/sgg/ - Social Gains General

everything by dale carnegie is fucking trash dude. Normie tier shit that would work for superaspies.

>been stuck with the same small group of guys for 2 years straight
>we're all taking aircraft technician courses in the military
>more comfortable with them than I've ever been with anyone including my family
>before the military I had failed to make a single friend in the 4 years following highschool, both at work and in uni, was always the biggest loser in any given room
>now I have become to be considered pretty witty, funny, and interesting within the group
>start to think that I've made massive social gains, but when I leave my safe space and try to talk to people outside my group, I immediately revert back to the zero-charisma loser I was before
>can't make basic small talk with people, and can't "b myself" because my new natural personality is being weird, faggy, and offensive
>not to mention I talk even less with girls than I did before
>now I'm realizing that hanging around the same politically incorrect manchildren every day for 2 years hasn't made me more socially adept at all
>this part of my life is almost over and were all going to go our seperate ways
>once again, I will no longer have the luxury of forced socializing, and will have to make effort to seek out friendship on my own
I'm not ready for the real world yet lads.

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Incase anyone was wondering phenibut isn't a meme

Really bubbly people who know how to talk a lot WITHOUT being overwhelming are cool.

I work in sales it forces me to be social. Everyone around has noticed a difference. I’m less in my head and more in the moment.

The more social you are and the healthier your social life is the happier you will be

It is addictive though is it not?

penisbutt lol

Interesting to say the least. Having had the motivation to lift or really leave the house for a considerable amount of time but, maybe it's something about late 20's, I've done a great deal of maturing. I've become way more comfortable with myself and it's just made everything a whole lot easier. Finally threw out my infantile need to one up people or be 'cool', or have the biggest dick in the room. I just want to be me now, and to be with people who appreciate me, not some personality I'm forcing for my own ego or their approval.

Having should be havnt btw

I've never really had issues talking to people casually or professionally, and I've only gotten better at that between some volunteer work and becoming/befriending normies in a frat.

My two biggest problems are my temper and approach anxiety when trying to express interest in women. I've only succeeded at the latter by accident when completely plastered.

How does it help? Does something like half a gram before going to a bar or club improve the experience?

This is a retarded book. If you take the advice in there you turn into a lukewarm cunt with no personality and anyone that doesn't have a room temperature IQ realizes what you are doing. Watch two people trying to use the tactics in this book attempt to have a conversation it is fucking hilarious they just talk in a circle asking each other questions and responding with questions.

t. apparently the only person that isn't an autist on Jow Forums

How do I talk to a girl who I ever only see in passing? She goes to my school and I've seen her in my church a couple times, but I have no idea who she is and she is the most beautiful girl i've ever seen.

Idk I've never had a problem limiting myself but if your prone to that kinda behavior of be careful

I wouldn't mix it with alcohol but yeah it's good for socialising. I have to take about a gram to notice an effect tho

Relying on a substance to build social skills is a bad way to learn. It may become a crutch you need.

ignore what your head tells you and just talk to her. the worst that can happen is literally nothing while the best that can happen is a potential relationship

You're probably right, now I just have to hype myself up to do it, wish me luck.

The best way to be social is to be attractive that way people will WANT to talk to you

>be me
>work at a bar to develop social gains
>still kinda aspie, but getting better at talking to bar customers
>try and take my social skills outside of work
>fucking can't even talk to people or even look them in the eyes

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Met my girlfriend's friends and passed yesterday, so that's good.

I relate to this too well

>flirting with jewess at work
>is really family oriented and we talk about our dreams for the future
>offered to bring me lunch tomorrow
>tfw already thinking of marrying her

Don’t know if I really don’t enjoy most people, or if I’m being lazy about embracing it and becoming more “part of the scene”

So not a good substance to take and then get seriously trashed?

Ask her if she goes to the church and that you see her around school
Not that hard m8

That's how it is, friendo, you're doing fine. I'm a very sociable person, but I'm a different person around my good friends. You have to learn how to approach people you don't know. You will act differently. Its all about meeting as many people as possible till you're comfortable with meeting people. After a while, you'll find it to be quite easy to be yourself around newcomers.

Don't worry, just keep trying. Force yourself to

No it's real bad

This book requires that you are at least a competent human being in social situations. It doesn't walk you through every step of a conversation you mongoloid

what do wagies dream about? working hard so nosenberg will give them a 10% raise next year? LMAO

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>broke up with gf a few months ago
>literally first everything, she came up to me
>been improving myself lately so I have more confidence
>new job forces me to talk to people so I've gotten pretty good at it lately
>trying hard to get laid once more, no luck so far
>qt I saw once at work came back today and I got nervous, that hadn't happened in a while

how do I get sex Jow Forums. I literally only got laid the time I was with my gf because she came onto me. I can talk to girls, I've been out with a couple since, but I just can't fuck

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Or it could help you realize that it's okay to be care free and that you'll do fine if you just get out of your own way,

gonna hit the bar solo for the first time on friday any advice bros? haven't gone out since january and I moved to a new city

I am a capitalist

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i know the feeling, you have to force yourself to be the same as with your friends to strangers. before I go into social situations I have to actually think to myself this and go in and say stupid shit. it breaks the ice and you won't look dumb, it just shows you have a personality. keep doing this and it will be natural for your personality to shine to anyone you talk to, stranger or friend

Its always fun to go to a bar and just look around and see if you lock eyes with a qt. Has happened to me a couple of times, usually with smiles. I am however autistic so I never do anything