, serious anxiety and OCD. Sorry mate for not taking advice from a robot meme
>She IS a good friend and the only person in my life with who I can almost always have meaningful conversations and with who I don't feel judged due to my autism, serious anxiety and OCD.
Sounds like you're perfect for each other.
tl;dr
the best way to change someone's lifestyle is to get your own shit together so much so that they want to change themselves
if the latter doesn't happen, oh well
if it does, great
Some people have drugs, I have the gym and swimming to deal with my problems
cool user let me know if you eventually crack the sociopath lesbian pussy riddle
>I like her because she doesn't judge me
>Why is she pissed about me judging her?
You're a shit friend mate.
why are you replying to me you retarded nigger?
Oh fuck, now I'm the faggot!
I hope you appreciate the (You)'s as an apology.
Haven't even posted here but can I get one too?
(You)
I wouldn't call it "judging her" when she clearly asked me to do the shit I've done. Also in all this time I've known her I never judged her once, unless you call giving her suggestions to stop drugs and other unhealthy habits the past 2-3 months "judging"
Thanks man
Why the hell would you agree to organize the food of someone with an eating disorder, or even talk about food with them in the first place? They're mentally ill, there's no arguing with logic against them.
>she is vegetarian
she's already a lost cause
AWAKEN MY MASTERS
>falling for the lesbo meme
That's not what friends do, idiot.
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>lesbian
>vegetarian
>struggles with anorexia
>history of eating disorders
>thin-skinned
>has her beta man slave buy her food and deliver it to her
>refuses to exercise