My MOM JUST TOLD ME THEY HATE MY GF AND THINK SHES CONTROLLING

so i met my girlfriend (FIRST EVER RELATIONSHIP BY THE WAY) at a bar in newyork 2 years ago.

so my parents loved my girlfriend when they first met her, and for the first year of our realtionship, as did my friends, however we moved out together (from brookyn, to brooklyn, same city that my parents still live in)

and ever since my mother and father have apparently slowly disliked her, until Today, they finanly had a big conversation with me and said they think she is controlling and manipluative, i thought they were crazy.

i thought they LOVED her up until this last conversation, and im happy with my girlfriend

they think she is trying to make me cut ties and ignore my parents so she has me to herself.

my GF is lovely and i didnt really see too many red flags like this, and have always thought i would one day marry her.

only red flags ive noticed have been
:she doesnt seem to exactly love me going to parties with my friends.
: she wants to spend ALOT of time with me (all day)
:sometimes i miss being single (going to nightclubs, meeting people ect)
:when im out with my girlfriend, she seems to only want to hang out with me, and is kind of always a downer (moping around, upset, when im running around having a good time with my friends)

how to i look at this NON bias and figure out whats actually going on, and if i should stay with her?

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Dude, people don't tell you to break up with your GF unless they see a serious problem.

Dump her. There will be others.

>met her at a bar

your hit, dump her or tell her to stop being so clingy and grow up

they're seeing things you are blind to

tell her what they said and see what her reaction is, she will either confirm their beliefs or disprove them in the hours that follow guaranteed.

>doesn’t see too many red flags like this
>proceeds to list red flags, every one of which is a behavior of a clingy, controlling person

>Jow Forums - Fitness

^ THIS.

If you're in a relationship with someone and in love, you won't be able to see the red flags that other people do as you're blinded by love.

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Psychologist here, studies show that your friends and family are better at judging your relationships than you are.

>just get done sucking dicks cuz it's a hard OP life
>realize I might have a problem with my GF cuz senpai thinks she's clingy and controlling
>go straight to an El Pasoan clam bake forum to talk to them about it instead of my GF
>haven't killed myself yet, don't know why

Modern people don't understand really loving people. Just talk to her and tell her you to do stuff for yourself so that you can be happy.

She can obv do these things with you or not.

Say you need to spend more time with your fan and see what happens

Tfw no gf who worships me

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>she doesnt seem to exactly love me going to parties with my friends.
So when you are going out with your friends she is giving you negative feedback trough withdrawing her love for you? Basically she is training you do not to out with friends. Its pavlovian conditioning. You do A, she don't like that you do A, so whenever you do A, she acts in ways that makes you feel bad. So you eventually stop doing A. (A = hanging with friends. She is stopping you from hanging with friends)

>she wants to spend ALOT of time with me (all day)
If she spends all time with you then she can influence you more. People with personality disorders such as narcissim or borderline will typically isolate the person they are trying to manipulate. But other then that, relationships where people are together ALL the time are rarely healthy.

>when im out with my girlfriend, she seems to only want to hang out with me, and is kind of always a downer (moping around, upset, when im running around having a good time with my friends)
Again, this behaver is a form of manipulation. You are out with your friends, she don't like that so she acts in a way that makes your experience of hanging with your friends in to a negative one. Lets say you have a dog that wants to go to the playground, but you decide you don't like that so that whenever you go to the playground you treat the dog like shit, eventually the dog don't want to go to the playground anymore because it associates that with the negative emotions you caused.

The state of that board

Nigga you retarded or something?
You are being a bitch 'cuz a girl basically worships you? Nigga you better be mentally challenged.
98% Of this board is praying to find a girl that would worship them.

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look, no trolling, yes she is pretty and she LOVES me and i'm like 99% of her life, she sucks my dick about 3 times a week, and buys me stuff all the time. but these are all things that would make me ignore actual red flags, and be blindsighted, right?

oh yes for sure.

Just talk to her, see where it leads.

I want to say right now I regret every getting into a relationship. She's unbelievably attached and clingy. I'm going traveling without her and she hates it, I wanted to get a job that might let me travel and she hated it.

This girl is terrified of not being a child and living without her parents. I hate that attitude.

I've come to resent her a lot and I am by no means a perfect boyfriend. But more and more I find myself purposefully avoiding her.

Anons heed my words, relationships aren't for young guys

not fitness related fuck off

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ugh nit hurts though because she seems ALMOST perfect.. but damn... im 21and i would LOVE to go out to nightclubs and meet women and be free

>she wants to spend ALOT of time with me (all day)
get rid of her or you will lose your friends, your family, your hobbies and yourself.