Former robot here- AMA

I want to help. I was diagnosed as schizoid and dysthymic when I was 14. I believed all women were whores, I hated Christians, I thought my intelligence made me better than other people, I hated people, be really I wanted to be loved but was afraid of being hurt. I was a cutter and tried to kill myself a few times, once resulting in a coma and another 72 stitches an the mental hospital.

I have completely changed my life. I recently broke up with a girl I was in love with whom I'd been with for almost 6 years. When I was younger, I couldn't comprehend breaking up with a girl. I'd have been so happy to have someone that I would have clung to her like a life preserver.

I really do love and care about you guys. I come here ever so often and try to help. I've got one guy I met here who is kissless virgin who I am emailing with and offered to get him laid if he makes the 8 hour drive. I'm willing to help any of you. Feel free to ask me anything, and I will tell you explicitly how I changed, no empty platitudes like, "Just be yourself bro."

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Fuck off lmao, thinking the crack fiends down the street are the same as I am

I don't need your help, But I'm glad to see you're getting along OK!

knew you had it in ya.

Could have just put it in the OP

but fine

How did you change?

How do I start a conversation with a girl I don't know?

What if she has friends around, should I just go up to her and ignore them or should I go for only lone girls?

Let's say all goes well... how do I kiss her, what do I do with my lips and tounge?

Well, it's complicated. I was more looking for specific questions to give specific answers, because I'm afraid of saying it in broad terms because I don't want to drive people away...

It all started off as a kind of joke, a New Year's resolution. I had always been negative I mind and cynical. So every time I saw something that I wanted to hate on, instead, I would say something positive about it instead. If I couldn't think of anything, like for example when I was out with my only two friends whom I hadn't seen in a long time and we couldn't hear each other because a bunch of other people in BW3 were watching the local sports team and screaming, I would just say, "I love that, I think it's great."

From there, I came across a Ted talk about power poses and "fake it until you become it." Aroun that time, I read a book on transactional analysis therapy. What it taught was introspection and taking an honest look at yourself, tracing your negative emotions down to their root, what they call in a different book, "getting down to causes and conditions," seeing the role you played in things, forging yourself and forgiving others.

The old lady who gave that book, "I'm ok, you're ok," recommended me a different book too. Just as an aside, this old lady had severe brain damage and almost the mind of a child, but she helped save my life. The second book was, "Creative Visualization," which taught me about a positive mental attitude, a type of meditation where I would visualize my day positively and then reflect on it before sleep.

Note that I had began drinking pretty heavily as a teenager. It was basically the only thing that allowed me to function normally around other people. But I'd had periods of abstinence too, but it was clear I had a problem. Regardless, alcohol and drugs kept me alive and taught me a lot, but eventually consumed me.

Anyway, I did that for a year, staying positive. It was weird. The sarcastic way I would say,"I love that, it's great" eventually melted away to me actually seeing the good in things. But then me and another friend who is even more antisocial than me made DMT, and I 2012 I took muhrooms and smoked DMT right when they were taking effect, and thanks to the work I'd done, I was able to have a vital spiritual experience.

But that was just the beginning, and it isn't necessary for everyone to do that. The important thing is looking at yourself, forgiving yourself, forgiving others, being willing to change, and putting it into action. I have a routine everyday that keeps my life beautiful.

You need to start talking to girls. Just any girl. Start with ugly ones you have no interest in. Start by simply saying hello on the street, or paying them a compliment and then walking away or whatever. Just be casual.

To start a conversation with a girl, try to find some commonality to talk about. Talk about when you are, the band on her shirt, her shoes, anything you can both relate to. It's important to be discerning and to have good timing as well. Try to pay attention to girls who may be attracted to you. For example, if you are having a conversation with someone else and you notice a girl listening, bring her in to the conversation.

Always remember to smile. This is super important. As for timing, don't be rude, don't but I a girl's conversation unless you genuinely have something to contribute, and if you do, say excuse me and ask permission to speak. Pay attention. Try to figure out how she feels, what her vibe is. Just be casual. Don't have expectations.

Kissing will come naturally. But honestly, if all you're thinking about is sex, you may not do well. Think of girls as human beings just like you, only they aren't very good at logic, but they have great social skills.

Breath in, breath out
Eat when you are hungry
Piss when you have to piss, shit when you have to shit
When you are tired, rest
When you are sleepy, sleep

It's actually really simple, just not easy.

You'll get a bunch of "you were never a robot" whiners.