Describe love

Sacrificing yourself for the people you care about

Love is when two people care for each other to improve their ability to care for others. If you don't care about people, you won't care about one person.

I used to be worried about the logic of loving someone, but then I didn't care.

Why?
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At first, I was in love out of curiosity. I wanted to see if love was real. I read all of the tips for a healthy relationship. The main point I understood was communication.

It turns out if you spend time with someone for a year and a half, and both of you constantly try to facilitate a positive experience, then you create the feeling of understanding. You know the feeling of 1+1=2? You can look at 1+1=2, and nobody has to explain it to you. I can look at my partner, and it gives me the feeling that I need to do everything I can for them.

Now, I try to create a positive experience for everyone. And when you create a positive experience for someone, you continually discover that they will treat you with kindness. Even the people that I would consider irredeemable like my own mother -- the one human whom I have the most intimate understanding by virtue of spending the most time with her -- has qualities that make her worth loving.

Op is a female, don't humor her. She needs to realize that crystal.cafe is her board, she is not welcome here.

Theres the intense feelings you feel with your first special someone, those are unique to that person mostly.
Then theres the conclusion with the person you are comfortable with, who you want to come home to, to build a life together, to act symbiotically.

I think if you captured both, you'd be set.

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I can't prove anything to you

At least, I can't prove anything to you if you're not willing to extend your experience. If I understand your perspective then it might be possible that we're both right. I'm just describing my experience.

My mom is worth loving because she will hurt my sister if I don't.

Logically, love is communication. It originates from a space that is abstract and nonphysical, and radiates from that space into the layer of the physical universe. It takes time to open a channel and keep it alive, and it can be broken at any logical layer between the physical, temporal, and abstract.
Physically, guys get boners and girls get ladyboners.

I can prove you live in Alaska.

I could be living in Alaska

Love is one of the most used words in the English language, and also one of the most misused words. In America, we say we love everything from our pets, to pizza, to our friends, and even our spouse. When people use the word love it is almost like a generic term for liking something very much. When the Apostle Paul uses the word love he is very specific. Paul in his letter to the Corinthians is describing a type of love that is not selfish but rather a sacrificial love. He had several choices for the word love.

In Greek, the language in which all of Paul's letters are written, he could have used the word "Eros" which means romantic love or infatuated love. Eros is described as a sexual or passionate love, and is the type most akin to our modern construct of romantic love. In Greek myth, it is a form of madness brought about by one of Cupid's arrows. The arrow breaches us and we 'fall' in love, as did Paris and Helen, leading to the Trojan War and the downfall of Troy and much of the assembled Greek army in Homer's epic poem The Iliad. It is a love often depicted in literature as being uncontrollable, "love at first sight" and all that - after all, "you can't control who you love," right?

Paul could have chosen the word "Philia" which is a friendship type of love. Friendship love founded on goodness is associated not only with mutual benefit; but also with companionship, dependability, and trust. In this type of love, real friends seek together to live truer, fuller lives by relating to each other authentically.

Well I do live in Alaska and I am the love of your life. Thats why I can find you anywhere, even on an anonymous imageboard. God works in mysterious ways.

Paul could've chosen the word "Storge" which is a family type of love. More broadly, Storge is the fondness born out of familiarity or dependency of someone. Unlike Eros or Philia, Storge is not dependent on our personal qualities.

One would almost expect Paul to use a word like Philia or Storge describing community and the church. But instead Paul chose the word "Agape." Agape is a universal love, such as the love for strangers, nature, or God. It's deeper meaning is an unselfish concern for the welfare of others. It is also a love of self sacrifice and mutual trust. Paul describes it well when he states love "bears all things" and "keeps no record of wrongs."

We are often like the believers in Corinth. We need to be reminded the most important thing is love. Even though Paul reminds us about the importance of faith and hope he also says the "greatest of these is love." May you live out a life of love with those around you. May you experience God's Agape, Eros, Philia, and Storge love this week.

You're confused pal. I don't give one damn about soulmates. I could love anybody.

My boyfriend and I agree there's nothing special about us and any feelings are a consequence of the actions we take to maintain them. We maintain them intentionally because it makes life a breeze.

Don't worry crazy alaskan lady, your mommy may not love you but you may in time forget that if you embrace polyamory.
That's right, im a doctor and im prescribing you some vitamin D. :^)

You've lost me. Have you tried being nice to anyone for an extended period of time? That is love.

Just because my mom sucks doesn't mean my life sucks. She gave me a letter describing how she's a sociopath and I can torpedo her life if she ever gets out of hand.

love: what saint hitler felt for the aryan (white) race

Actually, let me break this down further for you. I understand your desire to agitate stems from a lack of understanding. The only person who can be affected by the fallout of my mom being destroyed that I personally feel responsible towards is my sister. The rest of my family knows about my mom and lets her torture my sister and I for the simplicity of their existence. I will give them exactly one chance to apologize and start taking care of their shit. But I can't do that unless my sister is out of the picture, because they will use her as leverage to get me to step into line. I don't need a useless family.

Now, if you think that getting your dick sucked on the regular and having someone rub your back when you're sleepy wouldn't make dealing with that fucking nightmare easier, you're seriously delusional and probably don't have any problems that you haven't created for yourself.

The thing that really sucks about being personally assigned to you is knowing you're following right in your mothers footsteps, pal.

My college is free because I explained to the financial aid office the extent of the abusive situation. I can attain any level of education I desire virtually free of cost because of this situation. If that isn't enough, my closest friend, who I've known since I was 13, explained to his parents the situation, and his mother has offered me a permanent place to stay in her life.

I simply treat people kindly because it is logical. But my family hurts people. I am willing to forgive them. But it is dangerous to be to attached to them. Their grandparents and great grandparents were probably abusive themselves.

I've got to sleep. No more replies sadly

Were you being kind to your father when you had sex with him?

Volo ut sis.