Get Your GAINZ On Edition
It's the weekend lads, what is up? Tell us how you are going to continue to self improve, tell us about an obstacles you may have, we're here to help.
YOU GOT THIS BROS! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, AND IN OTHERS, AND YOU WILL TRULY MAKE IT!
Any tips on how to get social gains?
Be authentic. It might be awkward at first, but as you get more confident in what you say, and saying what you want, you will become more confident in yourself, and people will want to be around you more.
If you want to be more interesting, read up and study and do things that catch your interest, or that you are passionate about, and pursue them. Make learning them a practice and a part of your life. If you don't know what you are passionate about, try anything and everything until stuff sticks.
Also, if you have a group of friends, initiate meetups and hangouts, events and plans. Text one every once and a while with something, could be as dumb as a meme, or maybe an article, song, something cool they'd like.
Pay attention to what people like and what they are interested in, and respect and honor them for how they do them. Love them for being themselves, and people will love you back. And show them you love them.
Sick demon trips user. Thanks.
>Also, if you have a group of friends, initiate meetups and hangouts, events and plans.
But how? I've been so out of touch with all my groups I don't even know how to get back at them.
>Text one every once and a while with something, could be as dumb as a meme, or maybe an article, song, something cool they'd like.
This is something I've been doing but it's hard to find shit to share when you know so little about everyone.
Slow and steady user. You're already texting which is good. You gotta ask them what's happening in their life, then tell them a little about yourself. Try and initiate a back and forth, but give too. Over time you will learn about each other, then initiate a hang out.
Alternatively, try and get new friends with similar interests, not to replace your old friends, but to supplement. Find them on relevant discords, forums, etc.
Are nootropics bullshit? How can I use them without fucking myself up?
Never used nootropics, so I don't have any info on them, but psychedelics are great for self improvement, and they are anti-addictive substances, so you'll only take them when you decide to. If you want to know more, AMA, I have a fair amount of experience and have done my research as well. In other case, look up info on psys here:
>www.erowid.org
Which ones are the best for self-improvement and what have they done for you? I don't want to be a druggie but I'm an open-minded person. Also which are the best to meditate on.
been going to the gym for 3 weeks now but today is the first time i got really mad
>go the gym today
>couple of newbies enter the gym
>"Its ramadan time to go to the gym so i don't get fat lmao"
>do 4x10 40 pound inclined bench, now they thinking they are Hottest shit in the gym
>meanwhile i do 4x10 80 and fail at the 9th in the 4th set
>"LOL ITS OKAY BRO YOU WILL GET IT NEXT TIME "
>we both doing standing biceps curl cables
>im lifting 6 plate 4x10 with proper form
>they on the other side lifting 4 plates and bending there backs like there is no tomorrow
10 minute later
>im going on the treadmill at 7 speed trying to achieve my 15 minute goal
>at the 13 minute mark
>they come behind me
>"LMAO BRO LOOK AT HIM HE IS JUST WALKING FAST AND HE ALREADY OUT OF BREATH"
>"DUDE IF THAT WAS ME I WOULD RUN SO FAST"
>i tell him it doesn't work that way and if he think he can do just 10 minute at my speed then go at it bro
>finish my run and i just collapse on an incilned bench sweating like a pig but im so happy
>"LOL BRO LOOK AT HIM WHY YOU SO TIRED BRO "
>"WHATEVE LETS JUST LEAVE"
>the guy at the desk wave them goodbye and looks at me and say thet he didn't want to say anything but he totally agree with me
fucking assholes didn't even try and just shit talked for no reason
Teenagers senpai, just punch one in the head and he will cry for his mother kek
> I don't want to be a druggie
Of course! I don't think anyone really does, and like I said, with psychedelics this is easier than usual because they are physically anti-addictive, partly due to their tolerance period. That being said, some can get "lost in the sauce" so to speak, so if you end up taking on psys, be careful, and do your research.
>Which ones are the best for self-improvement
The ones that have the best reputations for drastic personal improvement are LSD, Psilocybin mushrooms, DMT and Ayahuyasca, imho. They have the best track records and seem the most "navigable" compared to some of the lesser known ones.
>what have they done for you?
Well, to try and sum up my "inner journeying", since taking psychedelics I have learned to respect and love the world as a whole, accept things I cannot change, change the things I can, and just kinda see the world with a more appreciative eye. That's the cumulative effects, though, after years and after much experience integration. Actually taking them is another story entirely, which can be beautiful, chaotic, terrifying, wonderous, full of glory, everything wrapped up in one. Sometimes you feel psychotic, like you've gone crazy and will never recover or get back to feeling how it was before, but this usually passes after a few hours to days and you'll be back in your old world with a fresh perspective in life.
Psychedelics are boundary dissolving, creatively catalystic, substances that engage, strengthen, and multiply the amount of connections happening in your brain. You're able to see the world in new ways you never have before, which is great for people stuck in rigid thought structures or those who have mental troubles (YES! psychedleics such as mushrooms are even being used byu clinicians these days to treat stuff like PTSD and depression).
>Also which are the best to meditate on.
I need to practice with this more, but I tried meditating on LSD a few times ago with some interesting results
Fuck em, don't pay attention to em, or better, show them how to do shit properly, so they shut up and respect you instead of try and troll you
Thank you guys, i already feel better just reading your responses :)
>started lifting for girls
>then lifted for aesthetics
>then lifted for strength
>now i lift for discipline
Does this mean that I made it?
I have shiny hair like pic related, is it considered a sign of good genetics or just greasy/oily hair?
I used to get bullied for how shiny my hair got, so I used shampoo which dried it out, same routine for like 10 years. Past few months I changed it and allowed the natural shine to come out.
Strangely enough, girls seem crazy about it, I've been called 'classy' and they compliment my jet black hair, it's strange when girls look above my eyeline rather than my face. Is it just a girls tastes?
Hair being matte or shiny is pretty unexplored territory in terms of attraction
>Be authentic.
The rest of this is good advice but if you're a bitter fuck like I am just pretend to be nice.
>Hair being matte or shiny is pretty unexplored territory in terms of attraction
False dichotomy, it will depend on the girl, there probably isn't an "objectively most attractive" hair shininess.
Yeah that sounds like every high school brat who thinks their the shit. OP don't even pay attention to those fags.
Been working out for the last 8 weeks and finally feeling human again
Feel and look healthy and have been going to the mall or grocery shopping without overthinking everything and having a panic attack
I really need your help guys.
>was really unhappy in HS because I had literally no friends
>started self-improving massively, joined a gym, learned to be social and even got myself into a group of friends
>took about 1.5 years all in all but I felt amazing, like nothing was impossible
>did a voluntary year, met a bunch of cool people
>I was super outgoing with them, was extremely charismatic
>people often commented about how I should become a radio moderator or do some kind of podcast because I could get anyone excited about anything
>even dated the perfect girl (didn't go well though)
>as the year ended I was super hyped for uni, surely I would be popular there too
>but somehow all my skills seemed to have disappeared
>I couldn't have a single good conversation
>ended up completely friendless
It's destroying me because I though I finally figured it all out. I thought I finally managed to be the person I want to be. But no matter how hard I try, my mind just isn't raining as it did in the voluntary year. I'm still trying to figure out what happened to reverse all the change I made, but I couldn't find a good explanation. However, the more I think about the last year I feel like it wasn't actually my accomplishment, but simply a product of the environment I was in. It's making me really question, how much capable of change humans really are, or if it's just a matter of their environment. It's undermining all the price I felt for finally becoming a social person. And most importantly: it's really taking all the hope I have in self-improvement. Either it's only a temporary change that will just crush me in a few years again, or it's futile and only a matter of my environment anyways.
Can somebody please explain to me what their thoughts on the nature of self-improvement are?
Someone told me that it's dumb to do reps past 18 since it just becomes a cardio exercise at that point. I was under the impression that total weight lifted between all reps/sets was the only thing that mattered. I was doing 3 sets of 20 reps of 20 lbs for bicep curls, but should I go up in weight now? If I go to 35 lbs, how many reps/sets should I do so that I don't lose any muscle?
this week has been good but today was bad. It was a rest day so i didn't work out and then i was barely productive all day. Gotta make more music and learn more physics but ill be aight im pretty sure.
>Gotta make more music
This is my latest creative endeavor too. I'm writing my first song and it's so fucking difficult to get things to sound the way they do in your head. I like to think that I'm pretty tech savvy, but working with a DAW is totally alien to me. Don't worry about productivity, sometimes rest days can just be throwaways. You'll be back in the groove tomorrow.
working out is the best thing for men to do
"Making it" is not a permanent state, it's something you have to be constantly working toward. Now that you've had a period in the past where you were making it, you know what it feels like and you should have a pretty good idea of what you need to do to get to that state. Being a university student gives you the advantage of clubs and school sponsored activities to get involved with; make that a top priority when the new semester starts. Use the things you're passionate about to meet other passionate people and feed into each other's energy. You have to be self-driven when it comes to getting out there and meeting people, because unlike anime, naked girls don't appear in the sky and fall in love with you.
Bump
>There's people that think that stretches from yoga (not yoga itself) is satanic.
I understand the Hindu crap part but the movements?
I guess that if I take something from the floor is "satanic" because of the position.
I started working out for the first time last week. I'm pathetically weak, I struggle with 55lb leg curls, 10lb bicep curls and 130lb deadlift. It's embarrassing I let myself get to this point but guess we all start somewhere.
I masturbated 6 times today:
1 To Gilf anal porn.
2 To Game Of Thrones rule 34
3 To Demi Lovato "Cool for the summer".
4 To Colombian teacher "who had sex with his students" nudes.
5 To Meghan Trainor while doing a femdom cum tribute.
6 To the video of the topless woman killed after hanging out of car window.
Is this good or bad?
I'm about to message a girl I have a class with and talked to a few times, wish me luck. I'm really nervous, and afraid that I will just embarass myself, but I have to do this.
Also, is a message like this a good idea: "Hi, I found you really cute and interesting, and thought that it would be nice to get to know you better"
how did you get her number if you dont mind me asking.
I don't have her number, I sent her a friend request on facebook
And by the wat her dad gave it to me. (Facebook link).
did you ask for the link or did he take the initiative and give it to you. you might be reading into this too much if your going for the father approves angle.
STATE of this fella
the second reply wasn't me, i had nothing to with her father
"Hello good madam, would you per chance be interested in perpetuating a social interaction with me?"
Dude, you gotta be more relaxed than that. Your message is formal, lacks meaning, and sounds like trite dog shit from a cheap rom com making fun of the highschool virgin.
Stop thinking life will be like your animes and just talk to her like a normal human being.
ok. i'll say something like "go out with me bitch, or i'll petrol bomb your house". thats funny right?
Personally I think messaging is a really bad idea. We live in strange times with social media, but some things need to be said when you're looking the person in the eye. If you're cute she'll say yes anyway but an ugly fuck like me has no chance unless I confront her in person
in that case then did you send her the message yet or you still stalling by asking questions that you already know the answers to? (inb4 she hasnt accepted the request and this is all hypothetical )
but I still have to arrange meeting her somehow, the semester has ended, I will only meet her 3 months from now
also, ignore this faggot
Just go for it then, be prepared to get ghosted though, that is overwhelmingly the most likely outcome. Dont send until you can accept that.
I will, thanks, and I hope the class I have with her won't be too cringey after this
Even if I get ghosted I gain experience, I haven't really done anything like this before
> going to the gym for 3 weeeks
> couple of newbies enter the gym
Hmmmmmm
you MUST ask her out in person, if you guys see each other regularly. Otherwise she will KNOW that you're a beta faggot. Just ask her the next time you see her.
I will only see her 3 months from now sadly
hmmmmmmm indeed
ayy I fapped 4 time today for no reason
I'm thinking about avoiding listening to music while I do everyday's life stuff (i.e. walking home, cooking, studying). My logic is to reduce the instant gratification amount I get from music so I get used to having less overall.
Does this sound retarded?
>Does this sound retarded?
no
A lot of the time you're just using it as noise out of habit. I cant concentrate on other things when I'm really listening to music.
For some reason it really helped me get through my dissertation but that was to keep me entertained while writing for 12 hours at a time
No.
The last phase is lifting for Virgin Mary. Only then you can think about "making it".
why would she care about you lifting?
Starting doing Serge Nubret routine but Ive split it into AM/PM..hit the chest and legs today the burn is real
My girlfriend dumped me for another dude three days ago, basically lied to me for weeks saying she loved me but I knew something was off.
Im a depressed skelly addicted to weed but ive been going to a shrink and even told.my parents about my habit with the whole intentions to quit. I dont have much friends or relate much to people which makes the loneliness unbearable, and losing the only person i thought could support and understand me fully (and realizing she doesnt give two.shits about me) made it even worse.
Im hoping to start lifting soon to feel better about myself and life in general but Im worried about the whole eating business. For some reason I cant eat in large quantities and now its worse cause of the breakup, how do i force my body food and expand my stomach without constantly gagging all the time?
Eat calorie dense, but healthy, foods. So like natty pb, avocados, olive oil, ground beef, steak, potatoes, pasta. Use sauces on your meals. If push comes to shove and you haven't eaten enough in that day, have some junk food or fast food, that shit is calorie dense and non filling as all hell.
Here's this too: imgur.com
Okay, looking at your situation the best you can do is lift.
To increase appetite, you could do some low intensity cardio (to not interfere with recovery), 3-4 times a week, between 20-40 minutes each session. Walking, static cycling, elliptical or some other.
At the same time, you should try to eat calorie-dense foods. Rice, peanut butter, whole milk, fatty meats, eggs, bacon, pasta, and more.
Try to find a way to eat more, maybe eating 4-8 times a day if necessary.
This video could help you:
youtube.com
Also, chinese takeout if you are in a pinch works great. Super calorie dense and has a track record for not being filling at all.
>not taking sundays off
ngmi
Listen to audiobooks while doing misc. tasks like cleaning, washing dishes, cooking, driving or anything that doesn't require your immediate attention.
>be me
>Second day at gym
>couple of first day newfags roll up
>didnt bring correct change for the gym lockers
>entire gym bursts out laughing, even the people parked in their cars outside
>finish chuckling to myself and tell them i once made the same mistake when i first joined and they smiled a little
Just limit it. I dont lift or run with music normally
started self improving 1 year ago, not so long after I moved, and started living on my own
so far I
>started lifting properly
>started cooking as a hobby, and eating only my own cooking
>cut and bulk properly
>cardio regularly
>live on a tight budget, learnt how to invest, financial planning, actually investing
>cut my hair, learnt how to groom
>started buying normal, adult, clothes
>started reading
>went back to uni, will finish soon
>started a business
>stopped smoking weed
>stopped watching porn
>stopped masturbating all the time
>got a drivers license
>bought a car
I think these are all the big changes I've made
I feel great, way better than before, I feel like I'm on the right path
what else can I do to improve on my life in general?
I also had to learn how to properly take care of myself, like washing my own clothes, etc, but I'm doing fine
I'm sure this isn't a novel idea, so I'd love it if someone could direct me to a book/philosopher/psychologist who talks about it, but I've been kind of obsessed with it recently. I think that your immediate surroundings are an externalization of your inner self and you likewise internalize your immediate surroundings which alters your personality and behavior. I noticed this when I started taking an interest in my appearance. I started dressing more put-together and then I felt more put-together. And then I felt motivated to clean my living area and I felt even more put-together. Then I started reading and getting back into making music and focusing on school, etc etc.
Right now I'm looking for artwork that displays ideas like strength and discipline and progress because I feel that by having it in my surroundings, it'll influence me in those directions. So maybe that? I dunno, maybe this is a dumb idea but I feel like it's been working for me.
>I think that your immediate surroundings are an externalization of your inner self and you likewise internalize your immediate surroundings which alters your personality and behavior.
This is basically true. You are a feedback loop. What you see is what you get, and your perception of things dictates a lot.
>Right now I'm looking for artwork that displays ideas like strength and discipline and progress because I feel that by having it in my surroundings, it'll influence me in those directions. So maybe that? I dunno, maybe this is a dumb idea but I feel like it's been working for me.
Stuff like greco-roman classical sculpture could be up your alley, off the top of my head.
>I'm sure this isn't a novel idea, so I'd love it if someone could direct me to a book/philosopher/psychologist who talks about it, but I've been kind of obsessed with it recently.
Look into Joseph Campbell and The Hero's Journey or anything by Carl Jung. Should put you on the right track. Even people like Alan Watts will talk about this stuff, look up his lectures on youtube. Hell, I'll do part of the job for you:
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Thanks for the recommendations.
>Stuff like greco-roman classical sculpture could be up your alley, off the top of my head.
Yeah, I'm definitely into that sort of thing. I love the way they idolize physique-- again as an externalization of internal strength and discipline, but I have a hard time figuring out where to put such things and they get pretty costly. I really like the fascist aesthetic with it's idolization of strength, but that can get difficult to explain when you have someone over. I think art deco also does a great job of displaying progress and extravagance. I dunno, my city is on the cusp of gentrifying and there's an art gallery thing that's held every so often and exhibits art by young (often high-schoolers even) local artists where you can pick up art on the cheap. I've been a few times and was surprised by the quality of some of it. Maybe I'll buy something there someday.
interesting pic related, might try it out
I have gotten rid of vidya games and high-carb junk food, and have gained more discipline with daily routines and chores. My main obstacle now is fapping. I've cut out professional (((porn))) because I know it's a tool designed to destroy the dignity of women and to sap the life essence of men. However, I'm struggling quitting the 2D drawings and a few amateur videos that I've narrowed myself down to. I want to continue browsing Jow Forums for having constructive conversations (as well us for lulz), but the porn on this website is tempting. How can I increase my self control?
I wish I wasn't aware of the existence of people Like you
how do I turn being horny, into being productive?
By getting laid, literally the only way
No steak, no pork, no game meat. C'mon.
Chicken makes you gay.
Could you go over purchases? I'd love to make purchases but I find security to be something to worry about.
come on man
i thought having a sex drive meant that there are ambitions.
women are literally my least problem like now.
like, she's air and shit.
>started lifting for sports
>then lifted for strength
>then lifted for aesthetics
>now lift and diet for aesthetics and discipline
Common endpoint at least. Sisyphus would be proud of us.
horniness -> drive to exercise harder -> energy to be productive
productivity requires motivation, goal-setting/planning and energy, you can't just turn libido directly into finished work
20yo here
Past few months I've been obsessed with self improvement for some reason. Rly struggled with all that social anxiety shit but I feel like I'm getting better
Any recommendations for mental/spiritual gains? (Ie books, hobbies, music, fucking anything) Im smart as fuck when my head's in the right place, but I guess I'm just confused by the world atm and wanna be happy
This is my story lads
>land 10/10 qt gf on valentines day
>actually get laid too
>she thinks I'm experienced
>"how many have you had user?"
>"uh.. 7"
>fast forward to last week, I get frustrated, tell her she was my first
>she flips on me
>says that's like "going into a kitchen and saying you're a chef" and that she won't talk to me anymore
>I entered a guilt trip and kept talking for four days
It's been like three days since I last wrote something and I feel like telling her something like,
"Yeah, I definitely would walk into a kitchen and do that but like I still respect the kitchen"
Gents, what's the best way to get a grill's trust back? I definitely shouldn't write anything
Been getting those anti-social gains. Giving less fucks everyday.
Sorry user that last part cracked me up. Comedy genius.
Ask her out for beers or something and then fuck her again
Not lying is a decent start.
here's my excuse,
I'm 22, when I was 20 I almost had sex with a girl but failed multiple times and she left me with a crippling fear of my own dick
I also have stupid high self confidence for no reason
Why did she get so mad over lying about something like that? Seems pretty wired to get so upset over something like that. Just contact her and ask her to go out for a beer or something, be casual about it and don't mention it over text. When you meet up, just tell her straight that you were nervous and didn't want her to think you didn't know what you were doing, and that you made a mistake. Just keep it short and simple, own up to making a mistake, but don't start explaining and making tons of excuses and guilttripping.
Cant really see why it would be a deal breaker - it would be different if it was the other way around and you tikd her you were a virgin but actually fucked sloots all day long.
Seems like she is just shit testing you. Keep your cool, admit to making a mistake and move on to just chilling out quickly, then report back here with results private user
I'm trying to get a different software engineering job, so I'm brushing up on all this data structures and algorithms bullshit that no one uses in their day to day.
I ask my friends who already have the jobs making six figs if they know any of this shit. 99% of them just say no.
looking for cutting tips and motivation to keep going
>21 y/o kissless virgin
>6'4"
>peak weight at 326
>now down to ~245
>I've been doing strict keto, omad, and used to fast 72 hours every other week
>Feel like im starting to plateau with my cutting strategy even though I consume less than 1000 calories a day.
>To beta to reactivate normiebook
>To beta to make a tinder
>Dont ever want to leave the house now that I'm done with the semester.
hey, just leaving this here for you fellas trying or willing to drop porn/PMO
Motivation is at 200%. I met a super interesting and cute girl at uni that I share a lot with, and we talk so much. She was thrilled af when I told her I wanted to be more cute (I'm going the trap route) and even offered to help and kept mentioning how cute it was. So now I got someone that I don't wanna disappoint, and that always gives me a ton more motivation. It is time Jow Forums, I'll stop being an ugly shutin and become the qtest trap to walk on this planet.
For you Irish skin having pale boys is a tanning bed my only option? I don't want to get bronzed but anything might be better than sickly pale. Also anything I can do for fucked teeth? Slight overbite and crooked
Mushrooms are the more prouctive psych desu
Is there a pdf of this anywhere?
>not lifting for the race war
Haven't made it yet
>Be authentic.
Great way to fail. The better cliche is "fake it til you make it". In other words, pretend to be Chad until you've forgotten that you ever weren't Chad.
LSD changed my life yo,
feels like all of the separate items stored in your brain start seeing connections with eachother,
Like you start connecting things that you didn't think about before or couldn't connect
I would really highly advise taking LSD with very positive, intelligent people
Shrooms on the other hand don't make you realise things as much as feel them, you could for example take LSD and shrooms, then play some motivational or positive music and have the shrooms make you feel like a champion and then use those positive feelings to have LSD figure things out.
That's a really good deal.
Get some sun every day, preferably a bit in both the morning and the evening to avoid burning. There are customized mouth pieces you can order online that will gradually fix your bite.
Meditation, particularly the breathing and mantra varieties. As for reading: Aristotle (or a good commentary) and Meditations of Marcus Aurelius were really good for me. I don't know exactly which areas you're trying to improve in, but most libraries have mp3 audiobooks you can listen to on a phone throughout the day. If you dip into fiction, the first Dune book is a good choice.
Next step is for Blood and Soil, my friend
Has anyone else tried something like this? I'm struggling really badly with procrastination. I accomplish nothing and have no motivation. I spend all my time on Jow Forums and youtube. I took ritalin for a while and lost a lot of weight and felt like shit all the time so I recently quit. My doctor wants me to start taking anti-depressants but I'd rather exhaust my natural options first before trying drugs with potential side effects.
I've started to get really bad anxiety that I'm just never going to accomplish anything, and I need a way out. Do you think this is worth a try?
Start keeping bees, people fucking love coming over to see my beehive, and for closer friends, homegrown honey makes an amazingly effective gift.
Its good for the environment and get it in combo with a garden for maximum gains for you and your beebros