/SIG/ Self Improvement General

I've made a lot of progress in the past few years, from having 0 female attention to having girl being the ones to ask me out. My issue is that I feel like I have a boring personality, or that I just don't share any common ground with them. Even the "nerdy" girls get bored of me after an hour or so. This only happens when I'm alone with them however, as when I'm in a large group of people, I'm considered the life of the party. What's wrong with me?

Spin us a yarn, dude.

Nice senpai. Give us the approach story

>got a girl now
>on keto
>can see my abs coming through
>first time on Jow Forums for months

getting there bruhs

Second option, life isn't a sprint, life takes time, and patience is a virtue. Second option is a no brainer for me, you'll make money, won't have to lower your living standard.

Why can't you move out from home, do you still live there now? For what reason? Living with my parents after college was hell on earth, as much as I love them, my life has significantly improved since I got my own place.

maybe you should try reading a few books, that might help you develop a personality that's your own

Yeah, I got your point. I could move out from home but then I had to spend around 30-40 % of my salary for rent. I did not move out till now because I could save some money.

what is the most /sig/ haircut lads?

short ivy league with proper sweep

>implying /sig/ is, or should be, an aesthetic hivemind

shiggy dude, it depends on YOU, hence SELF Improvement

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Ah, well if that's what you want to do and living with your 'rents poses no problems to you, keep saving until you are ready to move out. That's my suggestion.

I would love to, but where should I start? Should I go fiction, non fiction, philosophical, or is simply the act of reading important and content not so much?

The point is, whatever you read and digest will become a part of your psyche and personality, so, read things that interest you. The content should be stuff you want to learn more about, whatever that is.

>At uni campus walking around before finals
>I approach girls all the time if I think they’re bangable
>see thin brunette on her computer
>walk up and say hey what’s up
>what’s your name
>Anonette
>shake hand
>what’re you working on
>blah blah small talk for 1-2 minutes
>you’re cute, what’s your number
>hand her my phone, she puts in her number
>text her “cool guy you were just talking to -user” right after
>set up date later that week

Pretty standard approach method I do. Works really well

keked at pic when it went from wholesome pic at bottom two tiers, to Jow Forums tier

Of course, depending on your area of interest there are definitely classics and incredible reads that you can search out, that will be able to inform you well.

Good for you mate if it works.

Sounds so weird to me, just seeing a stranger minding their business, walking up to them, asking a name and what their up to and just saying their attractive and if they wanna meet up.

I can see it working if you're chilled about it all which I'm sure you must be, but if you're completely attached to getting the girl or worried about humiliation if she rejects it'd be very awkward. Just my thoughts, not after advice.

This basically. If someone rejects you in this situation just be like "aight, its cool. have a good one" and go back to what you were doing.

safest long term sleep aid? is it melatonin

Meditation.

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>financial planning
If you guys aren't all in by now, I don't know what to tell you.

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There's just too many beautiful women out there for me to get all bent out of shape over one. I feel good about making the effort anyway, it feels a lot better to get it out of the way and have a clear mind than having that "what if" thought in the back of my mind.

I used the Good Looking Loser approach anxiety program to make myself more comfortable talking to random girls. Highly recommend any guy tries it if he’s afraid of approaching girls

I only did the first 2 weeks though, and I was good to go. The stuff he asks you to do after week 3 starts to get pretty ridiculous, but if you still can’t approach girls by the end of 2-3 weeks then you need to continue the program until you can approach 90% of girls you want to approach

I have so many ideas and projects, how can I focus on one and stick with it?

I just feel like I'm the jack of all trades, and a really mediocre one.

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>passionatly fucked a girl in the mens toilet at the cinema
>never before did this but decided to be alpha and 'force it'
>best part is i could cum in 5 minutes and gtfo because I realy cant be bothered to perform for 40m

Shit was so cash
Not giving a fuck is really the greatest self-improvement ever

im not buying your stinky linkies

Almonds literally tear my asshole up, no matter how thoroughly I chew em or how often I eat em, next day, feels like I'm shitting out razor blades.

I asked out the first girl after like, six months of theory and imagining the scenario in my mind. She said yes and now I regularly fuck her and act alpha. Not really Jow Forums but it's a burden off my mind.

Occasionaly I get horny and think about her, which is grate, because porno is degenerate. I think this is how a natural state of mind is meant to work. Losing virginity is so important for this reason.

$1000 EOY BITCH

How do I become a better conversationalist? I literally have no idea what to talk about with people I haven't seen in years or people I don't have much in common with besides trivial small talk.

Most people enjoy talking about themselves. So asking them questions and promoting them to continue to speak or asking more questions shows you have genuine interest. I also agree with the book idea as well. Good luck Chuck.

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amazon.com/How-Talk-Anyone-Success-Relationships/dp/1511305169

this book is amazing for what you're describing

just bought 100k

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Threads like these always make me remember that humans want adventure in their lives but modern man barely knows how to have one.

Go have your adventure anons, before you're dead.

How is your friday night lads? What are ya'll up to?

ok but first i need to research good places to go and the right boots to wear and the right tent to pack and ill need a good jacket and pants and maybe i should buy a camera too and if im doing that ill need to research the right kind of camera to get and the right lens and maybe ill need a tripod and also ill need to get a good camera bag to take it along with me speaking of bags ill need a backpack

Just watching some baseball. Worked out again for the first time in almost three weeks, so it feels good to start the grind again after finals and stuff. I plan on going on a bike ride tomorrow morning, weather permitting

So I finally clued into women and i'm stuck in "research" phase, i'm learning so much basic shit I should've learned 10 years ago that would've made my love life easier. Reminiscing about all the girls in my life who showed interest that I was clueless about.

Anyone know that feel? Feeling confident about my next appraoch but still need to learn more.

elaborate, user

Yeah I’m going through the same thing but I think I’m a little past the research stage and into the active experimenting stage. Started small with a few numbers here and there from tinder. Moved on to a few awkward dates. Got lucky and laid a couple times. Now I’m trying to be able to socialize and flirt with women I see checking me out on the street or in my social circles. You’ll slowly get better but you just gotta push yourself and fail embarrassingly a few times. I honestly just want a steady relationship with old school courtship but I’m noticing not a lot of people are into that now a days.

>I honestly just want a steady relationship with old school courtship but I’m noticing not a lot of people are into that now a days.

That's the romantic in us, and it's an illusion. Hard to get over knowing it's impossible considering a woman's nature.

3rd world wife might buffer against that, but still, she'll get accustomed to western life soon enough and become a bitch.

>28
>5 years no job
>can't expand online business because of living expenses
>cheap 5 minute walk from city centre flat
>dump loser drug/alcohol addicted friends, give plenty of chances
>cut off every person who ever borrowed money
>gym 12 months, 1234reps
>decide to apply for job after listening to Dave Ramsey
>rejected from random hour business park callcentre work x20
>luck myself into tech job w/o qualifications
>start Monday, better pay, paid lunch etc...
>took 5 weeks to find, apparently this is good
>job is actually cushy job old friend used to brag about
>see him after leaving interview
>another old friend breaks up w/ gf, turns up at my gym
>best man at friends wedding next month

Looks like things are going to be OK. I'm actually in a position to save about 80% of every penny I earn and extra goes towards starting 3-4 more online business's.

The thing about losers, sponges, addicts, dreamers etc... is that just because they don't look like chavs or homeless they are very good at convincing you they're not. As soon as I started judging people by their actions vs their stated intentions my views changed completely. I bet they're all mocking me right now for thinking I am better than them, fucking hope they are too, they can brag to eachother about how they never paid me back at the pub before going back to their parents to sleep etc...

I would have been better not knowing any of them what-so-ever.

bump

Awesome work, congrats.

What type of business/sites are you running? Affiliate or selling actual products?

What tech job you got? i'm trying to get some job like this too.

Alan Watts
Good Choice

>Be farmer
>Make 35k a year
>Hard work and come home covered in cow shit but still love the job
>Lift 6-7 times a week, live in gainstown
>Spare time is productive

>Get new office job, $55k p/y (pretty good for age and location)
>Always tired and stressed
>Sore back from sitting down all day
>Lift 4 times a week max
>Shitty lifts, rapidly loosing strength
>Don't have abs anymore
>Turning into lazy piece of shit

Any advice from other desk jockeys?

>What tech job you got? i'm trying to get some job like this too.

'some job' is right. It's bottom end tech support for office drones. But there's training after 6 months and you side step into working direct for the employer's outsourcer who deals with maintaining the archaic systems. Pays well, flexible hrs 7-6, few steps removed from the grand hierarchy, few women around to cause office related crap. Just don't start a relationship with any co-workers or attend the company piss ups. Perfect excuse is I quit smoking and drinking made me relapse the first 2 times I quit.

If you want something cutting edge, get a degree in maths/physics/engineering.

Only advice is to become the person you need help from in whatever it is you are doing. That's how I became competent at the things I do. I dropped out uni first year because I knew I was pissing about... Now I can go back any time and do anything should I choose. I could do chemical engineering (even though I hate chemistry) as it would help me with my business. The other thing I could do is 'production and automation engineering'.

Right now I need to start fucking about with arduino because I want to build a custom controller, electronic engineering degree would be useful here. No one is gonna help me with that the same way no one helped me build sites 5 years ago. I don't even offer help (or now even opinions) to people I know because conversations go like this... They have an idea... Expect you make it happen... No I wont pay you... If It breaks you are responsible...

>What type of business/sites are you running? Affiliate or selling actual products?

Own product. Been through a few before I found one that sells. Remember when you're teens, early 20s you don't know shit. An inferior product with better advertising, branding and delivery WILL outsell you. You will be beaten by 30-50 year olds with 10+ years experience on you and funds. One day you will be that person.

Girl I met on Tinder stood me up twice

Im 100% convinced all women are whores now, if this wasn't true multiple selected women from all over the world wouldn't behave exactly the same way

How do I become gay Jow Forums?

Well I'm still a coward that can't face rejection. When you're looking at a woman's face she suddenly becomes 10x more attractive than you thought she was and completely unattainable.

I thought I was escaping this loser mindset that assumes failure before you even try. I thought I could do it and say fuck the consequences. But I still don't have the courage to try, it's like being in front a fire-breathing dragon that can easily destroy you

You didn't join the real and active Official Fitness Server on Discord yet?
Advice on routine and posture advice, motivate each other, awesome stories, feels, food pics recipes and diet checks, fasting, etc. Self improvement, nofap and even relationship advice.
We also have some fun channels like memes.
For those who want more adventure, we have a contest: post a pic in begin of the month, and one at the end. Then users vote and the winner gets prize money!

We accept people from all fitness levels: fat, average or athletic. As long as you are encouraging and motivating you are most welcome!
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Missing out on prime pussy breh

>That's the romantic in us, and it's an illusion. Hard to get over knowing it's impossible considering a woman's nature.

This kills me everytime when I have to get aware of this.
I just want a lovely wife that cares for me and my future children, who puts family above career.
Mainstream music, mainstream media, TV and 24/7 "you can do whatever you want you are more worth than any men" kills every possibility to have a happy life and happy family.

Time to do something against it lads.
Self improve and take over everything that has influence.

Opinions need for a project is it a good routine

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>>text her “cool guy you were just talking to -user” right after

this cheesy shit works? Nice. What's your success rate on cold approaches? Care to share any of the most awkward/cringy ones?

Not that poster but you'de be suprised how well cheesy shit works. On Tinder I told girls to take their age, add their phonenumber and subtract like 21 if she was 20. Only failed once got like 15 numbers that way, went on a date with about 75% of those girls

Is this Jow Forums?