All of my friends have abandoned me, and every time i try to approach them they pretend that they care about me and that everything is okay
They are unhappy around me, but once i leave they laugh and have fun with their other friends
Am i the problem? I know i'm boring and ugly and i don't have much to talk about, but at least i try dammit, at least i care
I hate them and myself for not being able to get over them
That's life, dude. Shit like that happens. U just need to not give a fuck
Maybe act like your life is great, and talk about it so they are impressed.
I try to not give a fuck, but every time i look at them and they are having fun i feel like shit, and when i approach them i try to alk and make jokes and they are serious and they push me away, it makes me feel worse...
They already know me, they know that i don't do anything at all...
And if you mean that i shouks do that to find new friends... Well, i could try, but it wouldn't last long
Find new ones. You don't need to say with people who don't do shit for u. I have been there and i can tell u one thing, u just need to leave them, they won't come back. Find someone, who cares about u, even if stuff you say seems "boring". Or just leave them, spend time with yourself, find stuff to do, better people will come. U need to get your shit together and not expect other people to do it, if you can't even do it.
But how do i approach anyone else? Isn't it weird of someone you don't know comes up to you and tells you
"Hey, nice to meet you, wanna be friends?"?
There are four ways.
1.You don't approach anyone, just wait for someone to do it
2. You find someone on social media u see daily, at work, school, whatever, you just try to talk with that person that way, not face to face
3. You find friends on the internet, for example, Jow Forums is also a nice place
4. And yeah, you just go and tell someone, that u wanna be their friend
No talking around it, ye you're probably the problem here.
If they don't like hanging out with you on their own and just do it out of pity then fuck that.
Why would you want to be around those type of people?
Just because you think being alone is worse than being with people that dislike you?
Your options are pretty easy, you either try to save that relationship with your friends. Changing a predefined opinion of you will be somewhat difficult.
The other option is to try and find new friends that accept you the way you are (which will probably lead to you opening up more, becomming more social & happier which in turn increases the mentioned effects further)
TL;DR you will need to change something in your life, don't let this situation drag you down through inaction.
>you just go and tell someone, that u wanna be their friend
Da fuq?
are 10yo or something?
>blease be mu fwend
ye that shit won't work unless you're talking to another robot
You gotta find some common ground to find friends.
This is why you need social activities such as sports/ clubs or work.
For me it is drugs so.. ye better decide for yourself what you do to meet new people
I have the same problem
I just cope by making YouTube vlogs about my shitty life
I did this too, most days it was just me screaming down the camera.
1- No one ever does, no one ever notices my presence
2- I tried, they just ignore me, or read the message but they don't answer
3- I have a few people on the internet that i talk to... But it is not the same
4- That's the hardest one, i'm too shy to do that
The thing is, they didn't treat me like shit before...
We used to be really close just at the start of the year... My female best friend even used called me onii-chan and everything
Now they have new friends, a new group of friends... And i've been left out...
Maybe being alone isn't that bad. U should try it. Work on yourself, fix yourself and then try talking to people again. That would be the best
>implying you do not push them away
Every time someone like you contacts me you guys ghost or respond with one to three word replies then complain when I stop sending messages.
Being alone in itself isn't that bad... It's bad when i'm alone, but they aren't and they are clearly happy being with someone else
I try to answer as soon as possible and i always write a lot (As you can tell from my replies), but when i message them, they either read it and don't answer, or they don't read it at all for days
>maybe being alone isn't that bad
Friendless fag for 10 years here. It's worse than you're likely able to imagine.
I would say you definently need different friends. Or if you want to test their actual feelings for you, you can try not reaching out for awhile and see if they notice.
The obvious solution is making other friends, but I don't have the answer as to how to go about that. It's not as easy as normals like to think it is, especially given what little you have of your personality.
I tried reaching out for them today... I tried to talk to my best friend, but she was too busy listening to music and trying to sleep with her new best friend to notice me...
I haven't had a single friend my whole life(now I have one, for a year now) it's wasn't bad, not for me. To some people, maybe. But u got to have the right mindset. Can do a lot of shit when alone. No one has got to far with a lot of friends. You gotta do everything in your life by yourself. Explore yourself.
If ur fine with having internet friends, we can talk.