Why are girls so weird

Sounds vapid. Hopefully she can give good blowjobs and has a nice ass. Other than that she's not worth the effort

Are you now only finding out that women contradict themselves all the time?

It's in their nature it seems desu. They all do it and the never grow out of it

>op is thinking about breaking up
>reassure her you won't leave her

but that's wrong

Every time she threatens leaving you you have to show you are prepared to go through with it or she will get worse and threaten it more often.

Women just dont think like you. Accept that. At the same tine if you were in her position, with easy tricks to make her do what you want, youd start abusing them more and more as well.

It just comes down to dont be a pushover and if she doesn't like that she's bad for you.

Also if you actually man up and don't give so much of a shit you dont have to put up with it. Either she wants you and stops or you dump her. Win win eithet way no more bullshit.

"she always want to be romantic all the time and think people do stuff like they do in the movies."

Fucking this is so enraging in a relationship

Am female and going through this right now with my boyfriend. But I have the self awareness enough to know that what I'm doing is absolutely wrong and he doesn't deserve it, I push him away and cry then cry harder when he starts to pull away

P-Pleasr teach me how to be a better if Jow Forums I do love him cause I don't want him to leave, but at the same time I think I don't love him and get paranoid. His past has a lot to do with it to, I was a virgin and he was kinda gross.

Sorry for the diary post but you guys are my closest things to friends and I'd rather have a male input than some jaded roastie. Please ily

Women will naturally get bored with guy if he hangs around her 24/7. You just need time away from each other every now and then so you can miss him. Atleast that is what im gathering from your situation
Women like to test men. She wants to see if you are stong or if she can change your life goals. If she can change you then she will perceive you as weak and leave.

Leave

This. Honestly most women are pretty dumb like this. You just have to learn to ignore their stupidity and be tolerant of it. Let them get mad, upset or whatever. It'll pass quick.

He's in a different country right now, I think most of it is hung up on his past, I just want to be a wholesome girlfriend and treat him right but he rather be with sluts with bastard children than me(at least what my gender nigger brain tells myself)
He ruined my back day because we were fighting all morning

>be in an argument
>if you dont do what i want i'll leave you
Leave any relationship where the other person tries to force their will through ultimatums like this, they are immature and not worth spending your time with.

Leave and date me instead

>sluts with bastard children than me
What do you mean by this?
>arguing
Never a good sign when a man agrues with a woman because men that argue with women dont understand them. Women will get mad at men based upon their present feelings, no amount of logical arguments can change a woman's feelings. The best way to not argue is understand what is making her upset. If she refuses to talk about it she is testing you to see if you really care or is a bad communicator.

I've experienced this also in a 3 year relationship where the last year was pretty much dead.

>don't argue logic, communicate understanding
can confirm

Anytime I bring up what he does that upsets me, he gets really defensive and that's when the arguments start. I have bad timing sometimes too, so then he uses that has me not giving a shit about him.
All exes I know about had kids from multiple partners(not him though) and didn't take care of themselves.
He's been starting to crab in a bucket me because I've been hardcore going to the gym since he left, ignoring the fact I'm literally doing it to be his arm candy, because I want him to be proud of me.
But also when I get mad I call him a cuck, a pig fucker, and say he disgusts me and really fucked up stuff.

He took my virginity so I really want to stay with him, even though I wish he told me about his past before we had sex...

>gets really defensive
>I just have bad timing
>crab in the bucket
>responds to being called a cuck
>gross

Sounds like he belongs in In a sustainable relationship it's never 'you vs them', it's 'us both vs this problem'.

fuck you just described my last relationship

Thank you therapy user, you're gonna make me cry.

I told him multiple times I wanna look good for him and then he accuses me of cheating...then I accuse him of cheating.
Today I wanted to work everything out and he just rather ignore me, call me a bitch, I feel trapped he really was a sweet guy but now he's just different, I tried to be there for his problems but he doesn't let me in. But gets extremely mad when I push him away...I really am holding out for hope.

>be in an argument
>if you dont do what i want i'll leave you

There it is. Get rid of her. A relationship shouldn't be based on bullshit conditions

>Anytime I bring up what he does that upsets me, he gets really defensive and that's when the arguments start.
He is a bad communicator
>All exes I know about had kids from multiple partners(not him though) and didn't take care of themselves.
This is going to sound like some cuck reddit shit but if you love him then his past should not matter. You can't change what happened and if it bothers you then leave.
>He's been starting to crab in a bucket me because I've been hardcore going to the gym since he left, ignoring the fact I'm literally doing it to be his arm candy
Insecurity on his part
>But also when I get mad I call him a cuck, a pig fucker, and say he disgusts me and really fucked up stuff.
fucking stupid for you to do this

Either break up or try this next time
"Babe, when you do X it makes me feel Y. There is no logical argument that can say that will change the way I feel. I need you to listen to me"

post tits and I'll tell you what to do

Realise that it is totally normal for the butterflies crush feeling to fade away.
Realise that if you really do love him, even if that fades you will still want to talk to him, spend time with him, telling him about your day, etc.

You're normal, don't worry, just do things that are fun together, but don't expect it to be like you've just met forever.

That just sounds like a terrible, immature relationship all round.

Break up.

If you've explicitly communicated that there are problems you want to get past in order to be happy in the relationship, and your partner doesn't want to work on it, break up.

I don't mean "hey can we talk" talks. I mean "I will leave you if you do not get past this problem with me" talks.

That's what he told me, about his past, I guess it's because I had some obscure idea that being a virgin is really something and to know he catered to sluts irks me. But you are right. Him and I can't change it.
I told him about being insecure but then he just pouts.
And I know it's really horrible of me to get so personal when I'm angry, there's no excuse for it other than it makes me feel in control, I don't even feel better about it because then it's more strain on the relationship.

Thank you for the advice, I'm really going to heed it as well as I can. I want this to last but I also need to understand that if it's not meant to be then it's not. I do miss him, a lot and it turns into resentment because(female brain tells me he left me) even though he doesn't have a choice.

Any tips on making a temporary ldr work? Sorry for bothering you guys so much but thank you so much its really nice to have this input.

Love isn't something you feel. Love is something you do.

You think someone is wonderful, you feel attracted to them, and then you choose to love them.

When you're both in your 90's will you help clean their diapers when they can't control their bowel movements anymore?

When your partner loses their legs and use of their sex organs in a car accident, will you stick around knowing you'll never have normal sex again?

If you partner is caught in a fire and gets burned from head to toe and looks like a piece of been jerky, will you stay knowing you'll never be sexually attracted to then again?

These are choices of love. You choose to love them, or you choose to move on.

Love is not a feeling.

Funny story
>1.5 years ago
>gf was total trash, for some reason she thought it was okay to destroy our 3 year relationship by constantly fucking with me psychologically
>gave me every reason to leave her, except for cheating on me, which she never did
>I held on because I didnt wanna lose my 3 year investment
>slowly. Very slowly she got better. She learned how to communicate and talk out her problems. Became very loyal due to me sticking through our relationship.
>fast forward to now
>hot chick who agrees with me politically keeps flirting with me
>I have literally no reason to leave my gf other than muh dick
>tfw gf wont cause problems anymore and talks through our fights like a rational person, because I taught her how.
>tfw muh dick

>Love isn't something you feel. Love is something you do.
Christ this. Most women think love is the dopamine rush they get on the first few dates. No, love is just a thing you have for someone, not a feeling, barely an emotion.

Do men really enjoy it when their girlfriends tell them about their day? My parents have a really shitty relationship and going off of that isn't even fair.

What about when I want to do something with him and I think he's busy? Just tell him or ask him right? I always chicken out and let him take a lot of the reigns... But he just plays vidya and if I'm lucky wants me to watch on twitch.

>Any tips on making a temporary ldr work?
I have never done this so honestly I dont really know and it's not like you relationship is healthy to the point that it could survive long distance. Best thing I could say is maybe surprise visit him where he is at lol?

this jackoff gets a gf and i don't.
i need to act like him and treat roasties like you like shit.
how did he convince you to let him take your virgnity. do u like it when guys text u back a lot or ignore you?

does she have a father? i theorize that when there is no example in the home of what a relationship looks like, they look instead to media for examples. my ex was like this, always expecting me to treat her like a fucking princess, while having no real understanding of the male-female dynamic in the context of a relationship. I'm sure it goes without saying she was raised by a single mother

If hes watching videogames, just ask him. Most dudes just play videogames to pass the time, it doesnt matter too much.

You either choose the objective or the means, never both.
What's right and what's good for user may not be the same thing.

>Do men really enjoy it when their girlfriends tell them about their day?
Yes, just don't spend it all bitching about some other woman.

He sounds extremely immature and an asshole. Break up with him, he doesn't know how to do a relationship, it involves work on both sides, you both have to make time for each other.

He's done to you what OP is complaining about, he treats you like shit because he knows you won't leave.

>Do men really enjoy it when their girlfriends tell them about their day?
Men that are in absolute love will, but really a woman talking about her day is more for her. Women talk through their issues and when a man sits there and listens it is therapeutic to her
>muh dick
you do you dude

ayy, das just a personal choice. Do you want a wholesome gf or to get your dick wet

That's how I feel about him though. Those are all things I would stick by him for, I look forward to our future so much and just doing long term couple things,
He did say something that resonated with me when I asked how he'd be when we got back.
"We'll probably be at eachothers throats with our relationship dangling by a thread, but as long as there is a thread who cares?" And I really want to believe that.
I really want to believe I'm someone he wants to spend his time with because he's mine, even with all the fights, his past, everything I really want him to be my one and only.

I honestly don't know if he would like that.. maybe...if I get the money saved I will.
Please don't, because it really hurts and he's just now being like this. He was really sweet, we'd talk about memes, have the same view on politics, and did spontaneous stuff(that I would usually consider cringy and normie, but with him it was fun) he made shitty normie love songs tolerable cause I'd think of him.
It was more of when I fell in love with his character, and knew that he was the one I wanted to be with, I gave it to him. He's a shitty drunk though, I wished I realized that sooner.
Text back all the time, if she's really into you like I was with him shell enjoy it, send memes and articles you both can rant about and or laugh at.
Ignoring women just makes us go on panic mode, think we did something wrong, and if we're not committed properly it's kind of like a fight or flight thing.

She's trying to condition you. Turn you into the man she thinks she wants before realizing you were the man she wanted before she changed you. It's a game they play. They test your will to see how easily breakable you are and when you break they break it with you.

Is this post ironic? The misspellings are too funny.

>i need to act like him and treat roasties like you like shit
Its not about treating women like shit, its about not being their lapdog or beta orbiter. The issue today is that such a small portion of men understand women that they are left with a insecure beta orbiter that needs to text her every five minutes to get validation for himself or some jackass that couldn't give two shits.
>do u like it when guys text u back a lot or ignore you?
You should text girls back but you should have a busy life so that circumstances mean you don't always text back immediately. Women want a man that has a life outside of her, a dream, a goal, something that drives him. Its kinda weird but they want to feel that if they leave you it would not change who you are. So, when they feel that way about you they will always try to change your goal/vision/dream into her and you can never let a woman do this.

That hurts to read. I try to talk about my day like it's been good.

I wanna take the anons advice for making it work. If that fails then ive tried for the last time and do need to move on.
I just want to make him happy. I hope I do No I have shaky hands and I'm a phone fag. Sorry

Thank you guys for the advice, I'll go back to lurking and not ruining the laotian cutlery fanatics guild.

Keep lifting and break those PRs Jow Forums

>did spontaneous stuff
remember this boys. The courtship never ends and if you get complacent in a relationship its about to blow up

>You should text girls back but you should have a busy life so that circumstances mean you don't always text back immediately. Women want a man that has a life outside of her, a dream, a goal, something that drives him.

No, just no. You have no idea how many women end up with unemployed men, alcoholics and abusers. They dont have goals are aspirations but the woman sticks around simply because she wants to change him.

You sound like a nice girl, hope everything works out for you

>unemployed men
My point was not specifically about a career. An unemployed guy can exhibit the behaviors
>alcoholics
Oh? So you are saying that he has something that drives him besides his woman and that she is trying to change that? Isn't that exactly what I typed?
>Abusers
These are unhealthy relationships with damaged people. They are not going to act like normal men and women

Listen hon, youre in your first two years of the relationship, which means you're probably incapacitated by how 'great' he is.

But he isnt great. Hes a human being and human beings are shit. He has flaws and this is one. Please take the time to think about the standards you expect for yourself. Even if it means him leaving you.

Nah dont even try and justify it all your points are dumb. Alcohol is a drive besides women? Just shut up.

Complacency isn't bad though, and I don't expect to do something 24/7. My honestly favorite thing to do with him was cuddle, but have our headphones in watching different stuff we liked on our phones.
Thank you so much! That really means a lot, I'm going to try to be more open and better on my part, and if we're made up after he wakes up and eats see if he wants to watch something on Rabbit. I never ask because I'm nervous hell say no, but I know I have to pull my own weight too for us to enjoy things while he's away.

Also, relevant to the thread, if women treat you like their pets, or go batshit when you want time for yourself, they're insecure and possibly borderline. Confront them in a nice but stern way, and if they refuse to change instead of having an open mind and listening to your stance. Then they're cold hearted and are just using you. Please don't settle for someone that doesn't see your worth. The right girl will come along.

>You should text girls back but you should have a busy life so that circumstances mean you don't always text back immediately
I don't even text back immediately. but my issue is when girls try to have fucking convos and they text me long ass shit. then i reply with more long ass shit.
obnoxious
last girl i met off tinder literally texted me at 1am if i believed in god. after we met twice.

Mine is 28 and she still acts like that. You cant expect women to behave like men.

Women are literally always thinking, especially about someone they're interest in. They get paranoid if you guys have a lot in common, so whenever a thought enters their mind, they'll have to ask, regardless of inconvenience or time. They just want you to be who they want you to be if that makes sense.

>They get paranoid if you guys have a lot in common
so its a bad thing if we do have a lot in common?
anyway im an autist from Jow Forums. I try to hide my power levels without acting like an asshole. but I end up losing them anyway.

I usually only text girls to set up dates. Especially ones I have just started dating or just meet. If a girl is reaching out to you she wants you to set up the next date and if its already set up I would just day "hey id love to hear about it when we go out but I am busy right now." Texting alot will kill a relationship before it starts.
Well hey, those guys can get women for some reason while there are an army of beta males that can't. I went over this a little bit in my original post. Those guys exhibit SOME behaviors that attract women and since many women are approached by insecure beta males they feel they have no other option.

>But also when I get mad I call him a cuck, a pig fucker, and say he disgusts me and really fucked up stuff.
You should end this relationship and then grow the fuck up before you start amother one

Oops I worded it wrong, they hope you do, and so the list of questions will run through their head on what to ask you. Think of the most beta incel angry incel you know, and add bobs and vagene.
They want the relationship to work just as much as you do, maybe more infact but they're so inept on figuring how a guy works it results to pettiness.

>just keep them around to help pass the time while I wait for better prospects

>don't put in a lot of effort in the relationship either

this x1000

This guy know his shit.

Girls do this shit ALL THE TIME though.

All women are like that. Treat her like a bratty little sister, and mentally add "Right now, I feel like X" on the front of every thing she says. Basically, what ever deep thoughts she has can change second-by-second, based on her feelings that second... so don't take anything she says seriously. Ever.

You could dump her, but the next one will be the same.

never try to reason with a woman. She thinks with her spine.

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Hello fellow corey wayne listener

> gave me every reason to leave her, except for cheating on me, which she never did

I have sad news for you user

Had to google him. Probably got my advice from the same source he did.

He has been around since like 2006. You just used the same phrase he uses

Based corey wayne

Time to swallow the redpill user

She's not weird. Actually she is insecure and weak and trys to project that onto you to pull you down and control you.

Uhh, women in general are not THAT crazy. Sounds like you're dating a schizo.

h.h.hi chad

My favorite Australian-product-using Russian weightlifter from [message board] listens to Corey Wayne?

It's possible.

I've dated a schizo. This is fucking child's play to the stuff a schizo can pull off, though my ex was less jealous than she was "can you please stop that man in the corner from screaming that he's going to kill me, I can't focus on dinner"

Perhaps it’s my cope talking but it’s so obvious I would never take this kind of shit from a woman I wonder if it seriously affected my dating success.

Women are the nigger of gender

You have a basic girl as gf user
Dont generalize