Serious question I just got dumped by a person I genuinly loved and I feel like I can not eat or train at all or even live normally at all. I feel like my life has lost meaning because of one woman even though my greatest joy was training and feeling good. How can I at least try to regain some control of my life in midst of all this heartbreak and deep fucking sadness? I want to get out of this black hole but can't. I know this is not /adv but this is fitness related since I'm genuinly more attached to this board than any other. And i'm worried about my health and gains as I only seem to become more and more fucked in the head. Also my father died two weeks before she dumped me and uploaded a selfie with her new bf two days after she did it.
Anyone share some stories about how they got over their most worst part of their life? I always thought these stories happened in greentexts not me
Idk if this is fucked up but I just thought of them with other people until it became a hatred for them. It's helped me moved on and inspires me to do more lifts as well as talk to other people. It's never a good feeling when you realize you're no ones first choice.
Kevin Lee
idk man i'm 29 last girl i loved and had meaningful sex (or sex in general) was at 21 good luck
Aiden Gray
op here i'm 23, so you did not meet anyone after that? that's fucked sorry for you
Connor Powell
Keep training. I went on a week-long porn bender after mine but I kept training. It was one of the things that drew me out
Levi Reed
I'll try
Jonathan Cox
after we broke up i got super morbid obese, 5'8 manlet at like 330 pounds, i'm down to 220 now and it's like 1) i'm close to my goal so i don't want to fuck it up and 2) i've been out of the game so long i don't even know how to get back in, seriously it's like i just got out of fat fuck prison and i'm back in the real world
Caleb Adams
>about 6 months ago >was in a relationship with my then gf for three years >we just recently moved into an apartment together and spent an amazing summer together >cooked together, took walks by the lake every night, napped every day together, literally spent every waking and sleeping hour by each others side >school starts and she starts messaging and hanging out with one of her male friends from class more often >I was always suspicious about him and her because she would often hide her messages to him from me >had nightmares every night about her leaving me to fuck him >one day she says she has plans to have dinner with one of her female friends >I say ok, but to promise that we would spend the night making some spicy noodles and watching a cheesy movie together >9pm, no answer >12am, no answer >4am, no answer >finally at 8am she just messages me "sorry..."
It was the absolute worst thing that happened to me in that time. I was at rock bottom, this girl would tell me things like "I want to die with you". She would always talk about our future kids and careers, what house we wanted, what dogs we were going to get. Then she pissed it all away because "I just stopped loving you". Fuck that cunt, no surprise a month later I kept getting calls from her day and night. Over 1200 missed phone calls from her in total. Currently in a relationship with a different girl that couldn't be further from my ex. She's so supportive of me and my future, understands what happened in my past, and never gets jealous or insecure about anything. I actually understand what its like to be loved and not manipulated for love now. Looking back on it, that cheating cunt did the biggest fucking favour for me that I didn't even know I needed. My advice: get to work. Go to the gym, get to reading, build on your skills, and find a hobby you can throw yourself into. Let yourself stew and cry for one hour a day, but after that you have your duties to accomplish for the day.
Jesus man, that is very good advice. Thanks for sharing appreciate it a lot. Can't really understand what you went through but I feel for you and happy that you are in a good place now. thx again brah
Jace Reyes
I don't understand, are you sad you can't fuck her? What do you mean by "love"? How do you people even get to the point where you SERIOUSLY say you love a woman?
Dominic Anderson
I understand what you mean and I hope I can get to a point where I think like you but for now i feel the opposite
Carson Fisher
Fuck off faggot
Samuel Harris
good job dude, I wish the best for you, I wish I could find a woman someday
This is how it works OP. You’re supposed to feel this way, and then eventually you won’t. Anything you do will either delay or speed up the process. Continue to focus on yourself, it’s going to suck and you’ll feel like you can’t stay still for more than a few seconds without thinking about her and wanting to die, but the amount of time you can go without thinking about her will increase so long as you’re always focusing on your goals. Do continue to pursue other women. It doesn’t matter if she’s all you want, force women into your life so you can use the familiarity of a female presence to think more about other prospects. This will eventually become exciting, even if you still think about her. You need to accept the fact that you’re going to be in pain. There’s no fighting it, you just go through it. Life is pain user. That pain, (provided its not more than one can take), will chisel you Into a god.
Asher White
suboxone and testosterone
Ethan Taylor
You've got to know that one day in the future, maybe next week or in a year you'll meet a girl who will make you completely forget about the last. When you meet her you're not gonna want to be a mopy cunt, but the best version of yourself possible. It's hard, but you've got to pick yourself up and start making little changes everyday.
Gavin Rogers
I still want to know what you mean by 'lo e'. What did you 'love' about this girl?
Nicholas Gonzalez
You’ve relied your identity on your your relationship which is pretty lowly imo, get the hell over it. block her and maintain no contact at all. I dont know your temperament but you sound pretty broken and kinda beta lol but what can you do about it. You’ve had to expect that in the back of your mind no matter how hard you want to deny it, no matter how much of a goooood girl you thought she was. And now look at you lmao
even if you think shit is going great like your walking on sunshine you’ve got have a mindset of expecting the worst out of anything as much as you wanna deny it bro. Anything can happen in this world. I don’t know how much life experience youve got but this should be a good learning lesson for you OP. This is of your own doing. You’ve probably havent fell hard for a girl since this one i guess
Angel Wilson
These two guys have the right idea. If you've ever seen Fight Club (sorry for bringing it up), then remember the acid scene. Don't escape to your fucking happy place, understand that the pain is real and it is here to stay for quite a bit of time. Without pain, without sacrifice, we would be nothing.
Ayden Cruz
That was beautiful. well said. Pretty much the best thing to hear right now. I guess it is up to me whether I want to succeed or not. thx man
Dylan Cox
its kinda weird objectivelly how some person can fuck us up so bad have you guys ever went into that state where youre almost sleeping but you can still think and you just stop caring about things like love
Grayson Johnson
Good. Now what have you done now?
Did you take her off your phone?
You better had erased every single photo you had together.
Do it right now if you haven’t
James Phillips
theres not much of a solution. accept that she was a big part of your life and probably will continue to be.
Take it minute by minute, then day by day. It will be shit but that's life. Get back into a routine, workout often, reach out and build platonic and non platonic relationships.
Robert Collins
Yes. You're right, just a hard pill to swallow atm but you are absolutely correct i'll try to consider to have this look for the future
well desu her appearance and personality but now i'm doubting that her personality was as good as I imagined in my head. I'm making her to be an idol or something in my head. making her seem better than she actually was. I know what you mean and to be honest she was just a girl but it's my fucking head that's the problem everything you said is completely true about me. I've never been in love and this was just a lesson that i had to endure but me being weaker in my mind than any one i know felt harder than anything i've gone through in my life. Hopefully i'll get through this and become a better&stronger version of myself not just physically. thx man
Dylan Gomez
desu I considered deleting her message texts with me and that's the only thing left on my phone and there are so many pics in there. Kinda felt scared to do that before . but fuck it, whatever gonna do it now
Xavier Phillips
said* not desu wtf
Asher Hughes
get over it pussyboy. Life sucks, women cheat. Get the fuck over it train and become godly
