Is it possible to convince a woman to lose weight without her getting all emotional and defensive?

Imagine them blindfolding you while you’re on your knees then getting told you’re gonna sniff some pussy but get that instead haha

its almost better.

Can someone please tell me it'll get better because I feel like I am wasting my life and I don't want to have to end it but I don't even enjoy the sex. I'm so fucking miserable. I don't even know what else there is to be miserable about. I workout and study and scrape by while in school but shitty sex has ruined any social motivation and bringing her to social events is demeaning to me socially. I mean who is going to take me seriously if I date a chick that can't even take care of herself?

It's a big world out there and there are more fish in the sea. What's the point of being in a relationship if it doesn't make you happy in the first place?

Because I love her and she means a lot to me. I have helped her through a lot. Unfortunately I have qt's in my classes that touch my shoulders and flirt with me andd I see their nice sexy little tight bodies and just imagine burying my face in their pussies.

Then I go to my girlfriend's house and eat hairy stanky pussy that is heavy as fuck. I just wish she cared about taking care of her body like I do. I'm not a 10/10 but I respect myself and have way better looking women hit on me consistently. It makes me want to fucking put a gun in my mouth. I just love her that's all. Plus I tried leaving her three times and ended up back with her.

I told my gf that I found her fat. Did not work.

Maybe I'm a bit weird but anyone else want to fuck that armpit?

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If you cheat on her and get caught, she likely won’t want to get back together with you

I'm not one to talk but if she doesn't want to do this for you, you need to be firm in your resolution to move on. If her lack of self care bothers you this much it isn't conducive to a long lasting healthy relationship. I had a similar thing going on where i was dating a girl i really cared about but enough things made me unhappy in the relationship that i knew i couldn't keep it up forever. Better to end it on your own terms instead of snapping one day and spilling every reason you're breaking up with her.

Be honest. Communicate. Tell her exactly what you’ve told us and see what happens. Think about being kind - but be honest. If you need her fit, that is your truth. She needs to know the other parts too, the love shit. Tell her that you link her fitness as a reflection of her love for you. Ask her how she feels. Don’t feel like you have to solve it in one conversation. That is the hardest part. Speak the truth, listen, don’t argue.

But also remember that many men have left someone that cares about them to chase ass, and in the end got an STD, and 18 years of child support payments (think about it as two car payments added to your budget that you don’t pay off for 18 years).

Just fix your shit.

You have to do it indirectly. You need her to feel fat without YOU telling her she's fat. An unflattering picture of her posted to social media with a simple line about how much you love her will put her in an awkward spot. She will be embarrassed by how she looks to everyone how sees it, but will feel conflicted about asking you to take it down since you posted it out of love.

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>tfw fwb ex keeps wanting to buy lingerie she looks terrible in because she's too fat and i don't have an effective way to tell her that

Its not going to get better. I went through the same shit.

>date a slightly chubby hapa girl
>figure out I love her in the first year
>by the end of the second year she has put on maybe 10 pounds, not a lot but enough to notice
>i try to get her to hit the gym and follow a good diet
>she "tries" but not really (ranch dressing and half a mile on the treadmill)
>i stick with her, keep trying to get her to improve herself
>move in together, talk about future stuff like marrage
>by the end of the third year shes put on another 10 pounds
>notice im not physically attracted to her anymore, but stay because i love her for other reasons
>still pushing her to loose weight, loose weight myself to motivate her
>she starts meal preping food but refuses to count calories (and still eats fucking ranch dressing)
>by end of 4th year she weighs 185 and the fat on her stomach is beginning to have that droopy cellulite look, absolutely disgusting
>some other stuff about her personality starts getting to me
>im antzy about the relationship, actively looking for a way out but in denial
>suddenly she decides to go on some fad diet called whole30 with her friends
>she signs up for a spartan race with her friends (and actually does it)
>mfw she is visibly loosing weight and im happy to be with her again
>after 30 days of whole30 she can start adding things back into her diet
>ranch dressing already back on the table and she starts gaining weight again
>realize she only dieted and lost weight because of her friends and had no intention of keeping the healthy changes
>realize she completely ignored my pleas over the years to loose weight like my opinion didnt matter
>realize my opinion doesnt matter to her at all and she has done shit in the past to avoid it
>realize she doesnt love me like she says and a switch flips in my brain, i no longer care for her

If she wont loose weight for you now she doesnt love you. Drop her now and save yourself the heartache.

buy some lingerie for her as a gift, but buy it in a size that is way too small for her to make her feel fat. Then act really disappointed that she never wears it for you and she'll lose weight out of shame.

No she'll just get upset and eat more chicken nuggets. God if her tits weren't the biggest I've ever seen irl i wouldn't do this.

Just say "i wanna start working out. You wanna join me on gym days?"
If she says yes, youre in the right track. Bring up healthy eating n calorie counting.
If she says no, dont sweat it, get buff n fuck other girls and not her.
That was my method n my girl has lost weight and is staying strong to her deficit and healthy eating.

Sometimes the people you have feelings for do things you don't want them to do. You can ask them to stop, but after that, the ball's pretty much in their court to do it or not.

And it's up to you whether or not that's worth all the other stuff they do. Everyone has different deal breakers.

Not saying the other hotties with tight bodies aren't great people. They could be. Chances are just as good that even though they have tight bodies, they won't have all the other traits you find attractive and will have their own host of off putting beliefs, behaviors, and tendencies.

I say cut your losses and move on. If you've got something you just can't stand, then don't stand it, rather than just stew with resentment, which will make things terrible for everyone in the long run. That said, also realize that at some point, you'll have to compromise on several things. That's just how dealing with people who aren't you for a long period of time works.

Nigga she doesn't want to take care of her body but you don't want to take care of your mind apparently or else you would dump her yesterday. You're no better than her, you're addicted to shit that is making you gross and unhappy. Dump her and fix your life.

>Drop her and get a girl that cares to begin with.
i tried that and she has slowly but surely put on a lot of weight over 2 years. you can't win

The ultimatum pill is the ultimate redpill in relationships. But they have to be important, and you have to be able to follow through with them. If you don’t follow through with an ultimatum then that is cuck tier

Maybe just be a man and say you want her to be at a healthy weight?

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there is much wisdom in this post

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haha imagine what that would feel like haha

i used to tell my wife all the time. we were both pretty chunky after our first son was born. but she was used to being skinny before that so i dont think she really knew how to lose weight after. she had bad eating habits as well and it was never really an issue before her metabolism shit out.

i'd be pretty honest about it, but i was also honest about my own weight. do your best to be supportive with meals and eating healthy. if you show an effort she will too. even if you're not fat you can still exercise or try to gain muscle. try to educate them that all the meme shit women do to lose weight is bullshit, and they're all just used to make money off of gullible people. you can't prevent them from getting somewhat emotional or defensive.. it's just natural for most women.

also i should add is that women LOVE to look at other women. mine always wanted a nicer ass, or some definition. she liked watching those crossfit games with all the roided out bitches and things like that.

this a million times. DYELs trying to show their girlfriends in the gym how to lift with the bar just gets in everyones way.

just tell her that to stay with you requires her to change.
I always run dom/sub relationships so commanding my woman to do things is par for the course.

Just be alpha about it. Go buy her a gym membership, sign her up for crossfit, whatever.

If she doesn't get the hint, tell her she'd look better if she lost some weight. When she starts to give you shit go with the usual "I know I'm an asshole, but seriously..."

If that doesn't work just fuck off and be straight up about why you're leaving.

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Any advice for an aspiring dom?

HOLY SHIT LOL @ ALL THE BETAS IN THIS THREAD.

YOUR WOMAN IS A DIRECT REPRESENTATION OF YOUR STATUS. IF SHE FEELS LIKE SHE CAN GET BY WHILE BEING A FAT FUCK ITS PROBABLY BECAUSE YOU LOOK LIKE SHIT YOURSELF. IF YOU WANT A BETTER LOOKING GIRL, or even just want your current girl slim down GO FUCKING LIFT. GET A PROMOTION. HIT ON HER FRIENDS. OR HER SISTER. BETTER YET LOOK GOOD ENOUGH FOR OTHER GIRLS TO HIT ON YOU. IN FRONT OF HER. MAKE HER JEALOUS. She looks like shit because youve allowed your own life standards to slip.THATS ON YOU. STOP BEING A BITCH. "UHhhhh but we've been thro so much" -NIGGA STOP BEING A PUSSY. GO LIFT.

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Here's some: don't take advice from LARPers on Jow Forums

I am lifting though. Lifting isnt always the answer to everything you fucking nigger.

I think even the most jacked guys have probably been in a regrettable relationship.

I just told my girlfriend I don't respect fat women because they obviously don't care about bettering themselves. If she won't improve for me then she must not respect me. Then she called me a little cunt and hung up on me. I ain't calling back. Thanks fellas.

Just politely ask her if she wants to go for a walk/jog with you or something that is active. than do that four times a week.

Think I might lose the love of my life lads.

I guess it's going to be ok... She didn't want to fix her physical attractiveness for me. I told her the number one thing making me depressed was her weight.

I think she's legit going to leave because of this. I will find happiness in other ways....

I'd fuck her armpits

also, yes but she needs to have at least thought about going to the gym prior to you asking her to go with you.

>smelling armpit vs smelling vagina
I'll take armpit any day, what the fuck.

>If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best
>as a response to weight loss
So, she's saying she will eventually drop the weight?

I have been with her for two years.
Knowing her she will lose weight once we breakup just to spite me. She's a very angry and vengeful person.

For most people, just up and telling them that what they're doing is wrong will just make them dig in deeper to their current stance. As un-macho and beta as it might sound, it's usually more effective to get people to come to their own conclusion that they want to change. You guys loves that intrinsic motivation shit right? Well being told what you should and shouldn't do in your face is the exact opposite of that so stop doing it. Learn a little subtlety and tact jesus christ.

Women are basically children.

You’re trying to grow a tree from the seed you never planted. You have to put the fear into them early on, user. You also have to practice what you preach. This is one of those cases where an ounce of prevention is literally worth a pound of cure. You need to be expressing your disgust for fat people early on.