>alone at home on another Friday night, just like almost every night in my life
>nothing has changed in the past 5 years, except I've gotten older
>tfw 32 year old khv
>no friends, no social skills
>live with parents and can't really afford to move out
What do?
>literally just browsing Jow Forums before I go lift
>while normies are out partying, or doing something fun for the long weekend (holiday on Monday in my country)
Feels bad man
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Jesus Christ, 32 years old and you still have the mentality of a teenager.
Get an education, get a job, move out and start living independently. Being a stupid unproductive NEET is an absolute meme and I pity anyone who fell for it.
she got a bunch of bad plastic surgery, not that hot anymore
>friday night
>tfw no gf
I have an education and a job. I just make shit pay and don't like my job much
>work with normies Chad and staceys, who have friends, go out on weekends and have lives
>they all know I'm autistic and don't associate with me
>What do?
Keep doing nothing with your life and wasting all your time in hopes that one day you'll win the lottery and a 10/10 gf falls from the sky like you've been doing this whole time
could happen
>Jesus Christ, 32 years old and you still have the mentality of a teenager.
There are married people much older than him that still operate in that mentality. You ask for an adult out of children in a time where that is a statistical improbability.
what do I need to do to improve this mentality
a man needs a name
Listen to Jordan Peterson lectures
Ever thought about doing pua shit? I guess you can have an opinion about it working or not, but at least it might motivate you to go out and talk to people?
eva lovia
>pua
I hear ya, just climbing back out of a 4 year streak of horrible, crippling depression which left me stranded. Getting back into life is so fucking hard.
Still struggling with my masters degree. Only have a few exams left, but could as well be a million. It all still feels so impossible right now.
Whats your education?
Honestly listening to life advice and self help only helps you if you're already doing something, not if ur looking for motivation to do something. There is something that is holding you back. My guess is fear. Anyway you can go to a therapist and try to figure out with him whats holding you back and confront it. Or you already know whats holding you back but still aren't doing anything. In which case you should also get therapy, cause you obviously can't do it alone.
she got a boob job and it fucking ruined her for me
she was perfect before
>in a time where that is a statistical improbability
I wish this meme would die. The majority of people that have existed have been mentally underaged. Stupidity is not unique to our day and age, it's only that we are exposed to more of it because of the internet.
Maturity is actually a rare trait to have. Responsibility, punctuality, ambition, creativity, and intelligence in general have never been traits of an average person, they still aren't, and they'll never be. Any person who possesses these traits will not complacently stay average.
im playing my guitar and crying right now
not having a great week
Just googled her, jesus christ she fucked herself up. Was my favourite...
its at least 99% your own fault.
Take responsibility for yourself. Being a khv is not irredeemable, provided you take action now. Despite what has been drilled into your head for the last few decades, men and women are not the same. Ambitious and confident men attract women. Wallowing in self-pity is addictive because it pushes your failures onto outside sources. No, you've failed so far because everything you did led you to fail. You still have time to change. Scouring for jobs, learning a trade, picking up hobbies, or getting an education can all lead you to a better life.
But personally i think your first order of business should be financial independence. You really can't be living with your parents as a male over 30 and not understanding why you're a loser.
whats taking you down? If it helps, I just lost this semester due to missing a deadline by 1:30 hours
Dubs checked.
An Hero before it gets any worse.
this but unironically
>be overweight virgin
>tfw not even lifting is going to fix my extreme loneliness and lack of social skills
jesus fuck what the hell are we supposed to do
>Friday night
>Can’t even go out because work early tomorrow
>implying I have friends to go with
>implying I don’t live with my parents
>implying I’m not stalling on my squat
LSD and MDMA (separate occasions)
got rejected by this girl i thought i had something going
got bad grades and i might lose my scholarship if i fuck up more and its really fucking me up
just scared about the future in general and feeling like nothing works out for me
Someone suggested Jordan Peterson which would be a solid idea for someone like yourself.
Before I even knew about JP I was doing a lot of planning so when I heard that he has what’s called a future authoring program that incorporates this I was pretty happy, would benefit a lot of people. If you are an ambitious person then plan. You sound like the polar opposite but it will help you get out of hell.
You need to sit down and be honest with yourself dude, if you’re not willing to grind your soul away for 3-5 years then be realistic.
Plan things like when you want to move out, plan your projected budgeting so you can keep a handle on where the money goes and when things should be possible and for the love of god plan what you’re gonna be doing in terms of work for the next 3-5 years and get education for it if need be.
Bottom line is this: don’t make excuses for yourself and be responsible. And you’re literally sapping your time away on Jow Forums, do an IP block of it on your computer and spend the time learning
AND WHERE THE FUCK WOULD A NEET GET THAT.
This x 100
>have one chance at life
>fuck it up this bad
>he doesn't know what a DNM is
Also source on OP?
Literally not your fault of being left behind by society, I remember ever since highschool I would walk around city center and see young people in groups, chatting, having fun, bonding with second halfs etc, while people like us ware just walking in the gray, drifting through time like specters, wishing to back home that you are not even sure exists anymore
>implying those are safe
What is this turboshit
SHUT THE FUCK UP AND STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF.
When will you learn to take responsibility for your shortcomings? You’re acting like a boy, not a man. You NEED to understand something; nobody gives a fuck and nobody likes your whining so you have to make change or your life will go further down the toilet
>mfw im also 32
> im choosing to stay in on a friday night because i need a night off from all the socializing
>need some me time
>getting hit up by friends and ladies
>tell em im taking it easy tonight, so i can run in the morning
>its gonna be nice tomorrow and im gonna go drink on a porch
>talking to day drinking QTs beats late night QTS all day.
So much safer than meeting person to person. Use Monero and don't be retarded.
> its been 5 years now a routine every friday
> friday get ready
> have a few drinks at home infront of parents
> get some money from parents
> tell them once more im going out with the lads like always(they know im referring to mates from highschool)
> dad tells me the usual if I bring a girl home don't make to much noise(never happened)
> go to a car and drive to gym's parking lot
> sit there till 3-4 am
> go home
Literally posting this from parking lot, I see couple of other lads do this, but im to afraid to ask them to keep company for each other or what ever
mate, how old are you? Might give you some pointers
Why are you so angry relax dude
23
Fucking christ
Enabling someone to be a sad sack of crap is inexcusable
post a picture of your dick so we can help you
hahahaha there is no way this is true, I know this is Jow Forums but this is just too sad.
but why would you/they do this
It's like yelling at a cripple for not being able to run marathons, you won't get much out of it besides frustrate yourself with them not being able to do what you are asking
It doesn't matter dude, its long as fuck story, back then I read about lads here doing this, I thought It was absolutely brilliant way to not look in-front of everyone(family at least) that I'm not socially decrepit young person. Been working out for ages and gotten in great shape, they just could understand me sitting in the fuking flat on a friday like a lunatic
Thought about it
But have read stories of guys getting banned from malls and publicly shamed for day gaming
And going to clubs or bars by myself seems like I'm setting myself up for failure
Accounting degree, work at a big4 firm
>not getting promoted to manager because I have no people skills
But you’re not a cripple so stop with that shit.
What gets me mad is when people are spewing crap like this instead of actually trying to fix their issue. If you suck at socialising then get off the net and go fix it.
>And going to clubs or bars by myself seems like I'm setting myself up for failure
Of course ur gonna fail. Aren't you a KHV? If ur not willing to fail in the beginning u'll never succeed.
Okay.
1) The girl: This shit sucks. I know it does, and it will keep on sucking for a while before it gets better. But what you can do and learn from this situation is to get over it. You went for it, you got rejected. That's it. You're not ugly, nor unlovable. Just got rejected. Learn to take the L(eave). The sooner you learn it, the better you will do with women.
2) grades. This is the real big one. You HAVE to get your shit together in this. Trust me. Get through this semester as good as you can. But you have to put in the work. Start over again. Stay motivated.
You should be afraid of the future if you don't manage to keep yourself going. And fear of failing becomes a pattern faster than you think.
Remember: It's okay to have a bad week. But don't make a bad month or a bad year out of it.
Just start again. Only the first few minutes suck, until you get back into it. Keep a goal in mind.
Go lift
I've actually done it before too though. Nothing came out of it
>girls are all with their friends, including guy friends
>know you can't get the attention of the group
>try to talk to a girl who is alone
>she realizes you're an autistic fuck and says "nice to meet you" and walks away
I think that the PUA stuff is rubbish because it’s a facade and waaay to robotic, I was following it for about a year or so, very interesting but very unnatural.
If you wanna get good at shooting the shit with people then make small talk with anyone and everyone at any opportunity you can get, it gets better and better as you do it.
At a certain stage you’ll find that it’s easy to talk to the birds even
Do you watch anime?
Dude cold approach is fuking brutal, its like trying to pick up chicks at crosswalk while you are standing at red light, unless you have fuking Lamborghini its not happening dude.
Reckon the easiest way is to go social chameleon route and try to hit up girls form social circles
If you are actually doing this, why not make better use of that time, and maybe, I don't know, actually go out? Join a club of some sort, make some friends and get actual plans on a Friday night? Or go on Tinder or something and meet girls.
How many times? Once?
You gotta beat the hammer on the anvil, if you can’t even talk to guys and get along well there’s NO chance a girl will like you so you’ve gotta open up first and be comfortable
If you don't like your job, keep your options open. Also, you're most probably not getting a promotion because your mindset isn't into it. Would you promote yourself? If half of what you say you are shines through the surface, no one would ever consider it.
Get a therapist. Chances are, you're not paying for groceries and accomodation. Chances are, you're bad with money. Get a budget. Stick to it. Read into it. Start looking for investment possibilities.
Most of all, you HAVE to quit labeling yourself. Others do that enough already.
You label yourself as a loser, so you behave like one. Change your mindset, or nothing will help you and the emptiness and dread will just prevail. There are no miracle cures.
Yeh idk people are fucking weird ey?
I used to go out on my own and practice pool, get the occasional convo in when I had nothing else to do
finish your shitty education and start a real career. your priorities will straighten quickly and most else (women,friends) will follow. also get a cool hobby faggot (hiking,photography,anything outside or something that provides exposure to other people)
I've tried future authoring
Part of the problem is that I don't know what I want
And part is that the goals I do have are unattainable
>told my boss I'd like to get into a role in the transaction advisory group (think corporate finance or banking)
>he straight up told me I don't have the people skills and can't present myself well to pass the interview.
It's like you don't want to fund the CIA.
Best way of talking to people/making friends is to be doing something that you actually want to do, and they're doing the same. Playing pool is a good example of that.
It honestly hurts more being alone after I've been working on myself for the past few years. I've gotten more attention from women and even been laid a few times yet here I am on Friday night utterly alone. No gf. No friends really (I could call some people but feel like I would just be bothering them). I'm going to keep going with self improvement but sometimes it just feels like no matter what I do nobody really cares about me. It's like I'm already dead.
Used to watch a lot. Really just to pass the time, I don't like most of them tbqh
Only really liked hxh (both series) and fmp, watching the latest series of fmp now
So do what a man does and get mad.
I’d personally be like Fuck this boss guy. I want that shit so I’ll show that motherfucker. I’ll take his job.
Don’t make excuses. Don’t. Ever.
If you have a problem you MUST have confidence that you can fix it. If I were you, go buy an audiobook or 2 about the brain so you can actually get information from someone more qualified and not a dude on the net.
The Talent Code is a good start, you’ll learn that skill isn’t made the way most people perceive, and in turn you’ll learn you can unsperg your speaking skills if you work on it
I don't have any social circles in the first place
I work with a lot of people (including cute girls), and many of them have made friends with each other. But I'm one of those guys that are alone
>going to keep going with self improvement
All you can do man. Working on yourself is the most important thing.
What sort of activities do you outside of gymming? Where would you meet people?
Yeh I hate anime but more to the point I think it makes people act fucking weird when they watch a lot of it, that’s where I was going
Message to all: take responsibility.
Once you do you realise it gives you power to make choice. If you are pitying yourself and making excuses you can’t take control.
Times I went to a bar by myself are usually when traveling. I've probably been to 6 bars by myself. Spoke to 3 girls total. Everyone is always with a friend. I can't approach a group of girls by myself
Or if there's a guy in the group I feel worse, know I'm getting mogged by a usually taller, louder and more charismatic/entertaining guy
I only meet people at work and if I go out to the local bar by myself. I have no problem socializing and like I said I've brought home a few bar skanks for one night stands but it never works out and always leaves me in the same place as where I was before. Sometimes I go to work and nobody even strikes up a conversation with me unless I do it myself and for some reason that bums me out for the rest of the day. I just want someone in this world to light up when I enter a room. Is that too much to ask? It might be because I know a lot of incels have it worse than me, but I share in their loneliness. Believe me. I've been thinking about doing volunteer work or something, but I've done that before and mostly it turns into me doing slave labor and not really getting anything out of it as far as friends or fulfillment.
All I’m saying is, work your way up. The quickest way to learn is to put yourself in a slightly stressful situation just outside of your comfort zone.
You can be charismatic and confident if you develop it so do something social that’s not gonna scare the shit out of you. And be willing to eat shit too, gotta be humble
Thank you, will check out the book too
If you’re a positive dude to be around that adds value to the engagement people will wanna speak with you. And never feel forced to engage with someone if you don’t want to. Sometimes at my work I spend 3 out of 5 days not talking to anyone because CBF and other times it’s the opposite. Don’t force things and don’t worry too much
i know that feel OP except im 26, basically everything exactly the same except for age
>tfw i've been a loser for so long, since i was starting high school, that i'm literally afraid to try to meet people whether as friends or girls because i dont want them to see my life and what a loser i am and my complete lack of life experience so its easier to be alone
i dont know how to overcome this. i dont even share details about my life with coworkers when they ask me. i literally just give either ambiguous answers or straight up lie because i dont want them to see what a loser i am either
Thanks but I usually am very positive. I just get like this after too many weekends alone. Oh well. It is what it is. I'm gonna ask out the fat ugly girl that works at 7/11 and see if that helps. Maybe if I can't figure out how to be happy and fulfilled I can at least show someone else a good time.
You sound like you’re faking the positivy tho, like you’re a downer who puts a mask on. Also I know the occasional person whose always positive but they’re fucking annoying because they don’t shut up. Could be 1 or 2 traits that annoy people so they don’t talk with you
Read this thread in its entirety it may really help you out
>go to a therapist and try to figure out with him whats holding you back
>figure out with him
>him
Umm, why does the therapist have to be a male? this is the kind of shit i can't stand. misogynistic assholes like you are the reason women make 77 percent lol i can't keep this up anymore. hah ahah
women are retarded
Kek
eh i guess thats kinda similar to me. except i dont really have many interests or even like many things. i rarely laugh at anything yet always make people laugh
you have to associate with them
>they invite me to lunch once or twice
>realize I don't say a word (no social skills)
>never get invited again
>workplace has Skype
>walk by coworkers and see them always in group chats
>people only message me when they need something
I don't know how to associate with them now tbqh.. they tried, but I'm autistic
That first part is true
Old people are actually dumber.i thought my grandmother was smart. And she was.... For her time. But 50 years later that Alabama education degree is on par with present day sixth grade ice breakers on the first day of school.
They are dumber and they know it
are you from chile dude? I'm 31 and on a similar boat than you. But I try to get with friends/girls every weekend. You have to put in the effort if it is important for you.
>work with small group of coworkers
>i know im weird, they know im weird but i can interact with them, make them laugh, etc, i embrace my weirdness
>they recently start inviting me out to small outings they do every so often
>once was a bar with a bunch of other coworkers, i shut down and sit there mute for two hours
>went to a restaurant a few times, one was okay other time i barely talk
>went on a hike and that went okay but we go to dinner after and i barely talk
>tfw i give them short and ambiguous/lying answers about my pathetic life so they dont know anything and they say how much of a mysterious enigma i am
literally what the fuck
She's so hot
Funny. Im 32 my wife is sleeping, my 2 sons are sleeping, happyly married, outside on porch getting drunk fantasizing about some thot at the gym hoping I get my "fuck everything that move" time back.
be urself
shes pretty cold by now
Get a job.
cold approach only works for 8+/10
reason is not every 8+/10 girl has 8+/10 guy in their social circle so they're more open to be approached by 8+/10 stranger
7-/10 girls just don't do this game so forget about approaching them