>multiple dick size threads on Jow Forums, ED threads, threads about tattoos, beards, etc; >social skills threads get deleted What did the janitors mean by this?
Jow Forums, how does one get social skills? Assuming someone has no social skills, no friends, and might have autism, what should they do? Willing to do almost anything. Things I am trying right now: >salsa dance classes >improv classes >toastmasters Still having trouble actually saying things and speaking to other people at these classes/meetings. And i very quickly run out of things to say in improv scenes
What are you doing to improve your social skills, what has worked for you?
Pic related. If I was eating lunch with her, what would I even talk about
go to the bar late at night and drink with wasted chicks while you sip water so you have the advantage.
Justin Barnes
ask her about herself and her interests etc my man.
really tho good on you getting out there and doing all that shit
i like this thread
Jordan Brown
toastmasters is pure bullshit don't waste your time with that OP
Isaiah Smith
Join freemasons. Networking, role models, public speaking and charity work all rolled into one.
>inb4 /x/-tier conspiracy shit
Also some sort of combat sport. Bjj, judo, wrestling, boxing or muay thai. Steer clear of anything claiming "spiritual", "discipline", "self-defense" or "military" as a selling point. Any worthwhile style has everything listed inherent in the style.
Kevin Morris
This, and improv might make you too obnoxious, don't know a single person who's into that that isn't generally annoying to everyone
Jow Forums theres a grill at my gym with a 10/10 body and i noticed she has a sticker of a character from a show that i enjoy on her water bottle. how should i go about approaching her without looking like a fuggin weirdo. ive got decent looks and im fit so theres not much room for me to fuck this up too badly but im not good at the whole approaching thing.
You know what helped me improve my social skills? I just started saying hi to random people. For some reason, it boosted my confidence and got me more comfortable with small talk.
Jackson Adams
Where did you find these people?
Like out of the blue say hi to someone you're passing on the street?
Do you try to stop and chat? How would you continue the conversation?
'hey, is that a (character) sticker on your bottle?" She says yes You ask for nudes
Carter Howard
fucking a million times this
You wouldn't believe the difference once you start daying hi to people you meet along with smiling and just generally being nice. It's like you're in a different fucking world, like you have just stepped into the social group of humanity and you can now have normal interactions with people at ease. Anyone who is walking around looking like a miserable cunt, "keeping to themselves," sorry but you can't expect to have any social gains. Lighten up and interact with people in a more positive way and the world will be a better place.
Eli Myers
Alright guys, most important question of all time for me: how do I learn to speak with confidence and gravity? How do I avoid speaking fast or in a high pitched voice? If I'm in any stressful situation my throat feels like it gets tight and it becomes physically tough to speak in a normal cadence. There has to be some tricks to this. I am willing to practice and do just about anything in exchange for the certainty that my own voice won't betray me when I start a conversation.
pic related, my own inner reaction to my verbal fuck ups
women have told me im intimidating which makes me hard to approach (i have a resting dick face i guess) but ive also gotten a lot of compliments on my smile. ive always felt as though my smile is extremely forced so its always been hard for me to "just smile" when talking to people if that makes sense.
i guess its something i need to work on. im starting to realize how unsociable i am and im becoming concerned.
Jackson Mitchell
Who do you say hi to though?
>looking like a miserable cut I actually try not to have a resting bitch face when I'm around other people
Try breathing deeper and relax, slow down the situation
Luke Garcia
>nice bottle, is that x from y show? >hey i see you watch x show, you watched the latest season? >just say nice sticker and wing it All of them work Introductions come later just keep the talk going bruv
Brandon Foster
Any mental tricks to this?
Justin Sanchez
People you meet when walking... or in the gym, cashiers etc. Obviously there's situations where you might not say hi to people around you, but if someone looks at you say then just hi or hiya to be more casual
Landon Bell
thanks brah. we'll see how it goes. i haven't had interest in a women in almost 2 years so i figured its about time i shoot my shot with someone.
Kayden Torres
Usually If we're passing each other or they don't seem preoccupied. It's just a quick hello it's not like you're going to have a deep and intimate talk with someone in the middle of the isle at walmart.
Isaiah Bailey
Open with generic lines (how are you? how are you finding the class?) Start making observational conversation (the instructor is great, the traffic here was terrible etc) Insert your own personal experiences and insights (the instructor is great, way better than than the last guy I had, this guy as actual passion)
It takes time and practice user, just keep socialising, watch what popular people do and copy it.
William Brown
>nice bottle, is that x from y show
Lmao it sounds so stupid and false, there's no way that shit works
Jaxon Rodriguez
so is it actually a good thing that i always smile like a fucking idiot all the time? i'll just laugh at shit that absolutely no one around me will find funny too. like today at Mass this goblina child was crying very loudly during the part where the priest blesses the eucharist and i fucking burst out luaghing thinking about amerimutt memes
Cameron Hernandez
Think about the words you use and try to be as precise as possible, it'll give you pause. The english language is huge and there's a word for everything, it also shows your brain gains. About the breathing, I'm a cancerstick user, so I can disguise it a bit, but I guess you can use the breathing meditation thing while you talk
Jaxon Harris
Practice, ya dip
Kevin Lee
Tell me something better then Not for me, for OP You're not helping by just saying 'lol no'
Landon Bennett
how do i not do the monotone autist voice?
Parker Mitchell
cure my oneitis
Owen Martinez
>are you an archaeologist
Jonathan Gonzalez
Get busy user, it'll cure itself A hobby that isn't lifting helps, preferably an intelectual or handy one like woodcarving or cooking or astronomy
I can't practice martial arts anymore because I snapped my shit I have been drawing and playing dwarf fortress but both got boring
Kayden Jackson
>oh... well... i just... hmmmm... PLS BE MY GF OMG IM SO LONELY JESUS CHRIST >*flex a cep*
Benjamin Morris
Why not? People talk about this kind of stuff all the time
Brandon Campbell
>>*flex a cep* this is the proper response
Kayden Rodriguez
just come to realize there's more than one girl out there. you're really doing yourself a disservice focusing so much time and effort on one girl.
Anthony Young
Not him but its sort of obvious and weird, I already tried that and the girl didn't even replied
Mason Reyes
Then maybe she’s an autist, most people would at least say yes or whatever.
Grayson Gutierrez
Stop thinking about her. Yes it is that simple.
>But I can't control my thoughts.
If you don't control your thoughts, then who does? No one? If no one controls your thoughts, then from where do they arise?
You do control your thoughts. Make a conscious choice to not think about her.
Grayson Perez
i wish i had a gf so i could go to a restaurant with her and take a bunch of pics of her with various facial expressions so i could shitpost with them because you can only go so far with one pic of a qt as far as dialogue goes, but here's another one because why not.
OP here, the character is from an anime so the chances of her being a sperg is present.
Jordan Flores
Not OP, but how do i build and maintain a fucking social circle.
Im not a autist, p normie, can hold conversations, talk to new people, just broke up with a girl, have a couple of good bros. But i am a terribly lazy cunt. I never text people like during the week thing "whats up, how are you" cos i dont think about people.
Anyway people that I was good friends with back in the day but havent spoken to in a year or so, what do? Just send a hey whats up text?
Man all those fucking sitcoms, sienfield, friends community poisoned by mind with this idea that your going to have this great social circle.
you have no idea how many girls I have been going out with though
Ayden Mitchell
What do I do if i talk to girls but then kind of just fall off with them after a couple weeks or so when they were interested. I guess I'm pretty bad at making moves. My last girlfriend and i were almost the same person so it worked out pretty well. I've been out of the game so long idk how this shit works anymore.
Benjamin Mitchell
Same boat bro, but all my bros moved away cause of college and shit. Now I'm going to a 2 year and everyone looks like they want to kill themselves at every single class. I can't go out to bars cause I'm too young. I live with my parents. Where the fuck do I find friends? I go to the gym I fight, I'm in pretty good shape. I'm not autist, but I can get to be kind of a douchebag I think, but that's never really stopped chicks from liking me I think.
I think I just don't give a shit about anyone else and most conversations turn pretty one sided.
If u had friends but havent spoken to them in a while just send them a what's up text. The worst they can do is not respond desu. If u already don't think about them, then u shouldnt give a shit anyway.
Ask them what's up with their life and shit. Act genuinely interested, y'know, people don't get to express themselves to others because everyone is so self centered.
Jordan Wright
invite her out as soon as things get good, push pull, talk to her again and make things get good close to the date, fuck her as soon as possible, make her cum, don't message back the next day
Sebastian Butler
>I've been out of the game so long idk how this shit works anymore. you just gotta get your groove back, you still got it, man. youtube.com/watch?v=uIPS4LyveJs
Isn’t that kind of a good thing then? Chances are she’ll be as awkward as you are
Joshua Nelson
yeah i suppose youre right. we'll see how it goes.
David Ramirez
>fuck her as soon as possible but what if the girl isnt a whore
Aiden Rodriguez
This girl is fucking beautiful
Austin Jackson
Yep. I had the same situation when i joined my lodge. The average age has drastically gone down since then. It's probably 50/50 retirees/20-40s now.
Matthew Bennett
>woman >not a whore Pick one
Nolan Scott
>tfw no social skills because i cannot share any details of my personal life with anyone or show interest in their lives because if the questions come back to me, it will reveal that i am a worthless shut in with no friends so it will ostracize me even more
Jose Collins
I have no social skills because I have severe anxiety attacks every time I talk to people. Anyone have experience with this stuff? Will it help with anxiety?
You have a really skewed view about the world user
Jaxon Wilson
Go for it user, you got nothing to lose.
Adrian Jenkins
basically do the exact opposite of the movies
Andrew Young
you're so in your own head bro, nobody will give a fuck.
Xavier Martin
Any time I ever tell a woman what to do all I hear is "You cant tell me what to do!"
Camden Foster
This, do you think everyone you meet will start to interrogate you about your life and your past? You just tell people as much as you want to tell or bullshit it
Julian Baker
Don't use "um's", "and's", "but's", etc to fill in blank noise in a conversation. Practice saying nothing while you think. If you're paused for what seems like too long, say "lemme think about this". It will make you seem smarter and you'll slow things down a lot
I think you all need to put sex on the backburner until you learn how to talk to girls first.
Nicholas Roberts
That's because you're an insecure basedboy who has no conviction to their words. People know that can disregard you with no consequence.
Justin Bell
anyone have experience with volunteer work? everyone always suggests that to meet people, but how the fuck do you even get into it?
Leo King
I realise that was overly critical. Sorry.
To be more constructive I'll add that if you're going to address an issue you need to demonstrate why the behaviour is negative, how to avoid it and accept the inevitable tears/temper that will ensue and refuse to engage in it.
I had a similar situation regarding my now fiancèe's behaviour a few years ago. When we got to the tears point I told her I was going to the bar nearby and she could call me when she was ready to discuss the issue like an adult. I left the apartment and she called and apologised before I'd reached the street. We haven't had a major disagreement since.
Jayden Price
Yes, if you know how to talk to people already but just get anxious in those situations it works a treat.
If you're an autist however you'll end up being a slighty more glib autist.
Lucas Martin
go to an animal shelter and ask them about it
Connor Reyes
Look at events happening in your city and see if they need volunteers
Parker Morris
>but how the fuck do you even get into it? all of the good places require connections or references (hospitals, soup kitchens and animal related places) but search for a volunteer organization in your area, and visit their website to see how you can get involved
>volunteering for corporations hosting events i don't get this
people volunteer for things like sports events. do they like sports that much? or is it just an excuse to try and get volunteer perks (free tickets)?
Oliver Sanders
local county and city websites usually have a volunteer section with listings for differant open volunteer opportunities.
Jeremiah Flores
Meetup is a good app, but I'm in Colorado, so there is alot of volunteer trail work to be done. How should I physically great someone I just met and got a date with? I consider myself a physical autist.
Jayden Rivera
Depends on the vibe and local culture. Kiss on the cheek is usually a safe bet. Dunno if that's much a thing in burgerstan though.
Aaron Wood
>never ask when she's free >what day works for you
Hudson Stewart
im the poster of the comment you're replying to. i have in fact had people interrogate me about my life. im sure it doesnt help that i am a weird and likely autistic guy, but i dont tell my coworkers any details about my life for the exact reason i stated and they try to interrogate me and its become a big joke how secretive i am
Charles King
No it's really not, that's how you get metoo'd here. Thanks though.
can someone tell me why this happens? >at gym i normally talk to everyone >at college i talked to everyone who approached me and now they think we are "friends" >talk to a girl >instantly spaghetti
Eli Lopez
im 26 and work is basically the only social interaction i get and its basically a microcosm of my entire life socially up to this point
>yeah i'm weird, have ADD, shit like that but okay >easily make people laugh, not telling jokes but just reacting to things happening >also the source of a lot of teasing of some "eccentric" things i do but i dont get upset about it, i laugh about it and joke myself, its basically open season to tease me >i react in kind teasing people who tease me >i get labeled as a mean person for doing such >days where i try to purposely be calm and not very talkative/joking/loud to try to be chill, i get asked repeatedly if i am sick or angry >do fine talking to people at work but as soon i go with those same coworkers to a bar/restaurant i completely shut down (i guess its the more "intimate" environment of a bar/restaurant that makes me shut down as opposed to the openness of work/other activities)
dont even know how to overcome it all
Tyler Baker
Wow there's a whole thread for social skills with tons of replies
I really feel bad for you fags. I mean it. I thought the whole "we're uncommunicative aspies " was a joke about chan culture or something.
Im introverted as they come but can crack jokes with all different kinds of people on a dime, relate to them, make shitty small talk, get to know a person well in 5 minutes. Repartee is fun.
Really never occurred to me this is unnatural for some because I never had that perspective. Every school has an awkward kid or two but yikes.
My advice is to be good looking so you don't have to compensate by learning something unnatural to you. Otherwise good luck in your careers. If you're ugly facially + DYEL + aspie you're paddling up shit's creek there.
Jeremiah Cook
>i wish i had a gf so i could go to a restaurant with her and take a bunch of pics of her with various facial expressions so i could shitpost with them is part of the reason why you're such a lonely sack of gf-less shit.
>If you don't control your thoughts, then who does? No one? If no one controls your thoughts, then from where do they arise? very unconvincing, back to church for you
Carson Perez
please tell me more, mr social god 4channer
Logan Rodriguez
>reddit spacing
Cameron Brown
Well for one thing I can shake your hand, give you a warm smile and make you laugh without you ever knowing that I spend my nights on a north eastern Pennsylvanian hoover vacuum enthusiast forum where I drink and call other mens bodies thick solid and tight
Can you say the same friend
Tyler Stewart
>reddit
Lincoln Edwards
Bump. Any other advice to get social skills? Especially if starting with almost none?
