I'm female. I'm in college and I have a bad past that makes me very anxious and uncomfortable around people so I literally have no friends. Never been kissed.
My parents are very conservative so I kind of grew up thinking that I would wait until marriage but threw out that idea at 18. I want to only have sex in committed relationships that could lead to marriage.
I feel very uncomfortable about being an older person with nooooo experience at all. So I figured that I would go on Tinder and make a "friend" to practice with. Not all the way sex but just oral and making out. Am I crazy? Is this outlandish? I know it could be very awkward for me but that's why I want a friend... I was thinking that I could find a submissive guy because I figure that they would listen to me.
>I feel very uncomfortable about being an older person with nooo experience at all You aren't supposed to have experience until you find your husband. Sort out your daddy issues and don't act like a slut.
Matthew James
what daddy issues? i never said i have them
Colton Bell
wtf you came to the one board on Jow Forums that hates women
go to Jow Forums you dumb roastie and post this there
You want to go out and slut around to rebel against your parents. You definitely have them.
Kevin Harris
I'm turning 20 later this year and I'm waiting for marriage. I'm a guy. Men prefer any partner they plan to marry to be a virgin. Trash that and you're, at best, going to end up settling with a beta provider who can't do any better.
Noah Wood
get a pimp already. at least you will get some money out of whoring yourself.
Oliver Ross
I'm 7 weeks away from being 23 and I've never even flirted with a girl
>I want to only have sex in committed relationships that could lead to marriage >Should I lose my virginity to some random on tinder?
Blake Ramirez
pls let the nice female in peace nevermind, fuck off stupid whore reeeeeeeeeeeeee reeeeeeeeeeee reeeeeeeeeeee give me tendies or i'll poop in your vagina
Jack Hall
plsrespond
did u know 9/10 turtles have chlamydia that is surprising because i thought i got them all
Why do you feel a need to give a blowjob to a "friend"?
Asher Thompson
did i say that i wanted PIV sex though? no srry
Austin Bailey
Come meet me here in the US, and I'll take you under my wing. I'm 21, so we're similar in age. If we're near, I'd assume this would be better than tinder. Maybe we'd make something of it. I'm also experienced and didn't get that experience until I was nearly 20 years old, so I understand how awkward that first kiss is. I broke down laughing at myself during the first kiss because it was just so weird.
Dylan Price
Don't try that bullshit on me. You suck a guys dick, you're no longer a virgin and just a fucking whore.
because im not going to get a husband i want if im someone with no experience and v insecure i dont.
Christopher Johnson
This Why even pretend that it serves a higher purpose?
Sebastian Evans
yes you very clearly do lmao
>because im not going to get a husband i want literally makes no sense. you are saying he's going to divorce you when he finds out you have no experience? you are just a roastie looking for excuses to fuck around like all the others
Tyler Nelson
fucking around would be me wanting to have sex with tons of randoms on IG I want one fwb but no actual sex (piv) so i can be more confident and not so inept
Dylan Ross
>because im not going to get a husband i want if im someone with no experience and v insecure Are there men who an experienced whore? JFC
Look Don't worry about it. If you're in a committed relationship your bf is probably not gonna care you're a virgin even if he doesn't prefer it like me. If he does he's not worth being with anyways
Jayden Phillips
>I would go on Tinder and make a "friend" to practice with >tfw this idiot gets her dumb ass raped by some Tinder dude
i can't get in a committed relationship if im a weird prude sperg and not with someone husband material. i don't want a very traditional man too because SAHM life isn't for me
Noah Young
Why do you need a friend? You can blow me Tell me where you live and we can 69 each other
Blake Evans
CAN SOMEONE JUST CRITIQUE MY PLAN INSTEAD OF DERAILING?
Wyatt Young
Rule 30. There are no girls on the Internet. Rule 31. Tits or GTFO.
No Girls on the Internet is a catchphrase used by netizens to imply that there are no female entities actually participating in online forums and conversations, especially in anonymous-friendly settings like chat rooms and message boards.
Tits or GTFO is a reinforcing statement of the preceding Rule 30 ("No Girls on the Internet") that suggests the burden of visual proof rests heavily on the individuals who claim to be females.
the rules aren't made for nothing
Grayson Edwards
It's a retard plan. It probably won't work because someone will end up catching feelings, especially being the first. One of you will get pump and dumped and that's an asshole move to which ever party that is. Just find yourself a bf that may or may not turn into something much more serious. If it doesn't, end it on good terms and move on. Don't go in with the mindset of it just meaning nothing to you. Beside, you're a girl and you're not that old, it's really not that big of a deal.
Aiden Johnson
What do you mean? First of all, if my mother who is more autistic than me can find a man who's willing to look past her weird spergness then anyone can
Easton Campbell
If your future bf cares more about your sexual experience than the rest of you that relationship isn't gonna last
Asher Morris
I don't think I could develop feelings for some tinder guy who would agree to being practice. i don't know how to find myself a bf, im too socially retarded and awk and your dad isn't a loser? i think a little experience makes sense at almost 21. im 20 and have done nothing because im anxious and just weird
Dylan Ortiz
>and your dad isn't a loser? Roastie once again refusing to accept anyone who isn't Chad
Austin Cooper
Why do you need experience? Are you just compensating for lost time while all of your friends were fucking around?
Andrew Kelly
what state you in fembot? tinder is for stds, I'm clean and could help you out
Zachary Davis
i dont need chad but i need a husband i need experience because it's just something that people get as they age. NY
Jackson Jackson
>. im turning 21 in a few months and im getting into weird territory now.
My dad isn't Chad but he played football in high school and rode a motorcycle And he had a steady job which isn't something I can claim
Jeremiah Nguyen
>letting the whole world know you are a prostitute.
not worth the money.
Brody Stewart
>NY Can't help you then sorry. I'm on the best coast, shame. I know people in NY though and they say DO NOT use tinder there. They live close to the city though so ymmv
Jose Lopez
Yeah i live by the city but im in college in nj so it's usually just college students
Ethan Clark
>I'm in college and I have a bad past that makes me very anxious >So I figure I'll go on tinder
I'll let you study my dick head for a tuition that I'll decide depending on the quality of your fellatio skills
Mason Martinez
There are only whores and whores in training, guess which one you are?
Ryder Anderson
neither no thanks
anyway guys i tested my idea once and ended up matching with a guy who is a drug dealer who agreed to just giving me oral so it's possible but idk i am conflicted ;-;
Joseph Mitchell
You're clearly overthinking this I think people should wait until marriage but something I can agree with sex-positivism is the notion that sex should be an experience not a burden So fuck if you want to fuck and wait if you want to wait Don't make yourself fuck just because you're worried about what your future bf thinks Be your own damn person
Benjamin Morgan
Please don't put yourself in danger ffs
Austin Johnson
OP, real talk from another fembot.
You are a woman. You have ALL the fucking power. Know your worth. Don't think you have to "practice" with someone. Guys in their 20s are all terrible at sex. You can be terrible with them, too. Have awkward, messy sex with boyfriends until you figure shit out gradually. Don't ask for some rando to fuck you into being "good" at it. Figuring out how to have sex within the context of a regular relationship is the best avenue. You don't need to treat it like a secret skill to develop separately from a relationship. And def don't start with a submissive dude because they won't know how to initiate or do anything to please you. jfc, do you really want someone like these dudes on r9k fumbing around with your clitoris?
Nathaniel Taylor
That's true I'm just so insecure about my age :/ it's just that i dont think ill be in a real relationship anytime soon because people with problems shouldn't date. a self proclaimed fembot isn't a normal person and i dont want to dump my insecurities on someone who could prey on me which is why i concocted this idea to improve my confidence but i do understand what you're saying
Jeremiah King
People prey on each other. Men will prey on you for sex, we women will prey on them for validation. It is common to be a virgin in college. I literally did what you did when I was like 22, had sex with a 30-something guy like twice just to lose my virginity and have some "experience" so I didn't feel out of my depth if I ever met "the one."
It was dumb and only gave me a pretty warped view on sex. Let your future boyfriend help you figure out what sex is, and you discover your likes/dislikes/preferences/techniques with each other. Also, good sex with an experienced person you don't care about now will make a sweet, well-meaning kid your age seem unsatisfying.
Normally I'd say just go out and fuck anyone you want, be a hoe and be unapologetic about it, because you only learn about sex and preferences through direct experiences, but that doesn't seem to be what you want.
You're not as odd as you think. What you're feeling is pretty typical of a lot of girls.
Angel Russell
You're just 20 You're nowhere near being a Christmas cake In the mean time work on yourself if you're scared of being taken advantage of
Tyler Ward
I'm in college too. Here's a quick protip: If you want ez pz chill casual sex go find some dude that doesn't act like a douche and is kind of introverted but doesn't have any sort of confidence issues and can hold a good conversation about whatever you want. Make it clear you don't want a relationship but you are down to be friends. If he's cool with this, there you go, couple weeks later ask if he wants to fuck and maybe he'll help you out with this. I have a bunch of really great female friends that I met like this or by studying together, some of them wanted casual sex down the line and because I knew them already and we communicated where both of us wanted to keep the relationship everything is cool between us. Things irl aren't how they are portrayed on r9k.
Nathaniel Morales
Why would you try to convince anyone to willingly be a whore?
Kevin Lee
I'm not OP but that disgusts me
Henry Johnson
>that disgusts me Well no shit, it's pure degeneracy. Not saying it's moral at all, it's just a relatively common thing on college campuses.
Jonathan Carter
I see. Thanks for the advice :) I will. I don't want casual sex desu. I just wanted a practice friend like described in OP or a relationship
Eli Lewis
Because life is a meaningless cesspool, and sexual gratification without shame shouldn't belong exclusively to men. You have 60-90 years of being a sack of meat, why bother wringing your hands worrying over ideas on purity and appropriateness?
You find out how to have sex and what kind of sex you like by having sex. To girls who consider themselves feminists, are uninterested in traditional gender roles and power dynamics, I'd tell them to go fuck whoever they want, and point them in the direction of birth control and condoms.
Lucas Brooks
>completely ignores the fact that her excuse about not getting the husband she wants is complete bullshit nah u just want to fuck around , doesn't matter the reason
Andrew Rodriguez
if i wanted that, i wouldn't be plotting and planning. i would be on tinder rn and just ask guys to come over.
Jayden Thomas
>I don't want casual sex desu. I just wanted a practice friend like described in OP or a relationship t. didn't read my post. I described how to make a "practice friend".
Jacob Anderson
Okay. Yeah that makes sense but i dont have the confidence to ask or suggest. im too anxious which is why i like online/tinder better
William Evans
Ah See I address this by advocating we shame men for being promiscuous as well
We shouldn't treat sex like it's something be ashamed of but we should weary of being like
Blake Harris
>betas will thirstily reply to this terrible bait This board is fucking dead.
Ayden Price
Oh okay. Anxiety sucks big time. good luck out there be safe pls
Liam Roberts
Meh. Marriage shouldn't be the end-all be all-goal that dominates your entire existence and gives you meaning. A relationship ending doesn't mean the entire thing was a waste, either.
I've known people who treated relationships like seasons. They had a long-term partner for their youth, another to raise their kids with, and another they lived into retirement with.
Whatever works.
Levi Adams
>I'm female.
stopped reading lol
Ayden Wilson
So wait are you gonna suck that guy's dick or not? Because you can find plenty of practice friends on here
Thomas Carter
thanks xx probably not if i met him on tinder but if i met the dude irl and respected him maybe
Zachary Bailey
That's pretty screwed up I'm afraid of your mentality spreading
Sure maybe there's some happiness But most marriages breaking up stem from both partners being too selfish from fixing their problems So we're just increasing in selfishness
