/SIG/ - Self Improvement General

Plenty of people work while going to school. Quit making excuses.

You've got this bro! You can do anything you set your heart, mind, and soul to! Just believe in yourself, the you that YOU believe in! GET TO IT AND GO FOR THE GOLD user! WE ALL GONNA MAKE IT!

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I intend to starting june 15th.

Thank's bro!

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>Made it through nopornapril2018, feels good, fapping and porn is gay as fuck. I will keep going
>Started sleeping on my yoga mat instead of in my bed, lowerback pain is slowly fading, though i am not sure if the quality of sleep is improving
>Cold showers are still the best thing besides lifting
>Reading Ryan Munsey's Fuck your feelings, good book so far altough i do most of the things in the book already
>bought foam roller
>stretching in the morning and before bed

Still 8 years of neetdom, tfw 31 year old man

looking to do nofap in may

>go to gym
>Start doing workout
>sweating.jpg
>Get itchy af all over

Why does this happen?

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Does you pre-workout (assuming you take some) have beta alanine in it? Itching/tingling is a common and harmless side-effect.

here's how to normalize yourself
>jerk it to weird shit to your heart's content
>eventually you'll lose the rush of jerking it to something weird
>vanilla will become something weird and appreciable
>profit

haha

What happened to the Jow Forums guild on habitrpg? Im trying to get my life together here

I jerk it to sissy/femdom shit and ive yet to make it beyond like 8-9 days clean in a year now jfmsu

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Found the (((JEW)))

What if I work a nightshift?

Sell drugs

>stopped videogames
>stopped getting my calories in liquid form (I only allow myself sometimes a bit of milk in my coffee)
>quitted all online 'social' communities with a fixed group of people (steam, telegram, discord you get the idea)
>forced myself out of my comfort zone to cure my social autism and anxiety

I'm still struggling with nofap and wasting way too much time on the internet (4ch, plebbit) and tv series.
However I sort of made a group of friends at the gym, who do the same group lesson and I often sit with them and talk. They accept me and are nice to me, even after I told them I was a NEET; which I find sort of weird because in the past I always used to think I was not worthy of friendship or other attention.
Those people are about 15 years older than me though. Is that a bad thing? Should I try to become friends with people more my age?

I just want to be loved for once, create something instead of being a mindless consumer. Becoming successful in life instead of always failing.

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Going as long as possible without alcohol and the sugary jew. Eating as healthy as possible between 3-4 hours, and got my first job interview in a couple of weeks. Waiting for the first visible noob gains from working out.

I just got a new job after a period of stagnant neetdom, and it's a job I'm actually interested in. Every other job I've had I've just felt like I'm punching the clock, but now I want to actually progress and build a career. Good luck with the interview man!

not him/her, but sweet! what kind of job is it?

Yeah actually this would be my second job, first one was a shitty tele job where you just answer calls for 8 hours, this one will be related to my degree and as such will be much more interesting and the payment is about twice as much. Good luck on your career as well, we're all gonna make it.

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It's in the horticulture field, I'm really into plants haha

get good curtains

I've been feeling pretty fucked this semester because I can't keep a consistent sleep schedule.
I have some early classes that require me to get to bed by 9, and I have some evening shifts that prevent me from getting to bed until 11:30.

idk man, i got real high once, jerked to some gonzo shit and the guys face and the agressive pumping was so funny i cant look at gonzo porn without laughing at how fucked it is, how fucken stupid it is, or how much the woman is going through. just imaging some ugly slav squatting over me with yellow ass teeth and spitting as he exhales a grunt akin to the sound of my wet farts was too much lol.

point is maybe try and consciously shift your perspective when you jerk off, maybe those moans from a women are pain screams, maybe that furry shit is in fact sadness. gets me soft pretty often now desu

Decided I need to get more than 6 hours a night and now I actually wake up happy. I haven't jumped out of bed like this since I was a kid, it's amazing.

Things I'm doing to Improve

>Going to the doctors next week to get this tested out optimallivingdynamics.com/blog/13-important-blood-tests-to-get-done-if-you-have-depression
>Trying to set up an appointment for my ADHD, want to get it diagnosed
>Finally found a bulking plan that works for me

Also using an android tracker to track my habits, currently doing nofap (day 6), no sugar and trying to get to sleep on time, only thing I'm falling is sleep.

/sig/ on fit again?

OH YEAH BOY NICE!

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I myself am pretty /sig/ and achieved a lot.
But what to do with a gf that is a typical woman?

Too stupid to understand that eating a little less is everything she has to do, stop eating sweet inbetween all the time.
To stupid for concepts any male values but women typically do not care about.

How to get your gf to get some kind of /sig/ so she matches you?
I'm about to give her "the talk" soon, bit I would prefeer it that she somehow is doing it on her own (subtle guided by me).

>What are ya'll up to today/this week?
I think I've finally got my daily routine down. It goes like this:
>wake up @6
>go lift
>go home and shower
>make breakfast and watch an episode of something
>at my computer by 9
>from 9-5 do homework, cleaning, errands, general normie shit
>take some time for lunch and watch an episode of something
>@5 make dinner
>either watch some TV and read or go out with friends
>sleep by 10

>How are you going to continue to self improve?
By following my lifting routine and sticking to my daily routine

>Tell us about some obstacles you need to overcome
>tfw no gf
>shitty social life so personality could use some work
>need hobbies

I'm doing good but there's no getting off the /sig/ train. Kinda sucks waking up at 6 and sleeping at 10 in college but I go out on Fridays. That's really put a big dent in the 'ol social life but I guess that's okay. I'm graduating in a month and a half anyway.

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Damn I'm in the same situation, gf doesn't realize that getting slim could be achievable by dropping all that excess sugar and maybe starting to exercise on top of it. Instead blames it on health issues. Then again I'm still in shit shape myself so I'm not one to complain to her, will instead try to inspire her by improving myself.

The next thing is, I have a few hundred $ in crypto which she doesn't know.

I realy like her, but I expect some things from a girl in order the she is the one that will profit from it.
And no, I will only tell this a girl after 2-3 years. I know that the will love me as soon as she knows I'm not a poor dude.

You didn't join the real and active Official Fitness Server on Discord yet??
Advice on routine and posture advice, motivate each other, awesome stories, feels, food pics recipes and diet checks, fasting, etc. Self improvement, nofap and even relationship advice.
We also have some fun channels like memes or tinder thot patrolling.
For those who want more adventure, we have a contest: post a pic in begin of the month, and one at the end. Then users vote and the winner gets prize money!

We accept people from all fitness levels: fat, average or athletic. As long as you are encouraging and motivating you are most welcome!
discord.gg/Dzj9HkQ

I used to masturbate up to three times a day throughout all of middle school and most of high school. It got to the point where I had no friends and no life because all I did was fap. I finally realized what a piece of shit I've been and broke down sobbing. This was months ago. Now on day 81 nofap and made it to ottermode. We're all gonna make it bros. Stay strong.

How do I go full samurai? I can't quite take discipline seriously, theres always a lazy cynical voice in the background.

I feel like just going way over the top, I mean literally manic-style fantasy I-actually-think-I'm-a-warrior self talk/active imagination would actually help rally my emotional energy behind the IDEA of discipline.

Anyone know what I'm talking about?

How do you live out a myth? Ironpill was a myth to me once, i.e; a sort of thing I could act-as-if from.

Like when I suppose in some ancient cultures the ritual of the totem or talisman represented entrance into a mythic way of living.

Anyone know what I'm trying to say here?

Whats your myth?

Know this feel, broke my week long no fap to it this past weekend, I hate myself but it gets me hard and I cum so much harder to it then anything else. In the moment it’s hot as fuck but as soon as I cum I hate myself more then anything. Why can’t I just be normal

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I not only understand where you're coming from, but I've actually been living this way for a few years now. I can't really say much except it fucking works, I now have more drive and passion and compassion than ever before. You just have to dedicate yourself to becoming great in body, mind and spirit.

My personal suggestion is to look up "The Hero's Journey" or "The Hero with 1000 Faces". Realize that every person, ever, is living out their own Hero's Journey, and you are too. Then, you must realize that everything you take in, every mote of media and sensation and thought, contributes to your own "personal myth". Think of watching TV and movies, sitting and reading like watching a village elder weave a myth for you. It BECOMES YOU, and you become it. Same goes for everything you see and think. That IS your personal myth. So, fill your myth with things you would want your myth to be about, and talked about in the future. Make your myth, and your life, fucking awesome af.

You got this bro. We all gonna make it!

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>has been useless whole life and suddenly gives himself a 24 hour timeline to fix it.

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Fixing it only really takes on major step. That's something that can be accomplished in 24h.

>what are you all up to today/this week?
Just another week of work, injured my leg skateboarding on Tuesday so taking an extra day to rest before heading back to the gym. Friends coming home for the summer and we’ll be working the same job so should be a good time. He is a drinking buddy so could be an issue with alcohol but were pretty good friends just in general so I should be able to get around that.
>how are you going to continue to self improve
Keep eating healthy like I am, keep sticking to my lifting schedule, staying active like I am, and continue to read at least 1 chapter or 20 pages a day. All going well so far, lost 52 lbs since I decided to get my diet and lifting shit together.
>some obstacles
Nonexistent social life and romantic life. Daily life is wake up, gym, work, free time for hobbies, bed. Friends coming back into town should change that on weekends, romantic life has always been 0 and I don’t see it going anywhere anytime soon so I actually don’t worry about that. Just don’t think I’m ready and I’m pretty ugly and autistic when it comes to women so for now I’ve accepted dying alone. Still think I waste too much time here, worthless browsing, fapping, and playing vidya. Cutting down vidya to games I truly enjoy and playing with friends every so often and want to stop browsing here and YouTube all together.

All in all doing well. Finally starting to feel good about myself as a person, physically and mentally.

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Sounds like you want to be disciplined because of all the obvious life advantages it will bring you. The cynical voice is what protects you from cognitive dissonance. This is the rationalization for WHY you are NOT doing the things you know you SHOULD be doing.

>What are ya'll up to today/this week?
yesterday i meditated and it was on a new level for me
i did this body scan
youtube.com/watch?v=jmQOn1EIcH0
and then i continued on my own
when i stopped 30 or 40 minutes had gone by
this is great progress for me , meditation was a struggle in the beginning . feels good

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were you emotionally neglected as a kid? I'm having trouble connecting to people as well and I'm starting to think it's because of neglect as a child

Figured out a way where both me and the wife get 7-8 of sleep per day with a 20 day old baby in the house. She sleeps from 9pm to 4am while I feed him pumped breastmilk, then I go to sleep until 11am.

Late nights are finally getting productive, a nice perk of being a lawyer is that 80% of the time all I need to work is my computer.

Does any one know of a service that provides daily bit of /sig/ related reading material?

By the way The last thread here yesterday was a shitshow and mostly a waste of time, lets stay focused fellas.

Not same dude but that is an interesting look on life thank you.

Why no shampoo?

One step at a time works best. What makes you think the cynicism will fade if you go straight to the extreme?

Anyone has tried pic related and is willing to share their experience?

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I get the same thing. I was reading about it and someone said that it is completely natural just don't try to scratch it. It goes away shortly just don't think about it

Dude its a gift having older friends, don't overthinkink it

I have Peterson's future, past, present authoring programmes in a word file, would anyone be interested?

sure, I'm Interested

Well no. I said I needed to "start" fixing it.
24 hours to get the ball rolling.

Shampoo = Jew sham

How do I lift my way out of being socially retarded and being unable to hold conversation?

I know the usual "do something and have something to talk about", but nobody cares about my nerdshit, bouldering, lifting, /lit/, Jow Forums, or computer shit.

Do I need to dedicate like 6 hours a week to watch normie TV shows and be a potato?

Find friends that have the same interest as yours, if your current friends don't, see if they take to any of them, even as friendly reciprocation. You don't have to be a couch potato and watch every show that comes on, but maybe giving a little their way and watching a few eps with them now and then will show them you care about what they like, so they might start caring about what you like. If they aren't interested, find some new friends (don't ditch the old ones, just make more) to share your hobbies with. Go into generals and wait or ask for a relevant discord and hop in, make some acquaintances.

Oh yes

I have psoriasis and therefore sensitive skin in general and this happens to me when I get hot or stuffy or sweaty. It's the worst.

Older friends is great. I'm 22 and my only friends outside of my old high school group are my coworkers who are all 30+. my boss is basically my best friend and he's 40

Feeling fucking great today, been cutting for months and this morning before work I went through my wardrobe, ready to throw a ton of stuff out. I'm a packrat and have a bunch of clothes that were too tight because "I-I'll get fit one d-day, right, self?". I'm now thinner than I've been since I've hit puberty and I found a TON of t shirts, button ups, shorts, and pants that didn't fit me but now look great.

Things I've changed in the past few months and hope to continue:
>eating clean and balanced
>counting calories and (somewhat) macros
>more regular sleep schedule
>less dependence on weed, food, and orgasms for happiness
>started practicing bass guitar seriously
>stretching daily
>lifting regularly
>cardio regularly
>mindful of posture

Things I still need to fix or add:
>gtfo Jow Forums
>go back to uni and finish something
>pick up learning German where I left off
>going to bed at a reasonable time/getting dat full 8 instead of 5-7
>playing less vidya (doing OK but it still makes me stay up too late wanting to play for hours)
>smoking too much weed (probably the worst one. can't sleep without it, but it costs too much and makes my mind too hazy)

Doing pretty fucking good considering what my life has been life since high school, but still a long way to go. i'm very thankful I've never been hooked on television or alcohol.

Sorry for the massive post but it felt good quantifying the changes I've been making.

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same, post taken to heart

This is not true at all. You will just end up looking for something weirder and more perverted

This almost sounds too good to be true. But well, I've got nothing to lose, might as well try method #3225

Im studying three hourd a day(aims at six hours), goes go the gym atleast every second day. Been doing some minor life improvements.
The redpill is habits. Just repeat something everyday and it will become easier over time. Just start at rhe right amount.

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i have never tried a program like that
but i have the habit of trying new activities
and doing them until i like them
like coffee many things are an acquired taste
this is my earlier post its intersesting

Does somebody have that image in better quality?

Here you go, as sharp is it gets.

Please help

I'm finally getting shit in my life straight. I look good. I act somewhat confident. I'm honest most of the time. I read a lot, meditate, socialize with people, have close friends. Girls look at me and I'm convinced many of them like me. Hell, a girl I got drunk with told me I'm considered one of the most handsome guys in the uni.

HOW THE FUCK do I get enough confidence to approach them? I'm a foreigner and I can't speak properly in the local language. I understand it, people can understand me, but how am I supposed to pick up chicks? Also I'm so scared of getting rejected, even though I've read about the topic so fucking much. I also have no idea how to actually make the whole thing happen and what would I even do with a girl if I was in a relationship

youtube.com/watch?v=pwMRKHUL_hA

it is pretty simple, that is not healthy for her and neither for you, if you want to improve yourself you have to be surrounded with people who are improving, if you stoped all the self improvment right now would she say anything to you, most probbably not, you need a girl that actually is doing something with her life and you need someone that will be mean to you if you stop self improving, well not mean maybe but someone who cares about you enough to not let you and watch you fail, have a talk with her and if she is not willing to self improve you do not need that relationship

yes, the talk, exactly what you said.
I tried it with logic why I do not want her to be fat.
But women and rational thinking, haha I already knew it but still tried it.

thanks!

>keep your hands off your peep for a couple of days
>call it self-improvement

That's a real fucking low bar you've set for yourselves, fellas.

>I'm a foreigner and I can't speak properly in the local language.
Maybe learn the goddamn language properly?

>Also I'm so scared of getting rejected
Try to think of a quantifiable reason. Most likely you won't have one or they'll be weak. It's important to realize the worst case scenario is them saying "no" and you move on

keep going man. You may feel as if most of your life is behind you, particularly if you browse this board, but when your 60 you're going to regret not getting your act together when you had the chance if you're still in the same position.

you must get a lot of pussy

where the fuck are you?

ive been lonely and dumb for all my teenage years, the only bit of enjoyment i would get in my day would be the daily fap. So now it's an adiction, its the only way i can feel happy.

Nah, having older friends is great. I'm 18 and I work in a kitchen. The guys i work and hangout with are mostly in their 20's and my best mate in the whole place is 33.

I worked in a kitchen and there's always a stark contrast between the 16-22 yos (I'm 22) and the 30+ yos. The younger kids are absolutely insufferable.

>what would I even do with a girl
stick your pee pee in her ass
other than that what are girls good for ?
companionship ?

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approach the girls who make eye contact and smile at you
do no think about what you're going to say
girls being around you means they want to talk to you, by default
ideally she should be doing most of the talking unless you really connect and can talk about anything forever

>Started sleeping on my yoga mat instead of in my bed, lowerback pain is slowly fading, though i am not sure if the quality of sleep is improving
i did this for 6 months one year and felt it was better for me. slept better, woke up fresher. only stopped when winter came and it was cold on the floor. in the summer i didn't need a top blanket as it was warm.

>
i've been thinking this kind of thought too. becoming a character instead of your normal self. you are acting as the Ideal version of you instead of giving into whim and weakness. being the hero to a story in your mind and then acting like the character would in order to get to the end. but i don't know much this would lead to some sort of mental illness, if it wouldn't already be one from day 1. it's not something you could really disclose to anyone else without it sounding crazy.

how long does it take before they give you an anti depressants prescription?
my recurring depression is the last hurdle in my life and after trying to beat it myself for 10 years I wanna seek professional help.
I just don't want to spend endless money on psychiatrist appointments.

>Does any one know of a service that provides daily bit of /sig/ related reading material?
give an example of what kind of material you are after, blogs/books/stories/guides? just a short read 10/15 minutes worth?

>bouldering
there are climibing clubs all around. find one and join it, maybe you have a climbing gym nearby?

kitchens are good for banter and also building character, people don't take shit and you're expected to work hard when needed. i've worked in enough to notice how it can make boys (16 or so) grow up, they get some respect if they earn it. it's one place where that happens, i suppose because there are few women. the waitresses are a different tribe and treated as such. i've seen plenty of young guys work in a kitchen and it probably saved them from being dead-end low tier chavs and petty criminals. it can be a family of sort for those who don't have a male at home to learn from.

That's what you got out of my post? I wasn't bragging at all. My point was that you can do so much more with yourself, and not masturbating isn't going to solve your problems the way people think it will.

Do you have any specific fitness goals? How about relationship goals? Anywhere you want to take your job or career? Are you in higher education? Are you reading more, meditating more, or consuming less TV/movies/media? These are all goals that have tangible and cumulative effects not just on your present but also your future.

Surely there's more out there for you, bro. Look at the questions I asked above and think about 'em. Eliminating bad habits is great but self-improvement is as much about adding great things to your life as it is eliminating the bad.

Nobody here is qualified to give you an answer. You need to get checked out and during that be honest and detailed. It's easy to think a pill is going to solve it, but there are so many forms of depression that nobody should assume the latest scrip is going to solve it for them. Take a look at your benefits package at work, often they'll include a few free sessions per year. If it's there, take advantage to explore what may be behind it and then look at treatment options before making a call. Your mental health is worth more than a simple consideration of what's cheapest.

If you want my no bullshit answer: depression is a meme. Sure you can get depressed, I was once, for a long time, wouldn't get out of bed, didn't want to see or do anything, just wanted to be asleep and basically nonexistant 24/7.

But it's a state of mind. You can change your state of mind by changing how you see the world, whether you notice the shit and let it be like that or try and turn it around and see the good. It's all perception. I don't doubt that depression changes the brain chemistry, but your brain is malleable, like your body and spirit. How did I do it? I studied Buddhism, and meditation, and even some psychedelics, always taken with respect. Now, my spiritual journey is being my best self, I wrote Here's some shit to start you off, this should help you a bit if this is a path that interests you:

youtube.com/watch?v=DD1dG11YCW4
youtube.com/watch?v=6Qb5sx65kRE
youtube.com/watch?v=-NFYPaoT3fI
youtube.com/watch?v=3srWlNHZbqU&t=1s
youtube.com/watch?v=Z1E-t5rPpak&t=2s
youtube.com/watch?v=GOoxOwjwHiE
youtube.com/watch?v=53q3AzfTGNg&t=3s
youtube.com/watch?v=xSunNKLbxr0

Buddhists teach that life IS suffering, you cannot be perfectly happy all the time, the universe just isn't like that. I think people hgave forgotten that life is hard work, is a natural process with death and pain, but also with joy and love. But if you learn to accept the moment as it is, as it REALLY is, without judgement, you will find more often than not that it is calm and relatively serene and peaceful, and for the most part there is no actual harm coming to you. This is mindfulness, and with this trick I can switch out of sorrowful or less than enjoyable states in an instant.

Another thing is, maybe you have to review what you do in life, and if it it giving you and fulfilling some kind of purpose, which is honestly whatever you choose.

Best of luck mang

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good advice

How do you utilise tired/exaustion time in the evening? Came home from work at 8.30pm and there's a few hours left where I could be doing something productive, yet I can barely focus reading Jow Forums and feel like a zombie. I wish I could study but I'm just yawning like crazy.

Meditation.
Cooking something simple
Yoga

Try to have something prepared for yourself when you're not so dead tired for you to do when you get home.

your persona literally is just a character you have been leveling up since birth, you can change it at any time, just, usually, the more drastic a change someone goes through the more their friends and family freak out, unless of course it is a drastically good change, in which case they praise you. So, be careful, try and be awesome, and be whatever character you see fit to act out your story. Also, watch this, It will probably be relevant, I didn;t watch it all the way through yet: youtube.com/watch?v=zHx9i3sQD8Y