I know there's already like 3 threads if not more up that are somewhat related; but I really feel I have to make my own since I've already tried a lot of possible solutions and don't want to shit up other user's threads.
Anyways, since I quit smoking pot almost a year ago, (and months prior to that,) I've had less and less of a libido. Didn't really become much of a problem until I quit pot, though. I was a pothead for about 3 years or so, and I even smoked cigarettes every day for a couple years as well, about half a pack a day. Since I quit smoking pot, I've had pretty much no sex drive at all, PLUS, I've developed some sort of anxiety disorder that mainly affected my stomach at first, now it just gives me panic attacks and makes me feel anxious, not so much with the stomach problems oddly enough. Only other problem I have, mentally, is that I probably have minor depression. Used to be a lot worse years ago, but, it never affected my libido in any way I don't think, so, I doubt that has anything to do with it. I USED to look at porn on and off, couple days a week for quite awhile. I try not to at all now, honestly, it doesn't even turn me on at all anymore. I have to have my hand on my dick to get hard, pretty much. Don't even get 100% hard either. Not sure why I sometimes feel compelled to look at it still, I don't get any real pleasure from it.
Physically, well, I just don't get turned on anymore. I have trouble building muscle, pretty much always had. I'm pretty strong, yeah, but, no matter how much I lift or how much protein I have I just can't seem to change how I look, can't build much more strength/muscle. Will continue in next post
I Got my testosterone levels checked about 2 months or so ago, and it was at 580-590ngs/whatever unit they measure it in. Which I assume isn't "low T," but is less than optimal? My thyroid checked out, normal. I do often feel tired, lack of motivation has always been a problem but I think that's more due to general laziness. Thing that really convinces me it may be a hormone problem is I don't grow nearly as much pubic hair as I used to.
I asked my doctor to call me about getting on TRT, more to ask questions about it then actually set up an endo appointment or anything. I'm not quite dead set on it yet, I mean, I want to try seeing a psychologist first, but, I feel like it may be necessary at some point one way or another. Just don't wanna kill my balls/make them shrink or get a ton of side effects, possibly make my anxiety/panic attack situation worse.
I weigh about 180, used to weigh freakin 230 2 years ago, when I didn't have libido trouble. About 5'11, get exercise pretty regularly. I try to do a half hour on the treadmill at least once every 2 days and I lift weights every other day.
I'm really at a loss at this point. I just know I need to quit porn 100%, and try to get my anxiety sorted out with a therapist/psych. Whether that'll fix my libido problem or not, I kinda doubt it. Since I'm experiencing symptoms only low T could explain (very little pubic hair, trouble building muscle,) I would think the libido is tied to that, not so much my anxiety. Though I have read anxiety can be purely a hormonal issue. I don't have any triggers or anything in particular that sets me off, really. Sometimes I'll feel perfectly fine one night then a little after waking up I'll feel anxious, my scrotum tightens up a little bit, as if I was cold, and my stomach feels sorta funny. So yeah. My only plan is try to learn more about TRT, do noporn, see a psychologist. Though I am starting to think more and more that I do really need to get on testosterone no matter what.
Jason Jones
Please stop posting trannies
Jeremiah Gonzalez
Vitamin D3 (10,000 IU) Ashwandha powder gl brah
Bentley Nelson
U need to chill the fuck out. Ur pronably 17 or something. Lmao 3 years. I smoked 5 j a day easily for 12 years and did coke for breakfast for 4. Grow a pair and stop ove diagnosing yourself. Youre just an unfulfilled spiritually and mentally lost modern day overly stimulates brainwashed gullible little 50yb0y. Wake up. Get fresh air. Unplug. Read marcus aurelius
Bentley Johnson
i dont care about your faggot blogpost but ignore he is a low test nigger
Grayson Hernandez
Additionally stop basing your perception of your own wellbeing on fucking chemical levels. Tbh at this point youre likely too lost for any of this to rekotely get through to you. GL kid wish u had a better dad. Better be your own now and snap out of it. Gtfo of here.
Colton Russell
they didn't tell you the risks of smoking POT did they. D.A.R.E.
Read Jordan Peterson. Quit porn. Take cold showers. Find a hobby/skill. You might just be having an existential crisis. The only way to resolve that shit is to find meaning in life, and the only way to make that happen is to keep yourself busy. The meaning obtained from keeping yourself busy or participating in voluntary suffering is a result of finding a purpose. Perhaps once you're a little more fulfilled with your life, your anxiety will stop and your libido will shoot up
Connor Ramirez
Isn't 10,000 IUs like 4 times the "recommended," amount? I've been taking 2000 ius and getting a good amount of sun nearly every day... And I have heard good things about ashwandha powder/pills, just been worried they would fuck with my anxiety levels. But it's worth a try. I know I need to learn to relax and stop being so serious about shit, could use meditating as well. Can't help but over think things sometimes though. In other words, my issues are most likely all mental? Pleasure's all mine fren Good advice. I know I need more hobbies, and I do feel I lack a real purpose in life currently, but, it's not something that's on my mind constantly. I'll check out Jordan's writings, I don't read enough in general, used to a ton before I picked up drugs.
Logan Ramirez
Get an Audible account and listen to his 12 Rules for Life book. Its fairly easy to understand. The man is an inexhaustible well of insight.
Jackson Reyes
Essentially dont do anything overboard you are driving your mind to the point of psychosis. Yea its all in your head and youre thinking a bit irrationally. Decompress take some me time really remove yourself from all these sources of feelings of inadequacy. Dont jump on a chemical regimen. Been there but maybe everyone has to learn by experience. The avergae learn from their own mistakes. The wise learn by others'
Charles Kelly
Weed and high levels of intelligence often lead to hypochondria, paranoia, and untrue fantasies. Sounds like youre young, relatively inexperienced in life, far above average intelligence and did drugs. Not exactly a new story; just chill out eat well eat a lot and exercise dude lifes not about how quick you get hard over an ass. Quit masturbation that should be #1 and then porn, but before that quit all weird types of porn. They mess w your sense of self esteem which was likely more intact prior to the pot.
Pot and porn when used concurrently w an active and quick brain can have long term detrimental hypnotic effects that wreck your sense of self. Careful and run from it, def quit masturbating and eat better do cardio get sunlight more
Jose Lee
Also know that we are lied to big time about the true effects of marijuana because dulling the masses and their sense of individuality is beneficial from a world governmental control and corporate standpoint. Anyone telling you its a mild no big deal drug has a brain like a 2 stringed banjo - 1 string gets out of tune, whatever, they can still play just about the same shit as before. But when you have a complex brain with potential its like a piano - untune a bunch of strings and all of a sudden your huge compositions sound like dog shit and theres a big difference.
Know thyself, dont look to others or standardized metrics because the standard human is a fucking idiot retard and a deceiver with no morality or higher thinking ability. GL
Brayden Perry
Will do first thing after getting off work tomorrow. I don't really read much like I've mentioned, really. I don't do a whole lot besides browse this site, work out, earn money, and play vidya. I got a girlfriend and I do stuff with her but eh I just feel like I need something different, new hobbies and all, better influences. Mmmm. Yeah. I do get a bit overboard and once I really start thinking about things, or possible things that are wrong, it leads my mind to all sorts of places thinking there's a problem when there isn't much of one if anything wrong. Used to be a major hypochondriac, now I guess my issues really are more mental than physical. One more stupid, probably pointless question, regarding chemicals; is a T level of 580, low? I've asked many times before on this site, pretty much everyone has said yes. One or two people said it just varies person to person. I'm gonna guess the latter is the case. Just hard to believe for some reason when some people's levels are 800-1000 naturally. Definitely inexperienced, young, and eh, maybe a little above average intelligence. I mean I was never into school and studying and all, unless I was really interested in a certain subject. I know I shouldn't be so worried over my libido, really. I just wish it wasn't a problem. I worry that I won't be able to "perform," when I need to; especially when I can barely on my own unless I force it. I sometimes go between decent self esteem, and very poor self esteem. Sometimes like I can do anything, then I get reminded of my limits, my anxieties and all, and it brings me down again. I know noporn isn't a meme.... but I've heard lots of mixed things on nofap. Ejaculating is normal, watching porn pretty much hardwires you to be a cuck. But, what's wrong with fapping to your imagination? Definitely anti pot now that I've quit it. I can see using it maybe once a month or 2 being okay, like liquor, but, still, not good for ya.
Levi Cox
NICE BLOG POST
Thomas Fisher
Theres a reason every single religion independently came to the conclusion that ejaculation depletes a mans mental and physical energy and faculties and weakens him, and thus should only happen during sex for procreation or wtvr between boyfriend and girlfriend in a non wasteful/degenerate setting.
Its pretty oldschool but check the Virile Powers of Superb Manhood by Bernarr MacFadden - ejaculating, period, weakens u. If u want hard facts well its proven to lower your testosterone for a day or two following and also boxers and athletes refrain from ejaculating prior to events. If ur ejaculating every 2 or 3 days you never reach your peak masculine levels since you get no time to recharge valuable proteins and minerals expelled in cum
Brandon Jackson
Low t is generally 350 or lower for healthy training male. Remember a lot of dudes on here talk shit or are on steroids. Depends on race and size too, big time
Tyler Ross
Dude man I'm working on it as hard as I can, glad you like it so far. Hmm... I've always figured that religious people were against it were simply against it because well, you're touching your dick/vag and that's "unholy." I have read that if you do nofap for a week your T levels shoot up, after that go down a tiny bit, then stay consistent at a higher level, until you ejaculate again. Though I didn't notice a thing trying nofap for two weeks, honestly. But, I'll read more about it. I've never heard of that book but i'll give that a shot as well. I'm willing to try anything at this point, before going on TRT. I read just some of the possible side effects and yeah, fuck that, that would be a last resort. Haha, yeah, true, people talk alot of shit. I really do take things too seriously sometimes. Trusting anons on a site like this too easily, maybe it's because I wish the answer was simpler than it really is. Thanks.
Carter Russell
don't be quick to assume that this is all negative. consider that your anxiety could be purposeful, your unconscious telling you to pay attention, and then try to figure out what it wants. if you ask yourself honestly you will know immediately what you're anxious about. addressing the issue directly will be more valuable than just repressing by smoking weed
Medfag here Few things >1. You are NOT low T, this is absolutely impossible, you are NOT even near the lower end. Just because testosterone has an important role in regulating sex drive doesn't mean there has to be something wrong with it if your libido is low. >2. Your 'minor depression' that you still have will ALWAYS play a role in it. The dopamine/serotonin system plays an important part in the regulation of libido. Just because before you didn't have issues when it was worse doesn't rule it out as a contributing factor. Over the years brain chemistry changes related to depression. >3. Your anxiety plays a huge role in it, your overly obsessed with it as multiple people have pointed out. I mean I understand it worries you but with your situation of heightened anxiety even causing panic attacks that just gives off a clear signal that you most likely can't get horny because of this state. Work on fixing this and libido will come naturally. Stop obsessing and worrying you've done irreparable damage. You haven't. >4. Visit a psychologist to work on your anxiety, consider visiting a sexuologist if after a few months of treatment your ED persists.
Evan Morgan
>"you will expect me to say some magic mumbo jumbo which i wont" >proceeds to write several paragraphs of magic mumbo jumbo
Anthony Brown
I'm not a spiritual person whatsoever but damn. Reading that actually does make me think even less of fapping. I see it as more of a chore now anyway since my dick is acting as if it's broken so... why bother anyway, right? Not like it could get more messed up by not fapping, lol. I didn't realize people wrote about it to that extent, and for so long too. I figured people just said don't touch your dick or you'll burn in hell, not go in depth like that and offer views that appeal even to non religious people about quitting fapping. It's not all just mumbo jumbo magic/spiritual junk. Did sound like it a little at first but the more I think about what it says the more it seems to make sense. Hmmm... I have a question about SSRI's. If I see a psych, and after some time, my libido problem isn't gone, anxiety and all; should I try them? I've heard they can downright kill your sex drive alone. If I'm offered to take them I know I won't accept it, least not right off the bat... but for future reference. Sexuologist? Honestly, never even thought a doctor like that existed. But if I need to, I'll look into seeing one months from now, assuming I can't rid myself of the sex drive issue.
Lincoln Long
>Hmmm... I have a question about SSRI's. If I see a psych, and after some time, my libido problem isn't gone, anxiety and all; should I try them? I've heard they can downright kill your sex drive alone. If I'm offered to take them I know I won't accept it, least not right off the bat... but for future reference. Sexuologist? Honestly, never even thought a doctor like that existed. But if I need to, I'll look into seeing one months from now, assuming I can't rid myself of the sex drive issue. Not him but I took SSRIs for a long time and never had issues with that. Though side effects are probably different for everybody.
Henry Sanders
"makes sense" ?
>"Stay away from hookers... It was shown that their vaginas actually suck dna from their past lovers that stays with them. if you have sex with a hooker or a slut you are not onl corrupting your mind, but you are also corrupting yourself with the thought forms and character traits of the men she ahd sex with, and with hers too..."
-3rd last paragraph
What he's telling me, is my dick will absorb hooker DNA and replicate it within my body to make myself more like a hooker. That's not enough mumbo jumbo though, because my dick will absorb the DNA of random men's semen which leeched into the hooker's vagina.
Yeahhhh, hope I'm not one of the unlucky ones. How long were you on them, if you don't mind me asking? Why did you get off? Just figured you didn't need them anymore, and did fine without? I think that's something that's not meant to be taken so seriously or literally. It can be taken different ways but when I read that on it's own I think something along the lines of.... Don't sleep around because you don't know who they've been with, how many people they've been with, and you can do better. You don't need to have sex that badly and should find someone better for it anyways, should use that energy for better things. That's what I get out of it, anyway.
Justin Baker
I better head to bed, thanks everyone for the replies. I'll take your advice and read and look into everything y'all told me about. It actually does help to be told it's all just in my head, that I just need to worry less and focus on self improvement and other stuff, do a few things differently. Hope you all have a good night/morning/whatever it is for you!
William Perry
>How long were you on them, if you don't mind me asking? Why did you get off? Just figured you didn't need them anymore, and did fine without? About ten years in total I guess. They never really did the trick though. It's possible that my depression is not caused by mental problems but by physical problems; I'm low test. I don't really feel a difference without them so fuck it.
Alexander Walker
SSRI's do interfer with libido and erection. There are some that have severe and some that have minimal sides on this level. Talk to the prescribing doctor about it and make your concerns about sexual function clear. They should be able to tell you which one's have least side effects on sexual function. My advice would be to try and solve your issues with therapy first though and only as a last resort consider SSRi's
David Butler
You woke up to the real world and you have to deal with the stress that you have always dealt with by smoking weed. That's my take.
Oliver Clark
Also try reading about buddhism, it helped me a lot after I quit smoking hashish. Drugs are bad no matter what people say they always affect your life in a negative way unless you are doing them for health related problems.
In my case dealing with my problems by smoking 5 joints a day had some terrible impact in my life, I was paranoid about everything, very poor control over my emotions that I even had surgery after I had broken my hand. Now you just have to deal with life without drugs. You got yourself into your situation just like I got myself in mine in the past but it's the right choice trust me.
